woke up this morning and went downstairs after my 3 year old daughter woke me up by jumping on me as usual...when i went downstairs...i found a packet of painkillers just lying on the couch that my girlfriends 17 year old daughter is taking for burning her leg last week...

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so i thought...that aint good ...what if wee rebecca had got a hold of them...thought they were sweets and took some of them...so i went back upstairs and said to my girlfriend that her daughter lauren had to be more careful where she leaves her painkillers (in a nice way )....which i thought was perfectly reasonable ??...

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but then my girlfriend turns round to me and says in an aggessive way... ' you are always f**king moaning at me about something, arent you ? ' ...

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now maybe i am detached from reality but i thought that was a perfectly reasonable request which i said in a nice way...just saying we need to be more careful about things like that where a hyperactive 3 year old is roaming about...

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she then said ' last week you asked me not to cook on the front rings of the cooker..use the back ones if you can because rebecca cant reach them ' ...which again i thought...as a parent of a mad 3 year old was perfectly understandable....and seeing as her own 17 year old daughter had burned herself down the leg with hot oil she had knocked over the week before...

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am i moaning here or what.....because i am starting to doubt myself...

no , sounds reasonable to me too

I think your GF needs a reality check if she thinks your thoughts on the pain killers laying round for a 3 yr old to have access too is "moaning"

maybe it's the way you say it...

It's understandable to feel the way you feel. You are a parent! Try using another tone like baby, I found these pain pills and it concerns me that it was left out for lil one to maybe pick it up and think it's candy. We need to be more careful.

believe me, she will be more appreciateable!

Mach said:

I think your GF needs a reality check if she thinks your thoughts on the pain killers laying round for a 3 yr old to have access too is "moaning"

I agree.

Tell her you're doing her a favor -- because if she doesn't like the "moaning," then she really wouldn't like what she'd encounter should any of this stupidity result in harm to the 3-year-old.

Lammastide said:

Mach said:

I think your GF needs a reality check if she thinks your thoughts on the pain killers laying round for a 3 yr old to have access too is "moaning"

I agree.

Tell her you're doing her a favor -- because if she doesn't like the "moaning," then she really wouldn't like what she'd encounter should any of this stupidity result in harm to the 3-year-old.

He has the right ( in my book ) to also mention to the teen daughter that left the drugs laying round ... not only the right ~ he has the responsibility as the 3 yr olds Dad, to do exactly that

a 17 yr old should know ( or be told ) better anyway ~ those drugs could kill a 3 yr old

Best wishes with it all

[Edited 4/20/11 7:53am]

Mach said:

a 17 yr old should know ( or be told ) better anyway ~ those drugs could kill a 3 yr old

And a 3 year old should know you can't wake up your father by jumping on him "as usual".

Problem is we let our kids do anything they please and ,surprise, they grow up and keep doing as they please at 17.

Angelic1302 said:

maybe it's the way you say it...

It's understandable to feel the way you feel. You are a parent! Try using another tone like baby, I found these pain pills and it concerns me that it was left out for lil one to maybe pick it up and think it's candy. We need to be more careful.

believe me, she will be more appreciateable!

As I've taken more training in communication and counseling, I would say that her reaction stemmed from something else. Getting mad at the right time for the right reason, very difficult to do. Angelic gave a great answer

No your not a moaner at all.Thats the way most parents would be. I have a big age gap between my two chilrden and if my daughter had left paracetamol out so her younger brother could have taken them i would have not been polite like you were! In my view your behaviour was perfectly reasonable!

Lammastide said:

Mach said:

I think your GF needs a reality check if she thinks your thoughts on the pain killers laying round for a 3 yr old to have access too is "moaning"

I agree.

Tell her you're doing her a favor -- because if she doesn't like the "moaning," then she really wouldn't like what she'd encounter should any of this stupidity result in harm to the 3-year-old.

^x 3

you did what was right, you're not a moaner, i think your gf is.

wishuhvn said:

Angelic1302 said:

maybe it's the way you say it...

It's understandable to feel the way you feel. You are a parent! Try using another tone like baby, I found these pain pills and it concerns me that it was left out for lil one to maybe pick it up and think it's candy. We need to be more careful.

believe me, she will be more appreciateable!

