don't hurt my feelings if you value your life!

I will run all thru your ass like a laxative!

[Edited 11/24/10 17:17pm]

I also cry, which make me madder.

PunkMistress said:

ZombieKitten said:

actually, I should point out it's everyone else - I'm talking innocent bystanders, the one who hurt my feelings I'm too proud to let know

That's mean!

PunkMistress said:

I also cry, which make me madder.

i go in cycles, sad, which makes me mad, then sad, which makes me mad...

PunkMistress said:

Do you cry?

Laugh?

Have an orgasm?

I get really angry. I want to slam and smash things. It feels shitty and I kind of wish I didn't get that way.

do you really? i always thought you took pride in your madness (as it were). do you wish you were calmer?

ZombieKitten said:

PunkMistress said:

That's mean!

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XxAxX said:

ZombieKitten said:

our new mascot!

whistle said:

PunkMistress said:

Do you cry?

Laugh?

Have an orgasm?

I get really angry. I want to slam and smash things. It feels shitty and I kind of wish I didn't get that way.

do you really? i always thought you took pride in your madness (as it were). do you wish you were calmer?

I don't take pride in getting angry - especially if it's over something transitory and relatively trivial. Maybe my outrage over social justice type stuff is pride-worthy, but not everyday animal rage.

Also, it's extremely frustrating because it's not like I can freely express those feelings. I can't smash things or punch people. I live with five other people and it's kind of a house rule not to break stuff or hurt people just because you're mad.

PunkMistress said:

whistle said:

do you really? i always thought you took pride in your madness (as it were). do you wish you were calmer?

I don't take pride in getting angry - especially if it's over something transitory and relatively trivial. Maybe my outrage over social justice type stuff is pride-worthy, but not everyday animal rage.

you never can tell. so many girls like to wear the 'crazy bitch' badge with pride these days...

see, this thread brings up something i've always wondered about: do girls have violent thoughts when their feelings are hurt or just us men?

i might have made a thread about this. can't remember. bloody alcoholism...

a plethora of emotions---then i let it go...or so i think..

whistle said:

PunkMistress said:

I don't take pride in getting angry - especially if it's over something transitory and relatively trivial. Maybe my outrage over social justice type stuff is pride-worthy, but not everyday animal rage.

you never can tell. so many girls like to wear the 'crazy bitch' badge with pride these days...

see, this thread brings up something i've always wondered about: do girls have violent thoughts when their feelings are hurt or just us men?

i might have made a thread about this. can't remember. bloody alcoholism...

I have no violent tendencies at all. I shout, but that's because asking nicely, or telling firmly doesn't get heard and then I yell and everyone cries.

I don't get my feelings hurt much though, so who knows what happens if someone beats up my ego

whistle said:

PunkMistress said:

I don't take pride in getting angry - especially if it's over something transitory and relatively trivial. Maybe my outrage over social justice type stuff is pride-worthy, but not everyday animal rage.

you never can tell. so many girls like to wear the 'crazy bitch' badge with pride these days...

see, this thread brings up something i've always wondered about: do girls have violent thoughts when their feelings are hurt or just us men?

i might have made a thread about this. can't remember. bloody alcoholism...

"Girls" as a group I can't speak for.

I personally do. If it's someone outside my immediate circle. I don't entertain violent thoughts about my loved ones when I'm mad at them, but outside of that if I'm hurt or angry I definitely have very violent thoughts that can get really specific and persistent.

whistle said:

PunkMistress said:

I don't take pride in getting angry - especially if it's over something transitory and relatively trivial. Maybe my outrage over social justice type stuff is pride-worthy, but not everyday animal rage.

you never can tell. so many girls like to wear the 'crazy bitch' badge with pride these days...

see, this thread brings up something i've always wondered about: do girls have violent thoughts when their feelings are hurt or just us men?

i might have made a thread about this. can't remember. bloody alcoholism...

It depends what my feelings were hurt about...

- Calling me fat: Upset.

- Finding out my guy was cheating and seeing WHAT he was cheating with... Violent thoughts.

