physco185 said:

Do not worry FrenchGuy she will eventually get the message…. and then she will never contact u again

And, I'm betting he'll call her "just to see how she's doing." FrenchGuy, no offense, but I think you dig either the attention or her or both.

Okay...you shouldn't knock single parents---but I would knock this single parent. Decent folks dont casually fuck with their child sleeping down the hall......Once a woman introduces you to her child on the way to the bedroom after knowing you for a few hours, days or even months, its a REALLY BAD SIGN--it means she is royally fucked in the head.

That you give her time in the form of explaining that you dont want to be with her is a double message. You are saying "I dont want to be with you" while spending time with her. Arguing the point gives rise to the idea that your mind can be changed--so she will try to change your mind.

Please...for your safety, the next time you friend somebody on FB that you dont know, block them from seeing your real friends. Better yet, dont FB somebody you dont know--you basically invited a sranger into your inner circle. When you saw her friending your people, you should have posted a warning to everyone not to add her.....she IS a virus. Then they could not have been fooled by her claims had you offered them the truth

People like her dont suddenly have an epiphany and change....she's a nut and will remain a nut. Perhaps you should watch movies like Basic Instinct. It need not go that far, but it will unless you beat her back to square one.

Send her an email telling her you want to break off contact, and in that email, mention all the times you've told her so. Use her response to this email to get your restraining order. Getting a restraining order is not extreme--in fact you are wrong not to protect those who are close to you. Wouldn't you feel horrible if she attacked a friend and that friend ended up seriously injured or imprisoned? That woman is psychotic and invades the lives of others.

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StillGotIt said:

Okay...you shouldn't knock single parents---but I would knock this single parent. Decent folks dont casually fuck with their child sleeping down the hall......Once a woman introduces you to her child on the way to the bedroom after knowing you for a few hours, days or even months, its a REALLY BAD SIGN--it means she is royally fucked in the head.

That you give her time in the form of explaining that you dont want to be with her is a double message. You are saying "I dont want to be with you" while spending time with her. Arguing the point gives rise to the idea that your mind can be changed--so she will try to change your mind.

Please...for your safety, the next time you friend somebody on FB that you dont know, block them from seeing your real friends. Better yet, dont FB somebody you dont know--you basically invited a sranger into your inner circle. When you saw her friending your people, you should have posted a warning to everyone not to add her.....she IS a virus. Then they could not have been fooled by her claims had you offered them the truth

People like her dont suddenly have an epiphany and change....she's a nut and will remain a nut. Perhaps you should watch movies like Basic Instinct. It need not go that far, but it will unless you beat her back to square one.

Send her an email telling her you want to break off contact, and in that email, mention all the times you've told her so. Use her response to this email to get your restraining order. Getting a restraining order is not extreme--in fact you are wrong not to protect those who are close to you. Wouldn't you feel horrible if she attacked a friend and that friend ended up seriously injured or imprisoned? That woman is psychotic and invades the lives of others.

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FATAL ATTRACTION is the movie I think you're thinking of, isn't it?

Other than that, I co-sign with everything you said 110%

Ottensen said:

StillGotIt said:

Okay...you shouldn't knock single parents---but I would knock this single parent. Decent folks dont casually fuck with their child sleeping down the hall......Once a woman introduces you to her child on the way to the bedroom after knowing you for a few hours, days or even months, its a REALLY BAD SIGN--it means she is royally fucked in the head.

That you give her time in the form of explaining that you dont want to be with her is a double message. You are saying "I dont want to be with you" while spending time with her. Arguing the point gives rise to the idea that your mind can be changed--so she will try to change your mind.

Please...for your safety, the next time you friend somebody on FB that you dont know, block them from seeing your real friends. Better yet, dont FB somebody you dont know--you basically invited a sranger into your inner circle. When you saw her friending your people, you should have posted a warning to everyone not to add her.....she IS a virus. Then they could not have been fooled by her claims had you offered them the truth

People like her dont suddenly have an epiphany and change....she's a nut and will remain a nut. Perhaps you should watch movies like Basic Instinct. It need not go that far, but it will unless you beat her back to square one.

Send her an email telling her you want to break off contact, and in that email, mention all the times you've told her so. Use her response to this email to get your restraining order. Getting a restraining order is not extreme--in fact you are wrong not to protect those who are close to you. Wouldn't you feel horrible if she attacked a friend and that friend ended up seriously injured or imprisoned? That woman is psychotic and invades the lives of others.

