I am 39, and my wife turned 50 this year

I am attracted to women my age and 10-15 years older

Always thought the man being older was creepy

Lammastide said:

retina said:

People can have maturity levels that are relatively independent of age but there's something to be said for life experience plus I just wouldn't want to date someone who's at a whole different stage of her life with all the different priorities it entails. So usually when I get interested in someone, she's very close to my age.

I agree. I assess hypothetical partners individually (hypothetical, because I'm already partnered), but I do think there is a sort of generational culture that influences how persons of a certain age -- alongside other demographic markers -- relate to others/life/the world. It could bear out in something as weighty as how we negotiate discretionary monies or goals in establishing a famiy/household to something light like what idioms or silly pop cultural references we take for granted. Detail like that can really color a relationship.

All that said, if I were single, I think my ideal partner, if he were male, would be my age up to 10 years older. I've found I best fit with them. If through some uncanny turn of events I found myself with another female partner, I think she'd need to be exactly my age. No older woman would put up with my crap , and no younger partner -- male or female -- would much seize my attention; nor I theirs, I suspect.

Yeah, exactly. The generational differences find their way into everyday life both when it comes to bigger overarching decisions and more mundane conversation. There can even be a values gap sometimes since you've been raised in different "eras".

If however I'd meet someone who was for example ten years older or younger where there for some reason weren't any of the problems above, of course I wouldn't disqualify her simply because of her age - and I can tell by what you write that neither would you. It would make me cautious at first though, knowing how slim the chances would be of it working out without any of the above issues.

I am 43 and my girlfriend is 29 and believe me when I tell you, she is an old soul that does not act her age. I at times find myself acting, like a 29 year old. We have issues, but not due to the age difference...All couples have issues.

I can understand wanting the hot body and the cute face but I can't imagine dating anyone under 30.

Lets talk about sluts!

DesireeNevermind said:

^ Sarah that 40 year old man is just using you! j/k

hahahah :X he is 28 actually! just turned 28 on the tenth.

I'm married, Sara.

JerseyKRS said:

I'm married, Sara.

God I knew you would catch on.... but I said age difference in general. Your wife is definitely included in this

So basically, women within the GILF status are a potential high risk for some of you.

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my husband is 5 years younger than me.

I've never dated older and probably never will. All but one have been younger (the one guy was the same age) up to 7 years younger a couple of times. I'll never date that much younger again.

JustErin said:

I've never dated older and probably never will.

It gets harder all the time!

NOT A SNOWBALL'S CHANCE IN HELL WOULD I EVER.....

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It's the classic love story, an angst-ridden Christie McNichol meets older woman...

^ that aint Christie McNichol!

isn't that Golem from Lord of the Rings and that crazy bitch that tried to steal Rosemary's demon baby?

I dig me older men...and I mean older men...

But atm...I love a man only a year older than me. And he's awesome.

Once I hit 30, I felt like age was less of an issue. My partners 15 years older than me. Sometimes I feel like trading his ass in when his back gives out every so often but we've been together close to 7 years and, yes, I do take reassurance in the fact that he is younger than Prince

Stax said:

half your age plus seven years

sounds a lovely age that's about how old the master was when I met him, and I thought it was a lovely age even back then.

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Lets talk about sluts!

good idea!

I'm 39... he's 51, he says he's a year younger... his online info says otherwise.

We agree on most things so its nice.

DesireeNevermind said:

NOT A SNOWBALL'S CHANCE IN HELL WOULD I EVER.....

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seriously- this is really disgusting to me....i'm sorry 30+ years older/younger you can't tell me there aint other issues going on there....

When you're not comfortable being with that person in the public.

novabrkr said:

When you're not comfortable being with that person in the public.

I think my husband is getting tired of the "is that your niece?" comments

and he's only 4.5 years older than me

ZombieKitten said:

TotalANXiousNESS said:

Lets talk about sluts!

good idea!

I love that word.

Lisa10 said:

ZombieKitten said:

good idea!

I love that word.

me too!

paintedlady said:

I'm 39... he's 51, he says he's a year younger... his online info says otherwise.

We agree on most things so its nice.

sorry auntie but sounds funny.

My man and I have 10 years between us and this has never been a problem. To each their own...

Age ain't nothing but a number. I am in an extreme relationship, I am only 34 yet my male partner is nearly 70. He was born April 1 1941 and I was born April 30 1976, and yet its not a barrier, he looks very good for his age, has excellent health and can still work a 60 hour week. If anything he makes me look old and tired.

Hey there, Sarah, welcome back. How's school?

Hmm, let's see: now that I'm older and have certain life experiences under my belt, I don't think I'd like to be with anyone more than a few years younger than me. If a person is older than me, I can do about 6 years older. I like it when we're somewhere within the same generation so we can share views from the same vantage point. Put it this way; I'm almost 40, an original generation X-er, and while I don't watch MTV now, I like being around people who remember when Tabitha Soren and Downtown Julie Brown were on there