I tend to get really quiet. Sometimes it's because I'm totally at a loss for words. Then I usually sit around being sad/pissed off, but trying not to let anybody know. Sometimes I daydream about how I could've gotten back at them or whatever. It usually sticks with me for a while and I avoid that person for a while or hold it against them to some degree (usually small).

It's very passive and I wish I were better and confrontation and discussing the matter maturely.

I stay silent. I usually just find an excuse to remove myself from that person's presence.

FauxReal said:

I stay silent. I usually just find an excuse to remove myself from that person's presence.

I try that, but I usually feel like I need to let them know that their words/actions hurt.

chocolate1 said:

FauxReal said:

I stay silent. I usually just find an excuse to remove myself from that person's presence.

I try that, but I usually feel like I need to let them know that their words/actions hurt.

I don't. Pride is part of the reason for that.

FauxReal said:

chocolate1 said:

I try that, but I usually feel like I need to let them know that their words/actions hurt.

I don't. Pride is part of the reason for that.

I get that.

if it's a man, i usually consider chinning the bastard, but end up settling for saying the worst thing i can think of in reply. i try to make it as personal and pointed as possible instead of just calling someone an arsehole or whatever...

PurpleRighteous1 said:

I tend to get really quiet. Sometimes it's because I'm totally at a loss for words. Then I usually sit around being sad/pissed off, but trying not to let anybody know. Sometimes I daydream about how I could've gotten back at them or whatever. It usually sticks with me for a while and I avoid that person for a while or hold it against them to some degree (usually small).

It's very passive and I wish I were better and confrontation and discussing the matter maturely.

You'll get there.

Sounds really corny, but reading self-help books and articles really helped me learn to be a more effective communicator and to be less self-defeating.

I like email for confrontation and discussion after something heated or hurtful. Your words can stand on their own without you either crying like an idiot or overreacting to the person's body language or responses and going off track before you've even made your point.

First i think...what did i do...did i deserve that

Then i cry

Then besause of the hurt...

i either hurt them back

or i keep away from them

i am not the type to throw things or go crazy - openly

which prob makes it worse

chocolate1 said:

FauxReal said:

I don't. Pride is part of the reason for that.

I get that.

yeah, I try to take the "it's uncool to lose your cool route" always, it suits me. The idea being that you tell the other person in a calm manner that they upset you, later, once you feel more together. That part I never get around to

just because I dream about slamming people's faces into walls doesn't mean I have violent tendencies...

PunkMistress said:

Do you cry?

Laugh?

Have an orgasm?

I get really angry. I want to slam and smash things. It feels shitty and I kind of wish I didn't get that way.

wouldnt it be better to immediately tell the person who hurt your feelings that they did, and then talk it out?

PunkMistress said:

Do you cry?

Laugh?

Have an orgasm?

I get really angry. I want to slam and smash things. It feels shitty and I kind of wish I didn't get that way.

I get quiet ~ introspective

sometimes I cry though I usually laugh before having a cry and that would be like 1 time out of ten really

yeah

introspective and quiet

Mach said:

PunkMistress said:

Do you cry?

Laugh?

Have an orgasm?

I get really angry. I want to slam and smash things. It feels shitty and I kind of wish I didn't get that way.

I get quiet ~ introspective

sometimes I cry though I usually laugh before having a cry and that would be like 1 time out of ten really

yeah

introspective and quiet

Like Mach I do the same, and then Loki comes into play and I smack the shit out of people

I internalize my feelings. If someone's there and willing to listen, then I share. But I don't like burdening my friends with my problems. If it builds up, I just cry. Let it out..then listen to some music, and I'm ok again.

I don't know how I've managed to live this long...

BlackAdder7 said:

PunkMistress said:

Do you cry?

Laugh?

Have an orgasm?

I get really angry. I want to slam and smash things. It feels shitty and I kind of wish I didn't get that way.

wouldnt it be better to immediately tell the person who hurt your feelings that they did, and then talk it out?

If I wasn't so angry, sure.

It's not always a good idea to talk immediately when you're hurt. Most people retreat so they don't lash out.