All the happy single folks post here!

I guess my post from the other thread makes more sense here.

I've been single far many more years of my life than coupled and I grew to be perfectly happy, single and alone. And I assumed I’d be that way the rest of my life. Sure, it got lonely on occasion, but you can feel that way no matter how many people are around.

Now I’m perfectly happy with a wonderful man. If something happens and it doesn’t work out, I’ll be sad to lose him (devastated, frankly, at this stage of things), but I’m glad I know I can be happy on my own as well.

I'm tired of being lonely but it sure as hell beats putting up with a no good ass man. I just wish I had some dick whenever I want it. But then again, if I wasn't single, I'd be wanting a different dick than the one I've got because having the same dick over and over is like watching the same porn flick over and over. I would want something different every night.

vainandy said:

I'm tired of being lonely but it sure as hell beats putting up with a no good ass man. I just wish I had some dick whenever I want it. But then again, if I wasn't single, I'd be wanting a different dick than the one I've got because having the same dick over and over is like watching the same porn flick over and over. I would want something different every night.

I guess women are different because I cannot get enough of the same dick over and over .

Serious said:

vainandy said:

I'm tired of being lonely but it sure as hell beats putting up with a no good ass man. I just wish I had some dick whenever I want it. But then again, if I wasn't single, I'd be wanting a different dick than the one I've got because having the same dick over and over is like watching the same porn flick over and over. I would want something different every night.

I guess women are different because I cannot get enough of the same dick over and over .

Especially if he's got that hammer

nursev said:

Serious said:

I guess women are different because I cannot get enough of the same dick over and over .

Especially if he's got that hammer

I miss sex with my boyfriend !

Serious said:

vainandy said:

I'm tired of being lonely but it sure as hell beats putting up with a no good ass man. I just wish I had some dick whenever I want it. But then again, if I wasn't single, I'd be wanting a different dick than the one I've got because having the same dick over and over is like watching the same porn flick over and over. I would want something different every night.

I guess women are different because I cannot get enough of the same dick over and over .

The only reason I would want a dick that I've already had before is if I couldn't find a new dick for the evening. It's always fun to have a new dick with the old dick at the same time though. Or maybe even two new dicks with the old dick. Or maybe even three, four, five.....

I'm not happy being single but I'm content being single if that makes sense.

vainandy said:

Serious said:

I guess women are different because I cannot get enough of the same dick over and over .

The only reason I would want a dick that I've already had before is if I couldn't find a new dick for the evening. It's always fun to have a new dick with the old dick at the same time though. Or maybe even two new dicks with the old dick. Or maybe even three, four, five.....

The dick I get is making me pefectly happy, why should I bother to look for a new one? And my boyfriend is the hottest man on earth for me anyway.

I never think twice about it in my "real life". And every time I visit the Org I'm made FULLY aware of why I've chosen this path.

Cerebus said:

I'm happy being single. Guess I'm one of the unusual ones who feels that I don't need a man to be happy.

I am single AND happy... And I'm not scared of loneliness, I'm rather a loner. Too many hobbies to focus on (music, dancing, drawing, partying). Ther's no place for a "love mate" in my life anyway.

Single for almost 2 years now and still enjoying every minute of it

I'm single and happy. There's so much more to life than being some dude's ready made ho/housekeeper. Hah!

Truth be told...I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please, have sex when I want and with whom I want without worrying about getting "caught", not be responsible for anybody else's feelings/needs/wants, and leave the kitchen a damn mess just cuz I can.

HotGritz said:

I'm single and happy. There's so much more to life than being some dude's ready made ho/housekeeper. Hah!

Truth be told...I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please, have sex when I want and with whom I want without worrying about getting "caught", not be responsible for anybody else's feelings/needs/wants, and leave the kitchen a damn mess just cuz I can.

A-freakin-men!

HotGritz said:

I'm single and happy. There's so much more to life than being some dude's ready made ho/housekeeper. Hah!

Truth be told...I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please, have sex when I want and with whom I want without worrying about getting "caught", not be responsible for anybody else's feelings/needs/wants, and leave the kitchen a damn mess just cuz I can.

HotGritz said:

I'm single and happy. There's so much more to life than being some dude's ready made ho/housekeeper. Hah!

