bboy87 said:

Move to another country

Just not India. She will follow you and the villagers will kick your ass and make you marry her. One month later we will all discuss the Youtube video of it.

FauxReal said:

bboy87 said:

Move to another country

Just not India. She will follow you and the villagers will kick your ass and make you marry her. One month later we will all laugh at the Youtube video of it.

Cerebus said:

FauxReal said:

Just not India. She will follow you and the villagers will kick your ass and make you marry her. One month later we will all laugh at the Youtube video of it.

I stand corrected.

That's a tough one, I wouldn't know.

FrenchGuy said:

blissagain said:

move in with her... quit your job... smoke weed all day... constantly ask her for head... but never go down.... fart loudly and chuckle... play playstation a lot... don't brush your teeth.... develop an imaginary friend to talk to when she's in the next room... hit on her mum... good luck

Does it worth so much sacrifice?? I can't stnd just seeing her she made me allergenic to her... Hell, if she moves in I think I'll kill her the first night!!

Nobody here has ever faced sch experience? She's poisoning my existence!!

what sacrifice?... you'll be smoking weed... getting head... and shagging her mum

isn't her mum hot?

ok... try this

invite her over to make sweet love... when you get undressed ask her to poop on you... tell her that it's your ultimate sexual fantasy and the only way you could be with someone long term is if they please you in this way... if she agrees and does it as soon as she's finished jump up and shout "righteo then... my turn!"... good luck

FauxReal said:

Cerebus said:

blah, blah, blah

I stand corrected.

Well, you have to admit, it WOULD be funny if an orger moved to India and.. umm.. eh, maybe not...

Cerebus said:

FauxReal said:

I stand corrected.

Well, you have to admit, it WOULD be funny if an orger moved to India and.. umm.. eh, maybe not...

You see, I'm in a tricky situation where I condemned the actions of the villagers...thus I cannot laugh should it happen again.

At least not publicly.

blissagain said:

FrenchGuy said:

Does it worth so much sacrifice?? I can't stnd just seeing her she made me allergenic to her... Hell, if she moves in I think I'll kill her the first night!!

Nobody here has ever faced sch experience? She's poisoning my existence!!

what sacrifice?... you'll be smoking weed... getting head... and shagging her mum

isn't her mum hot?

ok... try this

invite her over to make sweet love... when you get undressed ask her to poop on you... tell her that it's your ultimate sexual fantasy and the only way you could be with someone long term is if they please you in this way... if she agrees and does it as soon as she's finished jump up and shout "righteo then... my turn!"... good luck

blissagain said:

FrenchGuy said:

Does it worth so much sacrifice?? I can't stnd just seeing her she made me allergenic to her... Hell, if she moves in I think I'll kill her the first night!!

Nobody here has ever faced sch experience? She's poisoning my existence!!

what sacrifice?... you'll be smoking weed... getting head... and shagging her mum

isn't her mum hot?

ok... try this

invite her over to make sweet love... when you get undressed ask her to poop on you... tell her that it's your ultimate sexual fantasy and the only way you could be with someone long term is if they please you in this way... if she agrees and does it as soon as she's finished jump up and shout "righteo then... my turn!"... good luck

blissagain said:

FrenchGuy said:

Does it worth so much sacrifice?? I can't stnd just seeing her she made me allergenic to her... Hell, if she moves in I think I'll kill her the first night!!

Nobody here has ever faced sch experience? She's poisoning my existence!!

what sacrifice?... you'll be smoking weed... getting head... and shagging her mum

isn't her mum hot?

ok... try this

invite her over to make sweet love... when you get undressed ask her to poop on you... tell her that it's your ultimate sexual fantasy and the only way you could be with someone long term is if they please you in this way... if she agrees and does it as soon as she's finished jump up and shout "righteo then... my turn!"... good luck

I love you

Break off all contact with her. Don't answer any of her txts or calls emales whatever. No matter how importatn or urgeunt in sounds. Completely ignore her.

blissagain said:

FrenchGuy said:

Does it worth so much sacrifice?? I can't stnd just seeing her she made me allergenic to her... Hell, if she moves in I think I'll kill her the first night!!

