OK. I've been cleaning up my list of friends on the wonderful time waster called facebook. I've also friended a lot of family: which are my siblings and cousins. I friended my aunt, my mother's only sibling, her younger sister.

I regret it.

I love the piss out of her. I always thought she was the laid back one of the two, was a little more hip than my mom. And she is. But...the problems my mother and she both face is that they are a little mentally unstable. My mom has it worse, she's a trip and that's all I can describe.

My aunt leaves literally 5 paragraph therapy sessions on my page. Not messages to my private inbox, but comments, photo comments, article comments, wall posts. Yes, my mother and she had it rough in childhood, but my grandmother toyed with them. Even in death she still has been able to get in between them. The women have not spoken in so many years....and yeah that's all over my facebook too.

I shouldn't have done it. I dont want to erase her rants because she's on it all the time! She's sensitive as hell, to a fault. Just like my mother. Two peas in a pod, if they could let the shit go and get along.

I had to tell someone...and I can't do what I want on my FB page. I read articles on this. Should've known better.

I didn't know how off the deep end she goes until now. sheesh!!!

go to wall post page and "hide" her posts and that should alleviate some of it

on the right side above the post a little box will pop up to hide people who post too much or block certain apps...very handy and they will never know.....

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I have a "family quota" when it comes to facebook. I've only added about 7 or 8 relatives because I've already had issues with family members on there with relatives spying on what I have on there or what friends have written on my wall.

I deleted relatives and friends of relatives because I KNOW they're trying to spy on me. Hell, I won't add my mom

OK, she's sensitive.... if you hide her posts, she'll get upset if you don't tell her first.

So explain that its not personal, but you don't want the world to see the family's dirty laundry.

If she needs to vent, let her do it in a way were it heals her and her relationship with your mom.

Guide her towards doing what is healing for her, she wants to be heard and respected, so I'm a bit stuck on how to do that exactly, but I am sure good ideas will come to you regarding that.

I need to think about a few ideas of the same to do the same with my mom and her 5 sisters that were separated and raised in foster care.

paintedlady said:

OK, she's sensitive.... if you hide her posts, she'll get upset if you don't tell her first.

So explain that its not personal, but you don't want the world to see the family's dirty laundry.

If she needs to vent, let her do it in a way were it heals her and her relationship with your mom.

Guide her towards doing what is healing for her, she wants to be heard and respected, so I'm a bit stuck on how to do that exactly, but I am sure good ideas will come to you regarding that.

I need to think about a few ideas of the same to do the same with my mom and her 5 sisters that were separated and raised in foster care.

Good idea! I can do that. I tell ya. Women....we are SOMETHING to say the least!

I really wish my mom would stop being a butthole and my aunt stop being a butt and the two could start talking again. They are all the family they have besides their kids and husbands.

Life is too short, I tell ya.

bboy87 said:

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I have a "family quota" when it comes to facebook. I've only added about 7 or 8 relatives because I've already had issues with family members on there with relatives spying on what I have on there or what friends have written on my wall.

I deleted relatives and friends of relatives because I KNOW they're trying to spy on me. Hell, I won't add my mom

Then KANG of gif's!!!!!

KatSkrizzle said:

bboy87 said:

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I have a "family quota" when it comes to facebook. I've only added about 7 or 8 relatives because I've already had issues with family members on there with relatives spying on what I have on there or what friends have written on my wall.

I deleted relatives and friends of relatives because I KNOW they're trying to spy on me. Hell, I won't add my mom

Then KANG of gif's!!!!!

This post reminded me of the incident that happened right after my grandmother passed this summer

I was already really moody due to issues at school and M.Jackson dying but then my grandmother passed away and I was really down so I didn't really have patience for any fuckery.

prior to that.....

My cousin/godsister practically MADE ME add her on facebook (had me on the phone while she made me add her ) and would confront me in front of people if I posted something that was not to her liking. She told a family friend "yep....and Jay posted on his looking for: friends, networking, relationships"

so 2 weeks after our grandma passing away, she had a birthday for her daughters and I went, her friend who never met me was really condescending to me because my relative mentioned that I was a fan Prince and MJ and how I was upset about Michael dying. I later joked on facebook on my relative's wall (the ONLY time I ever posted on her wall) and said "Yo, what's up with your friend?" and then ANOTHER friend who wasn't at the function replied to me like she was the person I was talking about and began to talk crap!

long story short, I let it be known that facebook shit and assorted fuckery ain't worth my time and shut her down. I was polite and respectful (unlike the friend) but guess who got a phonecall and yelled at?

