JerseyKRS said:

long distance relationships don't work. how the hell can your partner cook you dinner if they're hundreds of miles away?!?

Yeah I am reeally pissed my bf cannot cook me dinner right now !

Acrylic said:

Fauxie said:

I've done it. Met a girl in 2000, we were friends for a year and stayed in touch, saw each other again a year later and decided to commit and make a go of it. I spent the next year and a half between Thailand and the UK, working for 4 or 5 months and coming to see her in Thailand for 3 months, then going back to work more and do it all again. It wasn't easy, of course, it was bloody hard, sometimes painful and frustrating, at times desperate, but we made it work and we stayed 'together'. Towards the end of 2002 I moved thousands of miles to live with her and we haven't looked back since. In a few months it'll be 10 years since we decided to give it a shot, and 4 years we've been married.

I remember towards the end of the 2000 when I was back in the UK, staying in touch with her, and she asked me about if we might be more than friends I said I thought it was impossible. I was scared, how could it work? She didn't talk to me for a while. I thought about it more and thought why not give it a try? I'm so glad we did, and that we stuck at it. I'm so happy I found her.

co-

alphastreet said:

Mine lives 2 hours away and visits his family not too far from me every weekend, so we meet twice a week and sometimes 3 , and we talk on the phone everyday. I think it works well, but he thought it wasn't enough and was being such a whiner. But now he's calmed down about it. If neither of you are grateful about what you have and are selfish about wanting the person all to yourself and wanting them to revolve their life around you, forget it.

2 hours? That's not really long distance is it? I mean I'll drive 2 hours for a shoe sale and a fish dinner.

HotGritz said:

alphastreet said:

Mine lives 2 hours away and visits his family not too far from me every weekend, so we meet twice a week and sometimes 3 , and we talk on the phone everyday. I think it works well, but he thought it wasn't enough and was being such a whiner. But now he's calmed down about it. If neither of you are grateful about what you have and are selfish about wanting the person all to yourself and wanting them to revolve their life around you, forget it.

2 hours? That's not really long distance is it? I mean I'll drive 2 hours for a shoe sale and a fish dinner.

Yeah I know it's not that far, so it doesn't feel like it to me at all since we see each other and talk, but to him it does , and like we don't spend enough time, but I told him that realistically even if he lived close, we'd be seeing each other for about the same amount of time if not a little more.

alphastreet said:

HotGritz said:

2 hours? That's not really long distance is it? I mean I'll drive 2 hours for a shoe sale and a fish dinner.

Yeah I know it's not that far, so it doesn't feel like it to me at all since we see each other and talk, but to him it does , and like we don't spend enough time, but I told him that realistically even if he lived close, we'd be seeing each other for about the same amount of time if not a little more.

I bet he didn't like hearing that.

For me, it would never work I need my man with me. The only possible scenario I'd be OK with is if he or I had to live somewhere else for a few months because of work with the understanding that we would see each other on weekends or something. More than a few months of that would be too much though...

mimi2 said:

For me, it would never work I need my man with me. The only possible scenario I'd be OK with is if he or I had to live somewhere else for a few months because of work with the understanding that we would see each other on weekends or something. More than a few months of that would be too much though...

I am totally like that myself and now I am in a long distance relationship....

Serious said:

Acrylic said:

co-

Oh, don't you ... give it some time and you'll be telling the same kind of story and we'll all be -ing you.

Acrylic said:

Serious said:

co-

Oh, don't you ... give it some time and you'll be telling the same kind of story and we'll all be -ing you.

I really hope so .

HotGritz said:

alphastreet said:

Yeah I know it's not that far, so it doesn't feel like it to me at all since we see each other and talk, but to him it does , and like we don't spend enough time, but I told him that realistically even if he lived close, we'd be seeing each other for about the same amount of time if not a little more.

I bet he didn't like hearing that.

no he didn't, but it's reality, I have a life too you know

my friend keeps saying I'm totally the man in the relationship

shit happens, then it doesn't

this is the way of love

across the world, or across the room.

support it, or don't. love will happen

where it happens and when it happens...

So has the OP had enough proof yet? Or are they maintaining it can't work and the ppl involved can't end up happy?

I also find it interesting how ppl tend to be dismissive about net relationships and all that. I'm not saying it's the best or worst way, but clearly it works out for some people.

In my situation I'd already met and spoken to the woman who would become my wife, but only briefly and over a handful of occasions, and without the internet as one of the ways we stayed in touch once we were thousands of miles apart again there's no way it would've happened for us. We knew how each other looked in person, and perhaps there was some kind of deep down, lying in wait spark there, but over the internet is how we really got to know each other and grow closer. It's chatting over the net for a year while in different countries to each other that got us to the point of hooking up. I'm grateful for the internet for that! 10 years prior if we'd been in the same situation we may not have stood a chance. Later when we'd committed to giving it a try but were physically apart I sent letters to her in Thailand 3 or 4 times a week as it was anyway but being able to chat and speak through the net was a huge help for us.

net fart induced double post

[Edited 2/5/11 8:23am]

Fauxie said:

So has the OP had enough proof yet? Or are they maintaining it can't work and the ppl involved can't end up happy?

I think it's the latter, since she hasn't followed up on a single post that doesn't support her "vacation fuck buddy" theory.

Fauxie said:

I also find it interesting how ppl tend to be dismissive about net relationships and all that. I'm not saying it's the best or worst way, but clearly it works out for some people.

In my situation I'd already met and spoken to the woman who would become my wife, but only briefly and over a handful of occasions, and without the internet as one of the ways we stayed in touch once we were thousands of miles apart again there's no way it would've happened for us. We knew how each other looked in person, and perhaps there was some kind of deep down, lying in wait spark there, but over the internet is how we really got to know each other and grow closer. It's chatting over the net for a year while in different countries to each other that got us to the point of hooking up. I'm grateful for the internet for that! 10 years prior if we'd been in the same situation we may not have stood a chance. Later when we'd committed to giving it a try but were physically apart I sent letters to her in Thailand 3 or 4 times a week as it was anyway but being able to chat and speak through the net was a huge help for us.

Almost exactly the same as my story.

Met briefly,

Lived apart for over 2 years (internet kept things alive)

Moved in together, got married

Still married (7 years)

Fauxie said:

So has the OP had enough proof yet? Or are they maintaining it can't work and the ppl involved can't end up happy?

I think it's hit or miss.

Based on how some orgers are doing it....it can't work for me. I'm all about accessibility. But kudos to all y'all loving from far far away.