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FATAL ATTRACTION is the movie I think you're thinking of, isn't it?

Other than that, I co-sign with everything you said 110%

lol...yes...its FATAL ATTRACTION........ I think I'm getting old

Ottensen said:

StillGotIt said:

Okay...you shouldn't knock single parents---but I would knock this single parent. Decent folks dont casually fuck with their child sleeping down the hall......Once a woman introduces you to her child on the way to the bedroom after knowing you for a few hours, days or even months, its a REALLY BAD SIGN--it means she is royally fucked in the head.

That you give her time in the form of explaining that you dont want to be with her is a double message. You are saying "I dont want to be with you" while spending time with her. Arguing the point gives rise to the idea that your mind can be changed--so she will try to change your mind.

Please...for your safety, the next time you friend somebody on FB that you dont know, block them from seeing your real friends. Better yet, dont FB somebody you dont know--you basically invited a sranger into your inner circle. When you saw her friending your people, you should have posted a warning to everyone not to add her.....she IS a virus. Then they could not have been fooled by her claims had you offered them the truth

People like her dont suddenly have an epiphany and change....she's a nut and will remain a nut. Perhaps you should watch movies like Basic Instinct. It need not go that far, but it will unless you beat her back to square one.

Send her an email telling her you want to break off contact, and in that email, mention all the times you've told her so. Use her response to this email to get your restraining order. Getting a restraining order is not extreme--in fact you are wrong not to protect those who are close to you. Wouldn't you feel horrible if she attacked a friend and that friend ended up seriously injured or imprisoned? That woman is psychotic and invades the lives of others.

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FATAL ATTRACTION is the movie I think you're thinking of, isn't it?

Other than that, I co-sign with everything you said 110%

Co-sign!

He ignored all warning signs and led her on to think otherwise. He should know HIS boundaries and stick to them. This chick is one of those clingy ones, being a single mom has NOTHING to do with that one.

A person will do what YOU let them do to you.

physco185 said:

NONSENSE said:

Most people have a difficult time dealing with rejection. It's okay for them to reject others but when they tables are turned they cannot deal. Best of luck.

There is someone that thinks this of me

But he is wrong

Not the case

Rejection is easy…it’s losing a special connection that you never expected or dreamed would happen that makes u do or say crazy things

You know there was something wonderful…but then it’s gone…and it’s the desire of wanting it back.

Do not worry FrenchGuy she will eventually get the message…. and then she will never contact u again

maybe it's not your case, dear. But believe me a lot of people can't handle the phrase "I don't want you anymore."

Some might even go O.J.

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StillGotIt said:

Decent folks dont casually fuck with their child sleeping down the hall......Once a woman introduces you to her child on the way to the bedroom after knowing you for a few hours, days or even months, its a REALLY BAD SIGN--it means she is royally fucked in the head.

Money quote, right there.

Of course, I would expand it to the corollary - that people with a shred of decency or moral sense wouldn't look for no-strings sex in the home of someone with a small child.

One's a psycho. One's an idiot.

Genesia said:

StillGotIt said:

Decent folks dont casually fuck with their child sleeping down the hall......Once a woman introduces you to her child on the way to the bedroom after knowing you for a few hours, days or even months, its a REALLY BAD SIGN--it means she is royally fucked in the head.

Money quote, right there.

Of course, I would expand it to the corollary - that people with a shred of decency or moral sense wouldn't look for no-strings sex in the home of someone with a small child.

One's a psycho. One's an idiot.

Amen!

I totally understand where you are coming from.

I had the same thing happen to me. I've have 2 stalkers in my lifetime. One was actually an ex-boyfriend, so I'll leave him out of the equasion. The second, we'll call, 'Markeis'... because, well, that was his name. He seemed like a really cool guy at the time; and although I didn't want to be in a relationship, I figured we'd kick it and as you say, "Do what grown folks do". Mistake. Big one. He became obsessed, asking people I associated with about me, calling my phone 50 and 60 times A DAY, showing up at places that he thought I'd be... crazy shit, man.

I've learned that the best way to get rid of them is to IGNORE THEM COMPLETELY. If you see them out, and they try to speak to you, walk away like you don't know them. If they call, don't answer. If they contact your friends/employees, have them do the same thing. Eventually, they will get so fed up with the fact that you are not feeding into their cat-and-mouse game, that they will just give up. No contact is the way to go.

