purplemookiebut said:

johnart said:

We all know what kind of world we have to make it in.

Unless you were just shipped from some remote tribe where your body mods were ritualistically put there as part of your secluded upbringing, you can't cover your body with all kinds of metal and ink and then go around crying descrimination. I'm sorry.

i keep saying i'm in the wrong era and don't fit in. i need to go live with a tribe like that.

ok so in the indian religion they got the nostril piercings. they told the indian workers they need to remove the jewelry too. the indian workers never did. did they get written up? no! they always stressed the dress code is for everyone at my last job but i'd see new ppl with modifications and they'd ask me about it and they were getting hired not being told about this dress code.

so tell how that's not discrimination? i need to wear long sleeves and sweat. bandaids on my lips. then walks by a few coworkers with inked sleeves,neck tattoos, rings in their face...no one batted an eye. and i got written up a few times for being that to their attention.

bandaids? u know often ppl would ask me if i was in car accident,got plastic surgery or waxed off a moustache??

i've had ppl i've talked to online to tell me to move to a city cause they don't care and accept it. you need $$ to live in a city. and you need a good job to save up the $$$$!

the vicous circle of life

There is nothing vicious or descriminatory about what is happening to you. Come one now.

I know you are not comparing wanting to be an "individual" by shoving 5 lbs of metal into your face with someone's religious attire (and trust me I'm the most anti-religion person out there).

You have made the choice to limit your work opportunities. With a face full of piercings and a lot of visible tats you can pretty much only do customer service at record shops or funky/artsy type places. Or maybe you need to look into telemarketing or some sort of call center customer service. Fuck, be a phone sex operator (do they still have those?).
But my dear, don't cry the blues. This was your choice. If you were a bad ass individual enough to get all that put on you then you gotta be bad ass and individual enough to figure out how you gonna get some work. Sometimes I think you don't need advice so much as a swift kick in the ass from your mom and a move-out-by DEADLINE.

Michelesky said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

My brother never got his HS diploma. He spent years working in fast food. He got his GED and decided he no longer wanted to work in fast food. He spent 4 years not working, in fast food or any other job, until last month because, "no one was hiring."

To bring in a paycheck, sometimes you have to work at a job that you're overqualified for, but if I had to flip burgers or clean toilets (which I have) to put money in the bank until I found something better, so be it and I'd do it damn well.

Yep, I've had to work crap jobs before just to make ends meet. I once thought delivering pizza's was beneath me (early 20's) but I took a job doing that. I loved it and made really good money at it too!

you had to use your own car though,right? well at least you get to know the area.

i can't see me as a waitress. my wrists are pretty messed up. i can barely hold a thing of milk or pour a soda. i see them with those big stuffed trays of food and think i'd so trip and drop everything.

i'm not totally jobless. i have been walking my neighbors dog for almost 10 yrs. 4 times a week.tiny little rat thing like this. a papillon. she works 7pm-7am as a emt

purplemookiebut said:

no i've known ppl who worked there. by now i got a list of places that discriminate ppl based on tattoos and piercings. same with sam's club and petsmart. i can understand petsmart cause some cats and dogs will attack ppl with body mods. first time meeting my cousins that bastard dog 2 mins after i waked in the door jumped up and mauled my face. nearly broke my glasses.

this isn't a excuse. it's merely stating a fact

You're full of excuses People have given you wonderful advice and you just make more excuses of why you can't do things. Sorry, I don't buy that BS! I have physical problems too, arthritis, fibro, muscle degeneration, etc etc. I get up every day and do it...I'm grateful for what I have because there are so many less fortunate than me.

If you aren't going to do it, then don't ask for people's advice. We all have to pay our dues. I agree with johnart, you do need a swift kick in the ass!

Your wrists might be bad but you can type and talk. See if there's any customer service call center work.

johnart said:

Genesia said:

You better have another martini. You're sounding all sensible and shit.

It's Drag Race night. Come back see me around midnight.

Can you make me one too?

Michelesky said:

johnart said:

It's Drag Race night. Come back see me around midnight.

Can you make me one too?

