I want as many serious answers on this as i can get, i have always been a relationship guy, and well i have always believed in being faithful and loving and everything...

And i ma starting to think... of maybe changing way's... not becoming crazy but maybe more open, like meeting more people not being so shy. Having fun more, and maybe going on more dates, and really seeing other people you know?

I even started clubbing more, not becoming a club whore but you know working a lot during the week i want to have fun at times

I just feel weird, doing all this cause i have always been a good little boy so to speak lol

And i was a virgin till i was 19, i have never smoked or done drugs, drank etc. Idk i guess i am just curious in this stage of life.

I'm all about serious answers!

Whats the question?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm all about serious answers!

Whats the question?

should he fuck around? like now, while he is young and it wouldn't be weird

I've allways loved clubbing, because I love to dance. I just love dancing for hours and hours. Doesn't have to do with playing sex games with other people?!

I don't understand what you want to know.

Do you want to go out to clubs in the weekends? Yes, why not?

Do you want to cheat your partner? No, why should you?

Do you want to get drunk and use drugs? It never worked for me, but if you really think that's a good way to live your life and makes you happy?! Go for it.

What is your issue that you want us to share our opionons/ views on?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm all about serious answers!

Whats the question?

I believe it was "Having fun more, and maybe going on more dates, and really seeing other people you know?"

I know.

Ok i was a little nervous typing this obviously don't klll me

But basically i am asking if i should, meet people go on dates, and not be committed while i am young

Sorry, still don't get it.

Are you in a commited relationship or not? And define young, what age (range) are you talking about?

dJJ said:

Sorry, still don't get it.

Are you in a commited relationship or not? And define young, what age (range) are you talking about?

Nope, but i have always been like one about being faithful, and never having sex or messing around. So i feel like i am wrong if i where to do it

I am 20....

Ultimately, only you can answer this question. But the way you described what you are thinking of--"not becoming crazy but maybe more open, like meeting more people not being so shy. Having fun more, and maybe going on more dates, and really seeing other people you know?"--seems quite reasonable. It sounds like you want to branch out a little bit and have a good time, which is totally normal to do. Just be safe, always.

Gunsnhalen said:

dJJ said:

Sorry, still don't get it.

Are you in a commited relationship or not? And define young, what age (range) are you talking about?

Nope, but i have always been like one about being faithful, and never having sex or messing around. So i feel like i am wrong if i where to do it

I am 20....

but if you aren't in a relationship, what has faithful got to do with it?

Do I understand it right that you'r not in a relationship, and are not commited to anyone?

So, what would be the objective than to go out dancing and having fun? You don't have to have sex to have fun right? And when it does happen, you'll play it by ear, right? See how it develops, when you want to be together, just go for it.

My brother has been with the same girl/woman since he was 15 (now he's 39). They've allways been happy together, have two great children and still have a lot of fun. He would have missed out on that great marriage and family life, when he would have went wild when he was 20.

I didn't manage to stay with one man. Not because I allways wanted to be wild, I also wanted that strong bond and a warm and secure relationship. I just didn't manage to stay within the relationships I had, to build that. I do enjoy my two nephews, my brother's kids!

My dear brother would not be happy with my life style, I would not be able to handle his. Still we love eachother dearly and respect eachother. We're just different people.

Nobody can decide for your lifestyle but yourself...

Wish you well, just go with you'r instinct. That's allways right

dJJ said:

Sorry, still don't get it.

Are you in a commited relationship or not? And define young, what age (range) are you talking about?

Also, what is your height, weight, and social security number??

just1lousydime said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

I'm all about serious answers!

Whats the question?

I believe it was "Having fun more, and maybe going on more dates, and really seeing other people you know?"

I know.

Anyways, seriously now.

It depends what your future goals are? Are you planning to be married ever? Does it matter to you how your spouse is going to feel about how many people you've slept with.....do you plan to lie?

I think you should def go have fun while you're young. I mean, just be careful of diseases and stuff, and just cuz you're partying doesn't mean you have to fuck everyone. Sleep with who you'd like though. You only live once, and everyone deserves to experience life to the fullest.

Just go with it.

Dude... get out and DO!!

I mean, don't be a dick about it, but have your fun, play with the girlies all shapes and sizes...

get some notches on your belt...

TotalANXiousNESS said:

just1lousydime said:

I believe it was "Having fun more, and maybe going on more dates, and really seeing other people you know?"

I know.

Anyways, seriously now.

It depends what your future goals are? Are you planning to be married ever? Does it matter to you how your spouse is going to feel about how many people you've slept with.....do you plan to lie?

I think you should def go have fun while you're young. I mean, just be careful of diseases and stuff, and just cuz you're partying doesn't mean you have to fuck everyone. Sleep with who you'd like though. You only live once, and everyone deserves to experience life to the fullest.

Just go with it.

Yeah i do plan on it someday marriage=]

and yes in my mind it does kind of matter what they will think about that...

ZombieKitten said:

Gunsnhalen said:

Nope, but i have always been like one about being faithful, and never having sex or messing around. So i feel like i am wrong if i where to do it

I am 20....

but if you aren't in a relationship, what has faithful got to do with it?

