i never got my high school crush but i found him on facebook recently. he just had a daughter. lucky kid has his big dark blue eyes...

that shoullda been my babby daddy. grrr.

no i didn't friend request him.

purplemookiebut said:

i never got my high school crush but i found him on facebook recently. he just had a daughter. lucky kid has his big dark blue eyes...

that shoullda been my babby daddy. grrr.

no i didn't friend request him.

Well, maybe I should've done the same when it came to my highschool teacher that I had a crush on. Now we've been facebook friends for over a year and I'm not feeling too good about our situation, as of late.

KidaDynamite said:

purplemookiebut said:

i never got my high school crush but i found him on facebook recently. he just had a daughter. lucky kid has his big dark blue eyes...

that shoullda been my babby daddy. grrr.

no i didn't friend request him.

Well, maybe I should've done the same when it came to my highschool teacher that I had a crush on. Now we've been facebook friends for over a year and I'm not feeling too good about our situation, as of late.

how old are you and how old is he? you're not his student any more though, right? He's single, you're single? 'Tis the stuff movies are made of

ZombieKitten said:

KidaDynamite said:

Well, maybe I should've done the same when it came to my highschool teacher that I had a crush on. Now we've been facebook friends for over a year and I'm not feeling too good about our situation, as of late.

how old are you and how old is he? you're not his student any more though, right? He's single, you're single? 'Tis the stuff movies are made of

I'm turning 24 on the 9th and he's 35.

He was my highschool teacher and I was only in that school for around 3 months.

He says he's single and yes, so am I.

"Tis the stuff movies are made of" I know.

KidaDynamite said:

ZombieKitten said:

how old are you and how old is he? you're not his student any more though, right? He's single, you're single? 'Tis the stuff movies are made of

I'm turning 24 on the 9th and he's 35.

He was my highschool teacher and I was only in that school for around 3 months.

He says he's single and yes, so am I.

"Tis the stuff movies are made of" I know.

and they are usually suspense thrillers and you end up in love with the cop that saves you

ZombieKitten said:

KidaDynamite said:

I'm turning 24 on the 9th and he's 35.

He was my highschool teacher and I was only in that school for around 3 months.

He says he's single and yes, so am I.

"Tis the stuff movies are made of" I know.

and they are usually suspense thrillers and you end up in love with the cop that saves you

I don't think there's gonna be any cops involved.

KidaDynamite said:

ZombieKitten said:

and they are usually suspense thrillers and you end up in love with the cop that saves you

I don't think there's gonna be any cops involved.

oh, you mean like he is a NICE guy???

OK, not thinking of completely different kinds of movies

PunkMistress said:

StillGotIt said:

yea...and I haven't forgotten why I felt I had to move on.....

So why open the potential Pandora's box?

To feed your ego?

It just seems like an all-around bad idea to me. You have a life partner, but you're considering contacting this man who was in love with you, and with whom you had a totally inappropriate relationship? I could be wrong, but it sounds like an ego thing to me. Part of you wants to find out if he still pines for you.

I think I have to agree.

PunkMistress said:

StillGotIt said:

sorry to hear about that PunkMistress.

I cannot imagine my husbandd feeling threatened...(been together 19 years) and he knows me and my character well. I would be the equivalent of making a mountain out of a molehill. I dont think I would tell hubby....unless I felt a need to maintain regular contact with my old "friend".

My question had nothing to do with whether your husband would feel threatened - only whether you would give him the respect of knowing what you're doing. I don't know your relationship, though, so I'm not trying to presume that this would constitute disrespect within the context of your marriage.

It just seems weird to me that I see many people hiding stuff like this from their spouses. It does seem dishonest to me. But that seems to be the norm these days. I was shocked that "K," an Orger I love dearly and respect highly, didn't tell her partner about participating in Org Secret Santa and chose to hide where her gift came from. Again, I'm not trying to be presumptuous. It just seems like dishonesty for no reason and I don't really understand it.

I completely agree.

Coming out of a relationship where I hid a lot of things, and he hid a lot of things. I CHOOSE to tell my current partner EVERYTHING.

Secrets are no good and I view hiding things as dishonesty as well. In my relationship anyway.

I just did the age math

to make sure it wasn't me

This absolutely comes off as this being all about you, your ego, your insecurities.

You asked what we would do? Well, I'd probably contact him but I'd also know that it was all because of the reasons I stated and would not deny it.

PunkMistress said:

I wouldn't reopen that can of worms.

Seriously.

I think its OK to feed the ego a bit, I don't see any harm or malace if the intension of seeing how a person is doing 20+ years later.

All asumptions aside, 20 years.... assuming he would want her now? Assuming he's alone, assuming she would lead him on? I think some are reaching here, if she doesn't plan on meeting him/fucking him. What's the big deal?

I think if she wants to just check in its OK. I think if he wants to see her or get to re-introduce himself into her life then she needs to tell her husband so hubby can meet dude too.

There is a huge difference between adults saying hello and inquiring about life in the present as opposed to a married woman flirting with an old lover.

