XxAxX said:

Killing her emotionally, not killing her killing her. I can't hurt her.

Buy her some flowers and add a card with a few words. Like: "These flowers stand 4 the good times we shared, but as u know 2 all good things comes an end. By the time these flowers have faded I'll be out of ur life..."

silkyspread said:

Well that goes without saying... but I'm in favour of the "clean break" approach - neither party should be in any doubt that the relationship is indeed over, and that there is no likelihood of restoring it.

serpan99 said:

that would devestate me!!!

silkyspread said:

Honestly, there is no really nice way of telling someone you don't want them in your life anymore. Sappy gestures like the flowers come across as patronising. I say just be honest, concise, and decisive. There comes a point where you are no longer responsible for your ex partner - it is up to her to get over it in time, and no amount of softly-softly gestures will make it any easier or more pleasant for her.

Breakups are nasty. That's life.

serpan99 said:

Errr yea, guaranteed to cause instant coronary. Stan and Olli are very cool though.

XxAxX said:

Ain't THAT the truth...

silkyspread said:

I agree! That would have me bawling for days as I watched the flowers slowly wilt and die...

If you break up with someone you're a racist

Well thanks guys I am sooo much happier now and clear in my mind over what has to be done. Who has all the answers, c'mon, who, goddamit!

rdhull said:

RD STOP IT RIGHT NOW! !!!

NuPwrSoul said:

rdhull said:

you have systematically gone trough each thread saying that each is racist. Well you will not kill my most successful thread ever (sad I know, but there you have it). So I close, RDHULL is a racist.

Ian is right. It's gonna be bad no matter what, so just be concise and honest.

The only thing I would add is, she's going to be mad/hurt/whatever, and might say not-so-nice things. For once, just take it. Don't try to argue or be defensive. You aren't trying to maintain a relationship with this person, so you have nothing to gain by fighting her emotions. You had time to prepare for this moment. She didn't. Listen, nod, apologize when appropriate, and leave as soon as possible.

Doves,
Mel!ssa

I wish there were a simple answer. I need one right about now. I'm trying to figure out how to let go of someone as we speak. I want desperately to be with him but things aren't working out and I feel like I'm compromising myself by staying and settling for less than I deserve.

Love is the cure...and the affliction.

I LOVE YOU BABY... BUT KICK ROCKS Ho
we can still be friends, but don't ruin it by calling.
I WANT TO REMEMBER YOU AS YOU WERE

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Richard you know better. If they don't respect you, then drop their narrow ass. You deserve better than that, male of female. Don't make me come out to Cali and bust a cap in their azzezzz. They must have forgotten who they are messing w/. You know you my bo...

okay some one tell me how to post those dayum emoticons..

Your not in love if you want to break up. That 'L' word gets thrown around far too much these days

NuPwrSoul said:

RD, you're funny.

thecloud9mission said:

This is not true! In my case I would (and have) go to the limit to make things work. I'm not getting the cooperation I need to make things successful, so it's not that I don't love my boyfriend.

Soapstone said:

Arent there 50 ways to leave your lover? If u really want 2 know, org note me?

CarrieLee said:

rdhull said:

dont be devil-lish!

Christopher said:

Soapstone said:

My wife once told a boyfriend on or around New Year's Day that she was making some changes for the new year... and that he was one of them.

The answer, I suppose, is simple and quite obvious…… you don’t.

It doesn’t matter what shit goes through your head or what baggage you have to deal with. Love, it seems, is forever. If I broke up it would be only words (as it was yesterday) I would remain in love even if we were no longer together. I am not condoning love, for tis evil , but once you have it you are stuck with it until the day you die.

I am still confused whether love is a privilege or a curse?

A few things that were said yesterday on the org made me think, not just the sound advice (that was much appreciated though) but the jokes, jibes and other comments. Many make you think that you are a lot better off than most, count yourself lucky. I have been single and yea it is fun (for a while) I have dumped and been dumped, serious relationships, flings and affairs; but I have never been more fulfilled with my life as I have in this relationship; 1st love, yea maybe. I still feel that I am way too young to be dealing with this shit.

Thanks for the advice, but this ones a keeper, I just have to grow up and get stuck in I guess.

I did this yesterday.

My reason is this. I love him, I am unable to give love to him, as I used to hardly see him and then didn't see him at all in January.

I want to see him, I am available to see him. He doesn't want to see me, is unavailable to see me.

I make all the effort with calling, texts.

I had enough of putting in effort and attempting to love a person who, quite obviously, is not willing or able to accept me or give himself.

I want to give to those that want me in their life. Other wise, it is a waste of time.

So - once I got it straight in my mind, I told him exactly how it is for me.

That's the only way I think that makes sense to break up with someone you love. Decide why you are doing it and just tell them your reasons.

matt said:

Brilliant!

Therapy said:

Therapy

00769BAD said:

ROFL!!! THAT'S some cold shit!! "KICK ROCKS"