sag10 said:

I could never disrespect another woman

So attracted or not, I'd walk away.

Especially for straight people....theres enough men for you to find without needing one that's taken. You straight people can get anyone u want.

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paisleypark4 said:

sag10 said:

I could never disrespect another woman

So attracted or not, I'd walk away.

Especially for straight people....theres enough women for you to find without needing one that's taken. You straight people can get anyone u want.

Oh goodness. That's far from true. Especially the older we all get.

I'm lucky to have met my man when I did. I figured I'd live the rest of my life alone. (And happily, mind you, as I'd rather be alone than with just anyone.)

paisleypark4 said:

sag10 said:

I could never disrespect another woman

So attracted or not, I'd walk away.

Especially for straight people....theres enough men for you to find without needing one that's taken. You straight people can get anyone u want.

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I would never take "anyone". I maybe met 5 people in my whole life who I really wanted to be with.

CarrieMpls said:

paisleypark4 said:

Especially for straight people....theres enough women for you to find without needing one that's taken. You straight people can get anyone u want.

Oh goodness. That's far from true. Especially the older we all get.

I'm lucky to have met my man when I did. I figured I'd live the rest of my life alone. (And happily, mind you, as I'd rather be alone than with just anyone.)

Mind you, I don't think that justifies being the other woman. I find it sad when a woman thinks she can't be alone.

CarrieMpls said:

CarrieMpls said:

Oh goodness. That's far from true. Especially the older we all get.

Coming from a woman's point of view I can understand that. I always think straight guys have it heasier if they want to sleep with someone. They have plenty plenty of choices.

I'm lucky to have met my man when I did. I figured I'd live the rest of my life alone. (And happily, mind you, as I'd rather be alone than with just anyone.)

Im glad you are happy!

Mind you, I don't think that justifies being the other woman. I find it sad when a woman thinks she can't be alone.

My mom had that problem and it fell on me too. Took 7 years to actually meet the person I wanted to be with (whom I met in 1992!) after I did the single thing for a while. Luckily I had a 6 month "single break"..and seriosuly I was a mess. 3 guys at once..it was cool for a minute; really I was just happy to not actually "be" with anyone.

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I've had a surprising number of married men proposition me, considering I'm not all that sexually active in general. I run like hell each time. Not really, I just automatically lose interest and distance myself. I was an only child and DO NOT like to share.

StonedImmaculate said:

First off, let me say...the org is like therapy for me. I know Im longwinded and may give a little too much info, but I love these threads cause I can get shit out that I cant tell anyone else. Being anonymous is a wonderful thing.

I've never "physically" cheated on my wife, but I have cheated our relationship. I have been tempted and gotten myself into a little trouble due to flirtations that I took way too far, but I ran like a bitch when it was time to make it happen. I admit all situations were my fault because I can tell pretty quickly when a woman digs me and I should have stopped it there. Rather than cut it off because I know I'm not going to follow through, I kept things going simply because I love the fact that a woman wants me. Just always made sure I never got in a situation where something would happen. Bottom line-I'm an attention whore when it comes to females. I've always been this way...I saw nothing wrong with it when I was younger (as I cheated on every girlfriend I ever had save one) but it pisses me off now, especially because my wife gives me all the attention any man should need. She knows of two of the situations and has forgiven me...she actually blames herself which makes it worse. but I swear I will never let it happen again. Last situation-2 years ago.

None of the "other women" have ever cared about my wife's feelings. Comments like "If you really loved her you wouldnt be talking to me about this." and "Who's going to get hurt if no one knows?" or "She's not my wife." are pretty common. I have always been the one to eventually put a stop to it...never have one of them told me to take a hike.

Hell..I have a co-worker right now who is pregnant with her second child (and still ridiculously hot) who has let me know she wants a piece. She's married but her husband hasnt touched her since she got pregnant (she's due in May) and she is horny as hell. I didnt flirt with her at all and have tiptoed around her from the moment she started showing interest...but I seriously have a problem because I know it should not be this hard to resist her attention. I mean, come on...I know I'm not going to do anything but I start grinning everytime she approaches. Anyway...

"You're married and so am I. We cant do that...it's just wrong. How could you go through with something like that, especially when your ass is pregnant?"

Her response..."It's just sex."

Bottom line--most bitches dont care!!!

good guy insight-thanks and keep your pants zipped

Allways refused to be degraded to the level of the other woman and therefore allow his wife to be degraded to be the cheated woman.

I live according the standards which I want to be treated by others. Allways have, allways will.

I was with this man like five years ago. I remember he told me he left "his former girlfriend because he was in live with me blablabla gonna introduce you to my family blablabla vacations together...".

Indeed, everything mentionned above happened so I didn't really have reasons to be worried about, but still, he's been behaving in a strange way all the time we had this relationship. It lasted one year.

3 years after this break-up I discovered by randomly browsing his blog that he was still seeing his "ex-girlfriend", sleeping at hers, dating... while being with me. The bastard was leading a double life and I've been the other woman without even knowing it. It still makes me feel like such an idiot...

That are very true words.