So I have actually asked a guy out once, was always against it but as I get older I realize that sometimes you just gotta grab a bull by its horns and go for it when you see something you want.....my friends seriously dont like me doing this, they think it make me look desperate..I dont think so....Guys I'm not attracted are the boldest ones and always approach me and so I figured hey, if I spot a cute guy that I am attracted to I have no problem telling him he is cute. I'm totally comfortable with myself..I could handle being turned down...He could be gay, have a girlfriend or I may not be his "type"...everyone has a type right?...Hell if guys can take so much rejection from us ladies on the daily...We should be able to as well...no?...I dont know as I have not asked out enough guys to determine if my ego would take a bruising from rejection or not.

So ladies..do u ask guys out?...What's your experience with that like if you do?

And fellas..would you like it if more female came up to you or do ya'll like doing all the work?

I think a guy would be flattered. Anyone who wouldn't be flattered would really be a jerk.

Im married, but if I were single and knew the guy was single, I would have no problem asking them out!

i asked and he said No

then i asked again and he still said No

depends on the Guy i guess

and yes... if i ever c him again...i will ask...just to scare him

he said i am the only woman that he is scared of

oh and just in case he is lurking....

this is for him....

for old time sake

Efan said:

I think a guy would be flattered. Anyone who wouldn't be flattered would really be a jerk.

Indeed! He should be....I think so to.

physco185 said:

i asked and he said No

then i asked again and he still said No

depends on the Guy i guess

and yes... if i ever c him again...i will ask...just to scare him

he said i am the only woman that he is scared of

oh and just in case he is lurking....

this is for him....

for old time sake

Why is he scared of you though? Does he think you are too aggressive?.......who cares? He aint the one any way... so NEXT!

I had this cute guy serve me at a restaurant one afternoon and my friend kept bugging me that he was being flirty with me. I brushed it off, but a couple of days later I found myself thinking about him a lot. I was determined to hunt him down....and I did. After going back to the restaurant and finding out he had quit, hearing a rumor that he was working at another place and having no luck finding him there, I finally found him online and just asked him if he wanted to go out to dinner - a blind date. To my surprise he said yes (without even remembering me) and we hit it off and started to date.

But I do not do well with rejection at all and I have self confidence issues when it comes to men, so as a general rule, I don't ask dudes out.

lavender1983 said:

physco185 said:

i asked and he said No

then i asked again and he still said No

depends on the Guy i guess

and yes... if i ever c him again...i will ask...just to scare him

he said i am the only woman that he is scared of

oh and just in case he is lurking....

this is for him....

for old time sake

Why is he scared of you though? Does he think you are too aggressive?.......who cares? He aint the one any way... so NEXT!

he is scared of me because he likes me

and he thinks i am going to hurt him... but that is not the case

its because ppl that have been hurt ar always scared of getting hurt again

it's called Human Nature

JustErin said:

I had this cute guy serve me at a restaurant one afternoon and my friend kept bugging me that he was being flirty with me. I brushed it off, but a couple of days later I found myself thinking about him a lot. I was determined to hunt him down....and I did. After going back to the restaurant and finding out he had quit, hearing a rumor that he was working at another place and having no luck finding him there, I finally found him online and just asked him if he wanted to go out to dinner - a blind date. To my surprise he said yes (without even remembering me) and we hit it off and started to date.

But I do not do well with rejection at all and I have self confidence issues when it comes to men, so as a general rule, I don't ask dudes out.

Thats a cute story..reminds me a of a chick flick I saw recently..cant remeber the name.

I feel you though...I may feel confident now and think "Oh I wont take it personally if I get turned down"... but after a couple more that confidence may start to wane a little...I dont know...sometimes I just feel adventurous and if I see a cute guy who's making eye contact and smiling...hey I just try my luck.

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

RenHoek said:

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

RenHoek said:

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

Wow...thats awesome! Congrats on still being married 12 years later..cheers to 12 more years..times infinity of course ...till death do ya'll part!

lavender1983 said:

RenHoek said:

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

Wow...thats awesome! Congrats on still being married 12 years later..cheers to 12 more years..times infinity of course ...till death do ya'll part!

yeah... she'd have to kill me to get rid of me...

kidding, kidding of course!!!

tinaz said:

RenHoek said:

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

Awwwwwwwwwww !!

lavender1983 said:

So I have actually asked a guy out once, was always against it but as I get older I realize that sometimes you just gotta grab a bull by its horns and go for it when you see something you want.....my friends seriously dont like me doing this, they think it make me look desperate..I dont think so....Guys I'm not attracted are the boldest ones and always approach me and so I figured hey, if I spot a cute guy that I am attracted to I have no problem telling him he is cute. I'm totally comfortable with myself..I could handle being turned down...He could be gay, have a girlfriend or I may not be his "type"...everyone has a type right?...Hell if guys can take so much rejection from us ladies on the daily...We should be able to as well...no?...I dont know as I have not asked out enough guys to determine if my ego would take a bruising from rejection or not.

