I let the guy I've been "seeing" since April borrow 60 bucks two weeks ago..He is supposed to give it back today. I called him this morning and his phone was off. I figured he just got paid today so it would be on some time today...called back in the afternoon (it was on) It rang, he didn't answer so I left a voicemail just saying to call me back. Since then I haven't gotten a response.. Now typically I wouldn't be pressed or mad (yet) but I'm fkn broke! What should I do?

Tokyo89 said:

I let the guy I've been "seeing" since April borrow 60 bucks two weeks ago..He is supposed to give it back today. I called him this morning and his phone was off. I figured he just got paid today so it would be on some time today...called back in the afternoon (it was on) It rang, he didn't answer so I left a voicemail just saying to call me back. Since then I haven't gotten a response.. Now typically I wouldn't be pressed or mad (yet) but I'm fkn broke! What should I do?

Go to his house and sit on his doorstep until he shows up if he's not home. If he acts the ass or starts giving you BS about whatever, make a scene!

When any man asks me for money, whether it be a loan or right out gift, I kick his ass to the curb. It has NEVER turned out well when I have loaned money. That's why I do not loan money to anyone now. If you're a loaner, only loan what you can afford to lose because 9 times out of 10, you will never see nary a dime.

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Somebody else told me to do that lol, but it seems like a bit much since it's 60 bucks, if it was over a hundred I'd be knocking his fkn door down...but then again I'm broke soooo...... I want him to give me my money, and then I wanna curse him out

When any man asks me for money, whether it be a loan or right out gift, I kick his ass to the curb. It has NEVER turned out well when I have loaned money. That's why I do not loan money to anyone now. If you're a loaner, only loan what you can afford to lose because 9 times out of 10, you will never see nary a dime.

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I am a loaner.. Idk how that happened I used to be stingy as hell! But now a days.. I just think, well as long as they give it back, it's kool.

I never loaned a guy money before, this will be the last time though

the way he's avoiding you, you can probably just chuck up that as a 60.00 lesson. I predict you're not going to get it back. I'm real careful on who I lend money too, just family.

I'm going to count it as a loss. And count him as a loser! ---> for him

LOL! It's a no brainer and you are very smart! Lesson learned!

Never, ever loan money when you can't afford to.

Actually, never give money expecting to actually get it back. If you have it to loan then you should be able to deal if you don't get it back.

Tokyo89 said:

I'm going to count it as a loss. And count him as a loser! ---> for him

The measley 60 bucks he burned you for doesn't compare to the respect you lost for him.

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Think of it as a $60.00 lesson, and now when someone asks for money you can turned them down without feeling guilty

Dump his user ass and accept the loss of the money. Hard lesson to learn. And never lend money to another man ever again.

Back in 2002 I was dating this guy who would ask for money so he could buy his cigarettes and/or help with a bill. I kept a record. He told me he would pay me back. I believed him then but I still kept a record. Eventually it was adding up so I decided not to lend anymore. I had a feeling I was being taken advantage of. I approached him about what he owed me so far and arrangements were made that he would pay everytime he got his paycheque. I would have to stay on top of it and bug him for the next installment. He paid up. I also found out he was fooling around and having sex with other women while we were dating, how nice .... by the final payment he had a new girlfriend. I had already ended it with him because of his fooling around and I also caught him at it too.

nammie said:

Think of it as a $60.00 lesson, and now when someone asks for money you can turned them down without feeling guilty

Fuck that noise, ..

If you haven't got word from him by now, he is clearly taking the piss. Id leave another message basically tellin him that you wan't your fuckin money back.

Shyra said:

Tokyo89 said:

I let the guy I've been "seeing" since April borrow 60 bucks two weeks ago..He is supposed to give it back today. I called him this morning and his phone was off. I figured he just got paid today so it would be on some time today...called back in the afternoon (it was on) It rang, he didn't answer so I left a voicemail just saying to call me back. Since then I haven't gotten a response.. Now typically I wouldn't be pressed or mad (yet) but I'm fkn broke! What should I do?

Go to his house and sit on his doorstep until he shows up if he's not home. If he acts the ass or starts giving you BS about whatever, make a scene!

