Acrylic said:

I worked my way up into a management position in a food/restaurant job, working on my feet, 8 hours a day, 5-6 days a week. I'd previously broken 2 bones in my leg in 3 different places. On an X-Ray, my bone looks like GRAVEL. I'm in cronic pain from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Yet, I work through it. I'm IN management with piercings and visible tattoos. I take the bus every day, despite the weather, and walk 6 long blocks both ways to get to the bus stop. Acrylic can't drive fo' shit, so it's the safer option for society, haha.

I'm going to college for my BFA (Fine Arts Bachelor Degree). I am a self-taught graphic designer (with knowledge in HTML and Java). I have Carpal tunnel in my right wrist, along with arthritis... and for some reason, my thumb pops in-and-out of socket causing excruciating pain. It hurts to type, along with pretty much every other activity. It will not defer my from my dreams.

I am a full-time single mother, and have been since I was 16 years old. Come September, I will be juggling work, school, and putting my child in Kindergarten.

I have a 3 bedroom apartment in Connecticut. I pay my own bills, rent, food, and luxuries for myself and my child. I just bought all new furniture, and am in the process of gutting my kitchen. Expense? Mine.

I have good credit with money IN the bank. I still manage to stay fresh to death in designer clothes, buy music memorabilia off eBay, get my nails and toes done every week, and go out to wherever I want when the time permits.

Kicker? I'm 20 years old.

I hate seeing people coming up with excuse after excuse as to why they can't do it, or why their situation is so much worse than anyone else's. I'm an independant queen working for my throne. I am completely estranged from my mother and father -- I have no safety net to fall back on. If you're living at home with your parents, in debt, you NEED to cut the shit and DO somethings with your life.

This post wasn't meant to insult or offend, it was meant to educate. PMB, you're a grown woman. Act like it, and you won't get as much backlash from people. Reach for the best, and you'll achieve it. Strive for less, and you will struggle your whole life.

P.S. "work that doesn't feel like work"? Repeat after me: DOES NOT EXIST.

dJJ said:

purplemookiebut said:

i know that already. i want a job i enjoy that doesn't feel like work to me. there are jobs like that. just need to find one

Dear Purplemookiebut,

I understand that there are a lot of complications going on in your life.

Due to ADHD it's extremely hard for you to confirm with timelines, prioritizing, develop regular social kills, planning, overseeing comlicated situations, having a realistic self image. You'r impulsive behaviour will get you in trouble more often than not.

Because you still have not got yourself a proper treatment for your panic attacks, these hinder you in you day to day life. You probably have developed a very avoidant life style, not doing a lot because you are afraid you might get a panick attack.

Your allergies and other physical problems hinder you in functioning physically in similar ways other people can. And because other people don't aknowledge your disabilities, you will be confronted with a lot of negativity.

Therefore you are in a situation that is far from ideal. You'r mother is providing for you, eventhough you are mature. And you don't have any money to be able to buy your own food or pay for a roof above your head. Because you depend on your mother, you have to deal with her complaints and her confronting you with your own behaviour.

What will happen if your mother dies? What will you eat? Where will you live? How will you provide for yourself? You'r in a very vurnable position, do you realize that?

Who can help you with finding a good treatment for all your psychological problems?

Is there an University in the neighbourhood where someone at the Psych. department can help you finding an effective treatment for your panic attacks, ADHD and maybe other not diagnosed problems? Or is there any other institute that can help you with finding or providing you with an effective treatment? It seems you are avoiding a lot of issues in your life right now. However, by avoiding it, they really don't go away. It will get worse.

Why don't you find a professional who can help you with finding the right help and who can guide you in making a realistic plan for becoming more independent and less vulnarable?

I will not keep on posting to you. Because then we will engage in a conversation about every little detail, and that is just a way of avoiding the real thing.

My advise is finding a competent and professional who can help you with the multitude of your problems. Not a person who will only threat you for your ADHD or any other isolated complaint. One person who can support you to stand on your own feet!

