ive been divorced 4 10 years & have not talked 2 my x wife in all that time!eye dont want 2 c her or talk 2 her.what gets me is people who divorce yet after seem 2 get on better than they did when married????w.t.f. that cant b right?eye will never talk 2 my x wife again,not in this lifetime!!!!how is it possible that after divorce people can still talk 2 each other???? does not compute???

why does it bother you so much? it shouldn't.

sometimes a relationship just doesn't work out, but you might still love each other. In fact, pretty much every relationship I have ever had has been like that.

I wish they were all still in my life!

BlackAdder7 said:

why does it bother you so much? it shouldn't.

maybe im bitter?she was the one & it failed!she shit on me big time its been 10 years but pain still raw.eye guess deep down eye hold a grudge & by doing that its made me bitter & angry.

davetherave6767 said:

ive been divorced 4 10 years & have not talked 2 my x wife in all that time!eye dont want 2 c her or talk 2 her.what gets me is people who divorce yet after seem 2 get on better than they did when married????w.t.f. that cant b right?eye will never talk 2 my x wife again,not in this lifetime!!!!how is it possible that after divorce people can still talk 2 each other???? does not compute???

you say one thing, but you feel another. you said you're bitter...why? you're the gigilo of the office, you're a hip happening guy, so why are you looking backwards?

davetherave6767 said:

ive been divorced 4 10 years & have not talked 2 my x wife in all that time!eye dont want 2 c her or talk 2 her.what gets me is people who divorce yet after seem 2 get on better than they did when married????w.t.f. that cant b right?eye will never talk 2 my x wife again,not in this lifetime!!!!how is it possible that after divorce people can still talk 2 each other???? does not compute???

KIDS!

Hard not to communicate with an ex if you have children together. Oh and money...if one is paying the other then some communication is inevitable.

I think however, most people are in your situation and don't talk to an ex-spouse unless it's absolutely necessary. The whole friends after divorce thing seems rare to me.

I have a very good relationship with my ex-husband and we did not have kids together. I think through everything we went through, we were always great friends.

davetherave6767 said:

ive been divorced 4 10 years & have not talked 2 my x wife in all that time!eye dont want 2 c her or talk 2 her.what gets me is people who divorce yet after seem 2 get on better than they did when married????w.t.f. that cant b right?eye will never talk 2 my x wife again,not in this lifetime!!!!how is it possible that after divorce people can still talk 2 each other???? does not compute???

First of all, I'm guessing the divorce had a lot to do with your insistence on using that annoying Prince shorthand.

But seriously, folks...

Ace said:

davetherave6767 said:

ive been divorced 4 10 years & have not talked 2 my x wife in all that time!eye dont want 2 c her or talk 2 her.what gets me is people who divorce yet after seem 2 get on better than they did when married????w.t.f. that cant b right?eye will never talk 2 my x wife again,not in this lifetime!!!!how is it possible that after divorce people can still talk 2 each other???? does not compute???

First of all, I'm guessing the divorce had a lot to do with your insistence on using that annoying Prince shorthand.

But seriously, folks...

Wisdom from Madonna. Who woulda thought. But even though what she said is true, it's easier said then done.

To davetherave, I think remaining in contact with an ex depends on the circumstances of the divorce, how and why it happened. My first wife and I are still friendly. We do have a daughter together but even if that weren't the case we'd still be friends because we were in mutual agreement to end the marriage.

My second wife, on the other hand, is a different story. I'm with you on that one. I hope I never see or hear from her again. Fortunately, we have no kids together so there is no reason to remain in contact.

Ace said:

davetherave6767 said:

ive been divorced 4 10 years & have not talked 2 my x wife in all that time!eye dont want 2 c her or talk 2 her.what gets me is people who divorce yet after seem 2 get on better than they did when married????w.t.f. that cant b right?eye will never talk 2 my x wife again,not in this lifetime!!!!how is it possible that after divorce people can still talk 2 each other???? does not compute???

First of all, I'm guessing the divorce had a lot to do with your insistence on using that annoying Prince shorthand.

But seriously, folks...

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nothing 2 do with shorthand abit more serious than that!! anyway why do u find that annoying?

CuddlyBear said:

Wisdom from Madonna. Who woulda thought. But even though what she said is true, it's easier said then done.

Yes. Doesn't mean we should stop trying though, don't you think?

davetherave6767 said:

nothing 2 do with shorthand abit more serious than that!! anyway why do u find that annoying?

When I see it, my Purple-Kool-Aid-Drinker Alert System moves into the red.

davetherave6767 said:

Ace said:

CuddlyBear said:

Wisdom from Madonna. Who woulda thought. But even though what she said is true, it's easier said then done.

Yes. Doesn't mean we should stop trying though, don't you think?

I totally agree but it's a hard thing to do especially since you can't delete the pain from your memory.

CuddlyBear said:

Ace said:

Yes. Doesn't mean we should stop trying though, don't you think?

I totally agree but it's a hard thing to do especially since you can't delete the pain from your memory.

It's been my experience that you can eliminate the "pain'. Like everything, it's all a matter of perspective.

Ace said:

CuddlyBear said:

I totally agree but it's a hard thing to do especially since you can't delete the pain from your memory.

It's been my experience that you can eliminate the "pain'. Like everything, it's all a matter of perspective.

yes, with perspective I have realized that most of the people who "wronged" me really did not do anything as bad as speaking with a pretentious fake British accent

BlackAdder7 said:

davetherave6767 said:

ive been divorced 4 10 years & have not talked 2 my x wife in all that time!eye dont want 2 c her or talk 2 her.what gets me is people who divorce yet after seem 2 get on better than they did when married????w.t.f. that cant b right?eye will never talk 2 my x wife again,not in this lifetime!!!!how is it possible that after divorce people can still talk 2 each other???? does not compute???

you say one thing, but you feel another. you said you're bitter...why? you're the gigilo of the office, you're a hip happening guy, so why are you looking backwards?

thats true eye do contradict myself,as jesse said gigolos get lonely 2!eye no eye shouldnt look back thanx blackadder7.

Ace said:

CuddlyBear said:

I totally agree but it's a hard thing to do especially since you can't delete the pain from your memory.

It's been my experience that you can eliminate the "pain'. Like everything, it's all a matter of perspective.

Please explain.

Yeah I guess it all depends on the circumstances.

If cheating & lying was involved, then I can't see how an amicable end or friendship is possible.

CuddlyBear said:

Ace said:

It's been my experience that you can eliminate the "pain'. Like everything, it's all a matter of perspective.

Please explain.

Personally, I feel that by taking a more realistic look at human relationships, your expectations change and, ergo, your feelings about the outcomes. Or here's a shortcut:

- Andy Warhol (The Philosophy of Andy Warhol: From A to B and Back Again)