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am i org black listed??????

COOL

I think everybody's off having dinner. They'll be back around soon.

In the meantime, sorry! But congrats on not drinking and on getting the paint and canvas! Good luck!

join a 12 step program, you need it for the support it offers.

kudo's for taking the first step.

get a really good attorney.

Efan said:

I think everybody's off having dinner. They'll be back around soon.

In the meantime, sorry! But congrats on not drinking and on getting the paint and canvas! Good luck!

thank you Efan

i could easily b black listed cause i had been posting drunk for many months...... and i did say lots of crazy shit.... funny but still

BlackAdder7 said:

join a 12 step program, you need it for the support it offers.

kudo's for taking the first step.

get a really good attorney.

what is a 12 step program???? what does it entail????

my Brother has recommended one i am going next week.... i may need to sell my shoes tho

physco185 said:

BlackAdder7 said:

join a 12 step program, you need it for the support it offers.

kudo's for taking the first step.

get a really good attorney.

what is a 12 step program???? what does it entail????

my Brother has recommended one i am going next week.... i may need to sell my shoes tho

http://www.alcoholicsanonymous.com

BlackAdder7 said:

physco185 said:

what is a 12 step program???? what does it entail????

my Brother has recommended one i am going next week.... i may need to sell my shoes tho

http://www.alcoholicsanonymous.com

i like to do things on my own................ dont u realize that yet!!!!

but thanks anyway

physco185 said:

BlackAdder7 said:

http://www.alcoholicsanonymous.com

i like to do things on my own................ dont u realize that yet!!!!

but thanks anyway

thanks, you wasted three minutes of my life that i'll never get back. good luck with that. :talktothehand:

BlackAdder7 said:

physco185 said:

i like to do things on my own................ dont u realize that yet!!!!

but thanks anyway

thanks, you wasted three minutes of my life that i'll never get back. good luck with that. :talktothehand:

i dont see how it was wasted when u got to check out my legs

Ejoy the new path and take time to smell the roses again.... keep the kids close to you and I think the kids will be relatively happy as long as their parents are happy IMHO.

I don't think kids want parents together if they just will be miserable and argue with eachother.

You will have an easier recipe for well adjusted kids if you stay happy and balanced and train them up with a level head.

paintedlady said:

Ejoy the new path and take time to smell the roses again.... keep the kids close to you and I think the kids will be relatively happy as long as their parents are happy IMHO.

I don't think kids want parents together if they just will be miserable and argue with eachother.

You will have an easier recipe for well adjusted kids if you stay happy and balanced and train them up with a level head.

Thank you.... your r such a wise person, really u r

He will never change. He wants to be nice to get you back then it will be nice for a day or a week and then it will start over.

Seek counselling for you. Start a new chapter in your life. Love those wonderful kids of yours.

physco185 said:

paintedlady said:

Ejoy the new path and take time to smell the roses again.... keep the kids close to you and I think the kids will be relatively happy as long as their parents are happy IMHO.

I don't think kids want parents together if they just will be miserable and argue with eachother.

You will have an easier recipe for well adjusted kids if you stay happy and balanced and train them up with a level head.

Thank you.... your r such a wise person, really u r

YW... Oh and you don't have to be his "friend" .... just being polite is enough.

You can be his friend AFTER the divorce and its less chaotic... right now you need to keep it all business until everyone is adjusted to the new lifestyle (s).

He may be resentful anyways with any new financial/lifestyle obligations that go with divorce.

All you have to do is present a united front to the kiddies with discipline so the kids will not play you two against the other.

"But daddy said we could!!"

"No... daddy and I spoke already and he said 'no' also."

Hopefully the parenting teamship will not end because of the divorce. That's sometimes the trickiest part.

I'm not so wise... just beaten down and taught well by my realities. I gotta real soft ass now.

Everyone likes to do things their own way, but did doing things your own way put you in this situation?

I don't know your story, but I do know recovery. It is up to you. It is about the choices you make and personal accountability. The 12-Step program has worked for millions, but does not works for everyone. One of the best sayings they have is "Take what you want and leave the rest." Take a look at their program, so much of it is valid and helpful.

But, in the end it's your life. Best of luck to you. :f:

And I like your shoes...nice legs to.

luv4u said:

He will never change. He wants to be nice to get you back then it will be nice for a day or a week and then it will start over.

Seek counselling for you. Start a new chapter in your life. Love those wonderful kids of yours.

Thanks

and yes.... i know his game.... he has zero chance of returning home!

and there is councelling for me and the kids... cause they are hurting and it is the hardest thing to see.... after all he is their dad

paintedlady said:

physco185 said:

Thank you.... your r such a wise person, really u r

YW... Oh and you don't have to be his "friend" .... just being polite is enough.

You can be his friend AFTER the divorce and its less chaotic... right now you need to keep it all business until everyone is adjusted to the new lifestyle (s).

He may be resentful anyways with any new financial/lifestyle obligations that go with divorce.

All you have to do is present a united front to the kiddies with discipline so the kids will not play you two against the other.

"But daddy said we could!!"

"No... daddy and I spoke already and he said 'no' also."

Hopefully the parenting teamship will not end because of the divorce. That's sometimes the trickiest part.

I'm not so wise... just beaten down and taught well by my realities. I gotta real soft ass now.

if u ever write an autobiography i want a signed copy

Nothinbutjoy said:

Everyone likes to do things their own way, but did doing things your own way put you in this situation? I don't know your story, but I do know recovery. It is up to you. It is about the choices you make and personal accountability. The 12-Step program has worked for millions, but does not works for everyone. One of the best sayings they have is "Take what you want and leave the rest." Take a look at their program, so much of it is valid and helpful. But, in the end it's your life. Best of luck to you. And I like your shoes...nice legs to.

so many smart ppl here... i'll look at the site and read up on it b4 i diss it

thanks guys

Just how much were you drinking? Serious question. I had a friend who would polish off a 6-pack of Bacardi breezers each night and complained she was turning into an alcoholic. I was astonished, in my book she already was one (her mother died of liver cancer )

ZombieKitten said:

Just how much were you drinking? Serious question. I had a friend who would polish off a 6-pack of Bacardi breezers each night and complained she was turning into an alcoholic. I was astonished, in my book she already was one (her mother died of liver cancer )

i really dont know how much i drank... i just poured it in from the bottle

some nights just a couple , because it helped me sleep

other nights way too much

And yes it does help with sleep but it also makes one feel extremely sad, depressed and lonely......

when my husband left i threw every thing out

.... i knew i had a drinking problem because the man in the liquor shop knew me by my first name