if i was certain of my girl's love for me i'd have no problem with sharing her, and i'd expect the same measure of trust from her.

i wouldn't want to personally pleasure another fella though. I tried it once with a close gay friend - wasn't quite my cup o' tea.

ONLY

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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

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SINGLE.

NDRU said:

for me the problem (other than a gf who has no interest in such a thing) is that I am only comfortable sexually with someone I am very close to emotionally. That means a threesome would have to be a relationship, not just a fun evening.

And that sounds...pretty good actually! Difficult, but if it could work it could be great! I love women. I am not scared of relationships. I would not mind two girlfriends.

And that's the reason I will probably never have one in my life.

Men . My bf would love to be in a relationship with 2 women, for him that would be perfect .

Serious said:

SpaceInBetween said:

I feel you on this...my GF had brought it up but I don't think I could handle it...I"ve been in 3somes twice before, but in situations with no emotional ties whatsoever...

My bf and I love each other so much and I would be willing to do a lot to make him happy, but I won't ruin our relationship by an experience like that. And I am pretty sure it will fuck up the relationship if one partner gives in and does something he/she doesnt really want to do.

BTW are you new to the org or do you just go by a new name here ?

new name...needed some time away from the Org..but now I'm back...

Rightly said:

if i was certain of my girl's love for me i'd have no problem with sharing her, and i'd expect the same measure of trust from her.

i wouldn't want to personally pleasure another fella though. I tried it once with a close gay friend - wasn't quite my cup o' tea.

I know that my bf loves me very much, it is not only about that.

SpaceInBetween said:

Serious said:

My bf and I love each other so much and I would be willing to do a lot to make him happy, but I won't ruin our relationship by an experience like that. And I am pretty sure it will fuck up the relationship if one partner gives in and does something he/she doesnt really want to do.

BTW are you new to the org or do you just go by a new name here ?

new name...needed some time away from the Org..but now I'm back...

And what is your old one then ?

I had a two-guys-one-girl experience in college that I still like to consider now and then.

Not a chance in hell that I'd would participate in a 2 guys/1 girl threesome, and I'm not sure if I could do it right with 2 girls at the same time

so...no, I'm not considering it...

Serious said:

NDRU said:

for me the problem (other than a gf who has no interest in such a thing) is that I am only comfortable sexually with someone I am very close to emotionally. That means a threesome would have to be a relationship, not just a fun evening.

And that sounds...pretty good actually! Difficult, but if it could work it could be great! I love women. I am not scared of relationships. I would not mind two girlfriends.

And that's the reason I will probably never have one in my life.

Men . My bf would love to be in a relationship with 2 women, for him that would be perfect .

I understand jealousy, but is it inherently bad to want to love more people? It's not like we want to hurt someone.

Women sometimes act as if men are wrong for feeling the way we do when it is totally normal and natural, and not wrong. Consider the sacrifice men make to be in committed relationships because we don't want to hurt the women we love. We sacrifice the greatest urge in our bodies other than hunger & thirst.

Imagine if women with babies were told that if they looked at another baby or wanted to hold their friend's baby that they were disgusting and wrong. It seems ridiculous, right? They get to hold the baby and love it for a moment. It's just an instinct that they want to satisfy, it does not mean they are going to give up their children or immediately get pregnant. That's all men want, is to hold and love the baby.

Men should not be considered disgusting for having those thoughts, they should be given respect for being able to control those urges to some degree.

Sorry I don't mean to go off on you, I am just pontificating on my brothers' behalf

I mean, everybody should try it atleast once...but it often comes with some sort of backlash...I think the whole threesomes thing (or more-somes) is overrated...one on one, atleast to me, is so much more fun, rewarding, fulfilling, excitiing, etc...

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NDRU said:

Serious said:

And that's the reason I will probably never have one in my life.

Men . My bf would love to be in a relationship with 2 women, for him that would be perfect .

I understand jealousy, but is it inherently bad to want to love more people? It's not like we want to hurt someone.

Women sometimes act as if men are wrong for feeling the way we do when it is totally normal and natural, and not wrong. Consider the sacrifice men make to be in committed relationships because we don't want to hurt the women we love. We sacrifice the greatest urge in our bodies other than hunger & thirst.

