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Reply #30 posted 10/26/10 2:34am

ZombieKitten

Lammastide said:

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[Edited 10/25/10 19:32pm]

you called me crazy didn't you!

bawl

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Reply #31 posted 10/26/10 2:36am

Lammastide

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ZombieKitten said:

Lammastide said:

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[Edited 10/25/10 19:32pm]

you called me crazy didn't you!

bawl

Never. Not admittedly, anyway. lol

Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #32 posted 10/26/10 2:37am

ZombieKitten

PurpleJedi said:

ZombieKitten said:

but how weird is it that if me and the kids are alone at home for 3 weeks, it does NOT happen

confuse only when I am NOT AT HOME

neutral

shhh ...that's why we (men) NEED you (women)! nod

get a cleaner, a nanny and a fleshlight

because WE don't need to be needed like that hmph!

talk to the hand

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Reply #33 posted 10/26/10 2:37am

ZombieKitten

Lammastide said:

ZombieKitten said:

you called me crazy didn't you!

bawl

Never. Not admittedly, anyway. lol

punch too chicken!!!!!

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Reply #34 posted 10/26/10 2:46am

kewlschool

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squirrelgrease said:

It seems to get harder to figure her out as the years progress. I saw my wife's shopping list the other day...

*Plastic tarp

*Duct Tape

*Rope

*Shovel

This really pissed me off because I specifically demanded Doritos and Grape Shasta. I guess she's got some kind of weird craft project to do that's way more important.

I believe the list included Rohypnol. Just saying. smile

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Reply #35 posted 10/26/10 2:49am

PurpleJedi

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ZombieKitten said:

PurpleJedi said:

shhh ...that's why we (men) NEED you (women)! nod

get a cleaner, a nanny and a fleshlight

because WE don't need to be needed like that hmph!

talk to the hand

falloff

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Reply #36 posted 10/26/10 2:49am

kewlschool

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PunkMistress said:

ZombieKitten said:

nobody understands me at my house bawl

sad

hug

I at least have three other females. I can't imagine being adrift in a sea of males all the time.

If it makes you feel any better, I'm indulging in a bit of female craziness right now.

I'm all butthurt that my husband offered me some constructive criticism on the chicken pot pie I made for dinner, then sat in front of the Food Network on TV and moaned and groaned with desire at some stupid bitch's peanut butter chocolate something or other. mad

Totally irrational, as I do appreciate the feedback on my cooking so I can make it better. And he liked the food I made, and it was in his belly. That dumb broad and her stupid food were on the television, not real, and it could have been utterly disgusting for all I know.

But it still upset me! I feel like that food is better than my food, and he likes it better and I suck. Strangely, I do not feel this way about him looking at hot chicks in porn. lol

Actually, after typing that out I'm not mad anymore.

nuts

This above is a clear example why men wall Thanks PM for your honesty.

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Reply #37 posted 10/26/10 2:58am

Cerebus

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Burp... s'cuse me. Good soup.

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Reply #38 posted 10/26/10 3:05am

kewlschool

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ZombieKitten said:

PurpleJedi said:

must you do this? confuse

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I know that perhaps I should not take it that way (in my family), but I feel my efforts in maintaining some semblance of order go unnoticed and unappreciated, and that their carelessness and assumption that "oh, well mummy will clean it up so I don't have to" make me feel resentful. How can you do these things to me if you LOVE me? sad

And then calling me crazy is just the icing on the cake. confused

I can sympathize and understand your frustrations. Part of your predicament appears to be self inflictive, which then becomes a vicious cycle. You get angry cause the "appear" to take advantage of your work around the house-you feel like you don't have a voice-where people don't get your position-when you get angry-and loose control-thus the "crazy" moment. If your express your concerns that you need help with a (meaning one thing) specific thing and the why you need help with this one thing. You will be heard and they will at least attempt to help you if not flat out help you on this 1 thing. This will do 2 things; 1) you finally get to be heard-(no crazy moment) 2)They attempt to help you and/or stop the issue from happening. 'cause kids or spouse are involved they may need reminders and thank you for their help. Even if its something they should be doing on their own. This has generally worked for me. I give an example but didn't I write too much?

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Reply #39 posted 10/26/10 3:09am

ZombieKitten

kewlschool said:

ZombieKitten said:

must you do this? confuse

neutral

I know that perhaps I should not take it that way (in my family), but I feel my efforts in maintaining some semblance of order go unnoticed and unappreciated, and that their carelessness and assumption that "oh, well mummy will clean it up so I don't have to" make me feel resentful. How can you do these things to me if you LOVE me? sad

And then calling me crazy is just the icing on the cake. confused

I can sympathize and understand your frustrations. Part of your predicament appears to be self inflictive, which then becomes a vicious cycle. You get angry cause the "appear" to take advantage of your work around the house-you feel like you don't have a voice-where people don't get your position-when you get angry-and loose control-thus the "crazy" moment. If your express your concerns that you need help with a (meaning one thing) specific thing and the why you need help with this one thing. You will be heard and they will at least attempt to help you if not flat out help you on this 1 thing. This will do 2 things; 1) you finally get to be heard-(no crazy moment) 2)They attempt to help you and/or stop the issue from happening. 'cause kids or spouse are involved they may need reminders and thank you for their help. Even if its something they should be doing on their own. This has generally worked for me. I give an example but didn't I write too much?