I wish you the best, and especially I hope that you will stop avoiding and look for EFFECTIVE support. Not just another medicationsuscriber.

i totally agree with that but don't they cost $? if my stepcousin jumped into incoming traffic and carrier clinic only would keep him for a week then what would they do for a non suicidal depressed broke person?

i need to find someone that's free or doesn't charge me hundres for a hour

find yourself a social worker who can work that out with you.

dJJ said:

find yourself a social worker who can work that out with you.

i thought social workers had to do with foster kids?

sorry most of all that stuff i learned in school was squeezed out by meaningless pop culture shit.

to think i once graduated with honors in the top 10% of my class?! i could have gotta a full or almost full scholarship just about anywhere. no. i wanted to take a yr off. it's been 12

purplemookiebut said:

i totally agree with that but don't they cost $? if my stepcousin jumped into incoming traffic and carrier clinic only would keep him for a week then what would they do for a non suicidal depressed broke person?

i need to find someone that's free or doesn't charge me hundres for a hour

You are extremely talented at remembering any and all anectodes from the lives of people you know, as long as said anecdotes support your excuses for keeping your ass glued where it is.

PunkMistress said:

purplemookiebut said:

i totally agree with that but don't they cost $? if my stepcousin jumped into incoming traffic and carrier clinic only would keep him for a week then what would they do for a non suicidal depressed broke person?

i need to find someone that's free or doesn't charge me hundres for a hour

You are extremely talented at remembering any and all anectodes from the lives of people you know, as long as said anecdotes support your excuses for keeping your ass glued where it is.

i should go on world series of pop culture

– Now stop with the excuses - Two things that you like are tattoos and piercings, that’s your calling go get qualified

purplemookiebut said:

dJJ said:

Dear Purplemookiebut,

I understand that there are a lot of complications going on in your life.

Due to ADHD it's extremely hard for you to confirm with timelines, prioritizing, develop regular social kills, planning, overseeing comlicated situations, having a realistic self image. You'r impulsive behaviour will get you in trouble more often than not.

Because you still have not got yourself a proper treatment for your panic attacks, these hinder you in you day to day life. You probably have developed a very avoidant life style, not doing a lot because you are afraid you might get a panick attack.

Your allergies and other physical problems hinder you in functioning physically in similar ways other people can. And because other people don't aknowledge your disabilities, you will be confronted with a lot of negativity.

Therefore you are in a situation that is far from ideal. You'r mother is providing for you, eventhough you are mature. And you don't have any money to be able to buy your own food or pay for a roof above your head. Because you depend on your mother, you have to deal with her complaints and her confronting you with your own behaviour.

What will happen if your mother dies? What will you eat? Where will you live? How will you provide for yourself? You'r in a very vurnable position, do you realize that?

Who can help you with finding a good treatment for all your psychological problems?

Is there an University in the neighbourhood where someone at the Psych. department can help you finding an effective treatment for your panic attacks, ADHD and maybe other not diagnosed problems? Or is there any other institute that can help you with finding or providing you with an effective treatment? It seems you are avoiding a lot of issues in your life right now. However, by avoiding it, they really don't go away. It will get worse.

Why don't you find a professional who can help you with finding the right help and who can guide you in making a realistic plan for becoming more independent and less vulnarable?

I will not keep on posting to you. Because then we will engage in a conversation about every little detail, and that is just a way of avoiding the real thing.

My advise is finding a competent and professional who can help you with the multitude of your problems. Not a person who will only threat you for your ADHD or any other isolated complaint. One person who can support you to stand on your own feet!

I wish you the best, and especially I hope that you will stop avoiding and look for EFFECTIVE support. Not just another medicationsuscriber.

i totally agree with that but don't they cost $? if my stepcousin jumped into incoming traffic and carrier clinic only would keep him for a week then what would they do for a non suicidal depressed broke person?

i need to find someone that's free or doesn't charge me hundres for a hour

I'm free.

Here is my professional advice...

1. Stop smoking pot

2. Stop making excuses for why you don't/can't do a specific job

3. Stop spending money you don't have

4. Stop mooching off your mom

5. Take control of your life

Now get out there and be successfull!

purplemookiebut said:

dJJ said:

find yourself a social worker who can work that out with you.

i thought social workers had to do with foster kids?

Why don't you find out yourself?

Acrylic said:

I worked my way up into a management position in a food/restaurant job, working on my feet, 8 hours a day, 5-6 days a week. I'd previously broken 2 bones in my leg in 3 different places. On an X-Ray, my bone looks like GRAVEL. I'm in cronic pain from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Yet, I work through it. I'm IN management with piercings and visible tattoos. I take the bus every day, despite the weather, and walk 6 long blocks both ways to get to the bus stop. Acrylic can't drive fo' shit, so it's the safer option for society, haha.