Imagine if women with babies were told that if they looked at another baby or wanted to hold their friend's baby that they were disgusting and wrong. It seems ridiculous, right? They get to hold the baby and love it for a moment. It's just an instinct that they want to satisfy, it does not mean they are going to give up their children or immediately get pregnant. That's all men want, is to hold and love the baby.

Men should not be considered disgusting for having those thoughts, they should be given respect for being able to control those urges to some degree.

Sorry I don't mean to go off on you, I am just pontificating on my brothers' behalf

if only ALL men were as understanding as you then I'd have no trouble at all in telling my other half that I would like a home set-up just like Tilda Swinton's

NDRU said:

Serious said:

And that's the reason I will probably never have one in my life.

Men . My bf would love to be in a relationship with 2 women, for him that would be perfect .

I understand jealousy, but is it inherently bad to want to love more people? It's not like we want to hurt someone.

Women sometimes act as if men are wrong for feeling the way we do when it is totally normal and natural, and not wrong. Consider the sacrifice men make to be in committed relationships because we don't want to hurt the women we love. We sacrifice the greatest urge in our bodies other than hunger & thirst.

Imagine if women with babies were told that if they looked at another baby or wanted to hold their friend's baby that they were disgusting and wrong. It seems ridiculous, right? They get to hold the baby and love it for a moment. It's just an instinct that they want to satisfy, it does not mean they are going to give up their children or immediately get pregnant. That's all men want, is to hold and love the baby.

Men should not be considered disgusting for having those thoughts, they should be given respect for being able to control those urges to some degree.

Sorry I don't mean to go off on you, I am just pontificating on my brothers' behalf

Don't worry bestest friend, I understand what you mean . I am not angry that my bf would consider it extremely hot to have sex with more than one woman even though I wish he would not have these urges as I cannot fullfill them and feel a bit hurt too as he is the only one I want. But I know that he is very much satisfied in the relationship with me and I appreciate that he is honest about his feelings and fantasies. And yes I very much appreciate it that hopefully he is controlling all the urges he has while I am away for months . He says it is not hard, but I know him and don't believe that at all.

As I am not a mother I don't really feel your baby comparism (is that a word ) though as I never have the urge to touch or hold a baby .

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

I understand jealousy, but is it inherently bad to want to love more people? It's not like we want to hurt someone.

Women sometimes act as if men are wrong for feeling the way we do when it is totally normal and natural, and not wrong. Consider the sacrifice men make to be in committed relationships because we don't want to hurt the women we love. We sacrifice the greatest urge in our bodies other than hunger & thirst.

Imagine if women with babies were told that if they looked at another baby or wanted to hold their friend's baby that they were disgusting and wrong. It seems ridiculous, right? They get to hold the baby and love it for a moment. It's just an instinct that they want to satisfy, it does not mean they are going to give up their children or immediately get pregnant. That's all men want, is to hold and love the baby.

Men should not be considered disgusting for having those thoughts, they should be given respect for being able to control those urges to some degree.

Sorry I don't mean to go off on you, I am just pontificating on my brothers' behalf

if only ALL men were as understanding as you then I'd have no trouble at all in telling my other half that I would like a home set-up just like Tilda Swinton's

really, just like, or like the left half?

Serious said:

NDRU said:

I understand jealousy, but is it inherently bad to want to love more people? It's not like we want to hurt someone.

Women sometimes act as if men are wrong for feeling the way we do when it is totally normal and natural, and not wrong. Consider the sacrifice men make to be in committed relationships because we don't want to hurt the women we love. We sacrifice the greatest urge in our bodies other than hunger & thirst.

Imagine if women with babies were told that if they looked at another baby or wanted to hold their friend's baby that they were disgusting and wrong. It seems ridiculous, right? They get to hold the baby and love it for a moment. It's just an instinct that they want to satisfy, it does not mean they are going to give up their children or immediately get pregnant. That's all men want, is to hold and love the baby.

Men should not be considered disgusting for having those thoughts, they should be given respect for being able to control those urges to some degree.

Sorry I don't mean to go off on you, I am just pontificating on my brothers' behalf

Don't worry bestest friend, I understand what you mean . I am not angry that my bf would consider it extremely hot to have sex with more than one woman even though I wish he would not have these urges as I cannot fullfill them and feel a bit hurt too as he is the only one I want. But I know that he is very much satisfied in the relationship with me and I appreciate that he is honest about his feelings and fantasies. And yes I very much appreciate it that hopefully he is controlling all the urges he has while I am away for months . He says it is not hard, but I know him and don't believe that at all.

