The gay accent is one of life's mysteries. Why do so many gay men across the country have the same sibilant accent? Is there a correlation between anal sex and overpronouncing your S sounds?

Obviously some straight people have this accent too. But how is it so widespread among gay men? I don't have the accent and neither does my bf, but some of my friends do. They say they've always spoken that way even before they knew they knew they were gay.

Does our sexual preference change the physiology of our larynx??

The preferred gay accent -->

I'm seriously starting to doubt that the accent is actually authentic. I've heard straight men talk in the same way gay men "allegedly do". It's all a part of the stereotyping of sexualities. Like if you're "x", you gotta talk and walk like "x". I guess it's a societal issue.

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Genesia said:

The preferred gay accent -->

The accent is not definitive.

Having Madonna as your avvie is

PANDURITO said:

The accent is not definitive.

Having Madonna as your avvie is

Hehe, ain't that the truth! One step into my apartment and it's clear I'm gay. I have Erotica framed on my bedroom wall and purple curtains.

Timmy84 said:

I'm seriously starting to doubt that the accent is actually authentic. I've heard straight men talk in the same way gay men "allegedly do". It's all a part of the stereotyping of sexualities. Like if you're "x", you gotta talk and walk like "x". I guess it's a societal issue.

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I dunno, man. I know gay guys who'd LOVE to drop "the accent" so that they can "sound straight." But they can't.

I wonder if more than a conscious decision -- or anything physiological -- "the accent" is somehow attached to our subconscious appreciation of gender expression, which maybe many gay boys in their formative years don't have a standard affinity for.

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alot of people at work used 2 think eye was gay until it came 2 there attention id slept with most the women there!again im a god damn sinner.

MidniteMagnet said:

The gay accent is one of life's mysteries. Why do so many gay men across the country have the same sibilant accent? Is there a correlation between anal sex and overpronouncing your S sounds?

Obviously some straight people have this accent too. But how is it so widespread among gay men? I don't have the accent and neither does my bf, but some of my friends do. They say they've always spoken that way even before they knew they knew they were gay.

Does our sexual preference change the physiology of our larynx??

They all follow the Liza Minelli and Liberace manaual of proper speaking! Its imitation at its best. If you go to China, the gay guys follow whatever is the chinese equivalent of Liberace and Liza.

I must preface this with the statement "butch gay dudes don't have that fuckin' lisp".

davetherave6767 said:

alot of people at work used 2 think eye was gay until it came 2 there attention id slept with most the women there!again im a god damn sinner.

so that's like what....two chicks?

Lammastide said:

Timmy84 said:

I'm seriously starting to doubt that the accent is actually authentic. I've heard straight men talk in the same way gay men "allegedly do". It's all a part of the stereotyping of sexualities. Like if you're "x", you gotta talk and walk like "x". I guess it's a societal issue.

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I dunno, man. I know gay guys who'd LOVE to drop "the accent" so that they can "sound straight." But they can't.

I wonder if more than a conscious decision -- or anything physiological -- "the accent" is somehow attached to our subconscious appreciation of gender expression, which maybe many gay boys in their formative years don't have a standard affinity for.

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But that's just something I never get. Because you're a certain sexuality, you gotta talk a certain way??? That lisp is annoying sometimes. I don't know what it is... Strange times we live in.

I'm not sure how gay I sound. I think gayer the more excited I get maybe. Or the bitchier I get.

Ron doesn't sound or "act" gay at all.

Timmy84 said:

Lammastide said:

I dunno, man. I know gay guys who'd LOVE to drop "the accent" so that they can "sound straight." But they can't.

I wonder if more than a conscious decision -- or anything physiological -- "the accent" is somehow attached to our subconscious appreciation of gender expression, which maybe many gay boys in their formative years don't have a standard affinity for.

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But that's just something I never get. Because you're a certain sexuality, you gotta talk a certain way??? That lisp is annoying sometimes. I don't know what it is... Strange times we live in.

You know me... I'm just brainstorming. If some folk are inclined by birth toward a certain point or range on the sexuality continuum, I would humor that some folk are also inclined toward a certain point or range on the gender expression line. I don't think that baseline expression is always a conscious decision, though I totally buy that conscious effort (or lack thereof) and enviroment do influence how those expressions ultimately pan out.