We had a big falling out (over that and other things) and I de-friended her ass that week

Damn, that story I just posted made no sense

KatSkrizzle said:

paintedlady said:

OK, she's sensitive.... if you hide her posts, she'll get upset if you don't tell her first.

So explain that its not personal, but you don't want the world to see the family's dirty laundry.

If she needs to vent, let her do it in a way were it heals her and her relationship with your mom.

Guide her towards doing what is healing for her, she wants to be heard and respected, so I'm a bit stuck on how to do that exactly, but I am sure good ideas will come to you regarding that.

I need to think about a few ideas of the same to do the same with my mom and her 5 sisters that were separated and raised in foster care.

Good idea! I can do that. I tell ya. Women....we are SOMETHING to say the least!

I really wish my mom would stop being a butthole and my aunt stop being a butt and the two could start talking again. They are all the family they have besides their kids and husbands.

Life is too short, I tell ya.

I have 2 accounts thanks to this stuff. One for family and people from high school etc, and one where anything goes.

ZombieKitten said:

I have 2 accounts thanks to this stuff. One for family and people from high school etc, and one where anything goes.

me 2

Cerebus said:

i dont have FB either

do.not.want

sweet said:

Cerebus said:

i dont have FB either

do.not.want

Count me in ! I saw cerebus' posts on another thread about FB and I agree with all of them.

I add them to my 'friends' but I don't even use Facebook often, hardly ever.

I have a STRICT no family rule.

NO mom no sisters no dad no NUTHING.

MOM AND SISTER, on numerous occaision, would sneak on my page ( may leave it open sometimes) and add themselves. Id find out within hours and delete them again.

I dont PLAY!

then again im not the most family oriented person right now:-?

ZombieKitten said:

I have 2 accounts thanks to this stuff. One for family and people from high school etc, and one where anything goes.

That's a good idea...been thinking of doing that myself.

i had to delete my mom as a friend a few months ago because of this same problem.

I deleted some people recently. I don't need to see bitching everytime I log in to facebook.

I'm thinking of letting FB go completely

I spend little time there anymore

and most people that I want to keep close contact with

I'll do so anyway, without facebooks help

You can create different lists and sort people into them, then assign different security levels. It initially takes a lot of time, but after you have it set up it's easy to maintain. I have a "Limited Access" list for relatives. You could also just change your setting so that she can't post on your wall.

orger said:

I'm thinking of letting FB go completely

I spend little time there anymore

and most people that I want to keep close contact with

I'll do so anyway, without facebooks help

Wouldn't that be a little bit sad for all the people who like to ogle your pictures?

My fam hardly pay that much attention to me on FB. Every now and then, I might say something they will like or comment on. But for the most part, they're busy people. So when they add me, I actually just accept them and we try to keep up 'cause we don't see one another that much. And the immediate fam...well, they're in their 50s and 60s. Most of them don't give a flying fig about FB. They just go online to check their bills, their retirement plans, and maybe look at some slacks.

At least that's what my dad does. He's always looking at slacks.

Lisa10 said:

I deleted some people recently. I don't need to see bitching everytime I log in to facebook.

Right? It's getting rediculous! But then there are folks that post things that have me rolling on the floor, like Julie Purplehead!

ZombieKitten said:

I have 2 accounts thanks to this stuff. One for family and people from high school etc, and one where anything goes.

Great idea!

My brother's g/f sent me a request. I accepted and next thing I know a couple weeks later, they're having all sort of issues, police getting called and shit, she's acting crazy to the point my brother had to call the cops on her and have her escorted out. Before and possibly during all this craziness, she's trying to get me to mend things between the two of them, though I only ever met this chick once, and that was back in high school.

I can do without shit like that. I stayed living 900 miles away for a reason. Well two reasons, the first is money. But right after that, this drama shit. But Facebook brings the drama to your living room (for me anyway).

I no longer have an account.

paintedlady said:

ZombieKitten said:

I have 2 accounts thanks to this stuff. One for family and people from high school etc, and one where anything goes.

Great idea!

although if folks on that one are a pain in the ass I don't hesitate to delete them!

ZombieKitten said:

I have 2 accounts thanks to this stuff. One for family and people from high school etc, and one where anything goes.

i have done a ZK as well....

prb a/c anyone gets added...

tracy a/c is for family/work/school etc

prb said:

ZombieKitten said:

I have 2 accounts thanks to this stuff. One for family and people from high school etc, and one where anything goes.

i have done a ZK as well....

prb a/c anyone gets added...

tracy a/c is for family/work/school etc

I was initially looking into using the filters but it was too much trouble

I really don't want to be making mistakes and letting my husband's relatives see my deviate behaviour