As I am not a mother I don't really feel your baby comparism (is that a word ) though as I never have the urge to touch or hold a baby .

and as a mother, I dispute the bolded sentence. You don't LOVE other people's kids you breathe a secret sigh of relief to be able to hand back a child that THANK GOD isn't yours because only your OWN baby is the most beautiful baby in the world and all other mothers must feel inadequate at having such unattractive children with shrill voices :fallof:

only half j/k

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

if only ALL men were as understanding as you then I'd have no trouble at all in telling my other half that I would like a home set-up just like Tilda Swinton's

really, just like, or like the left half?

one is the provider, the other is the fun

ZombieKitten said:

Serious said:

Don't worry bestest friend, I understand what you mean . I am not angry that my bf would consider it extremely hot to have sex with more than one woman even though I wish he would not have these urges as I cannot fullfill them and feel a bit hurt too as he is the only one I want. But I know that he is very much satisfied in the relationship with me and I appreciate that he is honest about his feelings and fantasies. And yes I very much appreciate it that hopefully he is controlling all the urges he has while I am away for months . He says it is not hard, but I know him and don't believe that at all.

As I am not a mother I don't really feel your baby comparism (is that a word ) though as I never have the urge to touch or hold a baby .

and as a mother, I dispute the bolded sentence. You don't LOVE other people's kids you breathe a secret sigh of relief to be able to hand back a child that THANK GOD isn't yours because only your OWN baby is the most beautiful baby in the world and all other mothers must feel inadequate at having such unattractive children with shrill voices :fallof:

only half j/k

Been there, had that. No regrets; just not my cup o' tea.

Serious said:

NDRU said:

I understand jealousy, but is it inherently bad to want to love more people? It's not like we want to hurt someone.

Women sometimes act as if men are wrong for feeling the way we do when it is totally normal and natural, and not wrong. Consider the sacrifice men make to be in committed relationships because we don't want to hurt the women we love. We sacrifice the greatest urge in our bodies other than hunger & thirst.

Imagine if women with babies were told that if they looked at another baby or wanted to hold their friend's baby that they were disgusting and wrong. It seems ridiculous, right? They get to hold the baby and love it for a moment. It's just an instinct that they want to satisfy, it does not mean they are going to give up their children or immediately get pregnant. That's all men want, is to hold and love the baby.

Men should not be considered disgusting for having those thoughts, they should be given respect for being able to control those urges to some degree.

Sorry I don't mean to go off on you, I am just pontificating on my brothers' behalf

Don't worry bestest friend, I understand what you mean . I am not angry that my bf would consider it extremely hot to have sex with more than one woman even though I wish he would not have these urges as I cannot fullfill them and feel a bit hurt too as he is the only one I want. But I know that he is very much satisfied in the relationship with me and I appreciate that he is honest about his feelings and fantasies. And yes I very much appreciate it that hopefully he is controlling all the urges he has while I am away for months . He says it is not hard, but I know him and don't believe that at all.

As I am not a mother I don't really feel your baby comparism (is that a word ) though as I never have the urge to touch or hold a baby .

many women like you are understanding that men can't control these feelings. I know we are sleazy sometimes, too.

NDRU said:

Serious said:

Don't worry bestest friend, I understand what you mean . I am not angry that my bf would consider it extremely hot to have sex with more than one woman even though I wish he would not have these urges as I cannot fullfill them and feel a bit hurt too as he is the only one I want. But I know that he is very much satisfied in the relationship with me and I appreciate that he is honest about his feelings and fantasies. And yes I very much appreciate it that hopefully he is controlling all the urges he has while I am away for months . He says it is not hard, but I know him and don't believe that at all.

As I am not a mother I don't really feel your baby comparism (is that a word ) though as I never have the urge to touch or hold a baby .

many women like you are understanding that men can't control these feelings. I know we are sleazy sometimes, too.

ASs long as a man cannot control the feelings, but can control his actions I am fine.

ZombieKitten said:

Serious said:

Don't worry bestest friend, I understand what you mean . I am not angry that my bf would consider it extremely hot to have sex with more than one woman even though I wish he would not have these urges as I cannot fullfill them and feel a bit hurt too as he is the only one I want. But I know that he is very much satisfied in the relationship with me and I appreciate that he is honest about his feelings and fantasies. And yes I very much appreciate it that hopefully he is controlling all the urges he has while I am away for months . He says it is not hard, but I know him and don't believe that at all.

