Okay so lets have a I'm tired of being single thread for all my soldiers out there who have been single for a while. This is your time to complain

I loved being single most of my years in hs and college, but now I'm like... ok.. I've learned to love myself, hang out with myself, go on dates with myself, know myself, and I'm getting a little tired of it just being myself. I guess maybe I'm just not datable.. oh well *sigh* sometimes you got to accept it..

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I get tired of being single when I see someone I like enough to date and can't get them. I'm fairly picky though, so that doesn't happen often. (The seeing someone I like enough to date part)

I made a recent realization (do to a repetitive dream) that I am too afraid right now to be in a real relationship. I do not want to compromise, I want to be selfish. I am also scared that any man will mess up the direction of the lives of my children.

been nearly 2 yrs for me but y'all all know this cause i've posted it all over the org. sexting now with a guy from australia..just took him a ton of pics for him to enjoy..

i am just tired

Being single sucks...

I never thought I'd get to be this old and still be alone.

I hate when people in a relationship/married start telling you how it's not all that and it's not easy and...

REALLY?! But I bet they're not willing to let their people go...

I don't really want to get married anymore- that ship has sailed- but it'd be nice to have one person who cares about me and wants to spend time with me.

I can get SEX. I want a relationship.

As a person who went a LONG time being single, all I can say is that the grass is always greener on the other side of the street. The positives out weigh the negatives SOMETIMES, other times it's like I should have horded a house of cats and skipped the work of a relationship.

The hopeles romantic that I am knows better and knows that if you are ready to meet someone and really want to, make an effort and a person will come to you. Is this the right person, who the fuck knows? Take a handful and sort them out based on the big picture and long term. Beauty's only skin deep and we ALL GET OLD, how will you like the person who is a selfish asshole when you're 70?

I don't know why I keep ending up single. I just don't want to end up alone the rest of my life. That's one of my worst fears.

missfee said:

I don't know why I keep ending up single. I just don't want to end up alone the rest of my life. That's one of my worst fears.

Mine too...

I've been single far many more years of my life than coupled and I grew to be perfectly happy, single and alone. And I assumed I’d be that way the rest of my life. Sure, it got lonely on occasion, but you can feel that way no matter how many people are around.

Now I’m perfectly happy with a wonderful man. If something happens and it doesn’t work out, I’ll be sad to lose him (devastated, frankly, at this stage of things), but I’m glad I know I can be happy on my own as well.

I even suck at online dating, I dont have any flirting or dating bone in my body.. maybe I should just get use to it, Its not hard to get attention but it seems like all they want is one night of fun with my body or they refused to wait until marriage when they find out I have my own little standard I am picky, but when I do find someone I like it never seems to go the way I planned it. I still got myself and my poetry and thats all that matters. I think...Well ultimately, I got God and no matter what I still got him

Every now and then I get a tinge of loneliness. Then I get over it as pretty quickly as it comes. From time to time, I ask myself: what is wrong with me that I am single and some of the most horrible motherfuckers roaming the earth are with someone?

Now every time I think of those who have hurt me, who have either lied or not been honest enough with me to tell me why I wasn't good enough, I think I am better off alone until the the person who deserves ME comes along.

IamFunkay7 said:

I even suck at online dating, I dont have any flirting or dating bone in my body.. maybe I should just get use to it, Its not hard to get attention but it seems like all they want is one night of fun with my body or they refused to wait until marriage when they find out I have my own little standard I am picky, but when I do find someone I like it never seems to go the way I planned it. I still got myself and my poetry and thats all that matters. I think...Well ultimately, I got God and no matter what I still got him

We could be twins in the single world. I definitely would love to be in a long term relationship, maybe even married, but meeting someone doesn't happen that often...every couple of years. I've tried online as well, and I might get a smile or a basic message, but it doesn't go any further after reciprocating. I'm not the flirty type, which is probably a hindrance, but I can only be me. In the meantime, I pray and just try to optimistic that in time he will come, and just enjoy life on my terms, and not settle for whomever crosses my path.

Vendetta1 said:

Every now and then I get a tinge of loneliness. Then I get over it as pretty quickly as it comes. From time to time, I ask myself: what is wrong with me that I am single and some of the most horrible motherfuckers roaming the earth are with someone?