Nobody here has ever faced sch experience? She's poisoning my existence!!

what sacrifice?... you'll be smoking weed... getting head... and shagging her mum

isn't her mum hot?

ok... try this

invite her over to make sweet love... when you get undressed ask her to poop on you... tell her that it's your ultimate sexual fantasy and the only way you could be with someone long term is if they please you in this way... if she agrees and does it as soon as she's finished jump up and shout "righteo then... my turn!"... good luck

Hmm... Maybe acting crazier than her would actually make her run away... Who knows. But I just don't want her around. Just seeing her fuck up my mood.

ThreadBare said:

FrenchGuy said:

Yeah I see what you mean. I've tried to disconnet myself from her in everyway : New phone number, new place, I even avoid some places /friends cause I don't wanna meet her anywhere. She's 29 now... I thought she would have the maturity to move on. But it looks like she doesnt even want to. We spent hours on the phone talking about this. She's still convinced me and her we're gonna be together one day... I mean, after threatening my ex, sleeping with a good friend, telling everybody we're together?? I've tried everything, even told her freinds to let her know I wasn't interested at all. She's sonvinced I wanna be with her but I don't know how to manage...

I told her I have a girlfreind, for Christ sake!! She's still acting the same (and she ahs a BF too!).. Hell, I'm sure if I tell her I'm gay, she'll grow a dick between her feet...

I thought shit like these only happen in movies...

You're not disconnecting yourself, if you're spending hours on the phone telling her it won't work and talking to her friends about her.

File a police report that she's stalking you, if you don't like her behavior.

Eat crow and get with her, if you do.

Nothinbutjoy said:

Some here won't like this, but I'm saying it anyway and please know that I do not mean every woman is this situation. Your first mistake was thinking that she was cool with ya'll just keeping it casual. She's a single mom, almost 30 and you jumped right into bed. Some women take that shit as a challenge. That doesn't justify her current behavior, just hopefully it's a lesson learned for you. All you can do is disconnect from her and stay that way consistently. Make sure your employer knows of the situation to make the workplace as safe as possible. Make sure your family and friends know where you stand. Bring in the police if necessary.

Don't worry, thats' one lesson I've learned... No more single mother around me. Maybe I'm generalizing, but as we say here : "If you've bitten by a snake, you should fear worms".

My little sister told me, back in the day that A. was looking for some substitute father for her son (and probably herself), but I was too hormone-driven to figure it out .... So since we were "cool" she thought I was the one, and I'm pretty sure I'm not.

That bitch scares me. Hell not really me, but I'm afraid she may hurt somebody (agirl I'm interested too), since I really think she crossed the line when she threatened my ex who didn't know her at all!!

I don't know but,maybe some will understand... It kind of made me a little too mistrustful towards girls (which is not so bad actually), and even more picky... Now everybody at work knows has been asking "Who's A.?"/ "Who's that girl?" blablah... Gossiping and shit!!

If she's really challenging me, she's met her match.

It's time to start establishing a paper trail because you clearly have a stalker.

File a police report and see what you need to do to get a restraining order and have her ass served with it, period.

sillygurl said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

Some here won't like this, but I'm saying it anyway and please know that I do not mean every woman is this situation. Your first mistake was thinking that she was cool with ya'll just keeping it casual. She's a single mom, almost 30 and you jumped right into bed. Some women take that shit as a challenge. That doesn't justify her current behavior, just hopefully it's a lesson learned for you. All you can do is disconnect from her and stay that way consistently. Make sure your employer knows of the situation to make the workplace as safe as possible. Make sure your family and friends know where you stand. Bring in the police if necessary.

I was going to say something similar.

When you agreed to spend the evening with her AND her son, and then you stayed over, it went to the next level.

