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Are you a people pleaser? I don't particularly know why but all my life.. I've felt it was important to make others happy before myself... I guess always looking for praise from my parents did it to me.. Anyway as I get older and settle into my adult life.. I still feel this way.. There something about the reward of doing something for someone and the gratitude of thanks.. It's like a inner high for me ... To see someones day go more simple or to see someone so gracious for something I did just makes my heart sing... However it tends to hit me hard some times because like everything some people like to take advantage... Anyway I guess I'm just one of those I would give my shirt off my back to someone else in need kinda person... Anyway are you a people pleaser or are you an individual self satisfier? insatiable3: how can i cure my hangover?
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Used to be a major people-pleaser (that's the way I was raised). Now, I do what I can when I can, but not at the expense of my own happiness. Like everything else in life, it's about finding a balance. | |
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I'm both. | |
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the only needs that I put above mine are those of my wife and kids beyond that, I pick and choose how I give of myself How is it you feel? | |
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isn't that just an accident though? everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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Family and true friends - yes. | |
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used to be, not anymore. | |
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What do you mean? | |
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Both when situations arise, if need be. | |
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You're a hooker and a wanker?
[Edited 12/28/10 16:26pm] | |
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editI've always been extremely selfish | |
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don't you just...use people? keep them at arm's length?
if they enjoy your company it's a happy coincidence, but really they're just there to please you, right? [Edited 12/28/10 16:37pm] everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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There are more people than just the men I sleep with in my life, you know.
I'm a mother and have family and friends that I love and care deeply for and it has nothing to do with pleasing me.
Hilarious. | |
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Same. Though if I tend toward one pole or the other, I probably more often do things for others to my own ultimate loss. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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Same, in my younger years but not as much anymore. | |
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so the world is more than just HOT and NOT HOT? who knew? everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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Well, not really. My friends and family are all hot so.... | |
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A pretty good balance of both
in a transistion phase now ... past 25 yrs raising kids I swung towards pleasing them more than myself
now as an empty nester that is swinging back more towards doing more for self than others
It pleases me to please (certian ) others so that's a double me me pleaser as it is
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I wish I was selfish. Sometimes I'm TOO nice and people just run over me | |
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Exactly...
As I get older, I find myself not going out of my way to the point of my misery for others... I can say no, and mean it.... ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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I think I'm pretty equal, too. I'll go out of my way to help those that I care about so long as they show their appreciation in return. If they don't it's likely that I won't do it again (at least not for a very long time). But I don't generally give two shits for the rest for the world population these days. | |
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That was me not too long ago. | |
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Yes, that's me.
I find it hard to say no " a lot"...
at times I can't bring my self to turn someone down...
I always think 'm going to hurt someones feelings so I just give in. surviving on the thought of loving you, it's just like the water
I ain't felt this way in years... | |
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Pfft. No.  ACRYLIC
I do nothing professionally. I only do things for fun. johnart: Acrylic's old bras is where tits of all sizes go to frolic after they die. Tit Heaven. | |
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Yes I am...I blame it on the idea of being adopted and the need to feel a sense of belonging... Proud Memaw to Seyhan Olivia Christine ,Zoey Cirilo Jaylee & Ellie Abigail Lillian  | |
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Used to be. Trying to be everything to everybody in order to stay in their good graces is EXHAUSTING. There is joy in the word no and saying yes to those are okay with no | |
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Yep, that would be me.
MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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Yes, but not to the point I put myself last. I don't believe in I but I do believe in WE, no one stands alone. | |
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