So ladies..do u ask guys out?...What's your experience with that like if you do?

And fellas..would you like it if more female came up to you or do ya'll like doing all the work?

For the love of good gawd, don't listen to your friends! Others putting you down because you dare to break the traditional roles that men (the chasers/aggressors) and women are "supposed" to play in the dating world tend to stem from their own insecurities.

What is 1 thing that is constantly in all the "Top 5 Things Women Are Attracted To In Men" lists? Confidence. Well, I have a little secret but you can't tell anyone else...guys are attracted to confident women, too. Yes, Angelina Jolie looks good, but I actually think it's her "if I want you, I'm gonna get you" aura that is blinding and what really makes her sexy.

I'm a bouncer at a night club in Seattle. I've gotten to the point that I don't even bother approaching women in the club anymore. And that's not due to arrogance, it's because the defenses go up immediately as soon as I make eye contact because I'm prejudged as a player that takes home a different girl every night simply based on nothing more than the fact that I work in a club (I can only WISH that it was that easy). Therefore, when a woman approaches me, no matter if I'm attracted to her or not, I make sure she knows that her compliments and interests are appreciated. I'll admit that I will tell a lil white lie and say that I'm already with someone if I'm not in to them, but I would NEVER reject someone the way that every single week I see guys putting up with. I'm not talking about the douchebags, scumbags and turdburglers. I'm talking about respectful guys that just say "hi" or ask for a dance.

Not too long ago there was an article on Startribune.com called "Women are the new pickup artists." The 1st line of the story made me realize how much I miss MN women (I'm originally from Mpls). It said "Armed with confidence and motivated by frustration, women are taking bar scene matters -and the art of the pickup- into their own hands."

So to answer your question "Fellas would you like it if more females came up to you?" Hell yeah!

And finally, your line "Hell if guys can take so much rejection from us ladies on the daily...We should be able to as well...no?" brought a tear of joy to my eye. No More Candy 4 U. As Much Candy 4 U As U Want!

RenHoek said:

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

I never ask men out. I like the man to be the man in this regard and find that its easier cuz there's nothing vague about either party's interest. But I'm not mean to guys I'm not feeling and I'll talk to anybody, but nah I ain't asking a dude out.

RenHoek said:

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

But who asked who out first?

lavender1983 said:

So I have actually asked a guy out once, was always against it but as I get older I realize that sometimes you just gotta grab a bull by its horns and go for it when you see something you want.....my friends seriously dont like me doing this, they think it make me look desperate..I dont think so....Guys I'm not attracted are the boldest ones and always approach me and so I figured hey, if I spot a cute guy that I am attracted to I have no problem telling him he is cute. I'm totally comfortable with myself..I could handle being turned down...He could be gay, have a girlfriend or I may not be his "type"...everyone has a type right?...Hell if guys can take so much rejection from us ladies on the daily...We should be able to as well...no?...I dont know as I have not asked out enough guys to determine if my ego would take a bruising from rejection or not.

So ladies..do u ask guys out?...What's your experience with that like if you do?

And fellas..would you like it if more female came up to you or do ya'll like doing all the work?

Yeah, I asked men out on a regular bases when I was single. Most guys were flattered and a few turned me down but no harm no foul. The men who said no, were more gracious than I recall I'd been sometimes. I learned not to have a "type" either. Yeah, manners, grooming, not having a criminal record, not living with his mother, etc, etc . . . was important. My definition of what's attractive was broad and I didn't much worry about occupation as long as they lived decent and worked. I learned you couldn't judge people by appearance alone.

Look, it's a date nothing more or less, unless you have 'Fatal Attraction' issues. I for one was never good with the "game playing" or had the patience with these dumb ass rules men and women were thought to have to play. Men I know express relief and said it was nice for a change to have a woman step-up and ask them out because they thought they were attractive and interesting. You are right to grab the bull by the horns; I have many friends and associates who find themselves now at middle-age living a life (alone) they really didn't want because of fear, rejection, rules or God forbid someone knows you like them.

7souls said:

lavender1983 said:

So I have actually asked a guy out once, was always against it but as I get older I realize that sometimes you just gotta grab a bull by its horns and go for it when you see something you want.....my friends seriously dont like me doing this, they think it make me look desperate..I dont think so....Guys I'm not attracted are the boldest ones and always approach me and so I figured hey, if I spot a cute guy that I am attracted to I have no problem telling him he is cute. I'm totally comfortable with myself..I could handle being turned down...He could be gay, have a girlfriend or I may not be his "type"...everyone has a type right?...Hell if guys can take so much rejection from us ladies on the daily...We should be able to as well...no?...I dont know as I have not asked out enough guys to determine if my ego would take a bruising from rejection or not.