Yes, and then he stated very clearly that he was not interested in a relationship and she refused to accept it. He hasn't done anything since then to lead her to believe otherwise. The phrase "no means NO" doesn't only apply to relationships in the sexual aspect.

Ottensen said:

sillygurl said:

I was going to say something similar.

When you agreed to spend the evening with her AND her son, and then you stayed over, it went to the next level.

Yes, and then he stated very clearly that he was not interested in a relationship and she refused to accept it. He hasn't done anything since then to lead her to believe otherwise. The phrase "no means NO" doesn't only apply to relationships in the sexual aspect.

As I said, it doesn't excuse her current behavior, but he really should have gotten to know her better before getting into bed with her, especially as a child is involved.

Cinnie said:

This story is so unfortunate. Ol' girl gave it a good try.

That whole "I get what I want" attitude must have got her somewhere in life, but it sounds crazy in this context where she has become possessive of you.

I can see how you welcomed her back in your life when she was acting like she had "turned the page" and moved on, but don't let her back in your life again! Calls to work??? Sheesh. Eventually she'll get the picture and work it out like grown folk have to sometimes.

So she doesn't see him as a person, but as an object that she chooses to have and with each obsessive act of hers she cheats her own soul.

I'm actually in this thread to try to understand these type of people, because I need help too.

wildgoldenhoney said:

Cinnie said:

This story is so unfortunate. Ol' girl gave it a good try.

That whole "I get what I want" attitude must have got her somewhere in life, but it sounds crazy in this context where she has become possessive of you.

I can see how you welcomed her back in your life when she was acting like she had "turned the page" and moved on, but don't let her back in your life again! Calls to work??? Sheesh. Eventually she'll get the picture and work it out like grown folk have to sometimes.

So she doesn't see him as a person, but as an object that she chooses to have and with each obsessive act of hers she cheats her own soul.

I'm actually in this thread to try to understand these type of people, because I need help too.

"what" she wants is a relationship but it almost turns into "who" she wants, which she can't control and it is driving her nuts.

Cinnie said:

wildgoldenhoney said:

So she doesn't see him as a person, but as an object that she chooses to have and with each obsessive act of hers she cheats her own soul.

I'm actually in this thread to try to understand these type of people, because I need help too.

"what" she wants is a relationship but it almost turns into "who" she wants, which she can't control and it is driving her nuts.

And it makes her unattractive, something that will scare him away.

I got that impression that she wants him because he might be a nice guy, and he met her son and must have been good with her son (his comments said it, that he thought the son was such a cutie pie) and the reason why she wants him. I guess it might be hard to find a guy who is nice to and likes kids.

wildgoldenhoney said:

Cinnie said:

"what" she wants is a relationship but it almost turns into "who" she wants, which she can't control and it is driving her nuts.

And it makes her unattractive, something that will scare him away.

I got that impression that she wants him because he might be a nice guy, and he met her son and must have been good with her son (his comments said it, that he thought the son was such a cutie pie) and the reason why she wants him. I guess it might be hard to find a guy who is nice to and likes kids.

totally, but her criteria seems to be excluding his willingness or availability.

too late, shouldnt have fucked with her...you're locked bud... Merry Kwanza!

Cinnie said:

wildgoldenhoney said:

And it makes her unattractive, something that will scare him away.

I got that impression that she wants him because he might be a nice guy, and he met her son and must have been good with her son (his comments said it, that he thought the son was such a cutie pie) and the reason why she wants him. I guess it might be hard to find a guy who is nice to and likes kids.

totally, but her criteria seems to be excluding his willingness or availability.

A very important factor in a partnership.

Nothinbutjoy said:

Ottensen said:

Yes, and then he stated very clearly that he was not interested in a relationship and she refused to accept it. He hasn't done anything since then to lead her to believe otherwise. The phrase "no means NO" doesn't only apply to relationships in the sexual aspect.

As I said, it doesn't excuse her current behavior, but he really should have gotten to know her better before getting into bed with her, especially as a child is involved.

