johnart said:

Harlepolis said:

Yep.

And deprive them equally from a semen discharge, and you'll see who will go into a rampage

I'm sorry ladies, but I've never had to separate any of my male friends (when I hung out with mostly guys) whereas (and again, I would not trade them cause I love 'em) I've had to do this (don't anymore) with some female friends. I've had female friends come with out of nowhere jealousy at my partner, family...even my mother. Something I never experieced from male friends.

Males might go into a rampage but they'll get that shit out their systems while females will engage in emotional and psychological fuckin warfare.

That's just it.... I made it a character issue in my 1st post, more so than sex really because a passive agressive man can hold a grudge just as good as any woman can.

I think its more a personality thing... I have girlfriends who would NEVER fight over any guy,

and some that are competitive as hell and turn other women off fast. I see extremes on both ends.

Both women and men are all over the place in regards to friendships and loyalty.

Some are true-blue, ride-or die.... others can be flaky with their friends.

paintedlady said:

johnart said:

I'm sorry ladies, but I've never had to separate any of my male friends (when I hung out with mostly guys) whereas (and again, I would not trade them cause I love 'em) I've had to do this (don't anymore) with some female friends. I've had female friends come with out of nowhere jealousy at my partner, family...even my mother. Something I never experieced from male friends.

Males might go into a rampage but they'll get that shit out their systems while females will engage in emotional and psychological fuckin warfare.

That's just it.... I made it a character issue in my 1st post, more so than sex really because a passive agressive man can hold a grudge just as good as any woman can.

I think its more a personality thing... I have girlfriends who would NEVER fight over any guy,

and some that are competitive as hell and turn other women off fast. I see extremes on both ends.

Both women and men are all over the place in regards to friendships and loyalty.

Some are true-blue, ride-or die.... others can be flaky with their friends.

Oh ultimately I think it definitely is a personality thing and for sure a male can hold a grudge just as well as any female. It's just been my personal experience that more females have had this personality trait.

I'm not saying it with any derrogatory intent, I still always tend to gravitate toward females in friendship. Besides my male friends from the org (whom I mostly only see at gatherings), I can count on one hand how many males I hang out with on a regular basis. In my 20's most of my friends were all guys.

Who knows, maybe if I hung out with more males now I'd have a different opinion after a while.

Virgo92 said:

I like having women as friends because they seem to tell it like it is. If you ask a women a question, your going to get straight forward answers. On the other hand, my best male friends(all 20 of them) are cool as hell. Boys know how to have fun, we're always messing with girls. So you do you prefer women or men as better friends? [Edited 4/20/11 18:10pm]

I find I am more likely to get a straight answer from a male friend than a female friend

Also I think it is hard to have female friends because usually one party wants more than just friendship!

If you are a woman with straight male friends they probably want sex/relationship

johnart said:

Harlepolis said:

Yep.

And deprive them equally from a semen discharge, and you'll see who will go into a rampage

Males might go into a rampage but they'll get that shit out their systems while females will engage in emotional and psychological fuckin warfare.

Now see, thats quite the opposite from my experience. The male friends I know would NEVER show their pain if they got hurt, but will let you know subliminally in more ways than one about what you did, and they're the better ones at that, the bad ones just bottle it up and put a straight face until something set them off eventually, its like I have to engage in an intentional mind games with them, maybe its a cultural thing, I don't know.

My female friends though, they're not that complex, I could tell if and when I fuck just from the look on their faces, and its actually less work.

eye have no male friends at all? all my friends r women ive been like that since the age of 17.id love 2 go 2 the pub with loads of mates talk football chat up women that whole male vibe thing, eye guess what uve never had u never miss.eye am with a women now who is also a great friend! r women better friends than men? i will let u no when eye find a male friend!?

Harlepolis said:

johnart said:

Males might go into a rampage but they'll get that shit out their systems while females will engage in emotional and psychological fuckin warfare.

Now see, thats quite the opposite from my experience. The male friends I know would NEVER show their pain if they got hurt, but will let you know subliminally in more ways than one about what you did, and they're the better ones at that, the bad ones just bottle it up and put a straight face until something set them off eventually, its like I have to engage in an intentional mind games with them, maybe its a cultural thing, I don't know.

My female friends though, they're not that complex, I could tell if and when I fuck just from the look on their faces, and its actually less work.

