TD3 said:

My goodness girls some people would love to apart of your family, they could blow all their Christmas money on themselves.

Seriously, ask him what he wants, ask your hubby to suggest at least 3 things he'd like for Christmas.

3 boxes of dumsticks, for work

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

right, because YOU would appreciate a romantic gift, so his was a great one. He doesn't necessarily need a romantic one, but it is romantic to get a gift you really want even if it's drumsticks.

But it's really hard, who knows what to buy grown men? They usually have everything they really want and everything else is too expensive or involves infidelity of some sort

I dunno, the easiest thing for me would be to just give him the sticks and be done with it. It feels like not enough of an effort. Like he is not special to me.

well stick are not that exciting.

Someone suggested spa time and someone said hookers and someone said sex. How about a compromise of all three? A spa/massage. Maybe combine a weekend resort with it. That way he can indulge a bit but you still get a romantic weekend out of it.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

in Andy's opinion. Not that he is a woman, in general. But it IS interesting for me to learn that men (assuming Andy is representing a general concensus) believe romance only benefits the lady

So spending quality time with your girl, away from kids and work distractions, with the promise of a night of ahead wouldn't be appreciated by a man? Or is it actually your worst nightmare?

Wait a sec, no one is saying that a man can't or doesn't appreciate being with their partner.

But we are talking about a gift, and what a man might really want. It is ok to be selfish now and then.

The way I see it, he's out working hard, providing for his family, he's loving you and his kids every day. I'd rather just give a gift that is something just for him. I feel no need to make it about me in any way...and that's what a romantic gift does.

Maybe it's that women need to be reassured that they are loved and appreciated....and men don't. They already know that...they don't need to be reminded.

Generally speaking of course.

[Edited 12/2/10 14:36pm]

which is the difficult thing, being the person that he is, he doesn't LIKE anything!

If I was married to my brother in law, it would be so easy! Tickets to race cars, a bottle of scotch, a few nice sweaters, iTunes voucher, sporting equipment etc. EASY.

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

I dunno, the easiest thing for me would be to just give him the sticks and be done with it. It feels like not enough of an effort. Like he is not special to me.

well stick are not that exciting.

Someone suggested spa time and someone said hookers and someone said sex. How about a compromise of all three? A spa/massage. Maybe combine a weekend resort with it. That way he can indulge a bit but you still get a romantic weekend out of it.

We just did that!

does it really, really have to be something to be wrapped?

coz I was thinking maybe something to do with his band? (a website, or a pimped up one in case they already got one etc..)

or maybe any silly thing you've randomly noticed he enjoys but just probably doesn't really talk much about?

I mean I know when my guy got me a cardigan for my birthday I nearly screwed his brains off right on that restaurant table. he noticed!

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

well stick are not that exciting.

Someone suggested spa time and someone said hookers and someone said sex. How about a compromise of all three? A spa/massage. Maybe combine a weekend resort with it. That way he can indulge a bit but you still get a romantic weekend out of it.

We just did that!

did he get massage? That's the main part of what I am suggesting, with the resort thrown in for the romance part. But the massage is just for him, right? Maybe a nice looking female to perform it so he can enjoy it (assuming he has the appropriate boundaries, of course)

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

We just did that!

did he get massage? That's the main part of what I am suggesting, with the resort thrown in for the romance part. But the massage is just for him, right? Maybe a nice looking female to perform it so he can enjoy it (assuming he has the appropriate boundaries, of course)

yes, and he hated it and made me vow he'd never have to have one from a stranger EVER again

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

did he get massage? That's the main part of what I am suggesting, with the resort thrown in for the romance part. But the massage is just for him, right? Maybe a nice looking female to perform it so he can enjoy it (assuming he has the appropriate boundaries, of course)

yes, and he hated it and made me vow he'd never have to have one from a stranger EVER again

what a freak!

what about a fleshlight?

Rayan said:

does it really, really have to be something to be wrapped?

coz I was thinking maybe something to do with his band? (a website, or a pimped up one in case they already got one etc..)

or maybe any silly thing you've randomly noticed he enjoys but just probably doesn't really talk much about?

