Imagine, if not, that you're solo. You go out somewhere and do met a person from the opposite sex, who awakes your intrest and you feel, you maybe are falling in love or you are in love.

Then this person revelates you a secret: She/he is HIV+ or have AIDS.

How do you think would be your reaction? Do you think you could go in to a relation ship with a HIV+ person? Why?

I would be very sad that the life of this person is inflicted with AIDS.

This would NOT stop me from loving and/or spending my life with them. Sex is not something I couldn't live without.

Sataninas said:

Wow what a postition to be in ...I myself would have to stop the relationship ONLY because seems everybody I have always loved has died on me already so I feel safe kinda alone..I have my kids. I would however be their friend and do what I could in any way I could. Call me selfish, but I would not be able to handle a situation like that...I could only hope myself I would never get this, I mean I do not do drugs or have unprotected sex (if i get some in the first place) but it is very protected..talking TWO condoms ...Hey I got kids gotta watch out for them..but my for whoever has to deal with a situation like this.

Sex wouldn't automatically be excluded. They've done studies on couples where one is HIV+ and the other isn't, and the couples used a condom every time they had sex--and they used the condoms right, i.e., pinching the tip of the condom, making sure the air was out of it, etc.--and in 99 percent of the cases, it wasn't transmitted.

Granted, there was that 1%, but all in all it's nice to know that sex isn't necessarily gone forever.

AnotherLover2 said:

True..Sex to me would not be the issue..knowing and just the thought of losing this person I could not handle ...I would still love them just distance my feelings.. I dont even like the thought of being in this kind of situation

OceanaOne said:

That's understandable. Being with someone who has a fatal illness would be tough, and a person would have to be really honest about whether or not they could handle it. Although many people with HIV are living much, much longer with the help of the drugs and having quality lives, it's a lot of stress on a relationship.

Sataninas said:

I would thank God for meeting such a wonderful person and would feel sad that he would be subject to suffering.
It would not stop me from loving someone nor would it stop me from being in a relationship with him.

LaVisHh said:

Well said my sweetness.

btw...Lav, I have AIDS. Does that mean our planned Celebration sex is cancelled?

SexLovely said:

I never said I wouldn't have sex...

I said I could live without it...which to me meant, if that is what we chose.

LaVisHh said:

While it is obviously risky to have sex with an HIV+ person, if you use rubbers carefully and if their viral load is being kept down with drugs, you'd probably be ok.

So, to answer your question, yes.

Doves,
Mel!ssa

There is no reason why you shouldnt have a fulfilling relationship with someone who is HIV poz just as long as you are SAFE .

Be happy and be safe

Much love Pochacco

Pochacco said:

Sorry Pochacco, but I can never take anything U say seriously after seeing that Kathy Burke avatar...

Well, if I fell in love with that person, that means it had to do with trust too. If he kept it a secret, it'll destroy the trust I had for him.
But in general it wouldn't change much. It'll be sad cuz it means I'll have to start taking care of him at an early age, and probably lose him sooner than I'd like to. But it won't change my feelings towards that person.

Oh my!! This is an excellent topic! So very hard... I'd honestly say I wouldn't know if i would proceed. I do feel I should have known up front.

Depends on when I found this out. Is it deep into the relationship? On the first night? The first week/few months? If I knew up front I'd probably be apprehensive - are they suffering physically? Do they have $ to take the necessary meds & keep themselves up? Is my knowledge of AIDS current enough to even know what factors to consider? NO, I'd have to do some research.

But like MissCute said, if this was concealed from me I'd have trust issues with the person despite understanding their reason for not telling me up front. It's a whole ball of wax - how easily do you fall in love? Is this love for real or is it some "against all odds" shit? Lots to consider, no way I can answer this w/ a simple yes or no...

Thank you, dear friends. Thank you for your sincerity and because you did take that look in to the mirror for my question.

This computer has made me cry the last weeks, once or twice!

Miss Cute, I can't find words.

I have to say follwing: I hear often talking about the medicine therapie and this and only making the therapie, you can lieve longer with the virus.

I have the proofs, also WITHOUT medicaments it is possible to do survive and lieve with the virus, good and a long time.

On my mean, we here in our more or less rich society, could find other ways to stay healthy.

There where the life basical needs are missing, as enough and healthy food, clean water, sanitary instalations (wc, showers...), a home to be, we could add.
There, are medicaments more needed as here, until they get theyr basical needs.

We here have other possibilities and conditions.

I'll say to all who are in a situtuation of HIV+ or AIDS:

Think more then twice about, if you will take this medicines to early. Focus on POSITIVITY and do live your life responsable and as better as you can.

OH god Ohgod!! the zombies are back






heeelp!!

i wouldn't care, if he were my lover