women r like socks!!!!! eye change mine everyday else they start 2 smell!!!

NDRU said:

I think women are equally likely to marry someone who does not care about them

Some people marry for how the couple looks on paper, not for love.

But not everyone. I have read though, that one person in the relationship always loves more than the other. So maybe it always seems that one person does not care about the other.

This is what I said and am saying.

grabs some popcorn, some ginger ale, sits back and watches

SherryJackson said:

Eh.

I'm afraid, my friends, I've made some bad generalizations. Moment of frustration I guess.

Mods, y'all can this now...

Erin, my final say to you would be I wrote this because these are observations Kida and I noticed with men men in our lives (w/ some exceptions). I don't mean to insult or piss off women in meaningful relationships.

Or men? Some

"good women"

have a habit of

treating the

good men you

lament like

pure, utter crap.

[Edited 4/14/11 17:20pm]

Myster said:

SherryJackson said:

Eh.

I'm afraid, my friends, I've made some bad generalizations. Moment of frustration I guess.

Mods, y'all can this now...

Erin, my final say to you would be I wrote this because these are observations Kida and I noticed with men men in our lives (w/ some exceptions). I don't mean to insult or piss off women in meaningful relationships.

Or men? Some

"good women"

have a habit of

treating the

good men you

lament like

pure, utter crap.

[Edited 4/14/11 17:20pm]

Man, I keep missing people. Sorry I offended you. And frankly, if a woman treated you badly like that, she's not a good woman. Just saying.

I make it my life's purpose not to hurt others. I know that's unavoidable sometimes, but I try not to do that. I've been disappointed enough to know better.

blah blah yadda yadda 'good woman' blah.

don't know bout y'all but everytime i've had

a good woman, i kept her. and wheather we are

together or not, we are still close to one another (FRIENDS)

the thing is,

i need one of you 'so called' good women

like a fish need a raincoat. if you think and say you are.

you're prolly not,

kinda like bein humble.

oh and me...

i always been too fucked up

to stay with the good ones

so i let them go before i could do

damage. it's whut i do

Do you have as much to offer as you think you do? Sounds mean so instead, is what you have to offer what the men you're attracted to are looking for? If it were, surely you'd not have this problem, if indeed it's a significant trend (enough to start a thread about) and not just down to being quite young and not meeting the right guy yet.

If you're happy as you are, doing what you do (being a nice person, studying hard etc.), and you see that as being a 'good woman' and the person you want to be, then keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about everything else. Maybe you'll meet a great guy and fall in love.

Fauxie said:

Do you have as much to offer as you think you do? Sounds mean so instead, is what you have to offer what the men you're attracted to are looking for? If it were, surely you'd not have this problem, if indeed it's a significant trend (enough to start a thread about) and not just down to being quite young and not meeting the right guy yet.

If you're happy as you are, doing what you do (being a nice person, studying hard etc.), and you see that as being a 'good woman' and the person you want to be, then keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about everything else. Maybe you'll meet a great guy and fall in love.

Well, ain't that a kick in the head. After I gave you love on the photo thread.

But I think you're prolly right. I'm young, but I feel more mature despite my age, and am more well-rounded than most 21 year olds. So is KidaDynamite. Guess that's why I expect a better reception when it comes to men.

Well, if being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking, and mature (and I'm sure there are more) isn't the characteristics of a good woman, what is?

[Edited 4/14/11 18:08pm]

SherryJackson said:

Myster said:

Or men? Some

"good women"

have a habit of

treating the

good men you

lament like

pure, utter crap.

[Edited 4/14/11 17:20pm]

Man, I keep missing people. Sorry I offended you. And frankly, if a woman treated you badly like that, she's not a good woman. Just saying.

I make it my life's purpose not to hurt others. I know that's unavoidable sometimes, but I try not to do that. I've been disappointed enough to know better.

Oh, I'm good,

love. I just hated

what sounded like

a familiar myth

getting further life.

