I think there's a difference between "thinking about suicide" and "being ready/willing to kill yourself"...
I once thought about suicide, just for a couple of minutes. I really don't want to talk about it, but there was a time when I was full of fear and doubts about the system/my future; I was at an all time low for a couple of weeks: you can say that I was slighty depressed and during one specially rough night I briefly thought about suicide as a possibility; of course I quickly dismissed that possibility because it only "offered" death, so it was not a solution, just the violent ending of my life; on top of that, as many have said, the fear of death and the fear of pain also helped me to quickly dismiss "the thought of suicide". Family support and personal projects helped me to overcome my short depression.
Suicide is not a solution, is an act of desperation...
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Jesus Christie Brinkley, this post made me cry.
I fuckin love you, John. | |
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Shut the fuck up. Christie Brinkley.
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I know it's not isolated; I've heard countless people say similar things about how music literally saved their lives. It's just not an experience that I shared. | |
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well I can't believe it worked it did tho 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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A combination of lots of things.
I have clinical depression, which runs in my family. I believe I'm genetically predisposed to it. I think it was aggravated by many things, including the following:
I was sexually and physically abused by several older, trusted authority figures. One was a family member who molested me for years when I was a young child. My father was physically abusive and very psychologically manipulative and abusive. As a teen, I acted out because of my pain, rage and confusion. When I was 15, I was targeted by a youth worker who preyed on all my emotional pain and insecurity and led me into a really fucked up and twisted sexual/emotional relationship. When I heard the victims of Bishop Eddie Long (I call them victims because I believe them) tell their stories, chills ran down my spine because it rang so true to me. I have no doubt that those boys are telling the truth. | |
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That's either really selfless or weirdly narcissistic.
Either way, glad to see it'd keep you here. [Edited 10/7/10 15:26pm] Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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I'm so sorry to hear all of this. It's STUNNING what some of us go through. I'm curious, though: What's kept you alive, do you think? Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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I can't describe it, but it's just like you're stuck in this horrible feeling that won't go away. It's like a really bad acid trip. Reality is distorted, you're completely out of control of your body, mind and emotions. The self hate is like a seething monster. It's torture. I just wanted it to stop. | |
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I had my first daughter at 18. Since then, my children have been a big factor.
Before that and beyond that? I think simple animal survival instinct and fear of death. And not knowing how many pills to take to do it right. | |
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Did it change through the correct knowledge of yourself as not being any part of that seething monster of self loathing? 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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My (ongoing) journey of understanding, awakening and knowing has definitely helped with that, yes. | |
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I'm glad you got to take that journey 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Me too!
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Know what else really helped?
Growing the fuck up and realizing how self-absorbed it is to be so depressed. People all over the world suffer, so many suffer far more than I. Life is suffering. Life is also joy. My problems and pain are not special. | |
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I think suicide is a direct result of long term depression, and depression can be a result of many things: bullying, relationship issues, family issues, financial issues, self-image issues, employment issues... the list goes on. Depression can also be genetic, and just there forever. Its like a shadow that looms over your head constantly, and even though you have good days there is always a deep sadness looming in your head.
Very strange thing, and sometimes someone decides they no longer wish to put up with it so they commit suicide. I'm guessing it is a decision they have thought about often, but the time they actually do it, it would be a decision made on a whim. A kind of "fuck this, i can't be bothered anymore" & 5 minutes later they are dead. I think more often than not they forget about the bigger picture of the result of their suicide... family, friends, etc
Sometimes, no matter how hard they try, someone can never get rid of the deep sadness they feel within. The best they can do is do whatever they can do to make them happy, even if its temporary happiness. [Edited 10/7/10 15:37pm] | |
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I know there is so much about the experience that is seemingly/actually unreachable but do you think you could make inroads with someone who has been through a similar experience? 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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I think about this every time I start feeling sorry for myself. | |
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I'm not sure I'm in a place where I could do that.
During the worst of my health issues during the last year, I was dangerously close to falling prey to those same feelings when I was in so much pain and unable to do any of the things that I identify with having a productive life.
Reaching out to someone in the depths of it might not be something I'd be successful at at this point in my life. Maybe later. | |
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I went thru a period of wondering whether or not anyone would care if I was gone. I felt so bad about myself, it seemed like it wouldn't matter if I was here or not. Those feelings stemmed from a combination of things. Now I try to focus on the positives...
missing "e" [Edited 10/7/10 18:47pm] "Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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"Love Hurts. Your lies, they cut me. Now your words don't mean a thing. I don't give a damn if you ever loved me..." -Cher, "Woman's World" | |
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it was never about self-loathing with me, it was about the pointlessness of life as i saw it. i still have problems with it. i really struggle to find things to look forward to as i get older.
perhaps this is where not having children gets me... everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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It's not that I really consider suicide, but sometimes more that I get tired of people, this society, this world, and all the drama and bullshit involved and I just want to get the fuck away. If there was a deserted island I could have for my own then no I wouldn't want to commit suicide ever, or another planet that had intelligent and kind beings to socialize with, or just something different. I just get so disgusted with all the crap that happens on this planet! And I feel like I have to force myself to find the positives.
At the same token, I've also considered mass homicide. | |
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Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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It is a very complicated and ever changing emotion (for lack of a better word for it.) I have contemplated it several times. Planned it out and seriously considered it many times.
Like others here who have been abused as a child, and have mental illness in the family, it is something that I realise will always haunt me.
For me anxiety and depression go hand in hand, they are a part of me that I live with. I used to wish they would go away forever but I know deep down, it is just inside of me. I have had to learn to deal with those emotions when they creep up. I have had to learn to recognise the signs and try to do things to keep the feelings at bay so they do not drag me down into the depths they have in the past.
For me it seems a constant struggle and some times I am prepared and have the energy for it and some times I don't.
Hearing about the recent suicides from the boys who were bullied, makes my heart ache. For them and their families.
I had an ex boss tell me that she has never felt depressed a day in her life. Lucky, lucky person.
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