chocolate1 said:

nursev said:

This thread makes me sad I don't wanna think about it. The real question is have you ever loved someone that didn't truly love you?

I was engaged about 6 years back.

I think I was in love with the idea of being a bride and planning a wedding, than with him...

So I think that part was mutual.

But what made me think about this was that when we were breaking up, I asked him why he wanted to marry me in the first place. His reply: "We looked good on paper."

My goodness. Well I guess in the end the best decision was ultimately made. This just makes me thankful that I haven't jumped the broom just yet. So thanks for your inspiration.

missfee said:

chocolate1 said:

I was engaged about 6 years back.

I think I was in love with the idea of being a bride and planning a wedding, than with him...

So I think that part was mutual.

But what made me think about this was that when we were breaking up, I asked him why he wanted to marry me in the first place. His reply: "We looked good on paper."

My goodness. Well I guess in the end the best decision was ultimately made. This just makes me thankful that I haven't jumped the broom just yet. So thanks for your inspiration.

So glad I could help!

Seriously, tho... He was a Stanford graduate, and I was in the Doctoral program.

I had never been married and had no kids, and we almost looked like brother & sister so we looked nice in pictures.

So I guess he thought we made a "perfect couple"...

chocolate1 said:

missfee said:

My goodness. Well I guess in the end the best decision was ultimately made. This just makes me thankful that I haven't jumped the broom just yet. So thanks for your inspiration.

So glad I could help!

Seriously, tho... He was a Stanford graduate, and I was in the Doctoral program.

I had never been married and had no kids, and we almost looked like brother & sister so we looked nice in pictures.

So I guess he thought we made a "perfect couple"...

Oh boy. When will folks learn that picture perfect doesn't = a happy family. If anything, it causes more drama because there isn't any true love involved. I'm glad you escaped that throne of hell you were about to enter

everyone has the same first love: themselves

His name was Timothy...from that relationship I was blessed with two beautiful girls. We were young, so things didn't work out, he married someone else, I moved on, but we still talk to this day. He is someone I will always love!

My first love, will always be my on/off girlfriend of 6 years. We met, believe it or not, on-line on a site called, Black Planet. We talked everyday on-line for 3 months and then we decided to meet face to face. She is from Long Island and we agreed to meet at Penn Station, in NYC. I remember being as nerveous as a cat, as I waited for her train. When I saw her, she literally took my breathe away, and still does, to this day. That night we saw that movie, "Collateral", with Jamie Foxx and Tom Cruise. After that, I took her to dinner at this Jamaican spot called, Negril's. We talked, for what seemed for hours and I did not want the night to end. When the date was over, she would not let me kiss her, "Goodnight", until our next date. That impressed me, allot. I remember, litterally walking away from her, backwards, because I did not want to take my eyes off of her. Since then, we have had allot of issues that have come between us, and things are not as, "sunshiny and rosey", as they once were. We are both to blame for the way things have turned out. I pray to the God, everynight that things get better between us. Maybe one day, they will...

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shorttrini said:

My first love, will always be my on/off girlfriend of 6 years. We met, believe it or not, on-line on a site called, Black Planet. We talked everyday on-line for 3 months and then we decided to meet face to face. She is from Long Island and we agreed to meet at Penn Station, in NYC. I remember being as nerveous as a cat, as I waited for her train. When I saw her, she literally took my breathe away, and still does, to this day. That night we saw that movie, "Collateral", with Jamie Foxx and Tom Cruise. After that, I took her to dinner at this Jamaican spot called, Negril's. We talked, for what seemed for hours and I did not want the night to end. When the date was over, she would not let me kiss her, "Goodnight", until our next date. That impressed me, allot. I remember, litterally walking away from her, backwards, because I did not want to take my eyes off of her. Since then, we have had allot of issues that have come between us, and things are not as, "sunshiny and rosey", as they once were. We are both to blame for the way things have turned out. I pray to the God, everynight that things get better between us. Maybe one day, they will...