As I've taken more training in communication and counseling, I would say that her reaction stemmed from something else. Getting mad at the right time for the right reason, very difficult to do. Angelic gave a great answer

My initial response is quite flip. I actually do think Angelic's approach is pretty smart.

your girlfriend sounds like a bitch

shes probably stressed and taking it out on you

[Edited 4/20/11 10:52am]

Is this more to do with the fact that you two aren't getting along at the moment

or am I thinking of another orger who was talking divorce?

I guess if the 3yr old took the painpills and then mom was being investigated by child protection services.... I guess this would be a better option for mom?

I think mom doesn't like you saying anything about her 17yr. old.... the older kid must be a touchy subject... mom's a bit sensitive.

You were right, and no you are not a moaner... you were protecting EVERYONE in that house. Mom should be thankful instead of defensive.

If she thought I was "moaning" after what I'd see as a perfectly reasonable request, then she'd hate what I'd be after telling me I'm "moaning"...

What was that song???? Oh Mona!!!!!!!

that's all i can think of right now

Not a moaner, no, just a responsible parent. Don't worry about making her see your side of things or being right, just get on with what needs to be done, whether she says you're moaning or not. It's far more important. Sounds like she might be upset generally about something else, so her eyes aren't on the ball and she's not thinking responsibly, so as is sometimes the way, as an adult thinking straight you need to take over and make what you want to happen, happen, no matter who gets pissy about it. It's the kids' safety!

Fauxie said:

Not a moaner, no, just a responsible parent. Don't worry about making her see your side of things or being right, just get on with what needs to be done, whether she says you're moaning or not. It's far more important. Sounds like she might be upset generally about something else, so her eyes aren't on the ball and she's not thinking responsibly, so as is sometimes the way, as an adult thinking straight you need to take over and make what you want to happen, happen, no matter who gets pissy about it. It's the kids' safety!

Haayyyll to the damn yeah.

PunkMistress said:

Fauxie said:

Not a moaner, no, just a responsible parent. Don't worry about making her see your side of things or being right, just get on with what needs to be done, whether she says you're moaning or not. It's far more important. Sounds like she might be upset generally about something else, so her eyes aren't on the ball and she's not thinking responsibly, so as is sometimes the way, as an adult thinking straight you need to take over and make what you want to happen, happen, no matter who gets pissy about it. It's the kids' safety!

Haayyyll to the damn yeah.

Nice Stevie sig.

Fauxie said:

PunkMistress said:

Haayyyll to the damn yeah.

Nice Stevie sig.

Change your words into truth, and then change that truth into love!

PunkMistress said:

Fauxie said:

Nice Stevie sig.

Change your words into truth, and then change that truth into love!

And then your childrensgrandchildrenandtheirgreatgrandchildren will tell

Phew!

Fauxie said:

PunkMistress said:

Change your words into truth, and then change that truth into love!

And then your childrensgrandchildrenandtheirgreatgrandchildren will tell

Phew!

And all in that growly voice!

PunkMistress said:

Fauxie said:

And then your childrensgrandchildrenandtheirgreatgrandchildren will tell

Phew!

And all in that growly voice!

Oh yeah, the growly voiced part. I always thought that was kinda funny. Stevie can do no wrong though.

kids & painkillers aside i think your gf has a point about your 'fucking moaning'. i wonder how she'd feel if she came to the org to find what u write about her, post her picture & u won't even keep her kids anonymous.

u seem to have very little respect for her. very sad

paintedlady said:

I guess if the 3yr old took the painpills and then mom was being investigated by child protection services.... I guess this would be a better option for mom?

I think mom doesn't like you saying anything about her 17yr. old.... the older kid must be a touchy subject... mom's a bit sensitive.

You were right, and no you are not a moaner... you were protecting EVERYONE in that house. Mom should be thankful instead of defensive.

See. It sounds like there's something else going on here. How would she have felt if the child ate the pills, had a severe allergic reaction and died? She's being a bitch. It doesn't take rocket science to realize with a toddler in the house, one has to be extra, extra cautious about leaving dangerous stuff around. It only takes a second to change a life forever. Kick her ass to the curb...

ur not a moaner at all eye would have gone fucking ballistic!!!!

This is the same girlfriend that uses a sex toy but would be jealous of one if you used one, right? Now you're a moaner for caring about the safety of her child.

She sounds...sweet.

[Edited 4/21/11 15:43pm]

I hadn't entered this thread prior to this because I thought it was about sex.

What you did was correct. Tell your girlfriend she needs a fucking therapist.

time to break up with her. so far, you have yet to list a redeeming quality.