When any man asks me for money, whether it be a loan or right out gift, I kick his ass to the curb. It has NEVER turned out well when I have loaned money. That's why I do not loan money to anyone now. If you're a loaner, only loan what you can afford to lose because 9 times out of 10, you will never see nary a dime.

[Edited 11/5/10 13:22pm]

This is the best post right here. You got scammed but don't let the fool get away with it. By demanding your money back and in a way that shows you are serious and intend to be repaid, you are teaching him not to do this to someone else.

Can't stand broke ass men.....nothin' but a headache in the end.

Question: Have you talked to him in the 2 weeks since you gave him the money, or was it just today that he went AWOL?

Dude got the pussy and the cash

Epic WIN!@

minneapolisFunq said:

Dude got the pussy and the cash

Epic WIN!@

He'llcall ya when he wants a piece.

If you don't get your money don't put out, and don't ever see him again either.

Good Luck.

I don't lend people money anymore. I learned the hard way. A few times.

My rule of thumb, I don't loan any man (with the exception of a sibling, maybe) any money. If a guy even ask, kick is sorry ass to the crub.

JustErin said:

Never, ever loan money when you can't afford to.

Actually, never give money expecting to actually get it back. If you have it to loan then you should be able to deal if you don't get it back.

Yep. I don't ever loan money, but if the request is reasonable I've given it freely. If the person pays it back by choice, awesome! That's somebody I want to keep around for a while. But loaning money? That's what banks do, not friends/lovers.

JustErin said:

minneapolisFunq said:

Dude got the pussy and the cash

Epic WIN!@

+1

As far as what you should do, I agree. No more phone calls. Just stalk his ass and make a scene of it.

Tokyo89 said:

I let the guy I've been "seeing" since April borrow 60 bucks two weeks ago..He is supposed to give it back today. I called him this morning and his phone was off. I figured he just got paid today so it would be on some time today...called back in the afternoon (it was on) It rang, he didn't answer so I left a voicemail just saying to call me back. Since then I haven't gotten a response.. Now typically I wouldn't be pressed or mad (yet) but I'm fkn broke! What should I do?

In the words of one of my former boyfriends turned good friend, never lend money to anyone that you can't afford to lose. He gave me this advice when I loaned money to another boyfriend.. and was pissed he didn't repay me. It was like I was holding on to this debt in order to hold on to him--not that you're doing that at all.

I'm just saying, when you loan money to anyone, don't necessary be disappointed when you don't get it back.

It's been said... $60 lesson. Silly girl!

But, is he on facebook?

Might be worth a very public but polite "Have you got that money i lent you?" post on his wall for all his friends to see. Followed up (if necessary) by a couple more direct reminders and then a final abrupt F.U message to him via his friends. Very little effort for you and you may just get your money back...if not, maybe a little pride?

Call him, tell him you just got paid and that you could loan him some more money, if he needs it. When he shows up to collect, do what you got to do.

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He gave it to me on Sunday... He said he wanted me to think he forgot about me But lesson learned anyway..won't do that again. Thx ya'll lol

Tokyo89 said:

He gave it to me on Sunday... He said he wanted me to think he forgot about me But lesson learned anyway..won't do that again. Thx ya'll lol

the hell? He sounds crazy. Stay away from him.

Neither a borrower nor a lender be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend

DesireeNevermind said:

Tokyo89 said:

He gave it to me on Sunday... He said he wanted me to think he forgot about me But lesson learned anyway..won't do that again. Thx ya'll lol

the hell? He sounds crazy. Stay away from him.

WTF? What the hell is that supposed to mean? That he thought about not paying you back, but now that you remembered, here's your money? Or is he thinking he's getting brownie points for paying you back? In any case, follow Desiree's advice. Leave his simple ass alone.

Genesia said:

Neither a borrower nor a lender be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend

Shakespear

Shyra said:

DesireeNevermind said:

the hell? He sounds crazy. Stay away from him.

WTF? What the hell is that supposed to mean? That he thought about not paying you back, but now that you remembered, here's your money? Or is he thinking he's getting brownie points for paying you back? In any case, follow Desiree's advice. Leave his simple ass alone.

^^ What they said ^^