So ladies..do u ask guys out?...What's your experience with that like if you do?

And fellas..would you like it if more female came up to you or do ya'll like doing all the work?

For the love of good gawd, don't listen to your friends! Others putting you down because you dare to break the traditional roles that men (the chasers/aggressors) and women are "supposed" to play in the dating world tend to stem from their own insecurities.

What is 1 thing that is constantly in all the "Top 5 Things Women Are Attracted To In Men" lists? Confidence. Well, I have a little secret but you can't tell anyone else...guys are attracted to confident women, too. Yes, Angelina Jolie looks good, but I actually think it's her "if I want you, I'm gonna get you" aura that is blinding and what really makes her sexy.

I'm a bouncer at a night club in Seattle. I've gotten to the point that I don't even bother approaching women in the club anymore. And that's not due to arrogance, it's because the defenses go up immediately as soon as I make eye contact because I'm prejudged as a player that takes home a different girl every night simply based on nothing more than the fact that I work in a club (I can only WISH that it was that easy). Therefore, when a woman approaches me, no matter if I'm attracted to her or not, I make sure she knows that her compliments and interests are appreciated. I'll admit that I will tell a lil white lie and say that I'm already with someone if I'm not in to them, but I would NEVER reject someone the way that every single week I see guys putting up with. I'm not talking about the douchebags, scumbags and turdburglers. I'm talking about respectful guys that just say "hi" or ask for a dance.

Not too long ago there was an article on Startribune.com called "Women are the new pickup artists." The 1st line of the story made me realize how much I miss MN women (I'm originally from Mpls). It said "Armed with confidence and motivated by frustration, women are taking bar scene matters -and the art of the pickup- into their own hands."

So to answer your question "Fellas would you like it if more females came up to you?" Hell yeah!

And finally, your line "Hell if guys can take so much rejection from us ladies on the daily...We should be able to as well...no?" brought a tear of joy to my eye. No More Candy 4 U. As Much Candy 4 U As U Want!

Why thanks 7souls..I love candy

TD3 said:

lavender1983 said:

So I have actually asked a guy out once, was always against it but as I get older I realize that sometimes you just gotta grab a bull by its horns and go for it when you see something you want.....my friends seriously dont like me doing this, they think it make me look desperate..I dont think so....Guys I'm not attracted are the boldest ones and always approach me and so I figured hey, if I spot a cute guy that I am attracted to I have no problem telling him he is cute. I'm totally comfortable with myself..I could handle being turned down...He could be gay, have a girlfriend or I may not be his "type"...everyone has a type right?...Hell if guys can take so much rejection from us ladies on the daily...We should be able to as well...no?...I dont know as I have not asked out enough guys to determine if my ego would take a bruising from rejection or not.

So ladies..do u ask guys out?...What's your experience with that like if you do?

And fellas..would you like it if more female came up to you or do ya'll like doing all the work?

Yeah, I asked men out on a regular bases when I was single. Most guys were flattered and a few turned me down but no harm no foul. The men who said no, were more gracious than I recall I'd been sometimes. I learned not to have a "type" either. Yeah, manners, grooming, not having a criminal record, not living with his mother, etc, etc . . . was important. My definition of what's attractive was broad and I didn't much worry about occupation as long as they lived decent and worked. I learned you couldn't judge people by appearance alone.

Look, it's a date nothing more or less, unless you have 'Fatal Attraction' issues. I for one was never good with the "game playing" or had the patience with these dumb ass rules men and women were thought to have to play. Men I know express relief and said it was nice for a change to have a woman step-up and ask them out because they thought they were attractive and interesting. You are right to grab the bull by the horns; I have many friends and associates who find themselves now at middle-age living a life (alone) they really didn't want because of fear, rejection, rules or God forbid someone knows you like them.

Not that i'm aware of.

Indeed the few men i've approached did the same.....I agree I'll test the waters from time to time..a no is not gonna kill me.

I am waaaaaay too shy to ask a man out. Hanging out perhaps...but on a date?

Idk....guess I'm afraid of getting heartbroken always. And I'm kinda old-fashioned in the sense that I expect the man to make the first move. I believe in myself in almost everything.....except this.

RenHoek said:

One New Years Eve, almost 12 years ago, my wife got down on one knee in front of ALL our friends and asked if I would marry her.

Your wife is awesome !

yes i asked out the guy i had a crush on at work. if i never did i'd still be a virgin...too bad he turned out to only care about playing video games all day and moved away 2months later...