You can walk a dog. How about making dog-walker flyers and posting them around town? Hey even if only one other person hired you it's better than none. And you have a 10 year reference.

johnart said:

purplemookiebut said:

i keep saying i'm in the wrong era and don't fit in. i need to go live with a tribe like that.

ok so in the indian religion they got the nostril piercings. they told the indian workers they need to remove the jewelry too. the indian workers never did. did they get written up? no! they always stressed the dress code is for everyone at my last job but i'd see new ppl with modifications and they'd ask me about it and they were getting hired not being told about this dress code.

so tell how that's not discrimination? i need to wear long sleeves and sweat. bandaids on my lips. then walks by a few coworkers with inked sleeves,neck tattoos, rings in their face...no one batted an eye. and i got written up a few times for being that to their attention.

bandaids? u know often ppl would ask me if i was in car accident,got plastic surgery or waxed off a moustache??

i've had ppl i've talked to online to tell me to move to a city cause they don't care and accept it. you need $$ to live in a city. and you need a good job to save up the $$$$!

the vicous circle of life

There is nothing vicious or descriminatory about what is happening to you. Come one now.

I know you are not comparing wanting to be an "individual" by shoving 5 lbs of metal into your face with someone's religious attire (and trust me I'm the most anti-religion person out there).

You have made the choice to limit your work opportunities. With a face full of piercings and a lot of visible tats you can pretty much only do customer service at record shops or funky/artsy type places. Or maybe you need to look into telemarketing or some sort of call center customer service. Fuck, be a phone sex operator (do they still have those?).
But my dear, don't cry the blues. This was your choice. If you were a bad ass individual enough to get all that put on you then you gotta be bad ass and individual enough to figure out how you gonna get some work. Sometimes I think you don't need advice so much as a swift kick in the ass from your mom and a move-out-by DEADLINE.

i would love to work in a record store!!! all the local ones are going outta business and closing. i interviewed for barnes and noble and talked about the music/movie section and i thought it went well and i nailed it till i got a postcard saying sorry!! a few days later.

they may be building a new turnpike rest stop. or it could just be a new exit...right up the street. they should have a starbucks!!

so i noticed the rest stops on the way to mom's future plastic surgery doctor off the turnpike has popeyes and starbucks!! there has been talk about a few malls and strip malls wanting to be built in my area. it was so peaceful 10 yrs ago.

my mom works at AAA. so does my friend mikey. he's a supervisor. i've always said about getting me in there. i know they are mod friendly.

just the strories my mom comes home with. she looks like she's gonna have a heart attack. she has the panic anxiety too. as does my dad but he's much more mellow then her. she was a manager at a sears too so she kows that too.

my dad worked at PSE&G from 19 to 55. he answered the phones for some of that but along read meters....

i tell both of em that stress from a bitchy customer cant be as crazxy as running around in a retail store. different kinda stress. if u get cursed out you are allowed to hang up on them. they aren't face to face with you.

johnart said:

Your wrists might be bad but you can type and talk. See if there's any customer service call center work.

i type with one finger. slow. and it hurts. i did aol im a few days in a row and texting ppl around the time of the prince concerts. talk about grimacing in pain...

eric is a texter. we text every day to each other. those damn tiny keys suck. now if only we both had more monthly mins. both use the cells for emergencies if the car breaks down or to call for take out if out. i just talk to my dad 2-3 times a month on it...

johnart said:

You can walk a dog. How about making dog-walker flyers and posting them around town? Hey even if only one other person hired you it's better than none. And you have a 10 year reference.

yeah i've said about making flyers and posting em in shop rite and the buildings laundry rooms...

she said the professional walkers all were daytime only. i'll walk peggy anywhere from 930pm to 3am. usually like 11 or 12.

owww i can't keep up with this thread. looks for aspercreme. damn if my stomach acid wasn't so terrible right now i'd take a excedrin or something.

oh yeah my stepmom will watch the neighbors dogs when they are on vacation. good under the table $$.

ohh if i didn't have this <haha it's even grey like chianti is.

johnart said:

We all know what kind of world we have to make it in.

Unless you were just shipped from some remote tribe where your body mods were ritualistically put there as part of your secluded upbringing, you can't cover your body with all kinds of metal and ink and then go around crying descrimination. I'm sorry.

If animals immediately attack you becuase of your appearance it should tell you something

purplemookiebut said:

i can't see me as a waitress. my wrists are pretty messed up. i can barely hold a thing of milk or pour a soda. i see them with those big stuffed trays of food and think i'd so trip and drop everything.

you should be careful about being on the computer too long

You've always said or thought about doing stuff and end up doing none.