Lol, i mean that in a also just making love to one person way to

just be safe and...

RenHoek said:

just be safe and...

i really wanna try this one night stand thing. is it summer yet? jersey shore is inspiring me. i don't drink and only lost my virginity 2 yrs ago at 27. haven't been with anyone since...just my big purple vibrator

purplemookiebut said:

i really wanna try this one night stand thing. is it summer yet? jersey shore is inspiring me. i don't drink and only lost my virginity 2 yrs ago at 27. haven't been with anyone since...just my big purple vibrator

heheeheh , the purple vibrator... is not doing much anymore eh?

Naw, It will just get me into trouble. I love being my being my relaxed self.

Gunsnhalen said:

purplemookiebut said:

i really wanna try this one night stand thing. is it summer yet? jersey shore is inspiring me. i don't drink and only lost my virginity 2 yrs ago at 27. haven't been with anyone since...just my big purple vibrator

heheeheh , the purple vibrator... is not doing much anymore eh?

yes i wish it kissed and snuggled me too...wahhhh

I learned I don't want to be tied down. I'm in a relationship and miserable.

I don't want to sleep around, but I want to flirt a lot if I can.

I have always gone clubbing, but strictly for music.

[Edited 2/18/11 3:03am]

If you're a relationship kind of guy, that's great. Stick with it if it works for you and you have any luck with it. I never had any luck with it. When I first came out, I wanted a relationship but these no good men wanted to be whores and the ones who claimed to want a relationship were users and ain't nobody gonna use my ass if I can help it. You can get hurt in a relationship also and that sure as hell ain't no fun either. I just decided to be as big a whore as I could be and tell the motherfuckers to give the dick and don't spoil it by talking. But if relationships work for you, by all means, stick with it because I think you'll be happier in the long run. They just didn't work for me.

alphastreet said:

I learned I don't want to be tied down. I'm in a relationship and miserable.

I don't want to sleep around, but I want to flirt a lot if I can.

I have always gone clubbing, but strictly for music.

I used to go clubbing damn near every night the club was open. If I got some dick that night, fine, but if I didn't, that was fine also because the music was great and I still had a good time anyway so the night and the money I spent clubbing wasn't wasted.

However, now that the music is horrible these days, I only go clubbing when I'm just absolutely dying for some dick and if I don't find any, the night and the money I spent clubbing has been wasted because I sure as hell didn't have a good time because of the shitty music that was played. I rarely go clubbing any more for that very reason.

Hell, I've got plenty of good music at home and if I have friends over, I try to seduce their friends that they bring over with them. That's where I get most of my dick these days.

vainandy said:

alphastreet said:

I learned I don't want to be tied down. I'm in a relationship and miserable.

I don't want to sleep around, but I want to flirt a lot if I can.

I have always gone clubbing, but strictly for music.

I used to go clubbing damn near every night the club was open. If I got some dick that night, fine, but if I didn't, that was fine also because the music was great and I still had a good time anyway so the night and the money I spent clubbing wasn't wasted.

However, now that the music is horrible these days, I only go clubbing when I'm just absolutely dying for some dick and if I don't find any, the night and the money I spent clubbing has been wasted because I sure as hell didn't have a good time because of the shitty music that was played. I rarely go clubbing any more for that very reason.

Hell, I've got plenty of good music at home and if I have friends over, I try to seduce their friends that they bring over with them. That's where I get most of my dick these days.

I prefer jams where they play 80's & 90's, can't find 70's jams...and I like jams that have theme nights for artists I love, like mj jams. I'm not into clubbing that much anymore though. I prefer talking to people.

alphastreet said:

vainandy said:

I used to go clubbing damn near every night the club was open. If I got some dick that night, fine, but if I didn't, that was fine also because the music was great and I still had a good time anyway so the night and the money I spent clubbing wasn't wasted.

However, now that the music is horrible these days, I only go clubbing when I'm just absolutely dying for some dick and if I don't find any, the night and the money I spent clubbing has been wasted because I sure as hell didn't have a good time because of the shitty music that was played. I rarely go clubbing any more for that very reason.

Hell, I've got plenty of good music at home and if I have friends over, I try to seduce their friends that they bring over with them. That's where I get most of my dick these days.

I prefer jams where they play 80's & 90's, can't find 70's jams...and I like jams that have theme nights for artists I love, like mj jams. I'm not into clubbing that much anymore though. I prefer talking to people.

Some straight clubs have theme nights but I'm gay and those clubs in my area don't have theme nights. When they do, it's always something to do with drag, which I DON'T do.

I NEVER went to to the clubs to pick up people...EWW. I just went to dance my ass off, and decompress, so "clubbing" IMO shouldn't be an activity that your partner should forbid you to do.

You do meet people, but if I went with my friends, I left with the same friends, clubbing was not a means to get sex for me. I stayed away from creeps that looked for ass in the clubs. DRAMA.

So yes, get your dance on and have fun... sex should not be the reason for going anyway.

shootindabreeze said:

You are 20..... even if you were in a relationship my advice would be to get out there...you are 20!!!!! What are you still reading this for.....get going..!