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not all gay men talk like that, and not all engage in anal either.

I'm thinking it's the FEM ones who seem to have it?

It's rare a straight guy has it

Do women have it?

johnart said:

I'm not sure how gay I sound. I think gayer the more excited I get maybe. Or the bitchier I get.

Ron doesn't sound or "act" gay at all.

I'm unsure, too. I've been told by most people -- gay, straight and otherwise -- that I don't "read" as gay (even when I feel I'm totally queening out ). I've had at least two people insist that I'm not gay; just freaky. But every once in a while, I'll have someone tell me they knew something was "different" about me, though they couldn't quite put their finger on it.

I've mostly given up trying to figure it all out.

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Lammastide said:

johnart said:

I'm not sure how gay I sound. I think gayer the more excited I get maybe. Or the bitchier I get.

Ron doesn't sound or "act" gay at all.

I'm unsure, too. I've been told by most people -- gay, straight and otherwise -- that I don't "read" as gay (even when I feel I'm totally queening out ). I've had at least two people insist that I'm not gay; just freaky. But every once in a while, I'll have someone tell me they knew something was "different" about me, though they couldn't quite put their finger on it.

I've mostly given up trying to figure it all out.

People just wanna find a reason to JUDGE you. I say fuck everyone else and act the way you were when you came out the womb. I've learned just because someone "queens out" don't mean they're gay (like Bow Wow for instance ). I used to be one of those judging gaydar type of folks. I'm not anymore. I too thought "you have to be a certain way" but I guess when you're young and you see all of this, you think "ok this is how it is" but as you get OLDER, you realize it's not.

Timmy84 said:

Lammastide said:

I'm unsure, too. I've been told by most people -- gay, straight and otherwise -- that I don't "read" as gay (even when I feel I'm totally queening out ). I've had at least two people insist that I'm not gay; just freaky. But every once in a while, I'll have someone tell me they knew something was "different" about me, though they couldn't quite put their finger on it.

I've mostly given up trying to figure it all out.

People just wanna find a reason to JUDGE you. I say fuck everyone else and act the way you were when you came out the womb. I've learned just because someone "queens out" don't mean they're gay (like Bow Wow for instance ). I used to be one of those judging gaydar type of folks. I'm not anymore. I too thought "you have to be a certain way" but I guess when you're young and you see all of this, you think "ok this is how it is" but as you get OLDER, you realize it's not.

I agree the "live and let live" thing is cool.

Now stop being so annoyed by guys with the natural accent and lisp.

Lammastide said:

Timmy84 said:

People just wanna find a reason to JUDGE you. I say fuck everyone else and act the way you were when you came out the womb. I've learned just because someone "queens out" don't mean they're gay (like Bow Wow for instance ). I used to be one of those judging gaydar type of folks. I'm not anymore. I too thought "you have to be a certain way" but I guess when you're young and you see all of this, you think "ok this is how it is" but as you get OLDER, you realize it's not.

I agree the "live and let live" thing is cool.

Now stop being so annoyed by guys with the natural accent and lisp.

If it's NATURAL, then I'm COOL with it. I just don't want it to be FORCED.

johnart said:

Genesia said:

johnart said:

I'm not sure how gay I sound. I think gayer the more excited I get maybe. Or the bitchier I get.

Ron doesn't sound or "act" gay at all.

Irrational fear of the vageene aside.

Well yeah, there's that.

And he would never go where I would take it with a girl.

Though I wouldn't take it all the way. Just some fun making out and heavy petting.

Cerebus pats himself on the back for his ability to self-edit.

Cerebus also laughs at John being a closeted straight guy, because he thinks that's funny.

Cerebus said:

Cerebus pats himself on the back for his ability to self-edit.

Cerebus also laughs at John being a closeted straight guy, because he thinks that's funny.

Johnart pats himself on the back for not asking Cerebus on open forum why the fuck all of a sudden he talks about himself in the third person.

And I'm really more of a closet lipstick lesbian, so

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johnart said:

Cerebus said:

Cerebus pats himself on the back for his ability to self-edit.

Cerebus also laughs at John being a closeted straight guy, because he thinks that's funny.

