No. He's gonna see the shoes eventually, anyway.

Genesia said:

No. He's gonna see the shoes eventually, anyway.

And he can't miss the new haircut... I hope.

Actively "hide" a purchase No there is no need to hid anything I purchase from my partner unless it's a gift FOR him ... then I "hide: the item but not the $amount when it comes in/due or whatever ~ I have honestly zero need ... I have and make my own $ ... plenty enough as does he

Yeah it's just something we don't do

sextonseven said:

I read an article about this recently and found it interesting.

Have you ever bought something for yourself (or even for the kids) and hidden the receipt from your partner?

Has your partner ever hidden a purchase from you and you found out about it later?

I won't ask if you have any secret bank accounts.

How big a deal is financial infidelity to you?

Oh ... and we both have "together" accounts and seperate accounts ~ I also have $$ in different states ~ banks and properity/ bonds / stocks whatnot ~ NO secret though

Financial infidelity could rub me the wrong way ~ easily but I have no worries about that !

I've never been married, so this doesn't really pertain to me, but if I were...

No. I think big-ticket items should be discussed, especially if the money is in a joint account. I would also think that each partner would be responsible for his/her own clothing/grooming expenses, which doesn't include a car or a boat as an "accessory."

Not huge purchases, but I am sure every couple has certain undeclared purchases such as porn, strippers, meals, clothes, salon trips.

Those things don't have to be deceptive, but those little things add up and I am pretty sure most couples have lots of them during the course of a year.

sextonseven said:

TD3 said:

Well that's true but you can't hide a car or boat can you? Big ticket items, we've always discussed prior to purchase . . . but those purchases have to go through me anyways. As far as a partner not knowing your finanical situation in detail, that seems silly if not down right foolish to me. That's me. . . . . .

How about hiding clothing or electronic items? Or more specifically, how much you paid for them?

Oh, that? I got that on SALE. 75% off!

Nah.

This is how I / we see it, everyone has one, two, or maybe three things they're passionate about - antiques, cars, motorcycle, clothes, electronic gadgets, first edition books, shoes . . whatever. We give each other a lot of latitude to indulge those interest, the only issue we've had about money he's really not a good comparison shopper on somethings.

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my typing isn't all that hot either

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No. We always run any significant purchases by each other. Only buys I've kept from my wife were surprise presents, like a Radley handbag when she knew she was getting some small prezzies (which I put inside), but not a handbag.

I blew $2500 on a weekend in Vegas with the boys.

It was all on my Amex card so I changd the billing address to send the bill to my work.

Problem was that I forgot my wife doesnt even look at the bills...she pays everything online.

About a month later we went to a baseball game. Picking up the tickets at will call she says "You should have put them on you Amex instead."

I said "Oh yeah, huh."

Buying goodies at the concession stand and she goes "Put it on your Amex." I mumbled something and said "Nah I have cash."

When she suggested I put the gas for the ride home on the Amex I finally accepted that I was up shit creek. I looked at her and smiled and the tongue lashing began.

"Dont try to be cute you fucker! Interest rates, blah blah blah! How long were you going to keep this from me? Blah blah blah. How am I supposed to trust you? Blah blah blah. You are never going anywhere without me. Blah blah blah."

That hour and a half drive from LA to San Diego felt like it took a week!

StonedImmaculate said:

I blew $2500 on a weekend in Vegas with the boys.

It was all on my Amex card so I changd the billing address to send the bill to my work.

Problem was that I forgot my wife doesnt even look at the bills...she pays everything online.

About a month later we went to a baseball game. Picking up the tickets at will call she says "You should have put them on you Amex instead."

I said "Oh yeah, huh."

Buying goodies at the concession stand and she goes "Put it on your Amex." I mumbled something and said "Nah I have cash."

When she suggested I put the gas for the ride home on the Amex I finally accepted that I was up shit creek. I looked at her and smiled and the tongue lashing began.

"Dont try to be cute you fucker! Interest rates, blah blah blah! How long were you going to keep this from me? Blah blah blah. How am I supposed to trust you? Blah blah blah. You are never going anywhere without me. Blah blah blah."

That hour and a half drive from LA to San Diego felt like it took a week!

I never committed finacial infidelity, but I was a "victim" to it.

I had a live in boyfriend (huge mistake #1)

He neglected to tell me he had a child in a previous relationship, he never seen his daughter or spoke of her.

We were saving up to move into a larger place, he begged me to have his child and I allowed myself to get pregnant by him (massive mistake #2, even though I adore my kids)

so he was in arrears for neglecting to pay his child support... he owed more than 3,000.00.

So I'm locked in a relationship with a babydaddy that can't pay bills because he had to deal with repayments of overdue support payments.

He was also a hoarder... he would buy more shit and store it in the basement. He never stopped spending money even after having a lean on his accounts. He hid all kinds of stuff, even an inflatable boat, oars and life jackets (4 of them) among other loads of useless crap.

