vainandy said:

NDRU said:

As a man I think the bisexual woman thing is more of a fantasy than a real desire. Yes I do have the fantasy, too. But I know a few guys who are with bisexual woman (or women who had previously been with women) and for the most part they are in committed monagamous relasionships, just like I am. It was not the three-way stuff you'd dream of.

There is one couple, though, and apparently the husband does not take part in the wife's affairs, but instead listens to them have sex loudly while he watches TV or tries to read sexy!

So I think it depends on the couple. Even if a girl was willing to bring another girl into bed, what are the chances you'd be into both of the girls? Attraction is tricky. Three-way attraction has to be much trickier.

Exactly. The porn industry has painted a totally unrealistic picture of how bisexual women are. They paint a picture of two beautiful lipstick lesbians together that let a man join in with them during sex. Well, 90% of the lesbian couples I have seen, whether gay or bisexual, have been a beautiful feminine lipstick lesbian with an ultra masculine butch bulldagger. First of all, I doubt there are very few men that would be turned on watching sex and joining in with that type of couple. Secondly, that bulldagger has no interest in a man whatseover so she's not going to join in with him anyway. And thirdly, even if her girlfriend wants to have a threesome with a man while she's with her, she's going to be beat her ass (and she should beat her ass).

That lipstick lesbian threesome with the man joining in is just unrealistic fantasy created by the porn industry. Yeah, it happens sometimes but the women are usually drug addicts or just plain out sluts. I have, however, seen men who may not want a threesome with two beautiful lipstick lesbians, but try to see if he can sleep with a lipstick lesbian and see if he can take her away from her bulldagger. It's strictly to boost his ego like he's somebody that's all that. Well, I fixed on those bastards one night. I told a bulldagger friend of mine to tell a motherfucker he could have a threesome with the two of them, but if they were going to have a threesome, it wasn't going to be the type of threesome he wants. I told her to tell that motherfucker that he has to let her fuck him up with ass with her strap-on and that neither one of them were going to touch his dick and he wouldn't be allowed to touch the two of them whatsoever. Well, she told him that and she never had a problem out of that bastard harassing them again.

the fantasy is rarely the reality is it?

No.

ScarletScandal said:

Finally, a conversation on the org I can participate in!!!

Now...

4 years ago, I dated a bi-sexual guy. Thing is, he didn't tell me, I had to find out. He would tell other people to tell me things about him, that he should have told me himself. For instance, he neglected to tell me that he was married before we met, and that he had 2 kids....which wouldn't have bothered me had he been upfront about it. To me, it seemed like he was ashamed of his straight side, but to others, it was like he was ashamed of his gay side. That shit is too much to deal with. We broke up because he and his best friend went out one night, and he fucked some pregnant chick in a car in an alleyway. He told a friend of mine, who told me. Later that night, he called the house, and I asked him if there was anything we needed to discuss, and he accused me of being dramatic blah blah and never wanted to see me again. I saw him 3 weeks later hanging on some girl, then that same night, he was trying to hook back up with me. Too much fucking drama. Bi-sexuals can go fuck their mommas. It is RARE that I have met a bi-sexual guy who hasn't had issues with either side of his sexuality. Females are no problem. I have bi-sexual female friends, and I have seen them in genuine relationships with both sexes. With the guys, it's a whole other thing. I've seen bi-sexual guys with gay guys, and they'll be QUICK to say that they're "bi", before they'll admit to being gay. It's as if they have a problem with being gay themselves, yet, have no problem dating gay men. That shit is twisted to me. At least with a gay guy, I know he's always gonna like dick, and I would be more than willing to supply. But no, I would never date one again. Before I even met my ex, I used to tell people that I wouldn't date a bi-sexual guy, out of fear of him cheating on me or leaving me for a female, and I was hoping he would prove me wrong....so much for hope.

You're lucky. I've never had the bastards tell me they were anything other than "straight" which absolutely pisses me off to no end. How the hell can your ass be straight if another man has sucked your dick? Yes, they have a problem with being gay and most of them hate us. They just like the pleasure we can give them when we are their last resort if they didn't get a woman that night.

I've grown to hate the bastards over the years because I'm not going to let anyone think they are above me, especially someone who is engaging in a homosexual act themselves. Since they try to justify that they are straight because they aren't the ones doing the sucking, I turn the tables on them. I get them motherfuckers right up to the point of getting ready to come and then I stop and say..."Now motherfucker, you're going to suck me off if you want me to finish you off". Many of them do it....hell, the majority of them do it. Then I tell them "Now, you're just as much a faggott as I am" to piss them off.

I don't fool with them anymore if I can help it because all they do is get my blood pressure up and piss me off. I get sick of the arguements, plus a lot of them are some dangerous motherfuckers also. But you're right, most of them I've seen are not to be trusted and have no respect for men or women. They just want "something" to get them off.

Bisexual women, on the other hand, I have seen be either with a man at one time, or with a woman at one time, but most of them aren't running fucking both sexes behind their partners back and the most important thing is, they will admit that they are bisexual where these no good men won't.

CarrieMpls said:

Dating a bisexual man is one thing, dating a man who wants you to watch him “get off” with another man is another thing entirely.

If I were single and met a man I was attracted to, his being bisexual would not put him out of the running for a date.

As for the other part, I would not date any man who wants to sleep with other people (men or women), let alone have me be present to watch.

as long as he's honest about it from the beginning...

one of my ex bf's didn't want me to know, made a mutual (and out) gay friend swear to not tell me about the ex bf's occasional forays on the other side of the fence...

--- the mutual gay friend (who finally couldn't take it anymore and told me, nearly 2 yrs in) turned out the be the one he dated in between me and his last girlfriend...