I'm going to college for my BFA (Fine Arts Bachelor Degree). I am a self-taught graphic designer (with knowledge in HTML and Java). I have Carpal tunnel in my right wrist, along with arthritis... and for some reason, my thumb pops in-and-out of socket causing excruciating pain. It hurts to type, along with pretty much every other activity. It will not defer my from my dreams.

I am a full-time single mother, and have been since I was 16 years old. Come September, I will be juggling work, school, and putting my child in Kindergarten.

I have a 3 bedroom apartment in Connecticut. I pay my own bills, rent, food, and luxuries for myself and my child. I just bought all new furniture, and am in the process of gutting my kitchen. Expense? Mine.

I have good credit with money IN the bank. I still manage to stay fresh to death in designer clothes, buy music memorabilia off eBay, get my nails and toes done every week, and go out to wherever I want when the time permits.

Kicker? I'm 20 years old.

I hate seeing people coming up with excuse after excuse as to why they can't do it, or why their situation is so much worse than anyone else's. I'm an independant queen working for my throne. I am completely estranged from my mother and father -- I have no safety net to fall back on. If you're living at home with your parents, in debt, you NEED to cut the shit and DO somethings with your life.

This post wasn't meant to insult or offend, it was meant to educate. PMB, you're a grown woman. Act like it, and you won't get as much backlash from people. Reach for the best, and you'll achieve it. Strive for less, and you will struggle your whole life.

shame this got ignored. beautifully said.

purplemookiebut said:

PunkMistress said:

You are extremely talented at remembering any and all anectodes from the lives of people you know, as long as said anecdotes support your excuses for keeping your ass glued where it is.

i should go on world series of pop culture

Yes, you should!!!

CallMeCarrie said:

purplemookiebut said:

i totally agree with that but don't they cost $? if my stepcousin jumped into incoming traffic and carrier clinic only would keep him for a week then what would they do for a non suicidal depressed broke person?

i need to find someone that's free or doesn't charge me hundres for a hour

I'm free.

Here is my professional advice...

1. Stop smoking pot

2. Stop making excuses for why you don't/can't do a specific job

3. Stop spending money you don't have

4. Stop mooching off your mom

5. Take control of your life

Now get out there and be successfull!

my mom and aunt are shopolics too but at least they got the $ for it. my aunt was cleaning out her closet and gave me tights/pantyhose dated 1986 still with a tag unopened...

Has anyone ever noticed purplemookiebutt and Meow are never in the same room together?

BlackAdder7 said:

Acrylic said:

I worked my way up into a management position in a food/restaurant job, working on my feet, 8 hours a day, 5-6 days a week. I'd previously broken 2 bones in my leg in 3 different places. On an X-Ray, my bone looks like GRAVEL. I'm in cronic pain from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Yet, I work through it. I'm IN management with piercings and visible tattoos. I take the bus every day, despite the weather, and walk 6 long blocks both ways to get to the bus stop. Acrylic can't drive fo' shit, so it's the safer option for society, haha.

I'm going to college for my BFA (Fine Arts Bachelor Degree). I am a self-taught graphic designer (with knowledge in HTML and Java). I have Carpal tunnel in my right wrist, along with arthritis... and for some reason, my thumb pops in-and-out of socket causing excruciating pain. It hurts to type, along with pretty much every other activity. It will not defer my from my dreams.

I am a full-time single mother, and have been since I was 16 years old. Come September, I will be juggling work, school, and putting my child in Kindergarten.

I have a 3 bedroom apartment in Connecticut. I pay my own bills, rent, food, and luxuries for myself and my child. I just bought all new furniture, and am in the process of gutting my kitchen. Expense? Mine.

I have good credit with money IN the bank. I still manage to stay fresh to death in designer clothes, buy music memorabilia off eBay, get my nails and toes done every week, and go out to wherever I want when the time permits.

Kicker? I'm 20 years old.

I hate seeing people coming up with excuse after excuse as to why they can't do it, or why their situation is so much worse than anyone else's. I'm an independant queen working for my throne. I am completely estranged from my mother and father -- I have no safety net to fall back on. If you're living at home with your parents, in debt, you NEED to cut the shit and DO somethings with your life.