Now every time I think of those who have hurt me, who have either lied or not been honest enough with me to tell me why I wasn't good enough, I think I am better off alone until the the person who deserves ME comes along.

Huh? Did you date my exes?

funkyslsistah said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I even suck at online dating, I dont have any flirting or dating bone in my body.. maybe I should just get use to it, Its not hard to get attention but it seems like all they want is one night of fun with my body or they refused to wait until marriage when they find out I have my own little standard I am picky, but when I do find someone I like it never seems to go the way I planned it. I still got myself and my poetry and thats all that matters. I think...Well ultimately, I got God and no matter what I still got him

We could be twins in the single world. I definitely would love to be in a long term relationship, maybe even married, but meeting someone doesn't happen that often...every couple of years. I've tried online as well, and I might get a smile or a basic message, but it doesn't go any further after reciprocating. I'm not the flirty type, which is probably a hindrance, but I can only be me. In the meantime, I pray and just try to optimistic that in time he will come, and just enjoy life on my terms, and not settle for whomever crosses my path.

Yep we're twins

I have that sometimes too. When I feel vulnerable and in dire need of TLC.

For example:

When I'm on the couch with flu, I suddenly want to have a relationship. Then I think back about all those men who nursed, cherished and took care of me when I was ill.

O wait. They didn't. I was not only ill, I was also sick with dissapointment.

Then I'm very happy to be sick and single. And not be sick and also feel hurt by my partner.

I'm tired of being sinlge when I'm yearning for some physical love action.

Then I think back of all that good sex I had when I was in a relationship.

Oh wait. It was good in the beginning. Then he did not make me feel beatifull and desired. He just went in to get his own stuf out. And leaving me fantasizing about this really good lover. Feeling very lonely with this man being my partner next to me in bed.

When I think of that I appreciate my good nights of sleep without the snoring, sweating, farting and his wet spot one has to deal with in a relationship.

And I enjoy the one night stand with twenty somethings with sexy bodies and skills

No, I don't envy my married girlfriends with their beer bellied husbands, getting scolded at whilst taking care of their children. And no, they are not trash, they are docter, businessman, some even good looking.

The man would look good in a magazine on paper. Stop dreaming about the fairy tale picture of man that is painted on paper.

In reality he's a clingy, avoidant, afraid to be honest and upfront, doesn't have a clue about himself and his direction. He expects you to solve his emotional problems without talking about them. He wants you to be smart, however not smart enough to be able to dispute his simple arguments.

Allright, I should ban myself from posting about testosteroncarriers. Doesn't do anybody any good

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We as humans were created to long for one another..

We were created to fall in love and procreate, express our love, whatever you want to call it.

Some of us can live our lives Single, I'm just concern because I've been solo and I dont feel like I am human because I cant relate to love in that way. Now as a I hug myself I realize, oh well If I do live this entire life single I can deal with it, but like any other human being I get tired.

funkyslsistah said:

IamFunkay7 said:

I even suck at online dating, I dont have any flirting or dating bone in my body.. maybe I should just get use to it, Its not hard to get attention but it seems like all they want is one night of fun with my body or they refused to wait until marriage when they find out I have my own little standard I am picky, but when I do find someone I like it never seems to go the way I planned it. I still got myself and my poetry and thats all that matters. I think...Well ultimately, I got God and no matter what I still got him

We could be twins in the single world. I definitely would love to be in a long term relationship, maybe even married, but meeting someone doesn't happen that often...every couple of years. I've tried online as well, and I might get a smile or a basic message, but it doesn't go any further after reciprocating. I'm not the flirty type, which is probably a hindrance, but I can only be me. In the meantime, I pray and just try to optimistic that in time he will come, and just enjoy life on my terms, and not settle for whomever crosses my path.

i'm weary on meeting ppl thru a dating site

i don't wanna end up in a well rubbing the lotion on it's skin whenever it's told or it get's the hose again...

dJJ said:

I have that sometimes too. When I feel vulnerable and in dire need of TLC.

For example:

When I'm on the couch with flu, I suddenly want to have a relationship. Then I think back about all those men who nursed, cherished and took care of me when I was ill.

O wait. They didn't. I was not only ill, I was also sick with dissapointment.

