JustErin said:

Why should it be romantic? Is it because giving a romantic gift is really about you? Meaning, does it make you feel better to give a gift like that? Or is it because a guy really does want a romantic gift?

I'm asking women in general here.

I think this is a good question, men really appreciate gear, like musical equipment, video equipment, tools, etc.

If you want to get a gift he will be excited by I think this is the way to go.

I think a "romantic" gift may be a gift to yourself?

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kpowers said:

Meow baby !

Mach said:

kpowers said:

Meow baby !

The Catwoman movie is NOT a good gift!

sextonseven said:

Mach said:

Meow baby !

The Catwoman movie is NOT a good gift!

Can not see your images

I didn't mention a "movie'

Mach said:

kpowers said:

Meow baby !

I get that all the time

Mach said:

sextonseven said:

The Catwoman movie is NOT a good gift!

Can not see your images

I didn't mention a "movie'

kpowers posted a under the Aliens box set. I thought your Catwoman was in response to that.

johnart said:

starbuck said:

I'd appreciate everything she would put down there, cuz I know it's from the heart

Listen up folk and take note. This is what you say in order to get anal.

the kids at the grandparents house, and you gift wrapped in a blanket and nothing else. some romantic music, and some wine...purrrrrrrrrrrfect ZK

mmmm Can I have Hokie and Zombiekitten??????

Ace said:

ZombieKitten said:

he's so different from most guys, totally unmaterialistic, überly pragmatic, doesn't collect anything, doesn't like music or fashion, or cars or sport

I thought he was involved in a band, at one point.

he is running THREE bands who has time to listen to music for FUN

johnart said:

starbuck said:

I'd appreciate everything she would put down there, cuz I know it's from the heart

Listen up folk and take note. This is what you say in order to get anal.

he can have that any old day

I mean something SPECIAL

sextonseven said:

ZombieKitten said:

I think he would too, but it's so hard after 16 years together to think of something he would really like he's so different from most guys, totally unmaterialistic, überly pragmatic, doesn't collect anything, doesn't like music or fashion, or cars or sport

I thought he takes time off from work for every World Cup.

so yeah, no sport for another 3.5 years

jaimestarr79 said:

All men seriously like a Random BJ that we aren't expecting...and didn't ask for. A nice random BJ goes a long way. It really shows you care. Oh you meant a Christmas gift. A nice dress shirt and pants ( something you like to see him in ) that he can wear when you take him out to the nicest restaurant in town

say you are the sole income earner in your relationship, how do you feel if she blows a shitload of YOUR money on you

NDRU said:

JustErin said:

Why should it be romantic? Is it because giving a romantic gift is really about you? Meaning, does it make you feel better to give a gift like that? Or is it because a guy really does want a romantic gift?

I'm asking women in general here.

I think this is a good question, men really appreciate gear, like musical equipment, video equipment, tools, etc.

If you want to get a gift he will be excited by I think this is the way to go.

I think a "romantic" gift may be a gift to yourself?

So far "romantic gift" means giving a gift that benefits you in some way.

JustErin said:

Why should it be romantic? Is it because giving a romantic gift is really about you? Meaning, does it make you feel better to give a gift like that? Or is it because a guy really does want a romantic gift?

I'm asking women in general here.

I don't know about other women, but in my case, 15 odd years of practical kind of boring presents to him has taken it's toll. He needs something to tell the girls at work about, to make his mum happy - he's latin after all

PurpleJedi said:

Does he have a hobby (other than music)?

If so you could get something that he would appreciate but wouldn't necessarily buy for himself, (a first-edition comic book, a rare bottle of wine, a subscription to something, etc.).

Forget about the "romantic" part. We don't need that. Just say the word (or show some nipple) and we're THERE. Better yet, after he opens up the obligatory ties, T-shirts and slippers on Christmas Day, be waiting at night lying in bed wearing nothing but your gift. Whatever's inside...it'll definitely be "romantic".

no hobbies, no interests he would consider those things a "waste of money"

I'm waiting there with nothing on most nights, btw

ZombieKitten said:

johnart said:

Listen up folk and take note. This is what you say in order to get anal.

he can have that any old day

I mean something SPECIAL

I'm sure your butthole is very special.

BTW, did anyone suggest a hooker??

NDRU said:

JustErin said:

Why should it be romantic? Is it because giving a romantic gift is really about you? Meaning, does it make you feel better to give a gift like that? Or is it because a guy really does want a romantic gift?

I'm asking women in general here.

I think this is a good question, men really appreciate gear, like musical equipment, video equipment, tools, etc.

If you want to get a gift he will be excited by I think this is the way to go.

I think a "romantic" gift may be a gift to yourself?

in theory, but he just took me on a surprise trip to the place where we honeymooned - the ultimate romantic SPECIAL gift. I now feel in debt, if you know what I mean.