I don't think it wouldn't have bothered me if he had been up front about it (we were in college).. but the lie/deception hurt more than anything.. If I can't trust you......

[Edited 12/30/10 19:42pm]

chocolate1 said:

I have had a lot of trouble with finding a hetero guy who wants to be with just me.

I'm not interested in expanding the playing field to include TWO SEXES to be dumped for. The competition has been rough enough against other women.

Yeah, this is my thinking too.

CarrieMpls said:

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

Can we be clear about that here?

Bisexual simply means they'll date both men and women - not that they MUST date both at the same time.

Thank you!

The original post assumes that my marriage is full of three-ways and Chris watching me fuck girls.

I fuck Chris. That's all. I still love women and will always be attracted to and fantasize about them, but I don't touch anyone except him.

PunkMistress said:

CarrieMpls said:

bisexual does not = non-monogamous

Can we be clear about that here?

Bisexual simply means they'll date both men and women - not that they MUST date both at the same time.

Thank you!

The original post assumes that my marriage is full of three-ways and Chris watching me fuck girls.

I fuck Chris. That's all. I still love women and will always be attracted to and fantasize about them, but I don't touch anyone except him.

That's what he said!

But thank you for confirming that I do not have to hate Chris. Wouldn't want him to be living the dream when I am not.

[Edited 12/28/10 16:06pm]

JerseyKRS said:

No.

NDRU said:

PunkMistress said:

Thank you!

The original post assumes that my marriage is full of three-ways and Chris watching me fuck girls.

I fuck Chris. That's all. I still love women and will always be attracted to and fantasize about them, but I don't touch anyone except him.

That's what he said!

But thank you for confirming that I do not have to hate Chris. Wouldn't want him to be living the dream when I am not.

i'm at the age where i can't really turn anyone away...

i cried for the season one finale of queer as folk when the one kid when to prom with another guy i think they beat him up...they took away the free showtime shortly after. never seen it after that

whistle said:

i'm at the age where i can't really turn anyone away...

whistle said:

i'm at the age where i can't really turn anyone away...

I will never reach that age

Serious said:

whistle said:

i'm at the age where i can't really turn anyone away...

I will never reach that age

you gonna kill your own spiders someday?...

whistle said:

Serious said:

I will never reach that age

you gonna kill your own spiders someday?...

What are you trying to say ?

Serious said:

whistle said:

you gonna kill your own spiders someday?...

What are you trying to say ?

oh, nevermind.

how come i can remember the things you post but you can't?

whistle said:

Serious said:

What are you trying to say ?

oh, nevermind.

how come i can remember the things you post but you can't?

Of course I remember what I posted, but what are you trying to say? That my bf will leave me when I get older? And that I won't find anybody new who is attractive to me because I am old then?

Serious said:

whistle said:

oh, nevermind.

how come i can remember the things you post but you can't?

Of course I remember what I posted, but what are you trying to say? That my bf will leave me when I get older? And that I won't find anybody new who is attractive to me because I am old then?

i'm not talking to you anymore. you hit me with fish too much.

whistle said:

Serious said:

Of course I remember what I posted, but what are you trying to say? That my bf will leave me when I get older? And that I won't find anybody new who is attractive to me because I am old then?

i'm not talking to you anymore. you hit me with fish too much.

Your loss

No I would not date a bisexual man.

Serious said:

whistle said:

you gonna kill your own spiders someday?...

What are you trying to say ?

That you will reach the age when you need someone - even if that someone is not your first choice.

PunkMistress said:

Serious said:

What are you trying to say ?

That you will reach the age when you need someone - even if that someone is not your first choice.

Yes. But only if the only woman he likes is me!

Can we say my bi-sexual man is George Micheal??

PunkMistress said:

Serious said:

What are you trying to say ?

That you will reach the age when you need someone - even if that someone is not your first choice.

Well I am in a relationship right now and I hope it will last depite all the millions of problems we are facing . And I don't want to think that someday I might choose to be with somebody I don't love just because I need someone to help me. Multiple sclerosis runs in my family, so I might be in such a situatuion even before I am old, but I can hardly imagine to be with soemone I don't love and feel attracted to.

tinaz said:

Can we say my bi-sexual man is George Micheal??

tinaz said:

Can we say my bi-sexual man is George Micheal??

hmmm... I might be willing to give him up if I can claim Ricky Martin as mine....

~ when he was on Oprah in October, he said the greatest love of his life was with a woman..

sh'up, John!

PositivityNYC said:

tinaz said:

Can we say my bi-sexual man is George Micheal??

hmmm... I might be willing to give him up if I can claim Ricky Martin as mine....

~ when he was on Oprah in October, he said the greatest love of his life was with a woman..

sh'up, John!

DEAL!!

But was he talking about his mom??

NDRU said:

PunkMistress said:

Thank you!

The original post assumes that my marriage is full of three-ways and Chris watching me fuck girls.

I fuck Chris. That's all. I still love women and will always be attracted to and fantasize about them, but I don't touch anyone except him.

That's what he said!

But thank you for confirming that I do not have to hate Chris. Wouldn't want him to be living the dream when I am not.

[Edited 12/28/10 16:06pm]

His dream life just doesn't involve other people having sex with his wife, I guess.

He's so old fashioned.

tinaz said:

PositivityNYC said:

hmmm... I might be willing to give him up if I can claim Ricky Martin as mine....

~ when he was on Oprah in October, he said the greatest love of his life was with a woman..

sh'up, John!

DEAL!!

But was he talking about his mom??

no.. I forget her name, but, it was an old girlfriend