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oh boy, can i ever relate to the comments in this thread! let me just say, that up until the time i moved out of my parents house which was in my early 20's. i allowed myself to be too lazy, & let mostly my mom do & control my entire life. it was just easier that way to me. and it was the worst thing i ever did! trust me, you need to move out and get your own life. the day i moved out of my parents house is when i truly became my own person, an adult that could find her own way in life. every adult person has got to learn how to stand on their own 2 feet, hold a job, pay their own bills, have a bank account, etc....if you never do this, you will never really know how good it feels to do something 100% on your own. even when you fail, at least you tried, learned from it, and keep going. | |
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precisely.
i thought this thread was dead? wth? i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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cause that's just how i am. i only talk online. i don't do phones or face to face that well. now you know.
maybe i have aspergers?
i only talk on bthe phone to my day and face to bface even with my close friends i barely make eye contact or say much i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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yeah that's certainly me. miserable and lonely. like house. but house finally got cuddy! i need to find my cuddy. i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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oh thats me for sure. shorty was at my meetup. in person i'm nearly autistic. i've always been like this though.
i took a online test about it and scored much higher then a avg person but not quite borderline autistic. maybe it's just social anxiety? i'm alot better then i used to be though. i will hug ppl now and i can do eyeconract..even if it's only a few seconds...
i just don't get it. i was never sexually abused or beaten or anything like that. i'm just not good around people and lack any kind of social skills... i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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i'm not happy here. i really would want to not live with my mom! between the 2 credit cards,car payment,car insurance and rent i have no money. i got like 600 bux in the bank and 400 is the limit to keep the account open. that's a savings! no checking. i'm like 7-7.5k in debt on my credit cards. i got car payments still till august of 2012!
unemployment won't go past the end of october. that terrible shitty stressful dead end job i was laid off from..i was only making $50 more a week then i am now on unemployment
and don't everyone tell me excuses excuses! me saying i'm totally broke is only stating fact!!
i'm gonna end up drooling in a strait jacket at a mental ward
i'm totally miserable but i would never ever believe in suicide.although i can't say i'd be too disappointed if i found out i had a incureable disease like brain cancer or something...bring it. life needs a reset button and i always felt this poker hand sux and i need new cards. i fold. i give up.i'm sick of all these damn medical problems. i just wanna be happy,married with little kids running around in a nice house,with nice cars, no debt
don't we all want that??
oh to be alittle kid again and be blissfully ignorant i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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i just want a reason to wake up. dreams right now are more exciting. this is more then just a lazy 29 yr old with an enabling mother. this is also about my depression from not having a job, or a boyfriend or my own place like the rest of my friends. they are getting engaged and having babies and i'm not.
not fair.
see now if i had job i'd have medical insurance and be able to take something to not be so miserable to break outta this funk!! it's not just me. my whole family has been in deep depression since my grandfather died in september. my nana was his soulmate. they were togetrher over 60 yrs. she's lost the will the live. my mom's too young to be alone. shes turning 60 in sept and hasn't been dating in 10 yrs. she miserab;e with her job and being stuck with me and my situation....
man life is just shit. i see why ppl will get addicted to drugs and booze cause i am an avid watcher of INTERVENTION. dulling the pain away not dealing with it.
i know i need to get off my ass. i'm to depressed to though i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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shit yall got my heartbeat going faster and a lump starting to form in my throat i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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I've always wanted to try WEN, but I didn't want to sign-up for the program. Don't you have to sign-up for a program--like they send you a bottle every month?
Is it really that good?
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Can't believe no one gave you one of these
Here. Have two.
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^ I know she needs that..but more importantly you need to follow the very very good advice your fellow orgers have bestowed onto to you. Like someone said..your mum wont live forever..what then?..You want to be able to be there for her when she needs you like she has been for you all these years. You live in America, you know how many people come to this country looking for the oppourtunites that having a blue passport or being a legal resident gives 'em?.... Anything is possible..You can go to school and you can get a job. You need to find the drive from somewhere to make your desires come true because no amount of advice or well-wishes or "good-lucks" will do it if you dont do for your self.
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no i got mine off ebay i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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aww
me and mom gave up hugging yrs ago. but my dad always hugs me when he comes over and b4 he leaves i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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yeah i never understood why this area is so popular and ppl want to move here? it sux here! i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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Those are already established folk.
When you are not established on your own, nothing outside of a big city really looks too appealing. Not necessarily because you just like big cities, but because there's typically more opportunity there. People who move to the suburbs are looking to take the edge off all that opportunity, so to speak.