Gear? He's getting drumsticks and drumstick holder already. Which is tax deductible music expenses

BlackAdder7 said:

the kids at the grandparents house, and you gift wrapped in a blanket and nothing else. some romantic music, and some wine...purrrrrrrrrrrfect ZK

that's kind of happening TOMORROW already

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

I think this is a good question, men really appreciate gear, like musical equipment, video equipment, tools, etc.

If you want to get a gift he will be excited by I think this is the way to go.

I think a "romantic" gift may be a gift to yourself?

in theory, but he just took me on a surprise trip to the place where we honeymooned - the ultimate romantic SPECIAL gift. I now feel in debt, if you know what I mean.

Gear? He's getting drumsticks and drumstick holder already. Which is tax deductible music expenses

But the point is, do men really want romantic gifts? Or is it a woman thing? If they don't want that, why are women doing it anyway?

JustErin said:

NDRU said:

I think this is a good question, men really appreciate gear, like musical equipment, video equipment, tools, etc.

If you want to get a gift he will be excited by I think this is the way to go.

I think a "romantic" gift may be a gift to yourself?

So far "romantic gift" means giving a gift that benefits you in some way.

in Andy's opinion. Not that he is a woman, in general. But it IS interesting for me to learn that men (assuming Andy is representing a general concensus) believe romance only benefits the lady

So spending quality time with your girl, away from kids and work distractions, with the promise of a night of ahead wouldn't be appreciated by a man? Or is it actually your worst nightmare?

ZombieKitten said:

NDRU said:

I think this is a good question, men really appreciate gear, like musical equipment, video equipment, tools, etc.

If you want to get a gift he will be excited by I think this is the way to go.

I think a "romantic" gift may be a gift to yourself?

in theory, but he just took me on a surprise trip to the place where we honeymooned - the ultimate romantic SPECIAL gift. I now feel in debt, if you know what I mean.

Gear? He's getting drumsticks and drumstick holder already. Which is tax deductible music expenses

right, because YOU would appreciate a romantic gift, so his was a great one. He doesn't necessarily need a romantic one, but it is romantic to get a gift you really want even if it's drumsticks.

But it's really hard, who knows what to buy grown men? They usually have everything they really want and everything else is too expensive or involves infidelity of some sort

NDRU said:

ZombieKitten said:

in theory, but he just took me on a surprise trip to the place where we honeymooned - the ultimate romantic SPECIAL gift. I now feel in debt, if you know what I mean.

Gear? He's getting drumsticks and drumstick holder already. Which is tax deductible music expenses

right, because YOU would appreciate a romantic gift, so his was a great one. He doesn't necessarily need a romantic one, but it is romantic to get a gift you really want even if it's drumsticks.

But it's really hard, who knows what to buy grown men? They usually have everything they really want and everything else is too expensive or involves infidelity of some sort

I dunno, the easiest thing for me would be to just give him the sticks and be done with it. It feels like not enough of an effort. Like he is not special to me.

The truth is....it would be nice to get something....anything....that she ut some thought and effort in to....I haven't received anything like that in years....no kidding...

I on the other hand always find the right thing....maybe I should care less...be more evasive....nahhh....it has been 20 years.....nothing at all has worked after all this time....

shootindabreeze said:

The truth is....it would be nice to get something....anything....that she put some thought and effort in to....I haven't received anything like that in years....no kidding...

I on the other hand always find the right thing....maybe I should care less...be more evasive....nahhh....it has been 20 years.....nothing at all has worked after all this time....

exactly, I'm willing to bet that he feels the same.

Men folks, vocalise what you like

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

So far "romantic gift" means giving a gift that benefits you in some way.

in Andy's opinion. Not that he is a woman, in general. But it IS interesting for me to learn that men (assuming Andy is representing a general concensus) believe romance only benefits the lady

So spending quality time with your girl, away from kids and work distractions, with the promise of a night of ahead wouldn't be appreciated by a man? Or is it actually your worst nightmare?

I am not saying all men are any one way, but I am saying not to assume that just because you would really like a romantic gift that that is what he wants (or needs) too

My goodness girls some people would love to apart of your family, they could blow all their Christmas money on themselves.

Seriously, ask him what he wants, ask your hubby to suggest at least 3 things he'd like for Christmas.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

So far "romantic gift" means giving a gift that benefits you in some way.

in Andy's opinion. Not that he is a woman, in general. But it IS interesting for me to learn that men (assuming Andy is representing a general concensus) believe romance only benefits the lady

So spending quality time with your girl, away from kids and work distractions, with the promise of a night of ahead wouldn't be appreciated by a man? Or is it actually your worst nightmare?

Wait a sec, no one is saying that a man can't or doesn't appreciate being with their partner.

But we are talking about a gift, and what a man might really want. It is ok to be selfish now and then.

The way I see it, he's out working hard, providing for his family, he's loving you and his kids every day. I'd rather just give a gift that is something just for him. I feel no need to make it about me in any way...and that's what a romantic gift does.

Maybe it's that women need to be reassured that they are loved and appreciated....and men don't. They already know that...they don't need to be reminded.

Generally speaking of course.

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