Thanks Ottensen and Jersey for your input. I get your point....seriously. But I am happy that I contacted him. It was a good thing.

Off topic: okay.....for the individual who is on here questioning my "scanning" abilities...please, if you want to say something.....say it here on this thread (instead of other threads). My husband is georgeous....and if you dont believe me, I'm okay with that. He is and will remain my very tasty and juicy man candy who other women trip over.....

StillGotIt said:

Thanks Ottensen and Jersey for your input. I get your point....seriously. But I am happy that I contacted him. It was a good thing.

no worries, I was just giving my

StillGotIt said:

Thanks Ottensen and Jersey for your input. I get your point....seriously. But I am happy that I contacted him. It was a good thing.

Off topic: okay.....for the individual who is on here questioning my "scanning" abilities...please, if you want to say something.....say it here on this thread (instead of other threads). My husband is georgeous....and if you dont believe me, I'm okay with that. He is and will remain my very tasty and juicy man candy who other women trip over.....

Oh my word, are we SERIOUSLY haivng this conversation??

Are you new??? If so I apologize for cross referencing threads. (I'm really not sorry, it's just a figure of speech) but that is what we do here. It's fun. Try it.

Oh, and I'm not questioning your husbands looks or your scanning abilities.

I was simply making a joke at your expense.

My bad. Sorry.

To keep this thread on topic though.

Yanno what I kinda was questioning......

You said that you have no probs telling your husband of your intentions to contact this old lover, because it's simply no big deal but that you also would have no problem telling him.

So basically, its a big enough of a deal to log on to the org, and tell a bunch of complete strangers.

.......on a PRINCE website........but it's not a big enough deal to simply mention to your hot husband over dinner?

Don't get me wrong, I'm totally not pointing fingers. I myself have hidden PLENTY of shit from my ex husband. These days I prefer total honestly and no secrets with my partners......cuz if your having to hide shit......such as contacting old flames.....your relationship may be in trouble.

JerseyKRS said:

yo, there is no need to contact him.

good, bad or indifferent, dude has moved on and has been living his life for a lot of years.

so, it seems, have you. contacting him serves no purpose. even the ones you mentioned sound like rationalization to me, but I'm a total cynic, so there's that.

the past is just that.....the past. healing has taken place already. it's not up to you to decide whether it has or not. him contacting you is one thing, but this is the other way around. regardless of your well intentions, don't choose to bring turmoil into either one of your lives at this point. You are a grown adult and there's no point in bringing up teenage feelings at this point in any setting other than therapy.

Im starting to agree. Being nosey can get you in trouble!

Meh...u dont have to..if it was meant to be it was meant to be...

we all like older guys when we are young..I know I did.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

StillGotIt said:

Thanks Ottensen and Jersey for your input. I get your point....seriously. But I am happy that I contacted him. It was a good thing.

Off topic: okay.....for the individual who is on here questioning my "scanning" abilities...please, if you want to say something.....say it here on this thread (instead of other threads). My husband is georgeous....and if you dont believe me, I'm okay with that. He is and will remain my very tasty and juicy man candy who other women trip over.....

Oh my word, are we SERIOUSLY haivng this conversation??

Are you new??? If so I apologize for cross referencing threads. (I'm really not sorry, it's just a figure of speech) but that is what we do here. It's fun. Try it.

Oh, and I'm not questioning your husbands looks or your scanning abilities.

I was simply making a joke at your expense.

My bad. Sorry.

Why the hell are you apologising??? Why you gotta ruin people's org. entertainment?

She ain't new... she just doesn't post often, she can take a few slams, she don't give a damn!

You're too damn nice Dani... you should know by now that I ain't mad at really. You have a stronger backbone than that! You said you were bored!

What am I gonna do now?

TotalANXiousNESS said:

StillGotIt said:

Thanks Ottensen and Jersey for your input. I get your point....seriously. But I am happy that I contacted him. It was a good thing.

Off topic: okay.....for the individual who is on here questioning my "scanning" abilities...please, if you want to say something.....say it here on this thread (instead of other threads). My husband is georgeous....and if you dont believe me, I'm okay with that. He is and will remain my very tasty and juicy man candy who other women trip over.....

Oh my word, are we SERIOUSLY haivng this conversation??

Are you new??? If so I apologize for cross referencing threads. (I'm really not sorry, it's just a figure of speech) but that is what we do here. It's fun. Try it.

Oh, and I'm not questioning your husbands looks or your scanning abilities.

I was simply making a joke at your expense.

My bad. Sorry.

I forgive you because it was a joke at my expense, and I guess I need to learn to laugh at myself more. I think I took it personally because you didn't say it where I could laugh WITH you......

TotalANXiousNESS said:

To keep this thread on topic though.

Yanno what I kinda was questioning......

You said that you have no probs telling your husband of your intentions to contact this old lover, because it's simply no big deal but that you also would have no problem telling him.

So basically, its a big enough of a deal to log on to the org, and tell a bunch of complete strangers.

.......on a PRINCE website........but it's not a big enough deal to simply mention to your hot husband over dinner?

Don't get me wrong, I'm totally not pointing fingers. I myself have hidden PLENTY of shit from my ex husband. These days I prefer total honestly and no secrets with my partners......cuz if your having to hide shit......such as contacting old flames.....your relationship may be in trouble.

Its not like I'm the president asking if we should press the big red button......The org is a sort of release spot. Here, on the org, menial things can lead to fantastic conversations cuz you people are fucking crazy and hillarious. I like the diversity of extremes here....and how stuff shoots into unexpected directions.......keeps me balanced and entertained.

After being married for so long I find that stuff that would have bothered me at year 5 is not even interesting at year 10. Nothing hidden here, our expectations for some things are just are different from what you've experienced

Now that I've been given please know that I do accept larger denominations as well as mastercard and visa.

KatSkrizzle said:

StillGotIt said:

please....elaborate on the "deep shit" (from one "nosy bitch" to another)

Now that I friended an ex that was almost like an ex husband in my eyes, his mother found me. She still pounds him for not working it out with me. She calls me and tells me that his babies are supposed to be mine. The HELL they are! But um, yeah, I have had colorful notes from girlfriends and wives. Some of these guys have relationships/marriages that need work. My nosey ass was inappropriate to even just say hello and catch up a bit and leave it at that. Which is exactly what I did.

I really just wanted to see their current wives/gf's and their lives. Very vain and insecure of me, I know.

See? insecurity. Right now, I feel that I must de-friend them. There is NO need for them to be there.

Awww Kat....I dont think it was insecurity. Its just the essence of human nature...we are some nosey fuckers. I mean, if you saw them walking down the street...would you have walked by and not said hello? You probably would have had a 60 second conversation or maybe longer depending on who it was (and how mean the wife/gf looked). I usually have chats with people....in the past my husband has been present when I see an ex, i introduce them, find out they went to school together or worse....one time they were cousins and I usually ask brief and general inquiries--marital status, kids, work etc. Its just common chatter to me. I have met my husband's exes....and they are always shocked I tamed him

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