Idk. All I know is I want to be in one, someday.

I've never understood much about marriage. But I know they're supposed to be public announcement of your love to others (i.e family and friends, the state, etc.)

It's more than just falling in love. It's time, devotion, patience, a commitment not just ot a relationship, but to keeping a family together.

If I may quote Kahlil Gibran:

"Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."

I don't know how marriage can turn out.

I'm not a good expert on it but I think some people often rush into marriage. Then they regret it. I've read too many stories of that. You marry for all the wrong reasons (or right) and it still leads to a nasty divorce if things don't work out especially with children involved.

Women marry men they can live with....Men marry woman they can't live without! Marriage is

R E S P E C T...It's not what you do, it's how you go about doing it! Quite simple, I want the me life,

you life and then there's the US life..Make love to my mind not just my body! If it's there...The Rest

Follows.

SherryJackson said:

Idk. All I know is I want to be in one, someday.

I've never understood much about marriage. But I know they're supposed to be public announcement of your love to others (i.e family and friends, the state, etc.)

It's more than just falling in love. It's time, devotion, patience, a commitment not just ot a relationship, but to keeping a family together.

If I may quote Kahlil Gibran:

"Then Almitra spoke again and said, "And what of Marriage, master?"

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be for evermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."

Wow. Thank you for that.

RenHoek said:

Fauxie said:

l just realized something. In my marriage probably over half of the times my wife and I have sex they're grudge fucks.

Is that bad?

depends on who the grudge holder is...

It's mutual.

a legal contract

a piece of paper

$ $ $

[Edited 4/8/11 6:50am]

Fauxie said:

RenHoek said:

depends on who the grudge holder is...

It's mutual.

that's hawt!!

RenHoek said:

Fauxie said:

It's mutual.

that's hawt!!

...and if it's a one-sided grudge then it's better for the "angry" one.

JoeTyler said:

a legal contract

a piece of paper

$ $ $

[Edited 4/8/11 6:50am]

That's what I always thought it was, especially when suddenly people claim the love "dies" when they put those rings on the fingers.

"The marriage was over after the honeymoon", some would say, others would say, "the best thing about him was the ceremony" (Martin Lawrence's "Runteldat" lol).

i saw yall almost get on the topic of wedlock children.......

anyway........marriage......whew!!!!

myfavorite said:

i saw yall almost get on the topic of wedlock children.......

anyway........marriage......whew!!!!

Not everyone should be a parent, and not everyone should get married.

But that's not to say that either concept is without merit.

Marriage does seem to be a failing institution, but IMO it's because it's so EASY to get out of it. It's not such a vital part of our culture any longer (whether or not that's a positive thing is fodder for a whole different thread, so don't go there!). But if people entered a marriage with the HONEST intention of being faithful and patient and willing to do what's necessary to make the marriage last, then we'd be less likely to dissolve our most important relationship(s).

I heard on the radio that nowadays, something like 30-40% of divorces state that Facebook had a hand in the divorce. Is Facebook some magic portal that entices people beyond their control? NO, it's people who have given up on their commitment who use it to stray instead of focusing on their troubles. And since the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side, the temptation gives way to adultery and then divorce.

We're such an advanced, intelligent society, that you'd think we'd be able to get it right. Two people should get to know each other inside & out, the good, the bad and the ugly, before committing to be together as husband & wife.

But we're still slaves to our emotions and our hormones...and "mistakes" are made...both before and (unfortunately) after.

Some people, maybe most people, are just too immature & self-centered & selfish & leery & detached from reality to handle marriage. Others, like myself, just don't feel like putting up with somebody else's bullshit till the last breath. Kudos to those who are married, faithful, still in love, raising families and living the holy example of matrimonial union....you deserve an award of some sort.

HotGritz said:

Some people, maybe most people, are just too immature & self-centered & selfish & leery & detached from reality to handle marriage. Others, like myself, just don't feel like putting up with somebody else's bullshit till the last breath. Kudos to those who are married, faithful, still in love, raising families and living the holy example of matrimonial union....you deserve an award of some sort.

You know what you want and what you don't. You're WAY ahead of the game!

PurpleJedi said:

HotGritz said:

Some people, maybe most people, are just too immature & self-centered & selfish & leery & detached from reality to handle marriage. Others, like myself, just don't feel like putting up with somebody else's bullshit till the last breath. Kudos to those who are married, faithful, still in love, raising families and living the holy example of matrimonial union....you deserve an award of some sort.

You know what you want and what you don't. You're WAY ahead of the game!

True & true.

prelude to divorce

dJJ said:

prelude to divorce