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missfee said:

shorttrini said:

My first love, will always be my on/off girlfriend of 6 years. We met, believe it or not, on-line on a site called, Black Planet. We talked everyday on-line for 3 months and then we decided to meet face to face. She is from Long Island and we agreed to meet at Penn Station, in NYC. I remember being as nerveous as a cat, as I waited for her train. When I saw her, she literally took my breathe away, and still does, to this day. That night we saw that movie, "Collateral", with Jamie Foxx and Tom Cruise. After that, I took her to dinner at this Jamaican spot called, Negril's. We talked, for what seemed for hours and I did not want the night to end. When the date was over, she would not let me kiss her, "Goodnight", until our next date. That impressed me, allot. I remember, litterally walking away from her, backwards, because I did not want to take my eyes off of her. Since then, we have had allot of issues that have come between us, and things are not as, "sunshiny and rosey", as they once were. We are both to blame for the way things have turned out. I pray to the God, everynight that things get better between us. Maybe one day, they will...

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Thanks, Missfee. You being a fellow Libra, knows how hard this is on me.

my first love was someone i met here on prince.org, years ago. it didn't work out, and was very painful at the time to recover from.

but now that i have been married for the last 7 years to my husband everton, i realize that what i thought was love with that other guy, really wasn't the real deal. my husband has shown me love beyond anything i could ever find words to write about here. so i feel like my husband is my first real, true, deep love of my life, and he always will be that for me. no one has ever made me feel the way my husband makes me feel. he has shown me what a soulmate really is.

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PunkMistress said:

KatSkrizzle said:

Yeah, that is true for me too.

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I'm, stealing this.

shorttrini said:

missfee said:

Thanks, Missfee. You being a fellow Libra, knows how hard this is on me.

Not sure if it's a Libra thing. But I HATE losing people in ways like that. Even if it is for the best and they are schmucks, it really kills me. Libras strive for balance, perhaps that's why I see both the jerk and the great person that they are.

I hope it works for the both of you!

Ok i lied, i thought you said, had sex with...but my first love was in junior high. He was quiet, i was loud and boisterous, like now...anyway, we would talk on the phone for hours and hours after school, and for christmas one year, he bought me a necklace that said "number 1" that i still have in an old jewelery box somewhere.

KatSkrizzle said:

shorttrini said:

Thanks, Missfee. You being a fellow Libra, knows how hard this is on me.

Not sure if it's a Libra thing. But I HATE losing people in ways like that. Even if it is for the best and they are schmucks, it really kills me. Libras strive for balance, perhaps that's why I see both the jerk and the great person that they are.

I hope it works for the both of you!

It goes waaaay deeper than just zodiac signs. She and I both have issues, both as a couple and as individuals. We both had messed up childhoods, especially her. Add to this that she has bi-polar disorder. That being said, she is one of the most, talented, and smartest people that I know.

shorttrini said:

missfee said:

Thanks, Missfee. You being a fellow Libra, knows how hard this is on me.

That I do. We librans are creatures that love hard...and when that love is returned we fall into this deep ocean of emotions full of love for that person... but when it doesn't work out or isn't working out, the pain is just as great as the love we feel for that person. And I've experienced that feeling myself. It's not fun at all, so I do know what you are going through. If you ever want to talk, feel free to orgnote me anytime.

missfee said:

shorttrini said:

Thanks, Missfee. You being a fellow Libra, knows how hard this is on me.

That I do. We librans are creatures that love hard...and when that love is returned we fall into this deep ocean of emotions full of love for that person... but when it doesn't work out or isn't working out, the pain is just as great as the love we feel for that person. And I've experienced that feeling myself. It's not fun at all, so I do know what you are going through. If you ever want to talk, feel free to orgnote me anytime.

Thank you baby....I will.

Sherilyn Morimoto

shorttrini said:

My first love, will always be my on/off girlfriend of 6 years. We met, believe it or not, on-line on a site called, Black Planet. We talked everyday on-line for 3 months and then we decided to meet face to face. She is from Long Island and we agreed to meet at Penn Station, in NYC. I remember being as nerveous as a cat, as I waited for her train. When I saw her, she literally took my breathe away, and still does, to this day. That night we saw that movie, "Collateral", with Jamie Foxx and Tom Cruise. After that, I took her to dinner at this Jamaican spot called, Negril's. We talked, for what seemed for hours and I did not want the night to end. When the date was over, she would not let me kiss her, "Goodnight", until our next date. That impressed me, allot. I remember, litterally walking away from her, backwards, because I did not want to take my eyes off of her. Since then, we have had allot of issues that have come between us, and things are not as, "sunshiny and rosey", as they once were. We are both to blame for the way things have turned out. I pray to the God, everynight that things get better between us. Maybe one day, they will...