You said about making dog-walkin flyers, you thought about getting a job at AAA (and admit they are mod-friendly, when out the other side you're talkin about folk descriminating ).

Stress? Honey there's stress in every single line of work except possibly being a kept woman, and you needed to think about this as a life-goal before all the piercings and tats.

Gurrrl there's CP and Down Syndrome folk who keep jobs. I know I used to work for a group home in my early 20's taking them to do their work.

You should just say it outloud: I DON"T WANT TO WORK.

Admitting this might be the first step.

[Edited 4/4/11 12:15pm]

NDRU said:

johnart said:

We all know what kind of world we have to make it in.

Unless you were just shipped from some remote tribe where your body mods were ritualistically put there as part of your secluded upbringing, you can't cover your body with all kinds of metal and ink and then go around crying descrimination. I'm sorry.

If animals immediately attack you becuase of your appearance it should tell you something

that dog is possessed. maybe is last owner had ink? idk every other dog i came across loves me. same with cats. except for my own. she's a nippy little bitch

NDRU said:

purplemookiebut said:

i can't see me as a waitress. my wrists are pretty messed up. i can barely hold a thing of milk or pour a soda. i see them with those big stuffed trays of food and think i'd so trip and drop everything.

you should be careful about being on the computer too long

i know i need to put some tv on and take a break. my wrists flare up really bad sometimes.

purplemookiebut said:

NDRU said:

you should be careful about being on the computer too long

i know i need to put some tv on and take a break. my wrists flare up really bad sometimes.

I'm too through.

johnart said:

You've always said or thought about doing stuff and end up doing none.

You said about making dog-walkin flyers, you thought about getting a job at AAA (and admit they are mod-friendly, when out the other side you're talkin about folk descriminating ).

Stress? Honey there's stress in every single line of work except possibly being a kept woman, and you needed to think about this as a life-goal before all the piercings and tats.

Gurrrl there's CP and Down Syndrome folk who keep jobs. I know I used to work for a group home in my early 20's taking them to do their work.

You should just say it outloud: I DON"T WANT TO WORK.

Admitting this might be the first step.

[Edited 4/4/11 12:15pm]

i know that already. i want a job i enjoy that doesn't feel like work to me. there are jobs like that. just need to find one

purplemookiebut said:

johnart said:

You've always said or thought about doing stuff and end up doing none.

You said about making dog-walkin flyers, you thought about getting a job at AAA (and admit they are mod-friendly, when out the other side you're talkin about folk descriminating ).

Stress? Honey there's stress in every single line of work except possibly being a kept woman, and you needed to think about this as a life-goal before all the piercings and tats.

Gurrrl there's CP and Down Syndrome folk who keep jobs. I know I used to work for a group home in my early 20's taking them to do their work.

You should just say it outloud: I DON"T WANT TO WORK.

Admitting this might be the first step.

[Edited 4/4/11 12:15pm]

i know that already. i want a job i enjoy that doesn't feel like work to me. there are jobs like that. just need to find one

You never will. One, because every job - even the best and/or most fulfilling - "feels like work" at some point. And two, because just finding a job is work - and you aren't willing to even do that.

Guys, seriously. She doesn't want to work...period.

I see no point in going after her about this over and over in thread after thread.

She's fully content with a loser status and there is nothing that anyone here is going to say that will make someone like that suddenly see the light.

As for the original post, if I needed a job and couldn't find anything else (which is think is 100% impossible) I'd so get my ass to McDonalds and get to work.

you in debt and livin with yo momma?

get off the computer and yo ass...

whutevah yo philosophies about whut

and how i write, unless you just

incapable of caring for yourself

(menaly, physicly chalenged)

put the org down and free your

caretakers!!!

I worked my way up into a management position in a food/restaurant job, working on my feet, 8 hours a day, 5-6 days a week. I'd previously broken 2 bones in my leg in 3 different places. On an X-Ray, my bone looks like GRAVEL. I'm in cronic pain from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Yet, I work through it. I'm IN management with piercings and visible tattoos. I take the bus every day, despite the weather, and walk 6 long blocks both ways to get to the bus stop. Acrylic can't drive fo' shit, so it's the safer option for society, haha.

I'm going to college for my BFA (Fine Arts Bachelor Degree). I am a self-taught graphic designer (with knowledge in HTML and Java). I have Carpal tunnel in my right wrist, along with arthritis... and for some reason, my thumb pops in-and-out of socket causing excruciating pain. It hurts to type, along with pretty much every other activity. It will not defer my from my dreams.