Some of my female friends (and family members) are work. They are.

But it's a testament to their friendship that I'm willing to do that work. If someone was work and not important to me I'd be like "See ya!"

Serious said:

ZombieKitten said:

I've always been one of the guys, my group of friends is usually a bunch of men I feel safety among them and also there is no pressure to talk, just joking around is sufficient! I've never really had a close girlfriend and my close guy-friends, well

johnart said:

Harlepolis said:

Yep.

And deprive them equally from a semen discharge, and you'll see who will go into a rampage

I'm sorry ladies, but I've never had to separate any of my male friends (when I hung out with mostly guys) whereas (and again, I would not trade them cause I love 'em) I've had to do this (don't anymore) with some female friends. I've had female friends come with out of nowhere jealousy at my partner, family...even my mother. Something I never experieced from male friends.

Males might go into a rampage but they'll get that shit out their systems while females will engage in emotional and psychological fuckin warfare.

I've known girls who would have some woman at a red light look at her wrong, and

still be cursing about that shit the next damned day!

And I think folks are misinterpreting what I mean by more intense here.

These are generalizations BASED ON MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.

This is what my male friendships are like:

1) We go boating

2) We do activities

3) We go to the gym

4) We talk about politics (sometimes), current events, life, etc. but never try to get too personal.

5) When we argue, the anger is over by the end of the conversation.

This is what my female friendships are like:

1) We do activities

2) They're very open with their emotions

3) They'll talk about anything. I mean, NOTHING is off the table. And even their sexual conversations make men's sex-talk seem like Prince circa 2011 compared to Eazy-E circa 1985. They get naassssstttaay.

4) They're quicker to hug, cry, everything. You go see a movie with a female friend, and she's going to cry if there is a sad scene.

5) They hold on to grudges (as do men), but the difference with women is how willingly they externalize those grudges. I actually externalize grudges like women do, and it's liberating.

I have far more female friends than male and I'm ok with it. I think I prefer the company of women.

Thinking about it, IRL as far as around here, the only male friend who I actually see in person reasonably often and who'd I'd consider more than an acquaintance is Dan.

Unless you count my best friend, my 3 year old nephew New.

Fauxie said:

I have far more female friends than male and I'm ok with it. I think I prefer the company of women.

Thinking about it, IRL as far as around here, the only male friend who I actually see in person reasonably often and who'd I'd consider more than an acquaintance is Dan.

Unless you count my best friend, my 3 year old nephew New.

OMG, Nong New

Such a wonderful little child. You NEED to teach that boy English.

SagsWay2low said:

Fauxie said:

I have far more female friends than male and I'm ok with it. I think I prefer the company of women.

Thinking about it, IRL as far as around here, the only male friend who I actually see in person reasonably often and who'd I'd consider more than an acquaintance is Dan.

Unless you count my best friend, my 3 year old nephew New.

OMG, Nong New

Such a wonderful little child. You NEED to teach that boy English.

We are. He watches this 'Super Why' programme every day too, about the alphabet, and really likes it.

Come to think of it, it's not just male friends, I don't have any female friends around here that I see really often. Not like besties anyway. Since we 'lost' our friend Jane all my female friends are either living abroad now or are just friends of my wife who I speak to regularly but don't hang out with.

It's ok. Nong New and I have a rapport, and we hang out together about 10 hours every day.

I don't have any friends.

Genders are interesting because we treat it as if it's scientific. I mean sure I can talk more to my mom than my dad because they're emotionally different but there's always those that are better friends because...they're better friends.

That's just me though.

Fauxie said:

Come to think of it, it's not just male friends, I don't have any female friends around here that I see really often. Not like besties anyway. Since we 'lost' our friend Jane all my female friends are either living abroad now or are just friends of my wife who I speak to regularly but don't hang out with.

It's ok. Nong New and I have a rapport, and we hang out together about 10 hours every day.

I don't have any friends.

Dude, the friends I did have are all going back to the states this summer because they're contracts are up and none of them renewed.

I'm ok with it because I need to get in shape, etc.

I think in Thailand, I much much muuuuuuch more trust female friends than male.

Especially farrang men. Some of them be naaasssstaaaay ho-chasers.

