So I am a really giving kind person..and naturally expect things to come back to me...and sometimes that kindness does..but what do you do when you feel like you just get walked on?

I had an awesome birthday party the other night, and while everything went great.... I got one great gift from my friend which I would have never thought I would get..and wasnt expecing (Sheila's drumstick) anyone to get me anything btw; however my partner...didnt get me nothing...but have the nerve for the last two months to beg and plead for the things he wants for his birthday party. I even went out of my way to make two cakes for his friends birthday parties. Ugh, I just feel kinda used and looked over...I'm tired of it.

So now my partner is at a bowling alley that is closing down for good and they having a party over there, but damn..couldnt even get a $2 card for me, or help me clean, or ask what I wanted for my birthday..but expect us to make it right for him...i'm done. Im going to go to the club by myself and have a good time. Tired.....I dont want to make anyone feel bad by telling them that; but it's how I really feel.

TIRED OF BEING MR NICE GUY. I should just be the asshole I actually am inside.

Just talked to my mom and she said to get out of the house.

What u think?

I don't think you are an asshole inside. As another person who is underappreciated, I know exactly how you feel. You should just give from your heart and people appreciate it, then fine. If not, then fine.

If you go from giving to being less giving though, be prepared to have people turn on you.

People are selfish assholes in general. Don't stop being a beacon of light.

Vendetta1 said:

I don't think you are an asshole inside. As another person who is underappreciated, I know exactly how you feel. You should just give from your heart and people appreciate it, then fine. If not, then fine.

If you go from giving to being less giving though, be prepared to have people turn on you.

People are selfish assholes in general. Don't stop being a beacon of light.

thank you

I have been a pushover and been treated like a doormat for years and am pretty frustrated myself, lately I have turned into an asshole and don't even care who I hurt anymore :*( I used to look down on others, especially other females like that, but I have just grown bitter with life and am tired though sometimes I do become giving again and continue to help people who don't deserve it. I've been cutting out toxic people lately and suggest you do the same although I also realize it's easier said than done with a partner.

Vendetta1 said:

People are selfish assholes in general.

That's what I've been telling everyone for years! I see it everyday!

Whether it's in our personal lives or at work, I think we have all felt under-appreciated at some point in our lives. Some of us more often than others.

Yeah, be good to ppl anyway. What they do is on them. It doesn't sound like you're an asshole inside, it sounds like you're a giving, caring person. Nothing wrong with you, so why change? Nice ppl like you make this world worth something.

You should give him a Celine Dion album

paisleypark4 said:

TIRED OF BEING MR NICE GUY. I should just be the asshole I actually am inside.

Just talked to my mom and she said to get out of the house.

What u think?

I dig where you're coming from. Nice guys so often times get overlooked and ignored. Assholes always command attention and respect. It's not fair but that's the way of the world.

Alej said:

You should give him a Celine Dion album

Do unto others as you want done to you...

So on his birthday... dump him

Naw... that's wrong... But I do believe you deserve better.

Fauxie said:

Alej said:

You should give him a Celine Dion album

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Vendetta1 said:

I don't think you are an asshole inside. As another person who is underappreciated, I know exactly how you feel. You should just give from your heart and people appreciate it, then fine. If not, then fine.

If you go from giving to being less giving though, be prepared to have people turn on you.

People are selfish assholes in general. Don't stop being a beacon of light.

The selfish a-holes are slowly pissing me off.

Thank you guys for your kind words! I ended up going out to the club....wild night..almost forgot I was angry...but yes..I'll keep smiling..but not forgetting so someone will not be getting anything for his birthday from me and things will just be casual as usual hahahaha.

when you behave like a doormat, people will walk over you.....or step on you and whipe their feet.

dJJ said:

when you behave like a doormat, people will walk over you.....or step on you and whipe their feet.

I was going to say, "Nobody can treat you like a doormat without your permission."

Genesia said:

dJJ said:

when you behave like a doormat, people will walk over you.....or step on you and whipe their feet.

I was going to say, "Nobody can treat you like a doormat without your permission."

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Genesia said:

dJJ said:

when you behave like a doormat, people will walk over you.....or step on you and whipe their feet.

I was going to say, "Nobody can treat you like a doormat without your permission."

I like that!

Only the good get ignored and unappreciated ...FACT.

Stay as you are , and behave from the heart , and even if they didn't appreciate , you give more and they will find out find out someday that you 're greater and better than them , they will regret it but when they do that , you will be already have found someone who appreciates you and loves you back...

Treat people how you want to be treated, but if they don't... treat them how they treat you...

the bible says, don't toss your pearls to swine...

this means that if someone doesn't appreciate your best, then don't give them your best... say no.

the more you say no, the better you will feel. Saying no is a good thing too. Gotta have balance!

Only the dumb get used and abused... get smart and say no. You can be nice and say no too.

paintedlady said:

Only the dumb get used and abused... get smart and say no. You can be nice and say no too.

I've been abuse, eventhough I'm pretty smart........I just had low self esteem.

When in relationship with a narcistic / antisocial person, there is only one way to save yourself, and that is the way out.

I learned to set my standard higher. I never let anybody treat me with disrespect. And I let people know when I feel pressured to be someone else.

I can only be myself, so if somebody doesn't like the way I am, then please be so kind to both of us and go!!!!

paintedlady said:

Treat people how you want to be treated, but if they don't... treat them how they treat you...

the bible says, don't toss your pearls to swine...

this means that if someone doesn't appreciate your best, then don't give them your best... say no.

the more you say no, the better you will feel. Saying no is a good thing too. Gotta have balance!

seeingvoices12 said:

Only the good get ignored and unappreciated ...FACT.

Stay as you are , and behave from the heart , and even if they didn't appreciate , you give more and they will find out find out someday that you 're greater and better than them , they will regret it but when they do that , you will be already have found someone who appreciates you and loves you back...

Thank you Growing up i used to let alot of people walk all over me..which in turn put me in some relationships that also allowed me to be walked on. It helped me grow a backbone and to let my anger show....and because I know I can be very violent and intolerant when angry I try hard to push it to the side. I will still be very kind to people however though.

paisleypark4 said:

seeingvoices12 said:

Only the good get ignored and unappreciated ...FACT.

Stay as you are , and behave from the heart , and even if they didn't appreciate , you give more and they will find out find out someday that you 're greater and better than them , they will regret it but when they do that , you will be already have found someone who appreciates you and loves you back...

Thank you Growing up i used to let alot of people walk all over me..which in turn put me in some relationships that also allowed me to be walked on. It helped me grow a backbone and to let my anger show....and because I know I can be very violent and intolerant when angry I try hard to push it to the side. I will still be very kind to people however though.

There are courses for that, did you know?

Might help to balance out

dJJ said:

Alej said:

You should give him a Celine Dion album

And a used one, at that .