Hey, KS can you please put your post into point form?

How's that?

mr.green

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Reply #40 posted 10/26/10 3:17am

Genesia

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Revolution said:

I am happily married for 20 yrs this Dec....

Listen good.

Do NOT marry a girly girl...wives should be self sufficient and capable of doing even some of the more manly chores around the house. Not saying that she does, but she should be capable.

Do NOT be afraid of doing housework...that ain't just for them anymore, guys gotta pitch in. Laundry ain't that bad.

Laugh, Laugh, Laugh together....key.

Make her happiness your top priority....if she is happy, you are happy. Understand that, at times, it may feel like you are giving more than you get....deal with it.

Keep her liquored up....lol.....a shared bottle of wine ALWAYS leads to a good night wink

Excuse me? I am probably the girliest girl you'll ever meet - and I carried three 40-lb bags of salt up a flight of stairs and put them in the water softener yesterday.

Girly got nothin' to do with any of that.

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Reply #41 posted 10/26/10 3:23am

kewlschool

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ZombieKitten said:

kewlschool said:

I can sympathize and understand your frustrations. Part of your predicament appears to be self inflictive, which then becomes a vicious cycle. You get angry cause the "appear" to take advantage of your work around the house-you feel like you don't have a voice-where people don't get your position-when you get angry-and loose control-thus the "crazy" moment. If your express your concerns that you need help with a (meaning one thing) specific thing and the why you need help with this one thing. You will be heard and they will at least attempt to help you if not flat out help you on this 1 thing. This will do 2 things; 1) you finally get to be heard-(no crazy moment) 2)They attempt to help you and/or stop the issue from happening. 'cause kids or spouse are involved they may need reminders and thank you for their help. Even if its something they should be doing on their own. This has generally worked for me. I give an example but didn't I write too much?

Hey, KS can you please put your post into point form?

How's that?

mr.green

lol Yes, I'm a rambiling man and brick

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Reply #42 posted 10/26/10 3:24am

ZombieKitten

kewlschool said:

ZombieKitten said:

Hey, KS can you please put your post into point form?

How's that?

mr.green

lol Yes, I'm a rambiling man and brick

so I asked for ONE thing, and???

mad

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Reply #43 posted 10/26/10 3:25am

blissagain

i just go and play guitar

it passes

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Reply #44 posted 10/26/10 3:28am

ZombieKitten

blissagain said:

i just go and play guitar

it passes

it doesn't pass

she doesn't forget

she tallies it up and one day LEAVES YOU!

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Reply #45 posted 10/26/10 3:29am

Fauxie

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I feel like I understand my wife better than anyone else ever could, and I understand what she does and why she does it, yet somehow she still leaves me totally incredulous sometimes. It's like... I understand, but still sometimes I just don't get it. Does that make any sense? My wife has a little bit of a split personality though, which certainly keeps me on my toes, but the 'good', as I generally see it, makes up maybe 90% and the 'bad' only 10%. Marriage is cool with me though. I wouldn't change anything, knowing what I know now, if I had the choice again. It's how I expected it to be. It's quite nice really. smile

MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!!
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Reply #46 posted 10/26/10 3:31am

blissagain

ZombieKitten said:

blissagain said:

i just go and play guitar

it passes

it doesn't pass

she doesn't forget

she tallies it up and one day LEAVES YOU!

see ya wave

guitar

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Reply #47 posted 10/26/10 3:31am

blissagain

Fauxie said:

I feel like I understand my wife better than anyone else ever could, and I understand what she does and why she does it, yet somehow she still leaves me totally incredulous sometimes. It's like... I understand, but still sometimes I just don't get it. Does that make any sense? My wife has a little bit of a split personality though, which certainly keeps me on my toes, but the 'good', as I generally see it, makes up maybe 90% and the 'bad' only 10%. Marriage is cool with me though. I wouldn't change anything, knowing what I know now, if I had the choice again. It's how I expected it to be. It's quite nice really. smile

hello sir

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Reply #48 posted 10/26/10 3:32am

ZombieKitten

blissagain said:

ZombieKitten said:

it doesn't pass

she doesn't forget

she tallies it up and one day LEAVES YOU!

see ya wave

guitar

wave

my SO(B) thinks I'm going on tour with him!!!

rolleyes

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Reply #49 posted 10/26/10 3:33am

Fauxie

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blissagain said:

Fauxie said:

I feel like I understand my wife better than anyone else ever could, and I understand what she does and why she does it, yet somehow she still leaves me totally incredulous sometimes. It's like... I understand, but still sometimes I just don't get it. Does that make any sense? My wife has a little bit of a split personality though, which certainly keeps me on my toes, but the 'good', as I generally see it, makes up maybe 90% and the 'bad' only 10%. Marriage is cool with me though. I wouldn't change anything, knowing what I know now, if I had the choice again. It's how I expected it to be. It's quite nice really. smile

hello sir

Hello! How's things? smile

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Reply #50 posted 10/26/10 3:35am

kewlschool

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ZombieKitten said:

kewlschool said:

lol Yes, I'm a rambiling man and brick

so I asked for ONE thing, and???

mad

mad But you didn't say why?

lol

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Reply #51 posted 10/26/10 3:35am

ZombieKitten

kewlschool said:

ZombieKitten said:

so I asked for ONE thing, and???

mad

mad But you didn't say why?

lol

because it would be nice to read your post?

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Reply #52 posted 10/26/10 3:37am

blissagain

Fauxie said:

blissagain said:

hello sir

Hello! How's things? smile

good mate... never better... life's good... lotsa music... became a dad... luckily my wife is the mum... phew smile

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Reply #53 posted 10/26/10 3:39am

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blissagain said:

Fauxie said:

Hello! How's things? smile

good mate... never better... life's good... lotsa music... became a dad... luckily my wife is the mum... phew smile

lol

Congratulations! thumbs up!

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Reply #54 posted 10/26/10 4:35am

july

My wife is mean. She expect me to do as she says, soon or fast after she says it. I love her dearly.

We have two kids. I'm beginning to think. I'm whipped by her female genitalia. sexy doh!

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Reply #55 posted 10/26/10 4:39am

Cerebus

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july said:

My wife is mean. She expect me to do as she says, soon or fast after she says it. I love her dearly.

We have two kids. I'm beginning to think. I'm whipped by her female genitalia. sexy doh!

Careful. She wouldn't like that.

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Reply #56 posted 10/26/10 11:30am

PunkMistress

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PunkMistress said:

ThreadBare said:

... do women get any easier to understand ever???

No.

The best you can hope for is to have a woman who is aware of the differences between men and women, and doesn't expect you to think and behave like a woman. One who tries to outline for you clearly what she wants and doesn't want from you, and what things will piss her off.

Many wives try to make their husbands understand them, which will never happen. It's much smarter to just tell him exactly what things bother you, and exactly what things make you feel good. She should also expect to explain these things over and over again.

Husbands, if you are lucky enough to have a wife like this, listen to her.

I feel like elucidating this last point a bit more.

Just as women make the mistake of trying to make their man understand them, men make the mistake of expecting their woman to "make sense" as he defines it. When it comes to her emotions, she will rarely "make sense" to you. This does not matter. Her feelings are still real. Treat them as such, not as something that's stupid just because you don't relate to it or wouldn't react the same way.

For example: If she cries over something that you can't imagine crying over, it's not stupid for her to cry over it. Just as it's not stupid for you to get very excited about a sports championship that she couldn't care less about. Yes, women, if it's important to him, it's important. Don't you want the same respect? wink

grouphug

I like this thread.

It's what you make it.
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Reply #57 posted 10/26/10 11:38am

Shanti0608

PunkMistress said:

PunkMistress said:

No.

The best you can hope for is to have a woman who is aware of the differences between men and women, and doesn't expect you to think and behave like a woman. One who tries to outline for you clearly what she wants and doesn't want from you, and what things will piss her off.

Many wives try to make their husbands understand them, which will never happen. It's much smarter to just tell him exactly what things bother you, and exactly what things make you feel good. She should also expect to explain these things over and over again.

Husbands, if you are lucky enough to have a wife like this, listen to her.

I feel like elucidating this last point a bit more.

Just as women make the mistake of trying to make their man understand them, men make the mistake of expecting their woman to "make sense" as he defines it. When it comes to her emotions, she will rarely "make sense" to you. This does not matter. Her feelings are still real. Treat them as such, not as something that's stupid just because you don't relate to it or wouldn't react the same way.

For example: If she cries over something that you can't imagine crying over, it's not stupid for her to cry over it. Just as it's not stupid for you to get very excited about a sports championship that she couldn't care less about. Yes, women, if it's important to him, it's important. Don't you want the same respect? wink

grouphug

I like this thread.

yeahthat

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Reply #58 posted 10/26/10 1:04pm

Shorty

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I like this thread too. smile

Zombie...I feel for you...we are similar in some ways.

"not a fan" falloff yeah...ok
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Reply #59 posted 10/26/10 1:12pm

Harlepolis

squirrelgrease said:

It seems to get harder to figure her out as the years progress. I saw my wife's shopping list the other day...

*Plastic tarp

*Duct Tape

*Rope

*Shovel

This really pissed me off because I specifically demanded Doritos and Grape Shasta. I guess she's got some kind of weird craft project to do that's way more important.

spit

If I could compile your posts, believe me, I would evillol

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