Truth be told...I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please, have sex when I want and with whom I want without worrying about getting "caught", not be responsible for anybody else's feelings/needs/wants, and leave the kitchen a damn mess just cuz I can.

I've never understood the big deal about these things.

I have all of this "freedom" and am in a relationship too. Neither one of us is a ho or housekeeper. I can have sex with whoever I want (being that I only want to have sex with my man). We're not responsible for each other's feelings, though we do keep them in mind (but I'm a compassionate person whether you're my friend, family or otherwise, so that's really nothing). I can cover my own wants and needs, but it sure is nice when he offers to help out. And I like to help him out too.

Are most people's relationships that bad? Why aren't more people single, then?

I had a really good time being single. A really really good time

But right now I have never been happier in my life, and I'm not single anymore. I think it just takes meeting the right person. Some never will, and in that case...stay single. I'm a lucky one.

CarrieMpls said:

HotGritz said:

I'm single and happy. There's so much more to life than being some dude's ready made ho/housekeeper. Hah!

Truth be told...I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please, have sex when I want and with whom I want without worrying about getting "caught", not be responsible for anybody else's feelings/needs/wants, and leave the kitchen a damn mess just cuz I can.

I've never understood the big deal about these things.

I have all of this "freedom" and am in a relationship too. Neither one of us is a ho or housekeeper. I can have sex with whoever I want (being that I only want to have sex with my man). We're not responsible for each other's feelings, though we do keep them in mind (but I'm a compassionate person whether you're my friend, family or otherwise, so that's really nothing). I can cover my own wants and needs, but it sure is nice when he offers to help out. And I like to help him out too.

Are most people's relationships that bad? Why aren't more people single, then?

Just because someone lives with you and has mail coming to your address doesn't mean you aren't single. Lots of folk are coupled and caged and don't know it. Not saying you...but not everyone is living in your kind of paradise. It's great that you have your financial and physical freedom and are with the person you want to be with but unfortunately there are a lot of couples out there who are physically with a person but emotionally detached from them.

People in these kinds of relationships aren't single probably because there's a lot of fear about it. I have married, somewhat miserable, friends who stay in their relationships because of the kids, the finances and the fear of competition (competing with other single people in dating).

Wait...aren't you unmarried with no babies? That might explain why you are still in bliss.

CarrieMpls said:

HotGritz said:

I'm single and happy. There's so much more to life than being some dude's ready made ho/housekeeper. Hah!

Truth be told...I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please, have sex when I want and with whom I want without worrying about getting "caught", not be responsible for anybody else's feelings/needs/wants, and leave the kitchen a damn mess just cuz I can.

I've never understood the big deal about these things.

I have all of this "freedom" and am in a relationship too. Neither one of us is a ho or housekeeper. I can have sex with whoever I want (being that I only want to have sex with my man). We're not responsible for each other's feelings, though we do keep them in mind (but I'm a compassionate person whether you're my friend, family or otherwise, so that's really nothing). I can cover my own wants and needs, but it sure is nice when he offers to help out. And I like to help him out too.

Are most people's relationships that bad? Why aren't more people single, then?

Bad? I don't know about that. Unnecessarily complicated and dramatic? Yes, I think they are. Which usually leads to the game playing and half-truths (or just straight lies), and that leads to one or both people being unhappy, which is what makes them seem "bad".

Cerebus said:

CarrieMpls said:

I've never understood the big deal about these things.

I have all of this "freedom" and am in a relationship too. Neither one of us is a ho or housekeeper. I can have sex with whoever I want (being that I only want to have sex with my man). We're not responsible for each other's feelings, though we do keep them in mind (but I'm a compassionate person whether you're my friend, family or otherwise, so that's really nothing). I can cover my own wants and needs, but it sure is nice when he offers to help out. And I like to help him out too.

Are most people's relationships that bad? Why aren't more people single, then?

Bad? I don't know about that. Unnecessarily complicated and dramatic? Yes, I think they are. Which usually leads to the game playing and half-truths (or just straight lies), and that leads to one or both people being unhappy, which is what makes them seem "bad".

Yep!