People have given you some invaluable advice here. Additionally, I'd like to say that the longer you let it go on being this way, the harder it is to get out of the rut. There is no knight in shining armor, there is no get rich quick, there is none of that. You don't need to go to a tech school if you do not want to do tech. You do not need to do blah blah blah if you don't want to. Chances are, if you aren't interested in something, you will do a half assed job if you ever get the opportunity to prove yourself (which is a miracle in and of itself when you don't WANT to find a job - and you don't, that is evident). However, you must do -something- and there is no question about that.
It is no longer acceptable for you to sit around and wait for your ship to come in, girl. No joke. All seriousness. All prince.org personalities aside, you need to get up off your motherfucking ass and work your shit out there in the real MFing world! The benefits are INNUMERABLE. The experiences are INVALUABLE. The bonds you will make (and break) are IMPERATIVE. This is not an option! You MUST get out and live your life. You are WASTING it at home with your mom. Wasting your life. If all we get is 75, you're ruining half of it! Half of your entire time ALIVE. As in, nothing left when the can is on E.
There ain't enough shampoo in the world to scrub off low self esteem and you can't hide behind those piercings, tattoos, cats, Prince, and diamondique semen jewelry. Only YOU can take that chance to be successful and only you can take the first step towards the rewards people talk about that sound so far away. They aren't far away. They're waiting for you to make ANY positive input - from getting your ass up at 4am when it feels like you're on the summit of a witch's tit, to busting your ass to get a god damn job (don't lie to me and tell me the mcdonald's aint hiring - if someone shits on you for having a job, THEY ARE IDIOTS, take the fucking job!).
One person once wisely told me that when you ain't got a fuckin' job, you make FINDING one your occupation. Oh, it's 6am? Start your ass looking for a job right now. Don't stop until you take a lunch at 11am for an hour and then get your ass back on the damn craigslist, monster, hotjobs, etc and find your ass a job until 3pm and THEN you can start infusing your fig with vanilla or what the hell ever.
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Yeah, people will help you but mostly you have to help yourself.
Ok, now the tough love
You got credit card debt? Stop buying shit.
Car payments/insurance? Sell your car and pay down some debt.
Your friends are getting married and having babies? Be happy for your friends, but know they won't be getting any sleep and will be dealing with shitty nappies for the next 2 years - sounds awesome!
You don't have a boyfriend? - other people won't make you happy.
Your mother's too young to be single and has a miserable job - HELP HER EVERY WAY YOU CAN. This should be your mission in life, the reason you get out of bed - "HOW DO I HELP MY MOTHER?" You need a purpose in life? That's a really, really good one and will make you feel awesome. And helping your mother could quite probably involve getting the fuck away from her and building your own independent life.
Cut your nails. Take your facial piercings out. Sew your tongue back together (ok I'm fucking with you but TRY something different.)
Get off the "I have ADHD, I am depressed" wagon. Fool yourself. Tell yourself you're strong and healthy. It'll feel like a lie but keep doing it anyway.
Family members pass on. It's part of living a life. Life is shit. But life can be awesome too. Just focus on one small step you can handle, you don't have to and won't be able to solve everything all at once. Just start moving in the right direction | |
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^^^
Sound life advice. These are lessons you will take with you to your grave, Mookie. Learn them -now-. | |
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well said i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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Well said mynameisnotsusan..I do hope you are absorbing this seriously and taking it all in Mookie. Let this be the fire lit under your ass to get you moving. | |
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ok i don't understand your logic there. how am i suppossed to go to interviews or get anywhere like the food store,or bank or to a job without a car? i'm in the suburbs. well it's borderline rural too. alot of woods and farms if u go away from rte 33 and rte 130. there aren't local buses around here.
i don't live in nyc. the suburbs to me are where ppl go to have familes or old ppl go to die.
i ould definitely see me living in a city with subways! i hate driving! but cities are expensive
cut my nails,take out my piercings and sew my tongure back together? haha not even if i died in a freak caar accident or something. bury me like this or i'll haunt the surviving family members and their kids and their kids FOREVER!! haha! i so gotta put that in a will. i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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next up in the mookie get off your ass thread is ppl singing me up for what not to wear and how do i look.....
i need my labrets. they satisfy my oral fixation. i chew on the backs nearly nonstop. if i make it to 90 i'm still gonna look like this and my hair will be like grandmama adams i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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For me, personally, moving to a big city was the best move I ever made in my life. It saved me. It was my only salvation! In a big city, you get culture, you get acceptance, you get opportunity! With that good comes the bad (ravenous competition, socially opportunistic people, bums pooping between cars and you have to dodge it whilst drunkenly stumbling back to BART - err, nvm), but the benefits are just so staggering.