Personally,for myself, I do agree in my old, crachety middle age that people should get to know each other before jumping into bed with each other. But I'm also not so naive to think that this is what happens on an average dance and booze filled night at the club.

As far as I can remember, when you meet people at the club in your early 20's it's not usually thought to be a stomping ground for finding a serious relationship. He was clear when she first met the chick that he wasn't looking for love or a relationship. She played like that was cool; if she can't accept the terms he blatantly put forth from get go then that's on her, not him. Technically speaking, whether she has a child or not is beside the point because he was honest and clearly wasn't looking or pretending to be anybody's daddy, and she gave the signal like it was easy peasy. How much more could he have gotten to truly know her if she was lying from jump street about what her expectations were?

I know single moms who are very mature and very focused about separating their sexual escapades from what are real life affirming, long term commitments before they try to involve their children in their adult relationships. This woman simply has no boundaries, period...and while in a spiritually and theologically perfect world everybody would get to know each other sooo very well before they start knockin' boots, sadly that's just not the way the majority of the world works, especially if you're hooking up in a nightlife scenario. I think that as a young man of his age he did the best he could with what he has for heart and brains at this phase in life; he told the heiffer the truth, straight, no chaser...and that should suffice.

Ottensen said:

Nothinbutjoy said:

As I said, it doesn't excuse her current behavior, but he really should have gotten to know her better before getting into bed with her, especially as a child is involved.

Personally,for myself, I do agree in my old, crachety middle age that people should get to know each other before jumping into bed with each other. But I'm also not so naive to think that this is what happens on an average dance and booze filled night at the club.

As far as I can remember, when you meet people at the club in your early 20's it's not usually thought to be a stomping ground for finding a serious relationship. He was clear when she first met the chick that he wasn't looking for love or a relationship. She played like that was cool; if she can't accept the terms he blatantly put forth from get go then that's on her, not him. Technically speaking, whether she has a child or not is beside the point because he was honest and clearly wasn't looking or pretending to be anybody's daddy, and she gave the signal like it was easy peasy. How much more could he have gotten to truly know her if she was lying from jump street about what her expectations were?

I know single moms who are very mature and very focused about separating their sexual escapades from what are real life affirming, long term commitments before they try to involve their children in their adult relationships. This woman simply has no boundaries, period...and while in a spiritually and theologically perfect world everybody would get to know each other sooo very well before they start knockin' boots, sadly that's just not the way the majority of the world works, especially if you're hooking up in a nightlife scenario. I think that as a young man of his age he did the best he could with what he has for heart and brains at this phase in life; he told the heiffer the truth, straight, no chaser...and that should suffice.

Totally agree, that's why I said jumping in was HIS mistake and hopefully he's learned a valuable lesson. People aren't always as they appear and it is best *and most safe* to get to know someone better before getting sexually intimate.

Also, as I said, not all single moms would act as unhinged as this woman is.

Just because it's not the way the world works doesn't make it unrealistic. If you're hooking up in the nighlife scenario you may, on occasion, land the crazy fish.

[Edited 11/29/10 14:28pm]

myfavorite said:

too late, shouldnt have fucked with her...you're locked bud... Merry Kwanza!

Most people have a difficult time dealing with rejection. It's okay for them to reject others but when they tables are turned they cannot deal. Best of luck.

Easy solution...

Just hook up with all of her (girl)friends and fuck their brains out, tape it and send it to her...

If she still flips out then, since she has a kid; Kid -> Knife -> Camera...

Neversin.

NONSENSE said:

Most people have a difficult time dealing with rejection. It's okay for them to reject others but when they tables are turned they cannot deal. Best of luck.

There is someone that thinks this of me

But he is wrong

Not the case

Rejection is easy…it’s losing a special connection that you never expected or dreamed would happen that makes u do or say crazy things

You know there was something wonderful…but then it’s gone…and it’s the desire of wanting it back.

Do not worry FrenchGuy she will eventually get the message…. and then she will never contact u again

oh and Mr FrenchGuy...i am not her

so do not worry

She has not infiltrated your org life

i do not even speak french