I mean I know when my guy got me a cardigan for my birthday I nearly screwed his brains off right on that restaurant table. he noticed!

I made him 3 awesome websites and they are so nice, other people want me to do theirs also

Tomorrow night I am taking photos of the band for their website.

It's kind of my job though, I'm partners in his business and I look after the visual marketing of the bands.

This is what he seems to like:

texting

talking on the phone

watching TV

sleeping on the couch

can't think of anything else

ZombieKitten said:

Rayan said:

does it really, really have to be something to be wrapped?

coz I was thinking maybe something to do with his band? (a website, or a pimped up one in case they already got one etc..)

or maybe any silly thing you've randomly noticed he enjoys but just probably doesn't really talk much about?

I mean I know when my guy got me a cardigan for my birthday I nearly screwed his brains off right on that restaurant table. he noticed!

I made him 3 awesome websites and they are so nice, other people want me to do theirs also

Tomorrow night I am taking photos of the band for their website.

It's kind of my job though, I'm partners in his business and I look after the visual marketing of the bands.

This is what he seems to like:

texting

talking on the phone

watching TV

sleeping on the couch

can't think of anything else

does he like his phone? Could it be upgraded?

Better cable options? New TV?

ZombieKitten said:

Rayan said:

does it really, really have to be something to be wrapped?

coz I was thinking maybe something to do with his band? (a website, or a pimped up one in case they already got one etc..)

or maybe any silly thing you've randomly noticed he enjoys but just probably doesn't really talk much about?

I mean I know when my guy got me a cardigan for my birthday I nearly screwed his brains off right on that restaurant table. he noticed!

I made him 3 awesome websites and they are so nice, other people want me to do theirs also

Tomorrow night I am taking photos of the band for their website.

It's kind of my job though, I'm partners in his business and I look after the visual marketing of the bands.

This is what he seems to like:

texting

talking on the phone

watching TV

sleeping on the couch

can't think of anything else

ahhh so that's done already.

ok I see TVs & couches, does/might he by any chance care for those gigantic remotes that do everything? I know some guys live for this stuff, for some reason.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

Wait a sec, no one is saying that a man can't or doesn't appreciate being with their partner.

But we are talking about a gift, and what a man might really want. It is ok to be selfish now and then.

The way I see it, he's out working hard, providing for his family, he's loving you and his kids every day. I'd rather just give a gift that is something just for him. I feel no need to make it about me in any way...and that's what a romantic gift does.

Maybe it's that women need to be reassured that they are loved and appreciated....and men don't. They already know that...they don't need to be reminded.

Generally speaking of course.

[Edited 12/2/10 14:36pm]

which is the difficult thing, being the person that he is, he doesn't LIKE anything!

If I was married to my brother in law, it would be so easy! Tickets to race cars, a bottle of scotch, a few nice sweaters, iTunes voucher, sporting equipment etc. EASY.

He likes those drumsticks and it's what he wants! Get them! I bet he will feel appreciated and especially heard...something that I think many men don`t feel in relationships.

wait a minute... you make websites? I need a website!

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

which is the difficult thing, being the person that he is, he doesn't LIKE anything!

If I was married to my brother in law, it would be so easy! Tickets to race cars, a bottle of scotch, a few nice sweaters, iTunes voucher, sporting equipment etc. EASY.

He likes those drumsticks and it's what he wants! Get them! I bet he will feel appreciated and especially heard...something that I think many men don`t feel in relationships.

she got them she just knows it's a lame gift But I agree, it's the little things that matter.

My brother has no say in how his home is decorated but he decided he wanted a little more color, so for his birthday he asked his wife for some bright and colorful placemats. As he opend the present, she said "I know this is not what you asked for, but..." and he has held it against her for a long time.

They're getting counselling.

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

I made him 3 awesome websites and they are so nice, other people want me to do theirs also

Tomorrow night I am taking photos of the band for their website.