FIVE WAYS LOVE DOES THE BODY BAD

On Valentine's Day, the sight of couples holding hands and exchanging kisses might unleash a wave of jealousy in those who are single.

However, there might not be much to be jealous about. Relationships can be fraught with sadness, anger, confusion and stress. Here are five examples of how relationships — especially strained ones — can be bad for your health.

Increased risks of coronary heart disease
A stressful relationship or marriage can leave you vulnerable and heartbroken — literally. According to a 2000 study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association, women who reported moderate to severe marital strain were 2.9 times more likely to need heart surgery, suffer heart attacks or die of heart disease than women without marital stress. This finding held even when researchers adjusted for other factors such as age, smoking habits, diabetes, blood pressure and "bad" cholesterol levels.

And unmarried women living with their sweeties who were in severely stressful relationships also had a higher risk of heart problems, the study showed.

These results were echoed by another study published in the American Journal of Cardiology in 2006, which showed that marital quality and social support are especially important in the development and management of chronic diseases such as congestive heart failure. The study found that patients with the most severe heart disease and poorest marriages had the highest risk of dying over a four-year period. The four-year survival rate of those with severe heart disease and poor marriages was 42 percent, compared with 78 percent among patients with milder heart disease and good marriages.

Poor mental health
Although studies have shown that a steady, committed relationship is...tal health, a difficult and strained relationship — perhaps unsurprisingly — has the opposite effect. Negative behaviors, such as hostility and criticism, during conflict in relationships have been linked to negative impacts on mental health. In fact, according to a 2003 article in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, single people tend to have better mental health than those who remain in a tumultuous relationship.

And going through too many breakups might be worse for your health than staying single. A British study published in 2004 in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health found that living through multiple partnership transitions, such as divorces and separations, adversely affected women's mental health. The researchers studied 2,127 men and 2,303 women, and found that women who went through several such breakups tended to have worse mental health than women who remained single all their lives.

Negative effects on overall health
Not only can an unhappy marriage can drag down your spirits, it can drag down your health too. Studies have shown that ill-effects of marital stress for women are on par with more traditional health risk factors, such as physical inactivity and smoking.

Women who experienced more conflicts and disagreements in their relationships also had a higher risk of high blood pressure, abdominal obesity, high blood sugar, high triglycerides and low levels of "good" high-density lipoprotein cholesterol, according to a study of 276 couples presented in the 2009 American Psychosomatic Society's annual meeting. The study also found the wives to be more affected than the husbands.

Marital conflict also has been linked to immune system disruptions. According to a 1993 article in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine, newlywed couples involved in a 30-minute heated discussion of marital problems tended to have relatively poorer immunological responses, unlike couples engaged in positive or problem-solving behaviors.

Heaping stress upon stress
Marital distress can be a chronic stressor. According to a 2003 review in the journal Physiology and Behavior, distressed marriages are a major source of stress for couples. In fact, unhappily married people are generally are worse off in their well-being than unmarried people, the study found.

And marital stress can spill over into the workplace too. According to a 2005 article in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine, domestic strain can influence how well people function over the workday, away from home. The researchers measured the blood pressure and levels of the stress hormone cortisol of 105 middle-age men and women, and compared them to the self-reported stress levels.

They found that those with more marital concerns reported greater stress throughout the day, had higher blood pressure in the middle of the workday and higher morning cortisol levels. These factors can, over time, combine to increase the risk of obesity, diabetes, depression, heart attack and stroke, the study said.

Slower disease recovery
Relationship conflict and distress are associated with poorer physical health in terms of the severity of disease symptoms and degree of recovery.

Marital distress was associated with worse recovery trajectory for breast cancer survivors, according to a 2009 study published in the journal Cancer. Patients in a distressed relationship not only had continuously heightened levels of stress, they also eventually showed more impaired functioning compared with those in stable, non-distressed relationships, said the study. In addition, patients dissatisfied with their marriage were also less compliant with medical regimens, such as adhering to healthy dietary habits.

Cerebus said:

CarrieMpls said:

I've never understood the big deal about these things.