SherryJackson said:

Fauxie said:

Do you have as much to offer as you think you do? Sounds mean so instead, is what you have to offer what the men you're attracted to are looking for? If it were, surely you'd not have this problem, if indeed it's a significant trend (enough to start a thread about) and not just down to being quite young and not meeting the right guy yet.

If you're happy as you are, doing what you do (being a nice person, studying hard etc.), and you see that as being a 'good woman' and the person you want to be, then keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about everything else. Maybe you'll meet a great guy and fall in love.

Well, ain't that a kick in the head. After I gave you love on the photo thread.

But I think you're prolly right. I'm young, but I feel more mature despite my age, and am more well-rounded than most 21 year olds. So is KidaDynamite. Guess that's why I expect a better reception when it comes to men.

Well, if being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking, and mature (and I'm sure there are more) isn't the characteristics of a good woman, what is?

[Edited 4/14/11 18:08pm]

No one said it wasn't.

SherryJackson said:

Fauxie said:

Do you have as much to offer as you think you do? Sounds mean so instead, is what you have to offer what the men you're attracted to are looking for? If it were, surely you'd not have this problem, if indeed it's a significant trend (enough to start a thread about) and not just down to being quite young and not meeting the right guy yet.

If you're happy as you are, doing what you do (being a nice person, studying hard etc.), and you see that as being a 'good woman' and the person you want to be, then keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about everything else. Maybe you'll meet a great guy and fall in love.

Well, ain't that a kick in the head. After I gave you love on the photo thread.

But I think you're prolly right. I'm young, but I feel more mature despite my age, and am more well-rounded than most 21 year olds. So is KidaDynamite. Guess that's why I expect a better reception when it comes to men.

Well, if being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking, and mature (and I'm sure there are more) isn't the characteristics of a good woman, what is?

[Edited 4/14/11 18:08pm]

Giving compliments and then not hoping to cash them in them later for a favourable response. Poison in jest.

Being secure is a sign of maturity. Plenty of people find that attractive.

Being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking is a great way to be, so don't sweat it. Why do ppl always over-think this stuff? It's not like when love comes along it's usually all that rational anyway, so why try to break it down beforehand as if it will be? Are you generally happy? Can't you just go about your merry way, doing what you're doing, trying to continue being the decent person you want to be, and just see what happens?

.

[Edited 4/14/11 18:23pm]

I don't know what love is...

right now I can only offer things like sex, financial help, moral support, etc...

[Edited 4/14/11 18:24pm]

JoeTyler said:

I don't know what love is...

right now I can only offer things like sex, financial help, moral support, etc...

[Edited 4/14/11 18:24pm]

Not exactly that far off, for a start

Fauxie said:

SherryJackson said:

Well, ain't that a kick in the head. After I gave you love on the photo thread.

But I think you're prolly right. I'm young, but I feel more mature despite my age, and am more well-rounded than most 21 year olds. So is KidaDynamite. Guess that's why I expect a better reception when it comes to men.

Well, if being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking, and mature (and I'm sure there are more) isn't the characteristics of a good woman, what is?

[Edited 4/14/11 18:08pm]

Giving compliments and then not hoping to cash them in them later for a favourable response. Poison in jest.

Being secure is a sign of maturity. Plenty of people find that attractive.

Being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking is a great way to be, so don't sweat it. Why do ppl always over-think this stuff? It's not like when love comes along it's usually all that rational anyway, so why try to break it down beforehand as if it will be? Are you generally happy? Can't you just go about your merry way, doing what you're doing, trying to continue being the decent person you want to be, and just see what happens?

.

[Edited 4/14/11 18:23pm]

You right. Thanks for the advice.

And I wasn't cashin' nothin' in! Just sayin' though...

SherryJackson said:

Fauxie said:

Giving compliments and then not hoping to cash them in them later for a favourable response. Poison in jest.

Being secure is a sign of maturity. Plenty of people find that attractive.