It's kind of my job though, I'm partners in his business and I look after the visual marketing of the bands.

This is what he seems to like:

texting

talking on the phone

watching TV

sleeping on the couch

can't think of anything else

does he like his phone? Could it be upgraded?

Better cable options? New TV?

work phone - all his calling and texting is work/band stuff

we have 3 flatscreen TVs they are awesome

my budget is kind of more like $50 though

Rayan said:

ZombieKitten said:

I made him 3 awesome websites and they are so nice, other people want me to do theirs also

Tomorrow night I am taking photos of the band for their website.

It's kind of my job though, I'm partners in his business and I look after the visual marketing of the bands.

This is what he seems to like:

texting

talking on the phone

watching TV

sleeping on the couch

can't think of anything else

ahhh so that's done already.

ok I see TVs & couches, does/might he by any chance care for those gigantic remotes that do everything? I know some guys live for this stuff, for some reason.

do they really work?

he would LOVE one of those!!!!

ufoclub said:

wait a minute... you make websites? I need a website!

I'm just learning

here is one I made in one evening

http://rihannagagashow.com/

NDRU said:

what about a fleshlight?

NDRU said:

JustErin said:

He likes those drumsticks and it's what he wants! Get them! I bet he will feel appreciated and especially heard...something that I think many men don`t feel in relationships.

she got them she just knows it's a lame gift But I agree, it's the little things that matter.

My brother has no say in how his home is decorated but he decided he wanted a little more color, so for his birthday he asked his wife for some bright and colorful placemats. As he opend the present, she said "I know this is not what you asked for, but..." and he has held it against her for a long time.

They're getting counselling.

All too common!! It's a shame.

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

does he like his phone? Could it be upgraded?

Better cable options? New TV?

work phone - all his calling and texting is work/band stuff

we have 3 flatscreen TVs they are awesome

my budget is kind of more like $50 though

I guess there's nothing else to do, then

Lisa10 said:

NDRU said:

what about a fleshlight?

If one of the kids opens it under the tree by mistake poor Zombie'll have to say it's a defective Lightsaber.

ZombieKitten said:

Rayan said:

ahhh so that's done already.

ok I see TVs & couches, does/might he by any chance care for those gigantic remotes that do everything? I know some guys live for this stuff, for some reason.

do they really work?

he would LOVE one of those!!!!

yes, good idea!

ZombieKitten said:

Rayan said:

ahhh so that's done already.

ok I see TVs & couches, does/might he by any chance care for those gigantic remotes that do everything? I know some guys live for this stuff, for some reason.

do they really work?

he would LOVE one of those!!!!

My brother has one.

sextonseven said:

ZombieKitten said:

do they really work?

he would LOVE one of those!!!!

My brother has one.

how fancy is his?

is this one good enough?

http://cgi.ebay.com.au/Lo...27b6df24bd

I checked through the list with our devices, but some of them are really old, like the stereo

johnart said:

Lisa10 said:

If one of the kids opens it under the tree by mistake poor Zombie'll have to say it's a defective Lightsaber.

"I TOLD you it's NOT a torch Wally!"

(I've heard that line before )

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

work phone - all his calling and texting is work/band stuff

we have 3 flatscreen TVs they are awesome

my budget is kind of more like $50 though

I guess there's nothing else to do, then

no way

we're not thinking of cold weather for another 6 months, but I'll keep that one in mind for his birthday

slippers, silk boxxers, a robe, some body oils...

ZombieKitten said:

sextonseven said:

My brother has one.

how fancy is his?

is this one good enough?

http://cgi.ebay.com.au/Lo...27b6df24bd

I checked through the list with our devices, but some of them are really old, like the stereo

My brother's is fancy with a little screen on it. Probably like this one:

It was too complicated for me to work. I prefer my seven separate ones.

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

work phone - all his calling and texting is work/band stuff

we have 3 flatscreen TVs they are awesome

my budget is kind of more like $50 though

I guess there's nothing else to do, then

why are Bristol Palin and Obama holding hands?