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Helpe me, Orgers! She won't leave me alone, how do i get rid of her? Yeah, I know I posted a thread about singlehood a couple days ago
I need your advice on this, so I hope you'll have the patience to read this through, it's gonna be a long story...
Well, let's call her A. I met A. in august 2009 in a club. Quite nice petite woman. The attraction was mutual, Iguess so I approached her, we had a talk, she seemed cool, told me she was 28 (I was 24) and had a kid. But since I'm a die-hard single guy, I told her straight from the start that I wasn't looking for love or a girlfriend. Just a young fool trying to have fun and enjoy life... She was cool with it (or so she said). We danced, we drank and we exchange numbers (and Facebooks
Then in november A. invited me to her place for a dinner and watch a DVD. I slept over there, met her cute little boy... But the day after, she told me she wanted more. Like we could be a gret couple, I should give this a chance, blablablablah... as cute and cool as she seemed, I just didnt want it to happen. Didn't feel a special connection between us. Or I was just not that into her... So I told her no.
That's when things went wrong. She probably told herself something like " OH NO! YOU DIDN'T! YOU'RE NOT GONNA THROW ME AWAY LIKE, LIL MUTHAFUCKA!!"
Thats' when the nightmare began. We had some friends in common. One of them, let's call him B. was living in another town. He was a good friend of mine from high-school, and we grew up almost together. Since his family was in Africa (Cameroon, he was studying here in France), he was looking for a friend to spend the christmas holiday with. So that girl, A., invited him. He stayed at her place for almost a week. I knew it... And one day he told me he slept with her. Coincidentally, she called me the day after, sounding alarming. "There's something I gotta tell you...". I told her I knew about her and B., but they were grown folks, we weren't committed anyway, but I told her to just leave me alone. She asked me, angrily : "So you don't care? You're not hurt? I thought you'd be jealous!!". I told her no. Then hung up.
Things got worse. She started befriending every girl I had some exchanges with on Facebook (the day after, I'd see "A. is now friends with 'the-girl-I-talked-to'), telling them we were cool, acting nice, so everybody was like ' wow, that girl A., she's cool and she likes you". You should hook up with her". Even my roommate and my best friend were caught in her web, trying to convince me on how she would be a nice girlfriend.. She was kind of "buying" my friends to win over me. I hated her even more!!!!
She even went further. Since I told her me and my ex-gf were friends, she sent her a message on facebook telling my ex "was so selfish, and she was the reason why I didnt want her because she was still in love with me and was jealous".... Damn she messed with the wrong girl, since my ex is somme badass bitch... she went
I called A. right away. told her to leave me and my people alone or she would have to deal with the police. Once again, I told her after all that, I wouldn't want her anyway. She was freaking me out!!
One day, around july, she sent me a text message. She seemed calmer. and more balanced. Told me she was so sorry about everything and that she had a boyfriend, so she wouldn't 'bother' me anymore. God, I was naive! I told her ok, we're cool. I even lied to her telling her I had a girlfriend too and that I was happy wit her... Then she started AGAIN. Sending me erotic messages, and some weird other things like 'I met this guy and cheated on my boyfriend, I couldnt resist, he reminded me of you"... Sure, I was kind of flattered, but... C'mon!
I changed my phone number, move to a new apartment (same city though).... Didn't hear from her... Until friday. The bitch called at my workplace and ask for me!!! I'm good friend with my manager so I told him to blow her away...
But I'm really tired of this. At first it was almost funny, friends joking about it, but now it's just... I can't fucking take it anymore, seems like she can't turn the page, no matter what I do!! There are so many things I've omitted (waiting for me at my door for hours, screwing up chances of getting with some girls...). There are too many things and I just don't know what to do anymore... Shit, out of desperation, I even dreamt of killing her!!!
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... Well I'm still single, but there's THAT woman who acts as if we're a couple or SHOULD BE a couple... I already mentionned her in some of my posts here...
I'm really, really, really fed up with this situation.
.. I didn't se her until november. We just talked on the phone or chatted on facebook avery now and then. Just like 'regular' friends or typical 'sex buddies'.
, like " 'the fuck you talking to??" ... Things got hot, A. threatened to kick her ass if she ever met her, calling her names... ( i read the messages... What a psycho!!
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I wonder if its easier to leave a guy alone if he satifies a woman sexually, or no.
