All the various situations (widows, or 2nd marriages), aside. I find it appalling when women and men have children by various partners (especially when they are not married and just "dating" or living together). I am not talking about someone who remarried once and had child with their second spouse. I am talking about women/men who have several children from several partners. Do they not realize that those kids have to live with the embarassment of their parents choices? Yes, embarassment. Think about it...would you want to explain to people why it is that you and all your siblings have different last names and don't look alike? To top it off imagine, having someone say something insulting about your mother because of her lifestyle and sexual past, and yes people do have ways of finding things out and then using it as ammunition, so her past may very well come to light. Just imagine how hurtful that will be to a kid. Those children will end up resenting their parents for the stupid choices they made. Most of the time women who have multiple children by different men are putting their own needs above those of their children. These are women who are looking for someone, anyone, to love them. They are afraid of being alone. They are irresponsible and make poor choices especially where reproduction is concerned. There are SOME women out there whose stories are very different from that though. There are women who fall in love, get married and have children and then their spouse passes away...they've done things in the correct order, and so years later they remarry and have children with their new spouse...that is completely understandable as long as the children are first priority and agree with the marriage. But there are some women out there who seem to follow a destructive pattern of promiscuity, such as: "I have a boyfriend...oops I'm pregnant, I'm sooo happy...oh wait ....he left me and now I'm a single mom so everyone praise me for taking this on, on my own," and then a few months later there she is again "I met a guy and he loves me and loves my baby too..oops I'm pregnant again...oh he left me" and now she has two children from different fathers, then another few months later there she is yet again "I met another guy and he doesn't care that I have kids. He loves me!....oops I'm pregnant...he left me." and the vicious cycle continues. It's appalling.

Hold up...

Dont put ALL the blame on the mothers... These men KNOW that the women they are with have previous children but they stick their dick in them with no form of birth control, then when the girl ends up pregnant they take off like they have NO responsibility!!

I find THAT appaling...

tinaz said:

Hold up...

Dont put ALL the blame on the mothers... These men KNOW that the women they are with have previous children but they stick their dick in them with no form of birth control, then when the girl ends up pregnant they take off like they have NO responsibility!!

I find THAT appaling...

Fair enough but SINCE its the WOMAN who has already shown will be hardest hit by a relationship breakdown after she's pregnant its up to us to teach our GIRLS to not open up for every fool who opens his mouth and gives a slick line.

This PC ish is not working, we need to get tough love mode on the young gyal dem.

Still... your letting the guy off WAY to easy... Lets teach the boys, you play...YOU PAY!

Im not putting the blame solely on the man... but it takes two...

Tinaz, your attitude is the common way of thinking right now and I feel is the root of the problem. Playing the blame game will solve NOTHING.

Let me tell u something about boys, young men and men. They are nasty, self-centred, selfish, pussyy conquering machines that feed upon screwing as many girls as possible ALMOST as much as they feed upon the 'glory' of telling their friends about their conquests.

Rape aside, I cannot see how a woman can have many children by different fathers and not expect SERIOUS mental harm to those children.

It is a near impossible task to stop guys chasing girls but its more sensible to educate more girls not to let those fools catch em'...unless they want to marry and be a family

Anubisxxx said:

Let me tell u something about boys, young men and men. They are nasty, self-centred, selfish, pussyy conquering machines that feed upon screwing as many girls as possible ALMOST as much as they feed upon the 'glory' of telling their friends about their conquests.

Not all of them.

People make poor choices and mistakes but that's a part of life. Never point a finger and assume things or you will make an AZZ of yourself.

It's gonna be alright

[Edited 1/17/11 8:32am]

Angelic1302 said:

Wow! U R CRAZY

I for one, have 3 kids by 3 different fathers. I've been married twice! When I found out I was pregn. for my first child, my boyfriend left me b/c he didn't want a child-he wanted me to abort him. I moved on and months later, a man came into my life and thought he would be a great father to my unborn child. We did get married. We did have our own child together. Years went by and divorce happend. I fell in love again with my current husband and we have a child together and he loves my boys just as much as they love him. YES - it's a very scarey situation but I'm not about drama and I know my kids are innocent in all of this and they know and understand everything. I never bashed my children's fathers because no matter what - I know they will make their own minds up about their own fathers. Kids are very smart and knows the difference between real love of a family and where they come from. My brother passed away 7 months before his son was supposed to be born. His fiance moved on and married another man and have kids with him. Is that a bad thing? A family these days are sooo different and it doesn't take blood to considered to be part of a family. What about adoption-where none are blood but yet the bond is? What about same sex marriages that have or want children? What about women that chose to keep their babies when the men split? What about the women that choose to keep the baby when they are raped? What about the women who boyfriend/husband dies? What about people like in my situation? U have some nerve to try to say something when you don't know anything about anyone's situation. Every situation is different these days - we just know about it. Back in the day, the same things were going on - we just never heard about it.

U put the blame on all mothers who have different fathers and that's not fair! Everyone has a past and if you keep living in the past, you can't move on to the future. We have to give children more credit because they are smarter than you think.

Shame Shame on you

I don't take offense to the words you wrote but come on now...

People make poor choices and mistakes but that's a part of life. Never point a finger and assume things or you will make an AZZ of yourself.

It's gonna be alright

[Edited 1/17/11 7:50am]

U HAVE 3 CHILDREN by 3 different men , each of whom have 3 different sets of grandparents, 3 different sets of family trees, 3 differnt sets of common DNA make-up and u have the front to come on here and call me 'crazy'?

I don't care either way if you take offense or not. What I do expect is no personal remarks or name calling, otherwise you invite my Anubis side to bite.

I will admit that on public forums and in mixed company/conversations.. everyone has to be politically correct and liberal about irresponsible women who keep crapping out.. 'mistakes'.

