NDRU said:

Spinlight said:

Righto, buddy. Point me in the direction of someone with bad teeth from smoking marijuana.

not bad teeth like a crack smoker, no, but my teeth had tar all over them when I smoked pot.

It cleans up after some months, but then, so does the tar in your lungs--assuming you stop in time. Tar all over your teeth cannot be beneficial to keeping them plaque free!

Who knows what the long term affect was, but in the short term, they looked fucked up!

I've never met a pot smoker with fucked up teeth who wasn't a crack or cig smoker as well (alright, no crack smokers).

Hell, you smoke much less cannabis than you do tobacco so that alone cuts the rate of staining down by about a billion percent.

paintedlady said:

Shyra said:

chocolate1 said:

Thanks, but that wasn't me....

I'm from the "can't stand it" camp.

See, the smoke done affected my damn brain cells! I meant BklynBabe. Y'alls my girls!

4 Pages long, I'm late and didn't read the responses so forgive me if I'm repeating shit that has been said.

Ugh, good luck. It's the hardest thing ever to quit smoking and you asking her to quit is not going to help her in any way shape or form. No one quits unless THEY want to.....and even THEN your almost gauranteed failure at some point.

I mean....it is possible, people do it......but not for someone else. They just don't. And once you quit its not like you're never going to go back to it. You have to make a concious effort not to.

When I started dating Todd I smoked and I told him about it right away. I was ashamed but wasn't gonna try to hide it, and really how can you hide that stench anyways......I was ashamed cuz I know how gross it is, but I wasn't willing to quit, so I was upfront with him. He said it was fine.

Well OF COURSSSSE after we were together sometime he would make little comments once in a while about it, and I told him right out, shut the fuck up, you knew when you met me I smoked, and I have no plans on quitting just yet.

So basically. Sorry to hear you're having this problem with your partner. I understand both sides. When I quit smoking the first time some years ago, as a non smoker I couldn't tolerate smokers. So yeah, it sucks, but if you wanna be with them ya gotta suck it up.

Spinlight said:

NDRU said:

not bad teeth like a crack smoker, no, but my teeth had tar all over them when I smoked pot.

It cleans up after some months, but then, so does the tar in your lungs--assuming you stop in time. Tar all over your teeth cannot be beneficial to keeping them plaque free!

Who knows what the long term affect was, but in the short term, they looked fucked up!

I've never met a pot smoker with fucked up teeth who wasn't a crack or cig smoker as well (alright, no crack smokers).

Hell, you smoke much less cannabis than you do tobacco so that alone cuts the rate of staining down by about a billion percent.

by "you" you certainly don't mean me!

Yes, it basically killed my mother along with breast cancer. My brother smokes and has the most apalling breath and rotting teeth and he's only 37. Everyone in my family smokes except me and I have always been opposed to it. Still i will probably die from inhaling second hand smoke. In New Zealand the Maori people (Of which I am one) apparently have the worst smoking statistics in the world. Its estimated that 55% of Maori women between 18 -65 smoke and 47% of Maori men, yet there have been anti smoking campaigns aimed at Maori since 1990 such as (Auahi Kore - Smoke Free) and smoking is banned in all bars, schools, theatres, planes and childcare centres, yet they still smoke like chimneys. Since 1990 the rate of smoking amongst non Maori Adults has dropped from 25 to 16%, yet maori rates have increased. We have dairies (Corner stores) that sell single smokes illegally, stories of children as young as 3 smoking and I myself want to see it banned for ever. Smoking has a social stigma here too, generally its seen that the lower classes and minorities smoke (Asian smoking rates are very high too).

thanks for all the replys...i have read them all....its a tricky situation but ...hey...life is never smooth..is it...

TheDigitalGardener said:

CarrieMpls said:

I am a former smoker. All the clichés about smoking and quitting are true. It is harder to give up than heroin. She needs to quit for herself, not for you. Her smoking has absolutely nothing to do with you.

And I can guarantee you that deep down she wants to quit and she HATES that she hasn’t been able to already. It makes her feel weak and like a failure. So you harping on her about not quitting yet will only make her feel worse, which will impede any attempts on her part to quit.

Once I quit I never thought I’d date a smoker. But I fell in love and my bf smokes. He was trying to quit when we met and didn’t smoke around me hardly at all for the first few months. He’d wear the patch whenever we were together, wouldn’t smoke if I was in the car, etc. He even made a big attempt to quit in January and made it a month, but ultimately went back to smoking. I loooooooooooooved how much better he smelled and such and made sure to always tell him so. When he went back to smoking I was upset but I ultimately understood as I know how hard it is. He still talks about quitting again and has talked to his doctor about it as well. I know he will quit when he is ready. It just takes a long time to get there.