Out here in SF, you can rent a room in the heart of the city (or even in Oakland which is equally nice) for less than $600 a month with all your shit included! Amazing. Only that much money and your entire life is cracked open like an oyster waiting for you to dig in.
As far as getting rid of your car, I might part ways with that logic a bit as I think a car is instrumental in your survivability while NOT living in a big city.
As far as your tongue, etc. Girl, I don't even know what to say about the tongue. I have a full sleeve on my left arm and my right arm has almost enough to be considered a sleeve itself. I've had all manner of piercings on every dangly bit on my body and I, too, have done crazy hair colors and all sorts of neat shit. I see the value in all of that. Even the tongue, though it still squicks me out a bit. But yeah, if you are interviewing? Take that shit out and if anyone asks about the tongue, you fell into the ring at an illegal dog fighting event or something. Bygones.
Your company doesn't need to support all of your endeavors outside of work. Employment is at-will. Note that the discussion is not whether you should be allowed to keep a job or whether you should be allowed to keep your body mods, the question is whether you are committed enough to success that superficial things like piercings and Elvira accessories pale in comparison.
It's inconceivable that you would value yourself so little that mere jewelry is worth more than your prosperity. That person who stopped and gave you a hug was right, you need one. You need two, three, you need as much as you can handle because you gotta realize that you are loved and you are viable and that you are worth the effort. Be truly fearless and venture out into the world using all of the stamina and energy you have built up after years of being held down by a well-meaning but woefully detrimental mother. Break free from the bonds that keep you from being the best person you can absolutely be.
All these little details and minutiae! ADDs, ADHDs, OCDs, If U Seek Amys, etc. Excuses! Details! Meaningless confetti, let it fall off around you and focus on what the task at hand is.
Make Monday your first step. Make it a small step, start with small steps! Show yourself that success is easy and you will succeed many times along the path! You will trip and fall and feel like shit sometimes, too! Sometimes people will trip you on purpose! Fuck them and fuck that. Value yourself, your survival, your sustenance more than any material good. Don't ever use your piercings as a bargaining chip for your survival! You are worth more than that. | |
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my parents didn't even notice my tongue for 2 yrs i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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What in mother dixie inspired you to get that done, anyway? | |
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lizardman on ripley's believe it or not. bmezine.com i found alot of intersting ways to pierce your body from that site
but yes even i have limits. no i ain't getting facial tattoos,or on neck or butt. i'm not into scarification either.
you know i can use my looks to my advantage. i always thought i lost my calling in joining a circus or a sideshow. i was in awe at the one i seen in vegas. i seen the sideshow at ozzfest and at the philly tattoo convention. now that would be super fun!! oh yeah i did see lizardman host the jaigermeister tour one year........ i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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my mom tells me preschool teacher's were concerned saying i colored most with just black crayons...some ppl were just born strange. it was a friday the 13th BTW i don't wear a cross?!!? i wear a prince symbol I When Prince's cum dries, diamonds are formed. no one tops prince in concert! | |
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I noticed that too. She was practically mute especially in the beginning at that gyro place. Then again so was I. Takes me a minute to warm up. Or you could just play/start singing Mountains and melt like BUTTA!
Oh and PS. I'm an only child too. I'm also finishing up graduate school. Being an only child isn't really an excuse. I'm spoiled, but I'm also fiercly independent.
I could sit here and type all kinda "get up off you ass and do this and that" but I don't really opearate like that because I can't control or convince someone to live their life any other way than the way they want to. I don't think you're living up to your potential hunny, but if you don't see it, there's nothing I can do to convince you, especially since you don't know me.
I do hope that eventually you realize that life is passing you by and I hope that something or someone will light a fire under you and inspire and encourage you to get out from under mom and start living your life in a wonderful way.
And I second the idea of votech. I think you'd be a kick ass welder or something of that sort. And those kinds of jobs will always be around.
Spinlight, mynameisnotsusan - awesome guys.
[Edited 2/19/11 17:26pm] Prince esta muerto...
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i know i'm not living up to my potential. i know i need to get off my lazy ass and take rhe first step!
bet Snooki's fave WEN would be cucumber aloe. pickles,cucumbers,zucchinis...they are all like the same thing,right? i don't eat any of em. i just used the final frangence!! woo hoo! it's amazing how much better and healthier your hair can look when u cut a inch of the dead ends off...twists hair around fingers like jon from korn
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