Johnart pats himself on the back for not asking Cerebus on open forum why the fuck all of a sudden he talks about himself in the third person.

And I'm really more of a closet lipstick lesbian, so

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Cerebus would like to point at that Johnart did, if fact, actually ask his fuck all of a question in the open forum. But Cerebus still loves him anyway.

Cerebus wonders if Johnart fails to remember that Cerebus used to speak in the third person fairly often, or if maybe Johnart has just never been in a chatroom with Cerebus where Cerebus finds it much easier to speak in the third person by just typing whatever Cerebus is going to say after his name. However, Cerebus does not wish to appear rude (right now), so Cerebus will now answer the fuck all of a question. Cerebus gueses that Cerebus is speaking in the third person because Cerebus has been re-reading a lot of the Cerebus comic books wherein Cerebus regularly (nay, almost exclusively) speaks in the third person. Its kind of his thing.

Well, if you're a closet lipstick lesbian, then Cerebus wants to watch.

Cerebus bets you didn't see that last part comin'.

Edit: Because Cerebus used one too many commas and he really, REALLY hates that.

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Fauxie has no idea what's going on here.

Cerebus said:

johnart said:

Johnart pats himself on the back for not asking Cerebus on open forum why the fuck all of a sudden he talks about himself in the third person.

And I'm really more of a closet lipstick lesbian, so

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Cerebus would like to point at that Johnart did, if fact, actually ask his fuck all of a question in the open forum. But Cerebus still loves him anyway.

Cerebus wonders if Johnart fails to remember that Cerebus used to speak in the third person fairly often, or if maybe Johnart has just never been in a chatroom with Cerebus where Cerebus finds it much easier to speak in the third person by just typing whatever Cerebus is going to say after his name. However, Cerebus does not wish to appear rude (right now), so Cerebus will now answer the fuck all of a question. Cerebus gueses that Cerebus is speaking in the third person because Cerebus has been re-reading a lot of the Cerebus comic books wherein Cerebus regularly (nay, almost exclusively) speaks in the third person. Its kind of his thing.

Well, if you're a closet lipstick lesbian, then Cerebus wants to watch.

Cerebus bets you didn't see that last part comin'.

Edit: Because Cerebus used one too many commas and he really, REALLY hates that.

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Timmy84 wants to know what the fuck y'all going on about.

Fauxie said:

Fauxie has no idea what's going on here.

Timmy84 said:

Timmy84 wants to know what the fuck y'all going on about.

Cerebus believes its generally what's known as a good old fashioned thread-jacking. Something both he and "fuck all" Johnart excel at.

Edit: Because Cerebus forgot how to spell simple four letter words.

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Cerebus said:

Fauxie said:

Fauxie has no idea what's going on here.

Timmy84 said:

Timmy84 wants to know what the fuck y'all going on about.

Cerebus believes its generally what's known as a good old fashioned thread-jacking. Something both he and "fuck all" Johnart excel at.

Edit: Because Cerebus forgot how to spell simple four letter words.

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Cerebus said:

Fauxie said:

Fauxie has no idea what's going on here.

Timmy84 said:

Timmy84 wants to know what the fuck y'all going on about.

Cerebus believes its generally what's known as a good old fashioned thread-jacking. Something both he and "fuck all" Johnart excel at.

Edit: Because Cerebus forgot how to spell simple four letter words.

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He's never fucked me.

Fauxie said:

Cerebus said:

Cerebus believes its generally what's known as a good old fashioned thread-jacking. Something both he and "fuck all" Johnart excel at.

Edit: Because Cerebus forgot how to spell simple four letter words.

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He's never fucked me.

Have patience. It takes time to fuck all. Ya know?

Cerebus said:

Fauxie said:

Fauxie has no idea what's going on here.

Timmy84 said:

Timmy84 wants to know what the fuck y'all going on about.

Cerebus believes its generally what's known as a good old fashioned thread-jacking. Something both he and "fuck all" Johnart excel at.

Edit: Because Cerebus forgot how to spell simple four letter words.

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Me?? Threadjacker??? Never.

EDIT:

And I've sure as fuckin hell been in a chatroom with your third person ass.

ANITA BAKER!!!! Ring a bell??? (most these bitches won't even get that)

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