Yeah, I am glad I am sooo rid of him.

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you people are some deceitful fuckers.

I can't hide my spending. He does our budgets. I have to be totally transparent. Otherwise I'll be in deep doo doo. Financial doo doo. I've admitted that i'm shit with money and he helps. A LOT! My personal Suze Orman.

KatSkrizzle said:

I can't hide my spending. He does our budgets. I have to be totally transparent. Otherwise I'll be in deep doo doo. Financial doo doo. I've admitted that i'm shit with money and he helps. A LOT! My personal Suze Orman.

Aw, me too.

I mean, him too.

Us too.

I wish I could participate more on this thread, but alas I am a complete tightarse

When I got engaged, my fiance thought that it was suddenly his responsibility to manage my money. He wanted me to hand over my paycheck, and he'd "put me on a budget".

Anyone who has followed my posts on here knows about my "shoe habit"... I started hiding those suckers in my trunk!

He also told me that the Musicology tour was a "waste of money" and said I couldn't go.

But then one day he was playing his brand new $800. flugelhorn!

Plus, he was paying child support to 2 different women, and wouldn't tell me how much.

I was so DONE with that crap!

I haven't been in a serious relationship since, but in the next one there won't be any question: There will be no hiding. It is MY money that I dealt with other people's kids for.

PunkMistress said:

KatSkrizzle said:

PunkMistress said:

Aw, me too.

I mean, him too.

Us too.

I know!! He is wonderful! These guys just earned extra head or something for it! I'm sure jersey agrees, as mine would too!!

chocolate1 said:

When I got engaged, my fiance thought that it was suddenly his responsibility to manage my money. He wanted me to hand over my paycheck, and he'd "put me on a budget".

Anyone who has followed my posts on here knows about my "shoe habit"... I started hiding those suckers in my trunk!

He also told me that the Musicology tour was a "waste of money" and said I couldn't go.

But then one day he was playing his brand new $800. flugelhorn!

Plus, he was paying child support to 2 different women, and wouldn't tell me how much.

I was so DONE with that crap!

I haven't been in a serious relationship since, but in the next one there won't be any question: There will be no hiding. It is MY money that I dealt with other people's kids for.

Agreed. Open and honest is the best policy. I can understand a lie if your spending your money on lines of cocaine. (Although, I would not support the person and their drug habit.)

You keep buying shoes, just be extra picky ('Cause you have a lot). I have a lot of clothes and practice an extra picky policy, so, I wont buy as much. (For those who don't already know, I always dress 2 the 9's.) I will be going to the forthcoming Cali concert(s) (yet to be announced). Perhaps, I will see some of you there.

StonedImmaculate said:

I blew $2500 on a weekend in Vegas with the boys.

It was all on my Amex card so I changd the billing address to send the bill to my work.

Problem was that I forgot my wife doesnt even look at the bills...she pays everything online.

About a month later we went to a baseball game. Picking up the tickets at will call she says "You should have put them on you Amex instead."

I said "Oh yeah, huh."

Buying goodies at the concession stand and she goes "Put it on your Amex." I mumbled something and said "Nah I have cash."

When she suggested I put the gas for the ride home on the Amex I finally accepted that I was up shit creek. I looked at her and smiled and the tongue lashing began.

"Dont try to be cute you fucker! Interest rates, blah blah blah! How long were you going to keep this from me? Blah blah blah. How am I supposed to trust you? Blah blah blah. You are never going anywhere without me. Blah blah blah."

That hour and a half drive from LA to San Diego felt like it took a week!

Yeah, a couple of times. But nothing major. Only after getting the 'Go easy on spending, our/your account is getting low' chat. It's sod's law that I find something awesome I have to buy after getting told that, so there may have been a couple of times when i've just brought it and then hidden it for a month or 2. (the key to this is drawing out cash to pay for it so it doesn't show up on bank statement). But only small purchases... I wouldn't go and blow hundreds and keep it from him.

I know that the 'Go easy on spending' chat comes when the account is still ok-ish. I would know if the account/s really were getting low and, of course, I wouldn't buy anything non-essential if that were the case.

I have a friend who went to 3 of the NYC Prince concerts- he lives in another state. His wife knew he went to ONE in December, but he failed to mention the others.

Because of all the publicity Kim Kardashian got from the last show, his wife was alerted that there was another show. She asked about whether or not he was there. He called me and told me that "the story" was that I had an extra ticket, and since he "happened to be in town", I gave it to him.

NDRU said:

Not huge purchases, but I am sure every couple has certain undeclared purchases such as porn, fleshlights, strippers, meals, clothes, salon trips.

Those things don't have to be deceptive, but those little things add up and I am pretty sure most couples have lots of them during the course of a year.

are you speaking from personal experience then?

chocolate1 said:

I have a friend who went to 3 of the NYC Prince concerts- he lives in another state. His wife knew he went to ONE in December, but he failed to mention the others.