I don't think she wouldn't flirt with him, I don't think to hat's what this is about. I do think its nice to see how an old aquaintance is doing and that does feed the ego a bit. Nothing wrong with curiosity. IMHO

[Edited 1/3/11 8:36am]

This is so uncanny. I did the very same thing about 2 weeks ago. I looked up an old boyfriend by Googling his name. Found him in a publication for his job. Called the job and asked if still worked there since the publication was dated 2005. He was still there but not in the office at the time. I left a call back number. He called and we chatted. He's not married (so he says), never married and has no kids. I never married and have no kids. The only thing that is puzzling is that he called me back on December 30 around 3:00 PM and said he would call me back later that evening. I didn't hear from him the entire weekend. I'm at work today, and he called me around 11:00 AM this morning; he's at work, too. My antennae is up now. I asked him again if he was married, and he said no. He wants to see me. I'll agree to see him, but I'm gonna make sure this man is not lying to me if I decide to continue contact. I'm not above doing a background check!

StillGotIt said:

PunkMistress said:

My question had nothing to do with whether your husband would feel threatened - only whether you would give him the respect of knowing what you're doing. I don't know your relationship, though, so I'm not trying to presume that this would constitute disrespect within the context of your marriage.

It just seems weird to me that I see many people hiding stuff like this from their spouses. It does seem dishonest to me. But that seems to be the norm these days. I was shocked that "K," an Orger I love dearly and respect highly, didn't tell her partner about participating in Org Secret Santa and chose to hide where her gift came from. Again, I'm not trying to be presumptuous. It just seems like dishonesty for no reason and I don't really understand it.

Hell...I see folks all the time and dont mention it and it is not because I am hiding anything. I am not hiding....we dont have trust issues in our relationship like that. If it was something I thought would bother him in the slightest, I would tell him. Its not dishonesty. When you've been with somebody this long....you kinda just know one another and develop a trust that doesn't require intense scrutiny. If anything, he would ask me why I was telling him....or say something like "should I be worried about this guy?"

OK, thanks for explaining.

To me, telling each other everything does not = "trust issues," but I know that not every relationship is the same as mine.

Shyra said:

This is so uncanny. I did the very same thing about 2 weeks ago. I looked up an old boyfriend by Googling his name. Found him in a publication for his job. Called the job and asked if still worked there since the publication was dated 2005. He was still there but not in the office at the time. I left a call back number. He called and we chatted. He's not married (so he says), never married and has no kids. I never married and have no kids. The only thing that is puzzling is that he called me back on December 30 around 3:00 PM and said he would call me back later that evening. I didn't hear from him the entire weekend. I'm at work today, and he called me around 11:00 AM this morning; he's at work, too. My antennae is up now. I asked him again if he was married, and he said no. He wants to see me. I'll agree to see him, but I'm gonna make sure this man is not lying to me if I decide to continue contact. I'm not above doing a background check!

Yeah, I'd be on alert if he's only contacting you during work hours.

I hope he's single and fucks your brains out, though!

PunkMistress said:

Shyra said:

This is so uncanny. I did the very same thing about 2 weeks ago. I looked up an old boyfriend by Googling his name. Found him in a publication for his job. Called the job and asked if still worked there since the publication was dated 2005. He was still there but not in the office at the time. I left a call back number. He called and we chatted. He's not married (so he says), never married and has no kids. I never married and have no kids. The only thing that is puzzling is that he called me back on December 30 around 3:00 PM and said he would call me back later that evening. I didn't hear from him the entire weekend. I'm at work today, and he called me around 11:00 AM this morning; he's at work, too. My antennae is up now. I asked him again if he was married, and he said no. He wants to see me. I'll agree to see him, but I'm gonna make sure this man is not lying to me if I decide to continue contact. I'm not above doing a background check!

Yeah, I'd be on alert if he's only contacting you during work hours.

I hope he's single and fucks your brains out, though!

Remember a while back in another thread I told the story about the guy I used to date who could sing his ass off and serenaded me with a song he wrote back in 1978 with the words "diamonds and pearls" in the lyrics? Yep, the very same.

Yeah, Punks, (love that name! ) I was thinking the same thing when I heard from him this morning right after the end of a long weekend. He said he wanted to call me over the weekend to take me to a party, but his "tags were dead" on his car and he didn't want to take a chance driving around and risking a ticket. Still doesn't affect your dialing the telephone though. But don't worry. I'm a big girl now and I know how to find shit out!

KidaDynamite said:

ZombieKitten said:

how old are you and how old is he? you're not his student any more though, right? He's single, you're single? 'Tis the stuff movies are made of

I'm turning 24 on the 9th and he's 35.

He was my highschool teacher and I was only in that school for around 3 months.

He says he's single and yes, so am I.

"Tis the stuff movies are made of" I know.

Guuuurl brush off that school girl outfit and get crackin'!

Shyra said:

PunkMistress said:

Yeah, I'd be on alert if he's only contacting you during work hours.

I hope he's single and fucks your brains out, though!

Remember a while back in another thread I told the story about the guy I used to date who could sing his ass off and serenaded me with a song he wrote back in 1978 with the words "diamonds and pearls" in the lyrics? Yep, the very same.