However, the majority of people who have made the right responsible decisions and have chosen to put the honour, respect and dignity of the child first think its a sub-human disgusting thing to do. Shame? Who pray tell should feel shame..?

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[Edited 1/17/11 8:03am]

U r just not worth it

I pray for people like U

[Edited 1/17/11 8:06am]

I haven't read a single post on this thread.

My view on women having children by different fathers:

If she takes care of her children, is a good mother and doesn't expect a handout/pays her own bills, I could give two fucks if a woman has 5 kids by 5 different fathers. It's nobody's business.

Angelic1302 said:

U r just not worth it

Is that what ur baby daddy's told U as they ran 4 the door?

Anyway.. back to subject..

some women do this because they want a child but they want to raise it by themselves (with money from pa, of course). others do it because they want the government to pay for their life so they keep having tons of kids and government checks pay for them to do everything. other women are just not educated about the failure rates of birth control, or the proper use of the pill or condoms. or they are gullible and believe that a man loves them so they'll let him take off the condom. then bam, baby time. or maybe they're religious and they don't believe in birth control (but still do the premarital sex thing cause face it, many many people are hypocrites about that)

I know people have been brought up in a nuclear family and are a fucked up as hell, then people whose family is all over the place and there the nicest balanced people ever.

Also people have been having different fathers/mothers from the beginning of mankind.

And not all men are how u have described, thats a dumb thing to say.

johnart said:

I haven't read a single post on this thread.

My view on women having children by different fathers:

If she takes care of her children, is a good mother and doesn't expect a handout/pays her own bills, I could give two fucks if a woman has 5 kids by 5 different fathers. It's nobody's business.

Its everybody's business actually.

Why should decent families have to have less resources and housing and pay and services because they so called 'opps I did it again' parents who keep getting/making someone pregnant irresponsibly have children they will either not look after or struggle to look after.

Why should children from solid homes with parents that do the best for them have to compete with these masses of 'mistakes' that swell class sizes, exhaust welfare/income support thus raises taxes etc etc

Its everyone's problem because we all in effect become the father to children with absent fathers by paying for them through all the benefits the mothers receive.

catpark said:

I know people have been brought up in a nuclear family and are a fucked up as hell, then people whose family is all over the place and there the nicest balanced people ever.

Also people have been having different fathers/mothers from the beginning of mankind.

And not all men are how u have described, thats a dumb thing to say.

Thanks Catpark.

Ur post may seal a date 4 U yet

Having different fathers for children doesn't always = Government help

I take care of my children. I have a college degree - a masters in fact. My husband also. WE both have careers. I don't have my hand out and I'm not money hungry so is that any of your business? NOPE!

Get a life an stop trying to assume stuff!

this reminds me of my stepmoms family. her son had a kid with this bitch. idk how many she has now 6 or 7 kids. 4 or 5 diff baby daddies. nasty

Anubisxxx said:

catpark said:

I know people have been brought up in a nuclear family and are a fucked up as hell, then people whose family is all over the place and there the nicest balanced people ever.

Also people have been having different fathers/mothers from the beginning of mankind.

And not all men are how u have described, thats a dumb thing to say.

Thanks Catpark.

Ur post may seal a date 4 U yet

Wtf is that meant to mean? I have man thanks and hes the sweetest guy ever, and my ex baby father of 14 yrs is decent guy too. So dont know why ur thanking me for, ur ideas of single parents are disgusting.

I know ppl that are very close to me that have kids from different fathers and are not sleeping around with every man and are not draining the state either, there working damn hard to keep there household together.

Anubisxxx said:

johnart said:

I haven't read a single post on this thread.

My view on women having children by different fathers:

If she takes care of her children, is a good mother and doesn't expect a handout/pays her own bills, I could give two fucks if a woman has 5 kids by 5 different fathers. It's nobody's business.

Its everybody's business actually.

Why should decent families have to have less resources and housing and pay and services because they so called 'opps I did it again' parents who keep getting/making someone pregnant irresponsibly have children they will either not look after or struggle to look after.

Why should children from solid homes with parents that do the best for them have to compete with these masses of 'mistakes' that swell class sizes, exhaust welfare/income support thus raises taxes etc etc

Its everyone's problem because we all in effect become the father to children with absent fathers by paying for them through all the benefits the mothers receive.

Did overcrowded classrooms affect your ability to read?

Which part of what I bolded did you miss.

Move to China, I think they control this sort of thing over there.

It's not a choice for me, but if it works for other people, have at it. To each his/her own.

johnart said:

Anubisxxx said:

Its everybody's business actually.

Why should decent families have to have less resources and housing and pay and services because they so called 'opps I did it again' parents who keep getting/making someone pregnant irresponsibly have children they will either not look after or struggle to look after.

Why should children from solid homes with parents that do the best for them have to compete with these masses of 'mistakes' that swell class sizes, exhaust welfare/income support thus raises taxes etc etc

Its everyone's problem because we all in effect become the father to children with absent fathers by paying for them through all the benefits the mothers receive.

Did overcrowded classrooms affect your ability to read?

Which part of what I bolded did you miss.

Move to China, I think they control this sort of thing over there.

ladymelrose said:

Wow. You're making a lot of assumptions here. As long as children are living in a home where they are cared for and loved, who are we to judge? There are lots of different ways to configure a family.

Thank you

when i hear about teenage girls getting pregnant, I get upset. pregnant isn't the only thing one can get from unprotected sex. death, is another. and, it works both ways.

guys should take responsibility and suit up.

A new org. member going at it like this? Less than 50 posts?

Smells like a bait thread to me... the women here do not need this trolling to continue.

paintedlady said:

Smells like a bait thread to me... the women here do not need this trolling to continue.

I feel the same way.