cute but 15 years younger than me..... she insists i meet him

then she decides to send him my pic...and he said yes to her!!!!!

i hate it when friends think they can set me up... with someone they think is suitable

Q...

would u go on a blind date that a friend organizes???

Your mother says go

ParanoidAndroid said:

I did that once in the late 90's. That girl was nice, but it was quite weird..you know, it had that "we have to get together because of our friends" vibe.

this is her 3rd attempt... i am strong and refuse to go

Bitch even told him how long it has been since i had sex.... i know what he wants!!!!

maybe i should go and get it over and done with

PANDURITO said:

Your mother says go

maybe i should send my mother in my place

IS YO CAR WERKINNNNN.........!?

Go on the date. You never know, you two may really hit it off.

i WONDER IF SHE IS GONNA BE TIGER WOODS NEW GIRL...:LOL:

myfavorite said:

IS YO CAR WERKINNNNN.........!?

yes

but ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

my kids sit in my car

i dont want them sitting on wet patches

[Edited 3/26/11 5:11am]

myfavorite said:

i WONDER IF SHE IS GONNA BE TIGER WOODS NEW GIRL...:LOL:

been there / done that

joke

KlyphIsBackAgain said:

Go on the date. You never know, you two may really hit it off.

i'm not ready to go on dates

too soon....

physco185 said:

ParanoidAndroid said:

I did that once in the late 90's. That girl was nice, but it was quite weird..you know, it had that "we have to get together because of our friends" vibe.

this is her 3rd attempt... i am strong and refuse to go

Bitch even told him how long it has been since i had sex.... i know what he wants!!!!

maybe i should go and get it over and done with

Because of that fact alone I would call it off.

IF there was going to be a relationship, your friend killed all hope when she over stepped boundaries and put you and him on a bad note from the start. Now, she made it so he will come off like some creepy horny dude looking to "hit it" because he knows too much about your lifestyle and is assuming and expecting too much too soon. The dude may be nice but its a bad presentation on you and its wrong for your friend to tell him stuff like that about you.

Do go at a steady pace that is comfortable for you. (Dating wise) rebound relationships are not easy to navigate around curious children.

and sometimes-a break from men all together to clear the mind, heal and actually figure out what you want so when you do meet the new guy there is actually a fresh and healthy start.

hey u never know. why not. i wish my friends would do that. the guy i recently starting to go out with has all the same friends.

physco185 said:

KlyphIsBackAgain said:

Go on the date. You never know, you two may really hit it off.

i'm not ready to go on dates

too soon....

Why aren't you ready? What exactly is "too soon". Yeah, I'm being nosey.

ParanoidAndroid said:

I did that once in the late 90's. That girl was nice, but it was quite weird..you know, it had that "we have to get together because of our friends" vibe.

I've done it in the 80's, once. I know the feeling

physco185 said:

KlyphIsBackAgain said:

Go on the date. You never know, you two may really hit it off.

i'm not ready to go on dates

too soon....

Follow your mind and go at your own pace. Remember, you don't owe the friend or the guy any explanations.

Paintedlady gave you some excellent advice, the heffa is shady for putting your bidness on front street from jump.

physco185 said:

ParanoidAndroid said:

I did that once in the late 90's. That girl was nice, but it was quite weird..you know, it had that "we have to get together because of our friends" vibe.

this is her 3rd attempt... i am strong and refuse to go

Bitch even told him how long it has been since i had sex.... i know what he wants!!!!

maybe i should go and get it over and done with

i'm totaly in th blind

and it been a minit for me too.

we'll be on common ground

paintedlady said:

physco185 said:

this is her 3rd attempt... i am strong and refuse to go

Bitch even told him how long it has been since i had sex.... i know what he wants!!!!

maybe i should go and get it over and done with

Because of that fact alone I would call it off.

IF there was going to be a relationship, your friend killed all hope when she over stepped boundaries and put you and him on a bad note from the start. Now, she made it so he will come off like some creepy horny dude looking to "hit it" because he knows too much about your lifestyle and is assuming and expecting too much too soon. The dude may be nice but its a bad presentation on you and its wrong for your friend to tell him stuff like that about you.

Do go at a steady pace that is comfortable for you. (Dating wise) rebound relationships are not easy to navigate around curious children.

and sometimes-a break from men all together to clear the mind, heal and actually figure out what you want so when you do meet the new guy there is actually a fresh and healthy start.

Yep, the friend messed it up

KlyphIsBackAgain said:

physco185 said:

i'm not ready to go on dates

too soon....

Why aren't you ready? What exactly is "too soon". Yeah, I'm being nosey.

i am not ready cause i just had my heart ripped out and borken into millions of pieces and i need to get my life right b4 i start going on dates....

sex can wait

but my question was if u woiuld go... i already know i'm not going

paintedlady said:

physco185 said:

this is her 3rd attempt... i am strong and refuse to go

Bitch even told him how long it has been since i had sex.... i know what he wants!!!!

maybe i should go and get it over and done with

Because of that fact alone I would call it off.

IF there was going to be a relationship, your friend killed all hope when she over stepped boundaries and put you and him on a bad note from the start. Now, she made it so he will come off like some creepy horny dude looking to "hit it" because he knows too much about your lifestyle and is assuming and expecting too much too soon. The dude may be nice but its a bad presentation on you and its wrong for your friend to tell him stuff like that about you.