Because of all the publicity Kim Kardashian got from the last show, his wife was alerted that there was another show. She asked about whether or not he was there. He called me and told me that "the story" was that I had an extra ticket, and since he "happened to be in town", I gave it to him.

Coincidentally, the same news channel that ran the financial infidelity segment (NY1) ran another video about couples' finances and they interviewed a local couple that disagreed about how many times the husband should see Prince. He wanted to go three times, but the wife said paying to see him twice was enough.

edit: I found the video: http://www.ny1.com/conten...matrimony/

[Edited 2/15/11 8:39am]

sextonseven said:

chocolate1 said:

I have a friend who went to 3 of the NYC Prince concerts- he lives in another state. His wife knew he went to ONE in December, but he failed to mention the others.

Because of all the publicity Kim Kardashian got from the last show, his wife was alerted that there was another show. She asked about whether or not he was there. He called me and told me that "the story" was that I had an extra ticket, and since he "happened to be in town", I gave it to him.

Coincidentally, the same news channel that ran the financial infidelity segment (NY1) ran another video about couples' finances and they interviewed a local couple that disagreed about how many times the husband should see Prince. He wanted to go three times, but the wife said paying to see him twice was enough.

edit: I found the video: http://www.ny1.com/conten...matrimony/

[Edited 2/15/11 8:39am]

OMG I guess was lucky that my ex was a Prince fan too and we always travelled together for numerous Prince shows back in the day . And my boyfriend doesn't like Prince or any other of my favourite artists, but is always very happy when I plan to go to any concert as he knows it makes me happy.

I just watched the video. It's really funy that these Prince concerts are used as an example there .

sextonseven said:

chocolate1 said:

I have a friend who went to 3 of the NYC Prince concerts- he lives in another state. His wife knew he went to ONE in December, but he failed to mention the others.

Because of all the publicity Kim Kardashian got from the last show, his wife was alerted that there was another show. She asked about whether or not he was there. He called me and told me that "the story" was that I had an extra ticket, and since he "happened to be in town", I gave it to him.

Coincidentally, the same news channel that ran the financial infidelity segment (NY1) ran another video about couples' finances and they interviewed a local couple that disagreed about how many times the husband should see Prince. He wanted to go three times, but the wife said paying to see him twice was enough.

edit: I found the video: http://www.ny1.com/conten...matrimony/

[Edited 2/15/11 8:39am]

jennifer grosse needs a make-over..Kah KaW!

Serious said:

sextonseven said:

Coincidentally, the same news channel that ran the financial infidelity segment (NY1) ran another video about couples' finances and they interviewed a local couple that disagreed about how many times the husband should see Prince. He wanted to go three times, but the wife said paying to see him twice was enough.

edit: I found the video: http://www.ny1.com/conten...matrimony/

[Edited 2/15/11 8:39am]

OMG I guess was lucky that my ex was a Prince fan too and we always travelled together for numerous Prince shows back in the day . And my boyfriend doesn't like Prince or any other of my favourite artists, but is always very happy when I plan to go to any concert as he knows it makes me happy.

the master knows there isn't anything he could do to stop me if I wanted to see three shows - he can count himself lucky it only happens once a decade at most and he only does 2 shows MAX in my town.

chocolate1 said:

When I got engaged, my fiance thought that it was suddenly his responsibility to manage my money. He wanted me to hand over my paycheck, and he'd "put me on a budget".

Anyone who has followed my posts on here knows about my "shoe habit"... I started hiding those suckers in my trunk!

He also told me that the Musicology tour was a "waste of money" and said I couldn't go.

But then one day he was playing his brand new $800. flugelhorn!

Plus, he was paying child support to 2 different women, and wouldn't tell me how much.

I was so DONE with that crap!

I haven't been in a serious relationship since, but in the next one there won't be any question: There will be no hiding. It is MY money that I dealt with other people's kids for.

I'm glad I didn't know you when you were engaged to this asshole. I would have kicked YOUR ass!

Shyra said:

chocolate1 said:

When I got engaged, my fiance thought that it was suddenly his responsibility to manage my money. He wanted me to hand over my paycheck, and he'd "put me on a budget".

Anyone who has followed my posts on here knows about my "shoe habit"... I started hiding those suckers in my trunk!

He also told me that the Musicology tour was a "waste of money" and said I couldn't go.

But then one day he was playing his brand new $800. flugelhorn!

Plus, he was paying child support to 2 different women, and wouldn't tell me how much.

I was so DONE with that crap!

I haven't been in a serious relationship since, but in the next one there won't be any question: There will be no hiding. It is MY money that I dealt with other people's kids for.

I'm glad I didn't know you when you were engaged to this asshole. I would have kicked YOUR ass!

Girl, sometime sI think about it and want to kick MY OWN ass!