FrenchGuy said:

Somebody brought the thread back? haha, as I can see many orgers are die-hard single people...

I still am. Not feeling feeling an inner pressure about it, just some pressure from family and friends (especially the engaged ones... Almost look as if they wan me to join their "sect" of committed people, damn, i've been given many suggstions, books, advice about how "to settle down"....)

Damn, why is hard for so many people that some of us just don't wanna be part of a couple?

i'm happy that way. My time, my space, my opinion, m choices... all mine!

...and the folks who are always in your business can't even get their own shit together. Society has fucked people's minds up. There's nothing wrong with you if you're not 'with somebody'. I'm doing what makes ME happy - fuck the rest of y'all.

My time, my space, my opinion, my choices, my money - all mine!

Not single but I live like I do. No I don't mean seeing other guys behind my man's back . But we live separately and I come and go as I please without answering to anyone. There fore I live how I want to live and he can come over when I want him to. I follow my own rules. I didn't used to be like this but I just got tired of catering to others and not getting what I wanted in return. So now I runnit how I want to

heybaby said:

Not single but I live like I do. No I don't mean seeing other guys behind my man's back . But we live separately and I come and go as I please without answering to anyone. There fore I live how I want to live and he can come over when I want him to. I follow my own rules. I didn't used to be like this but I just got tired of catering to others and not getting what I wanted in return. So now I runnit how I want to

uPtoWnNY said:

FrenchGuy said:

Somebody brought the thread back? haha, as I can see many orgers are die-hard single people...

I still am. Not feeling feeling an inner pressure about it, just some pressure from family and friends (especially the engaged ones... Almost look as if they wan me to join their "sect" of committed people, damn, i've been given many suggstions, books, advice about how "to settle down"....)

Damn, why is hard for so many people that some of us just don't wanna be part of a couple?

i'm happy that way. My time, my space, my opinion, m choices... all mine!

...and the folks who are always in your business can't even get their own shit together. Society has fucked people's minds up. There's nothing wrong with you if you're not 'with somebody'. I'm doing what makes ME happy - fuck the rest of y'all.

My time, my space, my opinion, my choices, my money - all mine!

There's nothing wrong with being single and not wanting children; it's rude for people to inquire, give an opinion, or question why you aren't. I've told my daughter if she wants a husband and family fine, if she doesn't want a husband or family that's fine too. It's her decision to say how her life should be lived.

The only advice I've volunteered, make sure she's opened to all possibilities, don't make a snap judgments or decisions out of fear either way. I know my fair share of people who realized they should've never married anyone, just as I know my fair of people who regret not being married and childless out of fear of the "unkown".

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I used to think that maybe I had low self esteem and not very much faith in myself. And while I still feel it's true to some extent, I'm starting to realize that I have less faith in others (specifically men). I know that I'm a good person and would be an excellent girlfriend but I don't have faith that others will be able to see that.

heybaby said:

Not single but I live like I do. No I don't mean seeing other guys behind my man's back . But we live separately and I come and go as I please without answering to anyone. There fore I live how I want to live and he can come over when I want him to. I follow my own rules. I didn't used to be like this but I just got tired of catering to others and not getting what I wanted in return. So now I runnit how I want to

I wish there were more women like you.

uPtoWnNY said:

heybaby said:

Not single but I live like I do. No I don't mean seeing other guys behind my man's back . But we live separately and I come and go as I please without answering to anyone. There fore I live how I want to live and he can come over when I want him to. I follow my own rules. I didn't used to be like this but I just got tired of catering to others and not getting what I wanted in return. So now I runnit how I want to

I wish there were more women like you.

Thanks. I wasn't always like this. Had to learn the hard way

BklynBabe said:

Well I didn't want kids, which is a dealbreaker for many young men. And marriage wasn't a need for me, plus I definitely wanted my education and career first. And I was moving a lot and having a lot of personal upheavals. And, of course I am super picky, afraid of rejection and commitment, and have been hurt just a few too many times. I hate the person I become when I have a crush, especially if I don't get what I want. I would like a relationship, but it's going to take a real special man, and I refuse to settle so I'll probably be single forever. Considering just about every female in my family stayed single, I get no backlash about having kids, and now I'm uterus-free so the point is moot. As for men I meet, I find most act real ignorant and turn me off.

I have to agree with almost everything you have said. My parents divorce kind of screwed my way of thinking when it comes to relationships. I have also been hurt a few times. Having to basically raise three siblings because your parents want to be the kids did not help either, but most of all I am afraid of rejection... or should I say loving someone just to be hurt. I even tell people... I don't fall in love, I fall in like.. then I laugh it off, so I won't seem crazy. I know there is someone out there for all of our single orgers... it just takes time and patience. As the song says "Keep your mind in the vertical motion...always looking up!) One day ur princess or prince (no pun) will come!

heybaby said:

Not single but I live like I do. No I don't mean seeing other guys behind my man's back . But we live separately and I come and go as I please without answering to anyone. There fore I live how I want to live and he can come over when I want him to. I follow my own rules. I didn't used to be like this but I just got tired of catering to others and not getting what I wanted in return. So now I runnit how I want to

Kudos to you. Does the same rules apply to the guy your dating? Does he get to follow his own rules?

I'm single by choice. Its all very complicated. I'm not the type to engage just because.

...cuz no one wants me.

kewlschool said:

I'm 26 and I'm not ready to settle down yet. I like my freedom. Although, there's a part of me that wants a man, I don't need a man. Wanting something and needing something are two different things. When the right guy comes along, I'd gladly welcome him w/ open arms. I've been w/ a handful of guys here and there in the past, but nothing serious.