I have all of this "freedom" and am in a relationship too. Neither one of us is a ho or housekeeper. I can have sex with whoever I want (being that I only want to have sex with my man). We're not responsible for each other's feelings, though we do keep them in mind (but I'm a compassionate person whether you're my friend, family or otherwise, so that's really nothing). I can cover my own wants and needs, but it sure is nice when he offers to help out. And I like to help him out too.

Are most people's relationships that bad? Why aren't more people single, then?

Bad? I don't know about that. Unnecessarily complicated and dramatic? Yes, I think they are. Which usually leads to the game playing and half-truths (or just straight lies), and that leads to one or both people being unhappy, which is what makes them seem "bad".

Just fuck me already.

i rather b single than b in a fucked up relationship

i dont think i'll b lonely, as i do have loved ones in my life....,.

plus i rather die alone than spend the rest of my life with husband...... he has won the ass hole of the year award consecutively for the past 20 years......

it's just weeks away now and he will b gone 4 ever it's taking long cause he keeps on changing his mind..... all i can do is

i can't wait to start my new life with just me n the kids.... i really hate dramas

one thing 4 sure.... and this i know 100%..... is that i will never get married again...EVER!!!!

[Edited 2/11/11 14:21pm]

physco185 said:

i dont think i'll b lonely, as i do have loved ones in my life....,.

Long as you have good family & friends, you're never lonely.

I agree. I rather be alone than in a fucked up relationship as well. I do not believe all relationships are fucked up but most of those close to me are. I can't think of a single soul who has something I am envious of with probably the exception of Mon and Nick. The way he describes the love he has for her makes me swoon. .

But even Nick is honest enough to admit to the problems they have had. His relationship gives me hope.

Now there are some times when I get lonely. It happens about once a month, like today when I am in a ton of pain and wish someone was here to take care of me. But then I remember how easily distracted I am and I need to finish school and how I refuse to settle for anything less than I deserve. Plus, most days I want to be alone.

I don't think its particularly fair to say people are together because they feel the need to be, or any other such reason for "bashing" relationships. If that works for them, cool.

Being in a relationship or being out of one is nothing to lord over someone else about.

Cerebus said:

CarrieMpls said:

I've never understood the big deal about these things.

I have all of this "freedom" and am in a relationship too. Neither one of us is a ho or housekeeper. I can have sex with whoever I want (being that I only want to have sex with my man). We're not responsible for each other's feelings, though we do keep them in mind (but I'm a compassionate person whether you're my friend, family or otherwise, so that's really nothing). I can cover my own wants and needs, but it sure is nice when he offers to help out. And I like to help him out too.

Are most people's relationships that bad? Why aren't more people single, then?

Bad? I don't know about that. Unnecessarily complicated and dramatic? Yes, I think they are. Which usually leads to the game playing and half-truths (or just straight lies), and that leads to one or both people being unhappy, which is what makes them seem "bad".

Well, if you're saying they all contain game playing, lying and/or half truths and folks are unhappy, I'd just call that "bad". So, in essence, you're saying yes.

CarrieMpls said:

Cerebus said:

Bad? I don't know about that. Unnecessarily complicated and dramatic? Yes, I think they are. Which usually leads to the game playing and half-truths (or just straight lies), and that leads to one or both people being unhappy, which is what makes them seem "bad".

Well, if you're saying they all contain game playing, lying and/or half truths and folks are unhappy, I'd just call that "bad". So, in essence, you're saying yes.

I never said all. I rarely speak in absolutes. You asked, "Are most people's relationships that bad?", and I answered.

I've explained this in other threads before, I think even in one of yours - I don't believe human beings are meant to stay together their entire lives. Very few succeed at doing so and even fewer do so while maintaining their happiness or living a life without regret. Some do, and that's great - I'm not against personal choice or happiness (in fact its exactly what I'm FOR). I'm all for relationships if it's something that you want, something that makes you happy ("you" being general, not you specifically). But when things start to get "bad", or BAD, I think far too many people feel like they've done something wrong, or that they have some sort of responsibility to "work through it" or "fix it". I don't. I think that's the natural course of human relations and at that point it's time to move on.

(Edit: I'll save this part for another time. )

Unfortunately, a great many more relationships (in my experience) are in some sort of "fixing it", "working through it" or "changing things" phase than those that are happy to the point of complete satisfaction.

Vendetta1 said: