I am not one for posting about my personal life but tonight I am totally freaked out. I was having a great time with my best friend and we were talking about fashion and jewelry and then she wanted to see some pieces of silver and turquoise that I had collected. When she looked into my jewelry box she said where is this piece and this other piece and so on... Why are these all these empty boxes? I said I don't know. Now that I think about it--the only person that would have stolen a SELECTIVE amount of jewelry would have been my ex-husband. Nothing else makes any sense. I feel so bad tonight. Tomorrow I have to get the locks and keys changed and notify the landlord. I feel awful...this was someone I had a twenty year relationship with... Can you trust anyone these days? Sorry, but I feel so disillusioned and disheartened at the moment... Who can you trust?!!!

I understand how you feel .

I learned it the hard way just a little over a week ago that I cannot trust friends like I thought I could. I was betrayed and lost money because these so-called friends refused to give me my money back, but treated me in a totally rude way. They knew how much they hurt me, but still did what they did . I have been through some other even more painful experiences since and it was directly and indirectly caused by what they did to me . I hope that my life will turn around for the better again sometime, but it is hard to keep the faith when everything is happening at one time and very hurtful when friends who know that you are struggling just take advantage of you instead of being there for you .

[Edited 4/2/11 4:44am]

Now that I think about it--the only person that would have stolen a SELECTIVE amount of jewelry would have been my ex-husband. Nothing else makes any sense. I feel so bad tonight. Tomorrow I have to get the locks and keys changed and notify the landlord. I feel awful...this was someone I had a twenty year relationship with... Can you trust anyone these days?

What made you think you could trust your EX-Husband, alone at your place? Even still, why would you give him the keys?

Billmenever said:

Now that I think about it--the only person that would have stolen a SELECTIVE amount of jewelry would have been my ex-husband. Nothing else makes any sense. I feel so bad tonight. Tomorrow I have to get the locks and keys changed and notify the landlord. I feel awful...this was someone I had a twenty year relationship with... Can you trust anyone these days?

What made you think you could trust your EX-Husband, alone at your place? Even still, why would you give him the keys?

Maybe my post was confusing because I was so--AM--so freaked out. I ended this relationship three years ago but the only person that could have and would have the opportunity and means to steal a SELECTIVE majority of my jewelry collection is my Ex who, unfortunately, developed a drug habit in the middle of his life... I took the key back years ago...but he must have a copy of the key because no one else had the means or a way into my place to take the missing jewelry except for him... I feel so down right now... I don't know what to say to my son in the morning...

I have a hard time trusting anyone these days. It really sucks this happened to you.

teaspoon said:

I have a hard time trusting anyone these days. It really sucks this happened to you.

Thanks for your support. I am mostly over it now--I cussed, screamed, and cried last night but now I'm done. Then, I called my sister and we had a good talk about EXs and family. And then we made plans to go kayaking this summer. I love my sister.

Other than my close family, I don't think I can trust anyone else!

If your son is young, tell him nothing other than the jewlry was stolen. You can only hurt your son's self-esteem if you tell him dad is a petty thief.

Then get the locks changed and do not allow anyone to hang out or chill in your home/bedroom. Make sure your window's are locked also when you are not home.

Just let your son know not to let his dad in when you are not home if he is allowed to be home alone.

sorry this has happened to u. such violation must feel horrible

paintedlady said:

If your son is young, tell him nothing other than the jewlry was stolen. You can only hurt your son's self-esteem if you tell him dad is a petty thief.

Then get the locks changed and do not allow anyone to hang out or chill in your home/bedroom. Make sure your window's are locked also when you are not home.

Just let your son know not to let his dad in when you are not home if he is allowed to be home alone.

Thanks for the hugs and support! I need it now! People can talk shit about the Org but it can be a positive place as well as negative. My son is grown, thank God! And was out of high school before this crap started with his father. I would never EVER put this burden on a child! I grew up in an abusive family and I made it my MISSION not to repeat that with my child. The fact that a middle-aged adult who stated that he would NEVER fall victim to drug addiction that devastated his family and community and then becomes an addict in middle-age just throws me!!! A person who is addicted to drugs is not the same person as they were is years before. It is even more sad when a person has reached mid-age and THEN becomes an addict...despite ALL THE LIFE KNOWLEDGE! that he/she has experienced in their life!!! Sometimes life makes no sense at all.... Rick James said it all:

"Crack is a helluva drug!!!" Hugs back to you! Hope your weekend is going well! I'm okay..listening to a Betty Davis CD...got to have down and dirty funk to get rid of the funk!

"GAME IS MY MIDDLE NAME!:

purplethunder3121 said:

paintedlady said:

If your son is young, tell him nothing other than the jewlry was stolen. You can only hurt your son's self-esteem if you tell him dad is a petty thief.