As I am not a mother I don't really feel your baby comparism (is that a word ) though as I never have the urge to touch or hold a baby .

and as a mother, I dispute the bolded sentence. You don't LOVE other people's kids you breathe a secret sigh of relief to be able to hand back a child that THANK GOD isn't yours because only your OWN baby is the most beautiful baby in the world and all other mothers must feel inadequate at having such unattractive children with shrill voices :fallof:

only half j/k

I see some women drop everything when they see a baby. They could be evacuating a flood and they will stop to admire and hold it if possible. They hold them like life preservers. Every time I hug a pretty woman I do the same. They look at baby socks like I look at bikinis. They imagine the filling.

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

and as a mother, I dispute the bolded sentence. You don't LOVE other people's kids you breathe a secret sigh of relief to be able to hand back a child that THANK GOD isn't yours because only your OWN baby is the most beautiful baby in the world and all other mothers must feel inadequate at having such unattractive children with shrill voices :fallof:

only half j/k

I see some women drop everything when they see a baby. They could be evacuating a flood and they will stop to admire and hold it if possible. They hold them like life preservers. Every time I hug a pretty woman I do the same. They look at baby socks like I look at bikinis. They imagine the filling.

2 fine ass dudes taking me to the heights of ecstasy whilst staying clear of each other? Why Sure!

Myself sharing my man with some chick? BITCH GTFOH4ICUTYA!!!!

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

I see some women drop everything when they see a baby. They could be evacuating a flood and they will stop to admire and hold it if possible. They hold them like life preservers. Every time I hug a pretty woman I do the same. They look at baby socks like I look at bikinis. They imagine the filling.

I didn't say you do that. I know allison does not!

Acrylic said:

Been there, had that. No regrets; just not my cup o' tea.

Same

babies and threesomes do not belong in the same org thread unless you're talking about Octomom.

NDRU said:

Serious said:

And that's the reason I will probably never have one in my life.

Men . My bf would love to be in a relationship with 2 women, for him that would be perfect .

I understand jealousy, but is it inherently bad to want to love more people? It's not like we want to hurt someone.

Women sometimes act as if men are wrong for feeling the way we do when it is totally normal and natural, and not wrong. Consider the sacrifice men make to be in committed relationships because we don't want to hurt the women we love. We sacrifice the greatest urge in our bodies other than hunger & thirst.

Imagine if women with babies were told that if they looked at another baby or wanted to hold their friend's baby that they were disgusting and wrong. It seems ridiculous, right? They get to hold the baby and love it for a moment. It's just an instinct that they want to satisfy, it does not mean they are going to give up their children or immediately get pregnant. That's all men want, is to hold and love the baby.

Men should not be considered disgusting for having those thoughts, they should be given respect for being able to control those urges to some degree.

Sorry I don't mean to go off on you, I am just pontificating on my brothers' behalf

I couldn't agree with you more.

blackbob said:

From time to time....myself and my girlfriend talk about sexual fantasies and this...like most men i suppose...has been one that i have thought about...i dont know if i could actually do it...with all the possible problems ...jealousy etc...could the relationship handle something like that...so it may be and stay just a fantasy and she would consider it if the circumstances were right so i was wondering if anyone has experience of a threesome or have you considered it ?....

1. I have never been a member of a threesome.

2. I have considered the idea.

Now I have a question right back at you. If it was legel for a man to have more than one wife in you home country, would you consider it for yourself?

JustErin said:

Not for me they aren't. I've been asked countless times to have one but it's just not my thing - especially 2 girls 1 dude.

What about 1 girl 2 dudes?

Yes, THIS^ is a serious question.

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

I didn't say you do that. I know allison does not!

Imagine if women did the very same thing, men would feel inadequate and humiliated!

Their fragile egos simply couldn't take the idea of "their" woman, mentally undressing other men, comparing package sizes, imagining themselves having sex with 15 others during the course of a day (some of them your mates, some your relatives, your boss, the postman etc), and staring with their tongues nearly hanging out!

and I don't mean that only you know she is doing it, EVERYONE knows it! Ah, it's just a woman being a woman, what can you do!