I am a full-time single mother, and have been since I was 16 years old. Come September, I will be juggling work, school, and putting my child in Kindergarten.

I have a 3 bedroom apartment in Connecticut. I pay my own bills, rent, food, and luxuries for myself and my child. I just bought all new furniture, and am in the process of gutting my kitchen. Expense? Mine.

I have good credit with money IN the bank. I still manage to stay fresh to death in designer clothes, buy music memorabilia off eBay, get my nails and toes done every week, and go out to wherever I want when the time permits.

Kicker? I'm 20 years old.

I hate seeing people coming up with excuse after excuse as to why they can't do it, or why their situation is so much worse than anyone else's. I'm an independant queen working for my throne. I am completely estranged from my mother and father -- I have no safety net to fall back on. If you're living at home with your parents, in debt, you NEED to cut the shit and DO somethings with your life.

This post wasn't meant to insult or offend, it was meant to educate. PMB, you're a grown woman. Act like it, and you won't get as much backlash from people. Reach for the best, and you'll achieve it. Strive for less, and you will struggle your whole life.

purplemookiebut said:

johnart said:

You've always said or thought about doing stuff and end up doing none.

You said about making dog-walkin flyers, you thought about getting a job at AAA (and admit they are mod-friendly, when out the other side you're talkin about folk descriminating ).

Stress? Honey there's stress in every single line of work except possibly being a kept woman, and you needed to think about this as a life-goal before all the piercings and tats.

Gurrrl there's CP and Down Syndrome folk who keep jobs. I know I used to work for a group home in my early 20's taking them to do their work.

You should just say it outloud: I DON"T WANT TO WORK.

Admitting this might be the first step.

[Edited 4/4/11 12:15pm]

i know that already. i want a job i enjoy that doesn't feel like work to me. there are jobs like that. just need to find one

Dear Purplemookiebut,

I understand that there are a lot of complications going on in your life.

Due to ADHD it's extremely hard for you to confirm with timelines, prioritizing, develop regular social kills, planning, overseeing comlicated situations, having a realistic self image. You'r impulsive behaviour will get you in trouble more often than not.

Because you still have not got yourself a proper treatment for your panic attacks, these hinder you in you day to day life. You probably have developed a very avoidant life style, not doing a lot because you are afraid you might get a panick attack.

Your allergies and other physical problems hinder you in functioning physically in similar ways other people can. And because other people don't aknowledge your disabilities, you will be confronted with a lot of negativity.

Therefore you are in a situation that is far from ideal. You'r mother is providing for you, eventhough you are mature. And you don't have any money to be able to buy your own food or pay for a roof above your head. Because you depend on your mother, you have to deal with her complaints and her confronting you with your own behaviour.

What will happen if your mother dies? What will you eat? Where will you live? How will you provide for yourself? You'r in a very vurnable position, do you realize that?

Who can help you with finding a good treatment for all your psychological problems?

Is there an University in the neighbourhood where someone at the Psych. department can help you finding an effective treatment for your panic attacks, ADHD and maybe other not diagnosed problems? Or is there any other institute that can help you with finding or providing you with an effective treatment? It seems you are avoiding a lot of issues in your life right now. However, by avoiding it, they really don't go away. It will get worse.

Why don't you find a professional who can help you with finding the right help and who can guide you in making a realistic plan for becoming more independent and less vulnarable?

I will not keep on posting to you. Because then we will engage in a conversation about every little detail, and that is just a way of avoiding the real thing.

My advise is finding a competent and professional who can help you with the multitude of your problems. Not a person who will only threat you for your ADHD or any other isolated complaint. One person who can support you to stand on your own feet!

I wish you the best, and especially I hope that you will stop avoiding and look for EFFECTIVE support. Not just another medicationsuscriber.

JustErin said:

Guys, seriously. She doesn't want to work...period.

I see no point in going after her about this over and over in thread after thread.

She's fully content with a loser status and there is nothing that anyone here is going to say that will make someone like that suddenly see the light.

As for the original post, if I needed a job and couldn't find anything else (which is think is 100% impossible) I'd so get my ass to McDonalds and get to work.

Amen.

purplemookiebut said:

johnart said:

You've always said or thought about doing stuff and end up doing none.