SagsWay2low said:

Fauxie said:

Come to think of it, it's not just male friends, I don't have any female friends around here that I see really often. Not like besties anyway. Since we 'lost' our friend Jane all my female friends are either living abroad now or are just friends of my wife who I speak to regularly but don't hang out with.

It's ok. Nong New and I have a rapport, and we hang out together about 10 hours every day.

I don't have any friends.

Dude, the friends I did have are all going back to the states this summer because they're contracts are up and none of them renewed.

I'm ok with it because I need to get in shape, etc.

I think in Thailand, I much much muuuuuuch more trust female friends than male.

Especially farrang men. Some of them be naaasssstaaaay ho-chasers.

Definitely. I like being around Thai women. I like speaking Thai, for one thing, and I seem to get on better with the women than the men. Thai guys I can't quite seem to relate to much of the time. I have a good relationship with Mon's younger brother, and we're pretty close when it comes down to it, but I don't really 'get' him fully or share too many similar interests. Farang men? Yeah, some here are cool for a few drinks and chewing the fat but there are so many wankers out here. You're better, more fun, less douchey company than any of the farangs I've met here when just going out and ending up chatting to ppl. Maybe it's because you're all luk-khrung and shit but also have cocoa-butter silky smooth skin like a pretty Thai lady.

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[Edited 4/21/11 19:08pm]

ZombieKitten said:

Serious said:

Until YOU of course what would I ever do without you

SagsWay2low said:

johnart said:

I'm sorry ladies, but I've never had to separate any of my male friends (when I hung out with mostly guys) whereas (and again, I would not trade them cause I love 'em) I've had to do this (don't anymore) with some female friends. I've had female friends come with out of nowhere jealousy at my partner, family...even my mother. Something I never experieced from male friends.

Males might go into a rampage but they'll get that shit out their systems while females will engage in emotional and psychological fuckin warfare.

I've known girls who would have some woman at a red light look at her wrong, and

still be cursing about that shit the next damned day!

And I think folks are misinterpreting what I mean by more intense here.

These are generalizations BASED ON MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.

This is what my male friendships are like:

1) We go boating

2) We do activities

3) We go to the gym

4) We talk about politics (sometimes), current events, life, etc. but never try to get too personal.

5) When we argue, the anger is over by the end of the conversation.

This is what my female friendships are like:

1) We do activities

2) They're very open with their emotions

3) They'll talk about anything. I mean, NOTHING is off the table. And even their sexual conversations make men's sex-talk seem like Prince circa 2011 compared to Eazy-E circa 1985. They get naassssstttaay.

4) They're quicker to hug, cry, everything. You go see a movie with a female friend, and she's going to cry if there is a sad scene.

5) They hold on to grudges (as do men), but the difference with women is how willingly they externalize those grudges. I actually externalize grudges like women do, and it's liberating.

Whenever people make these lists I seem to fall more in line with what is sterotypically male than female and yet I don't consider myself masculine in any way, so I never really identify with them. Maybe that's why I hate sterotyping based on gender so much - I simply don't relate to it.

Except for the crying part. I'm a cryer. I can't help that.

As for the rest, I grew up with mostly girlfriends, then in my late teens and very early 20's it was mostly straight men friends, then I swung over to all gay male and straight female friends and it's been pretty much the same ever since. My besties that I spend the most time with these days are all the gays.

My boyfriend even told me I need more straight male friends. I don't know why, I just rarely relate to straight men.

So in general I am friends with more men than women, but it's completely different than a girl who considers herself "one of the guys". I am very far from that.

SagsWay2low said:

Fauxie said:

I have far more female friends than male and I'm ok with it. I think I prefer the company of women.

Thinking about it, IRL as far as around here, the only male friend who I actually see in person reasonably often and who'd I'd consider more than an acquaintance is Dan.

Unless you count my best friend, my 3 year old nephew New.

OMG, Nong New

Such a wonderful little child. You NEED to teach that boy English.

Nong New

Yes

CarrieMpls said:

SagsWay2low said:

OMG, Nong New

Such a wonderful little child. You NEED to teach that boy English.

Nong New

He managed to woo a 6 year old girl yesterday. No matter that he speaks a babbled mix of 2 languages. She was all tentative and he just went to the gate and charmed her socks off and before long they were running around playing and cuddling each other.

Gonna be trouble!