So this woman signs up on Match.com, she is all happy and meets a guy, goes on a couple of dates and then he sexually assaults her. She later learns that he is a sex offender and is now suing Match.com.

Do you think she is right to do that? Is Match.com responsible?

How could they screen for sex offenders? As if someone with intent will tick the box YES to the question. I think the whole point of a site like that is that it offers discretion, that you don't have to go through a rigorous enrolment and checking-up process to join, right?

I was thinking about that after I saw it on the news.

Who do you sue if you met someone out in a bar, a supermarket , on the street or in a bookstore?

How about on HERE?

Whenever you meet someone new, there is the chance that the person has a "dark past", whether online or in person.

It was horrible that such a thing happened to her, but we are too quick to sue for everything.

I agree...America is a litigious society.

I think eHarmony (and some other dating sites) do criminal checks.

I had a similar experience on match. Luckily I didn't get assaulted,

but the guy that I met and dated for several months was living a

double life and was into some crazy sex swinger, potentially child porn stuff.

Creepy...

I saw her on the "Today" show this morning and she said that she, like most other people, go on a site like that to meet a nice person and aren't expecting to meet a sex offender. Well, where the hell has she and these "most other people" been for years when story after story of internet sex predators pop up?

The same thing could happen to her meeting a man anywhere but is much more likely to happen to her meeting a man on the internet. If she took the chance, it's not the site's fault. She just wants some money.

I’m pretty sure all dating sites have some sort of disclaimer saying they don’t screen users and all liability is on each user, etc. And many give tips on personal safety, etc. Always meet in public, let a friend know where you’ll be and so on.

And even if they don’t, it really is down to personal responsibility.

chocolate1 said:

I was thinking about that after I saw it on the news.

Who do you sue if you met someone out in a bar, a supermarket , on the street or in a bookstore?

How about on HERE?

Whenever you meet someone new, there is the chance that the person has a "dark past", whether online or in person.

It was horrible that such a thing happened to her, but we are too quick to sue for everything.

Exactly. And don't forget the churches and the Republican conventions. You can meet a lot of sex offenders there.

Not to make light of a serious issue....but have you guys seen a picture of the dude that supposedly raped her??? That might have given her a clue he was a rapest....The dude looks creepy as hell

Here's some advice her: DON'T INVITE ANY DUDE TO YOUR HOUSE FOR THE 2ND DATE!

CallMeCarrie said:

I agree...America is a litigious society.

I think eHarmony (and some other dating sites) do criminal checks.

I had a similar experience on match. Luckily I didn't get assaulted,

but the guy that I met and dated for several months was living a

double life and was into some crazy sex swinger, potentially child porn stuff.

Creepy...

I don't know how anyone could honestly expect for an INTERNET DATING SERVICE to provide criminal background checks. I mean, come ON! It's not like you have to provide a birth certificate to join, right?

SonOfSoul said:

Here's some advice her: DON'T INVITE ANY DUDE TO YOUR HOUSE FOR THE 2ND DATE!

Exactly! I've met some awesome guys online. BUT I only communicated with them by phone for months sometimes years before meeting them IRL. If you talk to them regularly by phone no doubt they'll show you the crazy soon enough. One doctor I met, got extra crazy ONLY after we'd been communicating for 2-3 months. Initially, he seemed totally normal. These silly women are so fuckin' desperate to have a man and be in a relationship they lose all common sense.

PurpleJedi said:

CallMeCarrie said:

I agree...America is a litigious society.

I think eHarmony (and some other dating sites) do criminal checks.

I had a similar experience on match. Luckily I didn't get assaulted,

but the guy that I met and dated for several months was living a

double life and was into some crazy sex swinger, potentially child porn stuff.

Creepy...

I know, right?!?

It's actually pretty easy to identify sex offenders since they are required to be registered in all states. You just need their name and some places will have the offenders photo for you to compare to your date.

I just remember the ad for one dating site that made it a point to say that they wanted their members to have some degree of comfort that other members weren't crazed killers.

StillGotIt said:

So this woman signs up on Match.com, she is all happy and meets a guy, goes on a couple of dates and then he sexually assaults her. She later learns that he is a sex offender and is now suing Match.com.

Do you think she is right to do that? Is Match.com responsible?

no to both

SCNDLS said:

SonOfSoul said:

Here's some advice her: DON'T INVITE ANY DUDE TO YOUR HOUSE FOR THE 2ND DATE!

Exactly! I've met some awesome guys online. BUT I only communicated with them by phone for months sometimes years before meeting them IRL. If you talk to them regularly by phone no doubt they'll show you the crazy soon enough. One doctor I met, got extra crazy ONLY after we'd been communicating for 2-3 months. Initially, he seemed totally normal. These silly women are so fuckin' desperate to have a man and be in a relationship they lose all common sense.

SonOfSoul said:

SCNDLS said:

Exactly! I've met some awesome guys online. BUT I only communicated with them by phone for months sometimes years before meeting them IRL. If you talk to them regularly by phone no doubt they'll show you the crazy soon enough. One doctor I met, got extra crazy ONLY after we'd been communicating for 2-3 months. Initially, he seemed totally normal. These silly women are so fuckin' desperate to have a man and be in a relationship they lose all common sense.