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You always tell the heart twinking stories.

myfavorite said:

Ok i lied, i thought you said, had sex with...but my first love was in junior high. He was quiet, i was loud and boisterous, like now...anyway, we would talk on the phone for hours and hours after school, and for christmas one year, he bought me a necklace that said "number 1" that i still have in an old jewelery box somewhere.

that is just 2 cute...esp that u kept it

Terrible. Awful. I never want to talk about it again.

KidaDynamite said:

shorttrini said:

My first love, will always be my on/off girlfriend of 6 years. We met, believe it or not, on-line on a site called, Black Planet. We talked everyday on-line for 3 months and then we decided to meet face to face. She is from Long Island and we agreed to meet at Penn Station, in NYC. I remember being as nerveous as a cat, as I waited for her train. When I saw her, she literally took my breathe away, and still does, to this day. That night we saw that movie, "Collateral", with Jamie Foxx and Tom Cruise. After that, I took her to dinner at this Jamaican spot called, Negril's. We talked, for what seemed for hours and I did not want the night to end. When the date was over, she would not let me kiss her, "Goodnight", until our next date. That impressed me, allot. I remember, litterally walking away from her, backwards, because I did not want to take my eyes off of her. Since then, we have had allot of issues that have come between us, and things are not as, "sunshiny and rosey", as they once were. We are both to blame for the way things have turned out. I pray to the God, everynight that things get better between us. Maybe one day, they will...

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You always tell the heart twinking stories.

Thanks....

I am certain it was my Mom

then my Dad and siblings

and so on

I had a bunch of puppy love crushes going back to elementary school, but my first serious romance happened during my senior year of high school. She was a strawberry blonde who was really popular and nice to people. I've been in love a few times since, but they have not been quite the same.

whistle said:

everyone has the same first love: themselves

Wrong

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Terrible. Awful. I never want to talk about it again.

Renee

Puppy love? Mmm, not sure since its 25 years later and I still think of her everyday. See my sig below? That's a lyric from a song I wrote and recorded about her back in 1994.

I need to re-record that song, with Threadbare replacing my guitar solo.

The guy I dated for fourish years from high school through college. I'd never had someone be as in love with me as I was with them before and it was amazing. We grew up together, eventually changed so much that it didn't work out. I broke up with him because I felt it sooner (girls mature faster ) and also because I'd fallen very hard in love with someone else as our relationship started to die. He and I didn't talk for a few years, but we're friends now and I'm very glad.

evenstar3 said:

The guy I dated for fourish years from high school through college. I'd never had someone be as in love with me as I was with them before and it was amazing. We grew up together, eventually changed so much that it didn't work out. I broke up with him because I felt it sooner (girls mature faster ) and also because I'd fallen very hard in love with someone else as our relationship started to die. He and I didn't talk for a few years, but we're friends now and I'm very glad.

Isn't it wonderful when you can come back and be friends with someone you still care about but use to be deeply in love with? I think it's a great feeling.

missfee said:

evenstar3 said:

The guy I dated for fourish years from high school through college. I'd never had someone be as in love with me as I was with them before and it was amazing. We grew up together, eventually changed so much that it didn't work out. I broke up with him because I felt it sooner (girls mature faster ) and also because I'd fallen very hard in love with someone else as our relationship started to die. He and I didn't talk for a few years, but we're friends now and I'm very glad.

Isn't it wonderful when you can come back and be friends with someone you still care about but use to be deeply in love with? I think it's a great feeling.

I think it'll be a loooong time before I can "double date" with him, but it's nice to be able to talk and share things.

sillygurl said:

missfee said:

Isn't it wonderful when you can come back and be friends with someone you still care about but use to be deeply in love with? I think it's a great feeling.

I think it'll be a loooong time before I can "double date" with him, but it's nice to be able to talk and share things.

that is something that i could never do... even if we remain friends

it's prob because i've seen him naked and i know what he can do...

and it would also b awkward for my date

2 many things going around in my head with this scenario