Then get the locks changed and do not allow anyone to hang out or chill in your home/bedroom. Make sure your window's are locked also when you are not home.

Just let your son know not to let his dad in when you are not home if he is allowed to be home alone.

Thanks for the hugs and support! I need it now! People can talk shit about the Org but it can be a positive place as well as negative. My son is grown, thank God! And was out of high school before this crap started with his father. I would never EVER put this burden on a child! I grew up in an abusive family and I made it my MISSION not to repeat that with my child. The fact that a middle-aged adult who stated that he would NEVER fall victim to drug addiction that devastated his family and community and then becomes an addict in middle-age just throws me!!! A person who is addicted to drugs is not the same person as they were is years before. It is even more sad when a person has reached mid-age and THEN becomes an addict...despite ALL THE LIFE KNOWLEDGE! that he/she has experienced in their life!!! Sometimes life makes no sense at all.... Rick James said it all:

"Crack is a helluva drug!!!" Hugs back to you! Hope your weekend is going well! I'm okay..listening to a Betty Davis CD...got to have down and dirty funk to get rid of the funk!

Depression is a gateway to all sorts of dumb behavior... makes me wonder if he started the drug use because of a mid-life crisis. Some guys just buy sportcars..

Good thing your son knows better than dad does. I grew up the same way and I make sure my kids are protected from seeing all the crap their dad does. Lord their dad is a shitfless bum and a con man. I can't even blame it on any drug, he's just a bad person.

I am so glad you feel better, these types of situations suck because we all want the best for people we care about.... even if they are an ex. I hope you recover your jewlry too.

FauxReal said:

You can never fully trust anyone except your mother. And that's only if she was a mother you could trust to begin with because I have seen some sorry ass mothers out there also.

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[Edited 4/5/11 13:02pm]

I'm sorry to hear that. Are you sure your ex-husband did it? Who are all the other candidates?

Trust is good. Paranoid is better.

I'm really sorry for your loss of jewelry. And very happy for you that your going on a kayak!

dJJ said:

I'm sorry to hear that. Are you sure your ex-husband did it? Who are all the other candidates?

Trust is good. Paranoid is better.

I'm really sorry for your loss of jewelry. And very happy for you that your going on a kayak!

Mehhhhhhhh! I am sooo over it now... What I didn't put in the original post was that the theft must have happened months ago and that I haven't looked in that box for a long time. The only reason he had a key at one time is because we were on good terms for years and I had a key to his place also (in case one gets lost) and so he had a key. But once I discovered he had developed this late in life drug habit, I took the key back and cut off ties. But, this isn't anything new and after getting floored by the discovery over the weekend I am over it... I was over him and his shit a long time ago... Got my own stressers to deal with! Thanks for the support on the Org BTW! The best revenge, truly, over these losers in your life is living well... And I have plenty to be thankful for! Life isn't as good as it could be....but over all, it isn't too bad at all! Cheers!

paintedlady said:

Salute to living well! Here's to you, paintedlady, and for all who have had to deal with life in a hard way...

dJJ said:

Ain't that the truth! back at ya!

Thieves in the temple stole your chains of gold and diamonds and pearls. How scandalous!

HotGritz said:

Thieves in the temple stole your chains of gold and diamonds and pearls. How scandalous!

^^^ Yeah, but as the character above didn't seem to realize--you reap what you sow! Karma is the REAL Billy Jack Bitch!

purplethunder3121 said:

HotGritz said:

Thieves in the temple stole your chains of gold and diamonds and pearls. How scandalous!

^^^ Yeah, but as the character above didn't seem to realize--you reap what you sow! Karma is the REAL Billy Jack Bitch!

good to see you laughing in the purple rain again

BlackAdder7 said:

purplethunder3121 said:

^^^ Yeah, but as the character above didn't seem to realize--you reap what you sow! Karma is the REAL Billy Jack Bitch!

good to see you laughing in the purple rain again

^^^ Listening to P sing "Lettigo" right now!

I feel for you...You really can't trust anybody nowadays

nursev said:

I feel for you...You really can't trust anybody nowadays

No, nursev--sometimes you CAN trust your TRUE friends--who have been there through thick and thin! Fortunately, I have a few of those--hope you do, too!

purplethunder3121 said:

nursev said:

I feel for you...You really can't trust anybody nowadays

No, nursev--sometimes you CAN trust your TRUE friends--who have been there through thick and thin! Fortunately, I have a few of those--hope you do, too!

I am one of those rare people who has a best friend since the age of 12 and we are old now but yeah you really can't trust folks put your trust in God and keep moving