I swear they think they're gonna be in the next Match.com commercial frolickin' in a field with their online love celebrating their 13 month anniversary.

CallMeCarrie said:

PurpleJedi said:

I know, right?!?

It's actually pretty easy to identify sex offenders since they are required to be registered in all states. You just need their name and some places will have the offenders photo for you to compare to your date.

I just remember the ad for one dating site that made it a point to say that they wanted their members to have some degree of comfort that other members weren't crazed killers.

I have no experience with online dating...how exactly do/could they stop people from posting a false name with their profile?

PurpleJedi said:

CallMeCarrie said:

I know, right?!?

It's actually pretty easy to identify sex offenders since they are required to be registered in all states. You just need their name and some places will have the offenders photo for you to compare to your date.

I just remember the ad for one dating site that made it a point to say that they wanted their members to have some degree of comfort that other members weren't crazed killers.

I have no experience with online dating...how exactly do/could they stop people from posting a false name with their profile?

When I did online dating, I would ask guys for their name and DOB and tell them I'ma run a check on they asses. If they have a problem with it I ain't meeting them. I had my BF who was a parole officer run a background check on EVERY guy I met in person. Meeting a dude is not serious enough for me to risk my safety.

It baffles me that women are meeting folks in person without checking them out first.

SCNDLS said:

SonOfSoul said:

I swear they think they're gonna be in the next Match.com commercial frolickin' in a field with their online love celebrating their 13 month anniversary.

SCNDLS said:

PurpleJedi said:

I have no experience with online dating...how exactly do/could they stop people from posting a false name with their profile?

When I did online dating, I would ask guys for their name and DOB and tell them I'ma run a check on they asses. If they have a problem with it I ain't meeting them. I had my BF who was a parole officer run a background check on EVERY guy I met in person. Meeting a dude is not serious enough for me to risk my safety.

It baffles me that women are meeting folks in person without checking them out first.

You had a boyfriend that didn't care if you saw other guys? Kinky......

vainandy said:

SCNDLS said:

When I did online dating, I would ask guys for their name and DOB and tell them I'ma run a check on they asses. If they have a problem with it I ain't meeting them. I had my BF who was a parole officer run a background check on EVERY guy I met in person. Meeting a dude is not serious enough for me to risk my safety.

It baffles me that women are meeting folks in person without checking them out first.

You had a boyfriend that didn't care if you saw other guys? Kinky......

I know that's right up yo alley, hooker!

I meant best friend, freak!

SonOfSoul said:

Here's some advice her: DON'T INVITE ANY DUDE TO YOUR HOUSE FOR THE 2ND DATE!

A no-no

PurpleJedi said:

CallMeCarrie said:

I know, right?!?

It's actually pretty easy to identify sex offenders since they are required to be registered in all states. You just need their name and some places will have the offenders photo for you to compare to your date.

I just remember the ad for one dating site that made it a point to say that they wanted their members to have some degree of comfort that other members weren't crazed killers.

I have no experience with online dating...how exactly do/could they stop people from posting a false name with their profile?

Good question

Well, Match.com has decided to change its policy since its does make money off people by matching people up. Imagine that... you are compatable with a level3 sex offender.

Any website that guarentees its clients "results" in match making, then they should be held liable with allowing a criminal access to more victims.

It's sad and unfortunate that this happened to her, but it's not the website's fault at all! That really could happen to anybody under any circumstance. If you meet a guy out at the library it's not like he'll be wearing a sex offender t-shirt or something...Dating is just a dangerous game

I wouldn't even let dudes that i work with come to my house on a 2nd date.....Maybe I'm paranoid but they would have to wait months before they would even know exactly where I lived. How could somebody completely let their guard down because a website made a match? Makes no sense to me. Its still a stranger. And who has this dudes picture? I wanna see!!!

I can't believe how many of y'all sound like some old ass broads in the 1950s. Get with it. It takes some seriously deranged people to molest/assault others (especially sexually, imo) and if you can't sniff that shit out then something is wrong with you.

Women can't preach their strength and then stay so damn pressed on dick that they let any old motherfucker up in they guts.

SCNDLS said:

SonOfSoul said:

Here's some advice her: DON'T INVITE ANY DUDE TO YOUR HOUSE FOR THE 2ND DATE!

Exactly! I've met some awesome guys online. BUT I only communicated with them by phone for months sometimes years before meeting them IRL. If you talk to them regularly by phone no doubt they'll show you the crazy soon enough. One doctor I met, got extra crazy ONLY after we'd been communicating for 2-3 months. Initially, he seemed totally normal. These silly women are so fuckin' desperate to have a man and be in a relationship they lose all common sense.

Agreed. I've met awesome people online in my life, but my common sense filter is always on and turned up to super strength. There are a lot of situations that can be avoided if a woman (or a man!) exercises discernment.

SCNDLS said:

vainandy said:

You had a boyfriend that didn't care if you saw other guys? Kinky......

I know that's right up yo alley, hooker!

I meant best friend, freak!

Damn I can hear Lafayette.

I think what interests this lady most of all is the thought of some monetary compensation ... more than justice, or preventing this guy from causing further harm, etc.