Good luck; I know it's rough.

I'd listen to Acrylic, she is stalker-licious!

Acrylic said:

I totally understand where you are coming from.

I had the same thing happen to me. I've have 2 stalkers in my lifetime. One was actually an ex-boyfriend, so I'll leave him out of the equasion. The second, we'll call, 'Markeis'... because, well, that was his name. He seemed like a really cool guy at the time; and although I didn't want to be in a relationship, I figured we'd kick it and as you say, "Do what grown folks do". Mistake. Big one. He became obsessed, asking people I associated with about me, calling my phone 50 and 60 times A DAY, showing up at places that he thought I'd be... crazy shit, man.

I've learned that the best way to get rid of them is to IGNORE THEM COMPLETELY. If you see them out, and they try to speak to you, walk away like you don't know them. If they call, don't answer. If they contact your friends/employees, have them do the same thing. Eventually, they will get so fed up with the fact that you are not feeding into their cat-and-mouse game, that they will just give up. No contact is the way to go.

Good luck; I know it's rough.

I've tried that. There were times when she called me like 20 times in a day and I wouldn't answer. She'd just hide her caller ID or use another phone just in case I could recognise her number. If I didn't answer, she would come down my block ringing over and over again.

One day she was convinced I was at home (when I was not) and she waited there from 8 til midnight!!!! Matter of fact, when i came home around midnight she asked me if she could sleep at my place cause there were no more train, bus, subways (then stop quite early in my town)... I told her no, she alsmost came in by force, yelling things like "How could U do that to me? You're a human being? U'd let me sleep outside???".... That "I'm-gonna-make-you-feel-guilty-for-some-mad-bullshit-I-have-done" never works with me. I threw her out. Heartlessly. I was just fed up. She went home by taxi. In the course of the night she sent me mad text messages.

I've ignored her. One my mistakes was answering when she called me back like a month later, talking that "I've changed, I'm different now" shit. She always sound so calm and sincere that I fall for it:-x ... She probably thought there were chances her harassment would work out...

She's straight up crazy.. Would you sleep with a guy (AND CHEAT ON YOUR BF) just because that guy looks like some guy you've met before?? That kind of fixation just freaks me out!!!

By the way, I've send her an e-mail earlier this afternoon. I've kept a copy of it and I'm waiting for an answer. I'll keep both since I need some "proffs" to ask for a restrainning oredr... I already have facebook messages, text messages and a testimony from friends and my ex.

thanx by the way...

Cinnie said:

I'd listen to Acrylic, she is stalker-licious!

FrenchGuy said:

I've tried that. There were times when she called me like 20 times in a day and I wouldn't answer. She'd just hide her caller ID or use another phone just in case I could recognise her number. If I didn't answer, she would come down my block ringing over and over again.

One day she was convinced I was at home (when I was not) and she waited there from 8 til midnight!!!! Matter of fact, when i came home around midnight she asked me if she could sleep at my place cause there were no more train, bus, subways (then stop quite early in my town)... I told her no, she alsmost came in by force, yelling things like "How could U do that

to me? You're a human being? U'd let me sleep outside???".... That "I'm-gonna-make-you-feel-guilty-for-some-mad-bullshit-I-have-done" never works with me. I threw her out. Heartlessly. I was just fed up. She went home by taxi. In the course of the night she sent me mad text messages.

I've ignored her. One my mistakes was answering when she called me back like a month later, talking that "I've changed, I'm different now" shit. She always sound so calm and sincere that I fall for it:-x ... She probably thought there were chances her harassment would work out...

She's straight up crazy.. Would you sleep with a guy (AND CHEAT ON YOUR BF) just because that guy looks like some guy you've met before?? That kind of fixation just freaks me out!!!

By the way, I've send her an e-mail earlier this afternoon. I've kept a copy of it and I'm waiting for an answer. I'll keep both since I need some "proffs" to ask for a restrainning oredr... I already have facebook messages, text messages and a testimony from friends and my ex.

thanx by the way...

Plan B. Snipe her off.

I kid, I kid.

That's too much to read, dude.