You need to decide what you can live with and what you can’t but if you want to stay with her and for her to quit smoking you need to be positive, supportive and encouraging.

I do hope that statement is one of the cliches about smoking, because that is utter nonsense.

I know a director of an addiction treatment centre. He says that nicotine is as addictive as heroin.

blackbob said:

my partner of 5 years now is a smoker...not heavy but about 10 - 15 a day....and i have always been a non smoker and have always hated it...not just because it is disgusting but for health reasons...my uncle died at an early age because of heavy smoking...

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the problem is that when we were talking 3 years ago about buying a house together and making a commitment...i was unsure because as far as i was concerned....the smoking put me off going near her and....i know this may sound silly to some people....it made me think twice about making a commitment to her because i knew it would affect the relationship...

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so i let her know that i was unsure about making a commitment and she promised me that she wanted to make a new start and if we bought the house together...she would give up smoking...it has been banned from public places in scotland now for a number of years and i thought all of this plus my support and a new start would be enough ...

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but it hasnt...she has never really stopped and ...now....it is badly affecting the relationship because i dont really want to kiss her or get close to her ...unless i am really ...well...you know....i had a crap relationship before and i wanted to have a close loving one this time and for life but now its just a so so one and i dont know what to do...

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should i just accept it as....i know....she was a smoker when i met and fell for her...

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or should i tell her she has broken her promises to me about making a new start and giving up the cancer sticks ??...

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i dont know....maybe i am making too much of a big deal out of it...

why don't you start smoking yourself?

it's not expensive cause you'll save money and buy less food.
You'll enjoy it

if it were me Bobby, I wouldn't subject myself to a smoking relationship. I've been on both ends. I smoked and had partners that didn't. I am now a NON-smoker and there is NO WAY I would ever entertain the concept of being with someone that did - no matter how much they made me laugh.

if it were me Bobby, I wouldn't subject myself to a smoking relationship. I've been on both ends. I smoked and had partners that didn't. I am now a NON-smoker and there is NO WAY I would ever entertain the concept of being with someone that did - no matter how much they made me laugh.

oopes sorry - don't understand the auto save.

Rightly said:

blackbob said:

my partner of 5 years now is a smoker...not heavy but about 10 - 15 a day....and i have always been a non smoker and have always hated it...not just because it is disgusting but for health reasons...my uncle died at an early age because of heavy smoking...

.

the problem is that when we were talking 3 years ago about buying a house together and making a commitment...i was unsure because as far as i was concerned....the smoking put me off going near her and....i know this may sound silly to some people....it made me think twice about making a commitment to her because i knew it would affect the relationship...

.

so i let her know that i was unsure about making a commitment and she promised me that she wanted to make a new start and if we bought the house together...she would give up smoking...it has been banned from public places in scotland now for a number of years and i thought all of this plus my support and a new start would be enough ...

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but it hasnt...she has never really stopped and ...now....it is badly affecting the relationship because i dont really want to kiss her or get close to her ...unless i am really ...well...you know....i had a crap relationship before and i wanted to have a close loving one this time and for life but now its just a so so one and i dont know what to do...

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should i just accept it as....i know....she was a smoker when i met and fell for her...

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or should i tell her she has broken her promises to me about making a new start and giving up the cancer sticks ??...

.

i dont know....maybe i am making too much of a big deal out of it...

why don't you start smoking yourself?

it's not expensive cause you'll save money and buy less food.
You'll enjoy it

yuck

so much eye could say on this subject but try & keep it brief, a friend of mine who smokes 40|50 a day recently had a stroke.this stroke was caused by smoking.my pal is now blind in one eye & going blind in other eye,his left leg is fucked and he is now incontinent he can no longer drive his car & has been told the nxt stroke will kill him!! o yeh hes 40!!!!!! stop smoking people.

Dewrede said:

SagsWay2low said:

It greatly increases the risk of lung cancer and is linked to it.

One may not get into a car accident from drinking and driving too, but it's the risk and likelihood of it happening that causes it to be taboo.

I think social pressure should be greatly applied to preventing people from taking up smoking as well as stronger public programs to help people quit.

I don't mind folks who want to continue as I've said before. So long as I don't have to smell them or they're not doing it in my face. I think smoking weed and fags is less offensive than folks drinking and getting behind the wheel of a car.

i think the risk is being highly exaggerated by the anti smoking lobby

Go hang out at a cancer hospital some time. If you have the guts.