This post wasn't meant to insult or offend, it was meant to educate. PMB, you're a grown woman. Act like it, and you won't get as much backlash from people. Reach for the best, and you'll achieve it. Strive for less, and you will struggle your whole life.

shame this got ignored. beautifully said.

i commented on that

NDRU said:

Has anyone ever noticed purplemookiebutt and Meow are never in the same room together?

whose meow? is there another kook on here?

it's one T btw

Go into counseling. Even with a full-time job, I was able to find free counseling and counseling that charged me according to income.

You either want to get help or you don't.

purplemookiebut said:

NDRU said:

Has anyone ever noticed purplemookiebutt and Meow are never in the same room together?

whose meow? is there another kook on here?

it's one T btw

Meow used to post these questions about "how do I break the cycle of minimum wage jobs" and argue with everyone's responses.

Acrylic said:

I worked my way up into a management position in a food/restaurant job, working on my feet, 8 hours a day, 5-6 days a week. I'd previously broken 2 bones in my leg in 3 different places. On an X-Ray, my bone looks like GRAVEL. I'm in cronic pain from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Yet, I work through it. I'm IN management with piercings and visible tattoos. I take the bus every day, despite the weather, and walk 6 long blocks both ways to get to the bus stop. Acrylic can't drive fo' shit, so it's the safer option for society, haha.

I'm going to college for my BFA (Fine Arts Bachelor Degree). I am a self-taught graphic designer (with knowledge in HTML and Java). I have Carpal tunnel in my right wrist, along with arthritis... and for some reason, my thumb pops in-and-out of socket causing excruciating pain. It hurts to type, along with pretty much every other activity. It will not defer my from my dreams.

I am a full-time single mother, and have been since I was 16 years old. Come September, I will be juggling work, school, and putting my child in Kindergarten.

I have a 3 bedroom apartment in Connecticut. I pay my own bills, rent, food, and luxuries for myself and my child. I just bought all new furniture, and am in the process of gutting my kitchen. Expense? Mine.

I have good credit with money IN the bank. I still manage to stay fresh to death in designer clothes, buy music memorabilia off eBay, get my nails and toes done every week, and go out to wherever I want when the time permits.

Kicker? I'm 20 years old.

I hate seeing people coming up with excuse after excuse as to why they can't do it, or why their situation is so much worse than anyone else's. I'm an independant queen working for my throne. I am completely estranged from my mother and father -- I have no safety net to fall back on. If you're living at home with your parents, in debt, you NEED to cut the shit and DO somethings with your life.

This post wasn't meant to insult or offend, it was meant to educate. PMB, you're a grown woman. Act like it, and you won't get as much backlash from people. Reach for the best, and you'll achieve it. Strive for less, and you will struggle your whole life.

You are a bad bitch!!!

NDRU said:

purplemookiebut said:

whose meow? is there another kook on here?

it's one T btw

Meow used to post these questions about "how do I break the cycle of minimum wage jobs" and argue with everyone's responses.

well then see? i ain't the only one like this

purplemookiebut said:

NDRU said:

Meow used to post these questions about "how do I break the cycle of minimum wage jobs" and argue with everyone's responses.

well then see? i ain't the only one like this

actually she had a job

NDRU said:

purplemookiebut said:

well then see? i ain't the only one like this

actually she had a job

as did i for 11 yrs

PunkMistress said:

JustErin said:

Guys, seriously. She doesn't want to work...period.

I see no point in going after her about this over and over in thread after thread.

She's fully content with a loser status and there is nothing that anyone here is going to say that will make someone like that suddenly see the light.

As for the original post, if I needed a job and couldn't find anything else (which is think is 100% impossible) I'd so get my ass to McDonalds and get to work.

The point is, she pisses us off and we need to vent that shit.

Me love u long time.

Genesia said:

purplemookiebut said:

Considering some of the ppl i've worked with in the past? there were cokeheads constantly sneaking off to snort. stoners who on breaks went outside and got high at work stoned 24/7,gang members and ex gang members constantly bitching about how bad jail was and the food and comparing the work to being in prison.i watch LOCKUP. they are full of shit. halfway house or not. your not living with your overprotective parents still. we had a crackhead too.