Do go at a steady pace that is comfortable for you. (Dating wise) rebound relationships are not easy to navigate around curious children.

and sometimes-a break from men all together to clear the mind, heal and actually figure out what you want so when you do meet the new guy there is actually a fresh and healthy start.

exactly

esp with the kids, they are already resenting me... going on dates right now would just hurt them more... that is the last thing i need to be doing right now

physco185 said:

exactly

esp with the kids, they are already resenting me... going on dates right now would just hurt them more... that is the last thing i need to be doing right now

Kids tend to like stability and do not like change, also some kids want mom & dad to stay together since they love both parents.

It is VERY hard to date with kids. I keep my kids out of it since they don't need to make-up and break-up right along with me. Its best you take your time and choose a new guy with great caution.

The new guy will have to accept a package deal ... you two may like eachother, but if the kids hate him, or if he is bad with kids then its a no-go. Its a whole different ball-game. But any smart and savy woman that knows exactly what she wants will find her guy.

You will be fine doing your own search.

paintedlady said:

physco185 said:

exactly

esp with the kids, they are already resenting me... going on dates right now would just hurt them more... that is the last thing i need to be doing right now

Kids tend to like stability and do not like change, also some kids want mom & dad to stay together since they love both parents.

It is VERY hard to date with kids. I keep my kids out of it since they don't need to make-up and break-up right along with me. Its best you take your time and choose a new guy with great caution.

The new guy will have to accept a package deal ... you two may like eachother, but if the kids hate him, or if he is bad with kids then its a no-go. Its a whole different ball-game. But any smart and savy woman that knows exactly what she wants will find her guy.

You will be fine doing your own search.

Thanks for the good advice

my girlfriend is skating on thin ice i only jut got in contact with her last month and she is driving me batty i sent her a stern message this moring and asked her to butt out - and if she decides not to talk to me anymore - well i really dont give a shit!

physco185 said:

paintedlady said:

Because of that fact alone I would call it off.

IF there was going to be a relationship, your friend killed all hope when she over stepped boundaries and put you and him on a bad note from the start. Now, she made it so he will come off like some creepy horny dude looking to "hit it" because he knows too much about your lifestyle and is assuming and expecting too much too soon. The dude may be nice but its a bad presentation on you and its wrong for your friend to tell him stuff like that about you.

Do go at a steady pace that is comfortable for you. (Dating wise) rebound relationships are not easy to navigate around curious children.

and sometimes-a break from men all together to clear the mind, heal and actually figure out what you want so when you do meet the new guy there is actually a fresh and healthy start.

exactly

esp with the kids, they are already resenting me... going on dates right now would just hurt them more... that is the last thing i need to be doing right now

I would do the same if it was me. No need to jump into anything right now. Take all the time you need.

babynoz said:

physco185 said:

exactly

esp with the kids, they are already resenting me... going on dates right now would just hurt them more... that is the last thing i need to be doing right now

I would do the same if it was me. No need to jump into anything right now. Take all the time you need.

thank u

i knew i was right saying no... but it gets confusing when there is someone constantly in your ear nagging

[Edited 3/26/11 19:45pm]

KlyphIsBackAgain said:

physco185 said:

i'm not ready to go on dates

too soon....

Why aren't you ready? What exactly is "too soon". Yeah, I'm being nosey.

Baggage... she doesn't want her feelings about with her previous relationship to spill over into the new relationship.

For example: (random example, not her situation.... I'm just guessing here)

If her ex cheated , then she may be paranoid about getting cheated on again, so she may be overly suspicious of her new guy if she jumps into a new relationship.

Its called the "rebound" effect. Your feelings from what happened in the past get dragged into your present situation even if the new person has done nothing to deserve the way you are feeling/behaving towards him/her.

the same thing goes for bad habits that were acquire from the previous relationships which can include...

passive aggressive behavior, lack of wanting to communicate, projecting, immediately jumping to bad conclusions, clingy-ness, suspicion, insecurity about your looks, etc.

This is why when much is at stake (when kids are involved) people will be more cautious in jumping into relationships. She doesn't want to be running through a bunch of new dudes before she finds a good guy.

babynoz said:

physco185 said:

i'm not ready to go on dates

too soon....

Follow your mind and go at your own pace. Remember, you don't owe the friend or the guy any explanations.

Paintedlady gave you some excellent advice, the heffa is shady for putting your bidness on front street from jump.

TY... I wish I could have the same kind of clarity in my own situation. Dude I'm seeing is hard to figure out... I guess its easier to see things clearly when you can look at it from an unbiased POV.

paintedlady said:

babynoz said:

Follow your mind and go at your own pace. Remember, you don't owe the friend or the guy any explanations.

Paintedlady gave you some excellent advice, the heffa is shady for putting your bidness on front street from jump.

TY... I wish I could have the same kind of clarity in my own situation. Dude I'm seeing is hard to figure out... I guess its easier to see things clearly when you can look at it from an unbiased POV.

I hear ya sis. I often say to myself, "if only I knew then what I know now."

physco185 said:

Q...

would u go on a blind date that a friend organizes???

sure. if you feel comfortable about it and there's an attraction. i say go for it. ya never know.

just make sure if it doesn't work out you and your friend can remain friends.

good luck

physco185 said:

Bitch even told him how long it has been since i had sex.... i know what he wants!!!!

wait...what?!? MESS!!!

I say lay on your back and point your heels to jesus.