You said about making dog-walkin flyers, you thought about getting a job at AAA (and admit they are mod-friendly, when out the other side you're talkin about folk descriminating ).

Stress? Honey there's stress in every single line of work except possibly being a kept woman, and you needed to think about this as a life-goal before all the piercings and tats.

Gurrrl there's CP and Down Syndrome folk who keep jobs. I know I used to work for a group home in my early 20's taking them to do their work.

You should just say it outloud: I DON"T WANT TO WORK.

Admitting this might be the first step.

[Edited 4/4/11 12:15pm]

i know that already. i want a job i enjoy that doesn't feel like work to me. there are jobs like that. just need to find one

No there aren't.

That's so unrealistic.

If you are blessed you may find that niche of a job that you love so much that it's not like you're working at all, but it's usually a job you create for yourself. Otherwise, you're working for someone else, playing by their rules and it's a drag.

purplenuts said:

There is honor in all work. If someone has to take a McDonalds job, it is not a definition of their worth. HOw they do the job is.

Right on, right on.

[Edited 4/4/11 13:23pm]

Acrylic said:

I worked my way up into a management position in a food/restaurant job, working on my feet, 8 hours a day, 5-6 days a week. I'd previously broken 2 bones in my leg in 3 different places. On an X-Ray, my bone looks like GRAVEL. I'm in cronic pain from the time I wake up to the time I go to sleep. Yet, I work through it. I'm IN management with piercings and visible tattoos. I take the bus every day, despite the weather, and walk 6 long blocks both ways to get to the bus stop. Acrylic can't drive fo' shit, so it's the safer option for society, haha.

I'm going to college for my BFA (Fine Arts Bachelor Degree). I am a self-taught graphic designer (with knowledge in HTML and Java). I have Carpal tunnel in my right wrist, along with arthritis... and for some reason, my thumb pops in-and-out of socket causing excruciating pain. It hurts to type, along with pretty much every other activity. It will not defer my from my dreams.

I am a full-time single mother, and have been since I was 16 years old. Come September, I will be juggling work, school, and putting my child in Kindergarten.

I have a 3 bedroom apartment in Connecticut. I pay my own bills, rent, food, and luxuries for myself and my child. I just bought all new furniture, and am in the process of gutting my kitchen. Expense? Mine.

I have good credit with money IN the bank. I still manage to stay fresh to death in designer clothes, buy music memorabilia off eBay, get my nails and toes done every week, and go out to wherever I want when the time permits.

Kicker? I'm 20 years old.

I hate seeing people coming up with excuse after excuse as to why they can't do it, or why their situation is so much worse than anyone else's. I'm an independant queen working for my throne. I am completely estranged from my mother and father -- I have no safety net to fall back on. If you're living at home with your parents, in debt, you NEED to cut the shit and DO somethings with your life.

This post wasn't meant to insult or offend, it was meant to educate. PMB, you're a grown woman. Act like it, and you won't get as much backlash from people. Reach for the best, and you'll achieve it. Strive for less, and you will struggle your whole life.

wow and your 20. wow.

JustErin said:

Guys, seriously. She doesn't want to work...period.

I see no point in going after her about this over and over in thread after thread.

She's fully content with a loser status and there is nothing that anyone here is going to say that will make someone like that suddenly see the light.

As for the original post, if I needed a job and couldn't find anything else (which is think is 100% impossible) I'd so get my ass to McDonalds and get to work.

[Edited 4/4/11 14:21pm]

[Edited 4/4/11 14:22pm]

JustErin said:

Guys, seriously. She doesn't want to work...period.

I see no point in going after her about this over and over in thread after thread.

She's fully content with a loser status and there is nothing that anyone here is going to say that will make someone like that suddenly see the light.

As for the original post, if I needed a job and couldn't find anything else (which is think is 100% impossible) I'd so get my ass to McDonalds and get to work.

The point is, she pisses us off and we need to vent that shit.

purplemookiebut said:

JustErin said:

Guys, seriously. She doesn't want to work...period.

[b[]I see no point in going after her about this over and over in thread after thread.[/b[

She's fully content with a loser status and there is nothing that anyone here is going to say that will make someone like that suddenly see the light.

As for the original post, if I needed a job and couldn't find anything else (which is think is 100% impossible) I'd so get my ass to McDonalds and get to work.

Missing the point, as usual.