JustErin said:

Tremolina said:

Ah yes I see! uhm

What would you consider simply "agressive" as in not "desperate at all" or anything lol

I personally do not see aggressiveness as a negative trait. Going for what you want with confidence is really sexy.

As long as you also have the maturity to move on gracefully if your advances are not appreciated and reciprocated, aggressiveness is a huge plus when it comes to personality...to me, that is.

I'm not confident enough to be outwardly aggressive. I'm more on the coy side, which is much easier to move on from when rejected.

Although one time I went up to a guy and used a line, he was too hot to sit back and play games. And it totally worked. We had a hot summer fling.

Thanks for clearing that up. I see now that we have a completely different view on what's "agressive". I see it as a negative, you do not. So there we go.

But what's with the being on the coy side? Go for what you want with confidence. It's sexy.

ZombieKitten said:

Tremolina said:

willing or not willing? I am not following you lol

she means it would only be desperate if you weren't HOT

now you made me all confused again... lol

Tremolina said:

ZombieKitten said:

she means it would only be desperate if you weren't HOT

now you made me all confused again... lol

I'm just making a joke about being superficial

She said a desperate woman would take ANY man's offer (implying of course that the guy is unattractive)

but since you're hot, it's not desperate (for a woman to take you up on your offer), it would be understandable

Oh hell yes. As someone who is unattractive, I need the girl to initiate. Iam rubbish at reading signs if someone is into me anyway LOL.

Tremolina said:

JustErin said:

I personally do not see aggressiveness as a negative trait. Going for what you want with confidence is really sexy.

As long as you also have the maturity to move on gracefully if your advances are not appreciated and reciprocated, aggressiveness is a huge plus when it comes to personality...to me, that is.

I'm not confident enough to be outwardly aggressive. I'm more on the coy side, which is much easier to move on from when rejected.

Although one time I went up to a guy and used a line, he was too hot to sit back and play games. And it totally worked. We had a hot summer fling.

Thanks for clearing that up. I see now that we have a completely different view on what's "agressive". I see it as a negative, you do not. So there we go.

But what's with the being on the coy side? Go for what you want with confidence. It's sexy.

I don't do well with rejection. I go for what I want...but cautiously.

Yes'