Being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking is a great way to be, so don't sweat it. Why do ppl always over-think this stuff? It's not like when love comes along it's usually all that rational anyway, so why try to break it down beforehand as if it will be? Are you generally happy? Can't you just go about your merry way, doing what you're doing, trying to continue being the decent person you want to be, and just see what happens?

.

[Edited 4/14/11 18:23pm]

You right. Thanks for the advice.

And I wasn't cashin' nothin' in! Just sayin' though...

Yeah, yeah.

You look good too, Sherry. You're such a catch! Why, if I weren't married and lived in your town I'd....

Fauxie said:

SherryJackson said:

You right. Thanks for the advice.

And I wasn't cashin' nothin' in! Just sayin' though...

Yeah, yeah.

You look good too, Sherry. You're such a catch! Why, if I weren't married and lived in your town I'd....

Lmao...

Fauxie said:

JoeTyler said:

I don't know what love is...

right now I can only offer things like sex, financial help, moral support, etc...

[Edited 4/14/11 18:24pm]

Not exactly that far off, for a start

JustErin said:

SherryJackson said:

Well, ain't that a kick in the head. After I gave you love on the photo thread.

But I think you're prolly right. I'm young, but I feel more mature despite my age, and am more well-rounded than most 21 year olds. So is KidaDynamite. Guess that's why I expect a better reception when it comes to men.

Well, if being sweet and kind, loving and hardworking, and mature (and I'm sure there are more) isn't the characteristics of a good woman, what is?

[Edited 4/14/11 18:08pm]

No one said it wasn't.

you just have to be more slutty

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

No one said it wasn't.

you just have to be more slutty

Like you, Slutty McSlutterson?

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

you just have to be more slutty

Like you, Slutty McSlutterson?

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

No one said it wasn't.

you just have to be more slutty

SherryJackson said:

ZombieKitten said:

you just have to be more slutty

Don't wait until your midlife crisis to embrace your sluttiness, do it NOW while you are young and still look good

ZombieKitten said:

SherryJackson said:

Don't wait until your midlife crisis to embrace your sluttiness, do it NOW while you are young and still look good

Well I have been wearing lower cut shirts lately...

SherryJackson said:

ZombieKitten said:

Don't wait until your midlife crisis to embrace your sluttiness, do it NOW while you are young and still look good

Well I have been wearing lower cut shirts lately...

that's a great start!

JustErin said:

SherryJackson said:

I'm not just talking about myself. Kida has been thru it. Other women have been thru it. I've had women bend my ear telling me how things are great for them. Life's been good, careers going well, sweet and caring, beautiful, can have their pick of anyone, but they're still without that someone.

While you second statement is more closer to the truth, I'd add by saying its not just that they're not interested. My CENTRAL question is..why wouldn't they be when these women, myself included, have so much to offer?

Some posts in here may have already answered that question.

[Edited 4/14/11 11:33am]

[Edited 4/14/11 11:34am]

Ok, so instead of looking at yourself and saying, "what am I doing that is not attracting a guy who wants to be with me?", you're pointing fingers saying, "What's wrong with all these guys and why are they not wanting to be with me or girls that I believe are as good as me?"

I dunno, I'm not trying to be mean here but our opinions of ourselves are not always the same as other's opinions of us. We might think we've got it all figured out, that we are the perfect package when really, we're not so much.

I'm not saying that we need to totally blame ourselves for not getting what we want but I don't think that saying it's everyone else's fault or that men don't want "good women" is a tad silly and probably won't change our situations in the long run.

I’m sorry, (this isn’t aimed totally at you, since others have said it too) but that line reminds me of the type of "advice" psuedo-psychologist Tyra Banks used to tell her guests on her old talk show. It’s always something internally wrong with “you” instead of people just recognizing that the basics of attraction are a matter of human nature: Regarding the initial stage of romance, you like what you like looking at. Mental and emotional characteristics are secondary, and then later stages are when you really start knowing the person. Period. Sure, there are people who are exceptions to this rule (people who genuinely aren’t concerned with looks, desperate settlers, non-loving lechers, gold-diggers, etc). Nonetheless, this can be said for majority of men and women looking for a romantic relationship, whether people want to admit/affirm that or not.