I wonder if a guy plays a girl who is competitive and doesnt satisfy her sexually, isnt somehow locked in to a bunch of games.
idk. THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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Just saying .... Everybody is somebody, but nobody wants to be themselves. | |
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yeah, I know... In the middle of a dinner) and one of them said : "The perfect crime doesn't exist. Except if it happens between two complete strangers 
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Call the police! | |
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Just tell her that thanks to her, you NOW realize that your gay. Problem solved. Your welcome. 99.9% of everything I say is strictly for my own entertainment | |
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move in with her... quit your job... smoke weed all day... constantly ask her for head... but never go down.... fart loudly and chuckle... play playstation a lot... don't brush your teeth.... develop an imaginary friend to talk to when she's in the next room... hit on her mum... good luck | |
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That's what I was gonna suggest. Either it works and you get some from her mom or it doesn't and her mom thinks you're an asshole and maybe tells her as much. [Edited 11/28/10 11:11am] | |
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it simple. bitches like you to treat em mean 2 keep em keen. so just tell her u love her and send her some flowers, invite her on a date and you won't hear from the cunt again | |
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Nobody here has ever faced sch experience? She's poisoning my existence!! Everybody is somebody, but nobody wants to be themselves. | |
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see post #5 99.9% of everything I say is strictly for my own entertainment | |
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Another friend we have in common told me one day he went to her place and she was on my facebook page, with her son on her lap telling him : "He's gonna be your dady... don't you want [Frenchguy] to be your daddy?"... Don't know if he made it up to trick me.. But she scares me. for real. No joke. Everybody is somebody, but nobody wants to be themselves. | |
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This story is so unfortunate. Ol' girl gave it a good try.
That whole "I get what I want" attitude must have got her somewhere in life, but it sounds crazy in this context where she has become possessive of you.
I can see how you welcomed her back in your life when she was acting like she had "turned the page" and moved on, but don't let her back in your life again! Calls to work??? Sheesh. Eventually she'll get the picture and work it out like grown folk have to sometimes. | |
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Yeah I see what you mean. I've tried to disconnet myself from her in everyway : New phone number, new place, I even avoid some places /friends cause I don't wanna meet her anywhere. She's 29 now... I thought she would have the maturity to move on. But it looks like she doesnt even want to. We spent hours on the phone talking about this. She's still convinced me and her we're gonna be together one day... I mean, after threatening my ex, sleeping with a good friend, telling everybody we're together?? I've tried everything, even told her freinds to let her know I wasn't interested at all. She's sonvinced I wanna be with her but I don't know how to manage...
I told her I have a girlfreind, for Christ sake!! She's still acting the same (and she ahs a BF too!).. Hell, I'm sure if I tell her I'm gay, she'll grow a dick between her feet...
I thought shit like these only happen in movies... Everybody is somebody, but nobody wants to be themselves. | |
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Seriously...if I started getting phone call at my job from someone I didn't want to talk to, I would be calling the police. And screw her with her "I always get what I want". Stick it to her good and she'll leave you alone. You HAVE to do that to people like her. | |
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Yeah that's definitely unwelcomed "harrassment" at that point. Not to make it scarier for you, you've already been dealing with it! Just saying you are already justified in calling the police. No one should even have to relocate to have some peace of mind. | |
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Actually, she wasn't saying it in a threatening way, but between the words I understood what she meant... And I'm some stubborn muthafucka too, so the best will win... But how??? The police?? Maybe... but how do I bring the topic? Everybody is somebody, but nobody wants to be themselves. | |
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You just go to the station and write a short incident report, and at least it is on record if things get any crazier. You probably have done enough to not need a restraining order, but you can always ask the cops about that too. I don't have any experience with that. | |
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but that's how you deal with those people. don't tell em no, use reverse psychology. tell her you want her and love her and can't live without her and shit and sound needy and desperate and she will drop your arse like a peice of dog shit
if that don't work then move to step 2, the aid's call. you phone her up, pretending you're going through a list, and tell her slowly that you have HIV and she needs to get tested
if that don't work, move to step 3 | |
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Some here won't like this, but I'm saying it anyway and please know that I do not mean every woman is this situation. Your first mistake was thinking that she was cool with ya'll just keeping it casual. She's a single mom, almost 30 and you jumped right into bed. Some women take that shit as a challenge. That doesn't justify her current behavior, just hopefully it's a lesson learned for you. All you can do is disconnect from her and stay that way consistently. Make sure your employer knows of the situation to make the workplace as safe as possible. Make sure your family and friends know where you stand. Bring in the police if necessary. I'm firmly planted in denial | |
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You're not disconnecting yourself, if you're spending hours on the phone telling her it won't work and talking to her friends about her.
File a police report that she's stalking you, if you don't like her behavior.
Eat crow and get with her, if you do.
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Deep down, i mean deep deep down you really like her and it scares you
stop running away from your feelings | |
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I was going to say something similar. When you agreed to spend the evening with her AND her son, and then you stayed over, it went to the next level.
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just a thought: you should maybe avoid posting too much personal stuff on here, if you actually do have a stalker. you never know, she might be right here, right now. just saying
ps: run far! run fast! and may the force be with you | |
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good luck.Warn everyone you know about her - friends, family, work, etc. And never, ever speak to her again.
And move on with your life. | |
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And tell her FIRMLY to stop calling or contacting you in any way. You'll need to have proof that you've done that in order to get the restraining order. | |
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Looks like you got a stalker. Talk to the police and see what they advise or get a restraining order against her if things get worse. Tell your workplace what's going on and no phone calls to be passed to you.
Good luck 
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Yeah, might wanna do it via e-mail or text so you can keep the reply on record. E-mail probably being the better of the two. | |
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