My situation with restraining orders was a little different. I was threatened with one to get the attention of an "emotional stalker," my neighbor, or shall we say ex-neighbor. We had a slight disagreement back in 2006 over something very, very petty. She stopped speaking and generally acted very rudely if we should happen to encounter one another outside. I had had this experience with her before, so I just completely ignored her ass. I wouldn't speak or acknowledge her presence if I happened to see her outside. Eventually she would try and break the ice by saying good morning or whatever and then I would usually just let bygones be bygones. But when she started up again with the crazy accusations and nutty behavior, I decided I'd had enough and just cut off all contact. Drove her ass even crazier. She called the police claiming I had defaced her lawn by cutting a strip of grass on her side of our adjoining front lawns. They knocked on my door to tell me that she had complained. I burst out laughing and apologized to them for having to come out at night to deal with a nut. They even sympathized with me. Anyway, I assured them I would be no trouble, had not even spoken to the fool and would completely ignore her. All that time she was outside listening to what the cops and I were saying. When the cops left, SHE CALLED ME! I knew it was her, so I didn't pick up and let it go to voice mail. She left this message, "I'M NOT FINIIISSSHED!"

About a week later I got a rambling letter from her in the mail. I ignored it. A few days went by and I got the same letter, but this time it was sent certified mail. She also sent a copy of the letter to my mother and also claimed to have sent one to the homeowners association. In the letter she said she was filing for a restraining order! That's when I really knew her ass was loonytoons. I never got a copy of a restraining order because I guess when she tried to file they told her she had no grounds. I hadn't threatened her, hadn't spoken to her, and hadn't had any physical contact with her or her property. I continued to completely ignore her and eventually I had no more problems. We hardly saw each other after that even though we lived in adjoining townhouses. That happened in 2006. She just moved this past October. Hallelujah!

JerseyKRS said:

That's too much to read, dude.

It is riveting and all relevant though.

Acrylic said:

I totally understand where you are coming from.

I had the same thing happen to me. I've have 2 stalkers in my lifetime. One was actually an ex-boyfriend, so I'll leave him out of the equasion. The second, we'll call, 'Markeis'... because, well, that was his name. He seemed like a really cool guy at the time; and although I didn't want to be in a relationship, I figured we'd kick it and as you say, "Do what grown folks do". Mistake. Big one. He became obsessed, asking people I associated with about me, calling my phone 50 and 60 times A DAY, showing up at places that he thought I'd be... crazy shit, man.

I've learned that the best way to get rid of them is to IGNORE THEM COMPLETELY. If you see them out, and they try to speak to you, walk away like you don't know them. If they call, don't answer. If they contact your friends/employees, have them do the same thing. Eventually, they will get so fed up with the fact that you are not feeding into their cat-and-mouse game, that they will just give up. No contact is the way to go.

Good luck; I know it's rough.

Shyra said:

My situation with restraining orders was a little different. I was threatened with one to get the attention of an "emotional stalker," my neighbor, or shall we say ex-neighbor. We had a slight disagreement back in 2006 over something very, very petty. She stopped speaking and generally acted very rudely if we should happen to encounter one another outside. I had had this experience with her before, so I just completely ignored her ass. I wouldn't speak or acknowledge her presence if I happened to see her outside. Eventually she would try and break the ice by saying good morning or whatever and then I would usually just let bygones be bygones. But when she started up again with the crazy accusations and nutty behavior, I decided I'd had enough and just cut off all contact. Drove her ass even crazier. She called the police claiming I had defaced her lawn by cutting a strip of grass on her side of our adjoining front lawns. They knocked on my door to tell me that she had complained. I burst out laughing and apologized to them for having to come out at night to deal with a nut. They even sympathized with me. Anyway, I assured them I would be no trouble, had not even spoken to the fool and would completely ignore her. All that time she was outside listening to what the cops and I were saying. When the cops left, SHE CALLED ME! I knew it was her, so I didn't pick up and let it go to voice mail. She left this message, "I'M NOT FINIIISSSHED!"

About a week later I got a rambling letter from her in the mail. I ignored it. A few days went by and I got the same letter, but this time it was sent certified mail. She also sent a copy of the letter to my mother and also claimed to have sent one to the homeowners association. In the letter she said she was filing for a restraining order! That's when I really knew her ass was loonytoons. I never got a copy of a restraining order because I guess when she tried to file they told her she had no grounds. I hadn't threatened her, hadn't spoken to her, and hadn't had any physical contact with her or her property. I continued to completely ignore her and eventually I had no more problems. We hardly saw each other after that even though we lived in adjoining townhouses. That happened in 2006. She just moved this past October. Hallelujah!

Great experiences and lessons. Thanks for posting them.