And I’m not implying that just because a person you meet and desire doesn’t show interest in return means that you are not attractive. I’m not saying that at all. It just indicates that you are not attractive to that particular person, which is not a negative reflection of who you are nor your physical appearance. So really, there is no need for any self-evaluation of "what am I doing wrong" when speaking about why you can’t attain a man you've just met and currently want, ‘cause you’re not doing anything wrong (well, unless you have some type of hygiene/grooming problems, lol). It’s really not him either. It’s just the attraction is not mutual, and that’s out of our control. You can’t “fix yourself” with the intent to force someone you've just met to love/want you. I mean, think of it the opposite way: The same can be said for a guy you've encountered who was a “good guy” with “good” mental/emotional attributes who sincerely wanted your attention, but you could not reciprocate, and would not, no matter what he did. Why? 'Cause you were not attracted to his face, or size, or age, or some significant physical feature, which prevented you from ever being interested in him as a whole, thus blocking romantic feelings. I know that’s harsh, but, well, it’s what I find to be the truth.

Another example: A girl/woman can be the most intelligent, most skillful, kind, cool, modest, successful, loyal, helpful, etc, etc, partner a dude could have, all the while being honestly acclaimed by everyone around her that she's also one of the "most gorgeous" females, physically, they've ever seen. The whole package, right? She hears it constantly. But if she encounters a “good” man she looks at as being gorgeous, who she would like to share love with, yet he does not agree that she's the best thing he's ever seen, he will not be interested in being her boyfriend/husband, regardless of how fantastic she is overall. They could have everything in common, but it still will not work (unless he has deception or desperation in mind). That's why you see those nice looking "good guys" seriously involved with women deemed average, or mentally/emotionally inept "trophies": Bottom line (majority of the time), primarily, they like the way those women look, and apparently, appreciate other aspects about them as well, whatever they may be. I think it’s better to accept this than feeling rejection/low self-confidence or despair. I say, as I've learned, know your own high worth, never comply with what you don't truly want, do not fear solitude, and remember that maybe eventually you’ll meet your 100% type of man who honestly considers you as his 100% type of woman (with "type" including all 3 aspects: physical, mental, emotional), and all will be nice (at least in the beginning. Long-term, well, that’s an entirely different story, lol). That's what I go by. ....

There has to be more to the story.

We need full body pix.

+

U claim that U have a lot 2 offer but is it readily available?

The contestants can't decide that the price is right if they don't know what is behind the curtain.

Bob Barker style.

minneapolisFunq said:

There has to be more to the story.

We need full body pix.

+

U claim that U have a lot 2 offer but is it readily available?

The contestants can't decide that the price is right if they don't know what is behind the curtain.

Bob Barker style.

Sherry is cute as hell, on the real.

She's a smart cookie though. Maybe some men are intimidated by that.

Militant said:

minneapolisFunq said:

There has to be more to the story.

We need full body pix.

+

U claim that U have a lot 2 offer but is it readily available?

The contestants can't decide that the price is right if they don't know what is behind the curtain.

Bob Barker style.

Sherry is cute as hell, on the real.

She's a smart cookie though. Maybe some men are intimidated by that.

Thank you, Militant!

KingBAD said:

blah blah yadda yadda 'good woman' blah.

don't know bout y'all but everytime i've had

a good woman, i kept her. and wheather we are

together or not, we are still close to one another (FRIENDS)

the thing is,

i need one of you 'so called' good women

like a fish need a raincoat. if you think and say you are.

you're prolly not,

kinda like bein humble.

oh and me...

i always been too fucked up

to stay with the good ones

so i let them go before i could do

damage. it's whut i do

Are you good or good to be true? Point taken.

JustErin said:

There is going to be a lot of female orgers who are married/in relationships that are going to take real offense to this thread.

I don't.