Then I'm very happy to be sick and single. And not be sick and also feel hurt by my partner.

when i got terrible insomnia tring to fall asleep that's when my mind racing and i'll start wishing i had a man to wrap my arms around next to me....

for everyone, realize that just because you get tired doesn't make you weak or anything, we are all human here so just know, life is a beautiful experience meant to be lived. I think in the end we should find happiness in every seasons of our lives. No need to belittle those in relationships, some dont work out and are unhappy. But unless you are like me, you dont date at all, then you can get tired of it sometimes . I feel better knowing that I am not the only one who gets tired, Thank you for sharing all your feelings and I think we got ourselves and God no matter what. As much as we dont like being single sometimes in our lives, there will come a time in your life when you dont like being with someone or wish you were single again for the meantime, there are pros and cons for each side. Good luck in all your love lives. We were made to show one another compassion, so dont make anyone make you feel bad for feeling tired sometimes!! Besides, those people had to be in a relationships because they were lonely once to feel that way about loving the single life. I think we should be happy though no matter what because none of those things will satisfy you.

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Vendetta1 said:

From time to time, I ask myself: what is wrong with me that I am single and some of the most horrible motherfuckers roaming the earth are with someone?

Me too...

chocolate1 said:

Vendetta1 said:

From time to time, I ask myself: what is wrong with me that I am single and some of the most horrible motherfuckers roaming the earth are with someone?

Me too...

Me three...

I had one interesting convo with a friend, she flirts and manipulates her men. Mind games are played and she is an awesome player... married twice now. It is how you approach men I guess.

I guess I'll be single since I've never been one to play mind games on a man.

paintedlady said:

chocolate1 said:

Me too...

Me three...

I had one interesting convo with a friend, she flirts and manipulates her men. Mind games are played and she is an awesome player... married twice now. It is how you approach men I guess.

I guess I'll be single since I've never been one to play mind games on a man.

If someone keeps getting on my last nerve, I may join the single scene, move over.

IamFunkay7 said:

for everyone, realize that just because you get tired doesn't make you weak or anything, we are all human here so just know, life is a beautiful experience meant to be lived. I think in the end we should find happiness in every seasons of our lives. No need to belittle those in relationships, some dont work out and are unhappy. But unless you are like me, you dont date at all, then you can get tired of it sometimes . I feel better knowing that I am not the only one who gets tired, Thank you for sharing all your feelings and I think we got ourselves and God no matter what. As much as we dont like being single sometimes in our lives, there will come a time in your life when you dont like being with someone or wish you were single again for the meantime, there are pros and cons for each side. Good luck in all your love lives. We were made to show one another compassion, so dont make anyone make you feel bad for feeling tired sometimes!! Besides, those people had to be in a relationships because they were lonely once to feel that way about loving the single life. I think we should be happy though no matter what because none of those things will satisfy you.

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paintedlady said:

I made a recent realization (do to a repetitive dream) that I am too afraid right now to be in a real relationship. I do not want to compromise, I want to be selfish. I am also scared that any man will mess up the direction of the lives of my children.

I don't think of you as single. The guy you are having sex with cares about you a lot and is in your life weekly. You just don't see him as a father figure for your child. I don't see you dating anybody else until he is out of your life. So to me your not single.

Deadflow3r said:

paintedlady said:

I made a recent realization (do to a repetitive dream) that I am too afraid right now to be in a real relationship. I do not want to compromise, I want to be selfish. I am also scared that any man will mess up the direction of the lives of my children.

I don't think of you as single. The guy you are having sex with cares about you a lot and is in your life weekly. You just don't see him as a father figure for your child. I don't see you dating anybody else until he is out of your life. So to me your not single.

I agree. is a part of your life, even if you don't want to label it.

chocolate1 said:

Deadflow3r said:

I don't think of you as single. The guy you are having sex with cares about you a lot and is in your life weekly. You just don't see him as a father figure for your child. I don't see you dating anybody else until he is out of your life. So to me your not single.

I agree. is a part of your life, even if you don't want to label it.

I feel single.... he doesn't want a real relationship and I am afraid he'll repeat his old pattern of being a serial cheater.

I guess you guys are right though.... I'm still not cooking a damn thing for that man!

Leo men and Taurus women are a bad mix.

I on the other hand am very single and until this hoarding thing has been completely Feng Shued away I don't have the nerve to add someone of the quality I want in my life.