Yeah, Punks, (love that name! ) I was thinking the same thing when I heard from him this morning right after the end of a long weekend. He said he wanted to call me over the weekend to take me to a party, but his "tags were dead" on his car and he didn't want to take a chance driving around and risking a ticket. Still doesn't affect your dialing the telephone though. But don't worry. I'm a big girl now and I know how to find shit out!

SherryJackson said:

KidaDynamite said:

I'm turning 24 on the 9th and he's 35.

He was my highschool teacher and I was only in that school for around 3 months.

He says he's single and yes, so am I.

"Tis the stuff movies are made of" I know.

Guuuurl brush off that school girl outfit and get crackin'!

!!!

Ace said:

PunkMistress said:

I wouldn't reopen that can of worms.

Seriously.

co -

SherryJackson said:

KidaDynamite said:

I'm turning 24 on the 9th and he's 35.

He was my highschool teacher and I was only in that school for around 3 months.

He says he's single and yes, so am I.

"Tis the stuff movies are made of" I know.

Guuuurl brush off that school girl outfit and get crackin'!

Y'all need Jesus.

NMuzakNSoul said:

SherryJackson said:

Guuuurl brush off that school girl outfit and get crackin'!

Y'all need Jesus.

I repent I swear Reverend!

Well.....I know it sounds all ego like, but I swear, its not about my ego. Its about showing somebody some long overdue appreciation......I've let too many people go by and not told them about the moments in life where they did something good that impacted my own life. And believe me, I'm not talking about sex or anything. Good grief...if it was sex I wanted, this would NOT be the guy I'd be trying to rekindle something with.

For what its worth...I also called my first grade teacher a few years ago. Why? Because I've never had the chance to in person, I never ran into her. She was and remains a hero in my heart, and she never knew because I wasnt the type who would vocalize much back then. So I wanted to tell her, and I looked her up and actually got her phone number and had a single conversation with her. She went above and beyond....our house burned down (There were 14 of us living in the home) and she actually took me into her home with her elderly mom. I just wanted to take a minute and tell her that she was my hero.

As for this guy, he was a good person, he was a good friend, but because of the intense relationship, the friendship had to go out the window with it. I guess a part of me would be flattered if he had a lifesize tattoo of me (kidding for those of you who take things too seriously) ....no malice or romantic interest.....just saying hello, I'm alive and finding out how he is doing would be heartwarming. Its the same conversation I would have if we passed one another on the sidewalk. It doesn't mean I'm looking to fuck. Just wanted to say hello, thank you and a "wellness check".

Its not egotistical or devious...i dont even see any "can of worms" to concern myself with......folk are reading stuff into this waaaaay to much....

KidaDynamite said:

purplemookiebut said:

i never got my high school crush but i found him on facebook recently. he just had a daughter. lucky kid has his big dark blue eyes...

that shoullda been my babby daddy. grrr.

no i didn't friend request him.

Well, maybe I should've done the same when it came to my highschool teacher that I had a crush on. Now we've been facebook friends for over a year and I'm not feeling too good about our situation, as of late.

ummmmm....are not feeling good cuz u still have a crush or is it cuz he knows too much now?

JustErin said:

This absolutely comes off as this being all about you, your ego, your insecurities.

You asked what we would do? Well, I'd probably contact him but I'd also know that it was all because of the reasons I stated and would not deny it.

you have me mixed up with somebody else. absolutely NO insecurities here....just general curiousity and a hello. I am not lying to myself or anything. I am not some skank looking to be a mistress. I am in a very good and healthy marriage....19 years strong. and if you knew what my husband looked like.... you would't doubt me for a nanosecond

Please....dont add anything onto my situation other than what I have typed. I know that sometimes people do that...apply their own experiences.

oh...and shyra....please....keep us updated!!!

StillGotIt said:

JustErin said:

This absolutely comes off as this being all about you, your ego, your insecurities.

You asked what we would do? Well, I'd probably contact him but I'd also know that it was all because of the reasons I stated and would not deny it.

you have me mixed up with somebody else. absolutely NO insecurities here....just general curiousity and a hello. I am not lying to myself or anything. I am not some skank looking to be a mistress. I am in a very good and healthy marriage....19 years strong. and if you knew what my husband looked like.... you would't doubt me for a nanosecond

Please....dont add anything onto my situation other than what I have typed. I know that sometimes people do that...apply their own experiences.

I simply said it comes off that way.

StillGotIt said:

JustErin said:

This absolutely comes off as this being all about you, your ego, your insecurities.

You asked what we would do? Well, I'd probably contact him but I'd also know that it was all because of the reasons I stated and would not deny it.

you have me mixed up with somebody else. absolutely NO insecurities here....just general curiousity and a hello. I am not lying to myself or anything. I am not some skank looking to be a mistress. I am in a very good and healthy marriage....19 years strong. and if you knew what my husband looked like.... you would't doubt me for a nanosecond

Please....dont add anything onto my situation other than what I have typed. I know that sometimes people do that...apply their own experiences.

One cannot make a comment such as this without adding a pic of said hottie..