At my jobs i'm always the one picking up everyones slack. that last place was all lazy bums barely doing their jobs. texting nonstop or whatever. so i was the jack of all trades getting pulled into every direction. so then when i complained and had panic attacks i got bitched at. i always left my jobs so physically and mentally exhausted. one of my first jobs was at a foodstore and they'd never give us our breaks. 9 hr shifts.you would only get your lunch. how many of us developed carpel tunnels,tendonitis and cysts in our wrists. 10 yrs later i gotta deal with this pain till i die now.

I was at 2 locations for my last job. i remember when boss started she said there was a couch in the breakroom and ppl were puff puff passing. so much for the big we drug test sign in the window.ok i understand if ya wanna smoke a joint on the weekend every so often with friends but on your time! not works! i remember a whole group on the boys on lunch went to bar and came back drunk. what a turnaround there.

I've done jobs like that. i wanna find something i enjoy. then the ppl going to school and working the same time?? both sides of the family are all stressed out crazy worryworts. i don't wanna end up in a fucking mental instuition shaking in a corner. WHY OH WHY DIDN"T I JOIN THE ARMY OR GO STRAIGHT TO COLLEGE! i need a time machine.

i'm in that movie suckerpunch and the icepick keeps getting closer....

As a citizen of the United States, I'd just like to say

Actually, I think the army would've done her some good.

FauxReal said:

Genesia said:

As a citizen of the United States, I'd just like to say

Actually, I think the army would've done her some good.

too bad i was too sickly for it. i hated gym class too.

idk how that would have worked. accept for those shooting games on nes like duck hunt or zombie killing games for the first playstation....

Michelesky said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

My brother never got his HS diploma. He spent years working in fast food. He got his GED and decided he no longer wanted to work in fast food. He spent 4 years not working, in fast food or any other job, until last month because, "no one was hiring."

To bring in a paycheck, sometimes you have to work at a job that you're overqualified for, but if I had to flip burgers or clean toilets (which I have) to put money in the bank until I found something better, so be it and I'd do it damn well.

Yep, I've had to work crap jobs before just to make ends meet. I once thought delivering pizza's was beneath me (early 20's) but I took a job doing that. I loved it and made really good money at it too!

i'll work just about any job (or two) rather than be broke and unable to pay my bills.

at these threads with the same subject matter popping up everywhere... discussing the same thing over and over.....Mookie you dont even have to start them anymore...but I think u said that already. But seriously though as much as it may look and feel like people are harsh with you or don't like you (They aren't btw ...it's called tough love).....You always get a ton of replies...folks care about you on here me thinks..else why would they keep telling you the same things....in multiple threads. Me I dont have that kind of energy.

lavender1983 said:

at these threads with the same subject matter popping up everywhere... discussing the same thing over and over.....Mookie you dont even have to start them anymore...but I think u said that already. But seriously though as much as it may look and feel like people are harsh with you or don't like you (They aren't btw ...it's called tough love).....You always get a ton of replies...folks care about you on here me thinks..else why would they keep telling you the same things....in multiple threads. Me I dont have that kind of energy.

yes i'm tired of coming on here seeing threads started about me complaining that other threads were deleted.

really?

if a thread doesn't get deleted its when the topic is switched to me and its 3-4 pages of ppl ganging up flaming me.

NDRU said:

Has anyone ever noticed purplemookiebutt and Meow are never in the same room together?

I was just thinking that today!

I think meow could spell, though...

purplemookiebut said:

lavender1983 said:

at these threads with the same subject matter popping up everywhere... discussing the same thing over and over.....Mookie you dont even have to start them anymore...but I think u said that already. But seriously though as much as it may look and feel like people are harsh with you or don't like you (They aren't btw ...it's called tough love).....You always get a ton of replies...folks care about you on here me thinks..else why would they keep telling you the same things....in multiple threads. Me I dont have that kind of energy.

yes i'm tired of coming on here seeing threads started about me complaining that other threads were deleted.

really?

if a thread doesn't get deleted its when the topic is switched to me and its 3-4 pages of ppl ganging up flaming me.

PMB just called it quits...

Ya'll ran her off the org, ya bullies!

All you responsible adults can stop baiting now. She's gone for awhile.