thats what my 13yo daughter asked me 2day!!!!!

shit, what do i do?

i told her "not yet, when your older and u meet some1 special"

but then she says "but dad, some kids in my class r doing it"

then she asks "dad, how old were u when u 1st did it (i was 13!!!!!)

we have an open relationship and i never lie 2 her, so what do i say?

shit, what do i do?

wasted said:

shit, what do i do?

Go to a Prince site and ask They'll know

Tell her the truth!

Tell her it's too dangerous nowadays to just go out and have sex all willy nilly THEN bust out photos of STD's, that should horrify her into abstinence.

wasted said:

thats what my 13yo daughter asked me 2day!!!!!

shit, what do i do?

i told her "not yet, when your older and u meet some1 special"

but then she says "but dad, some kids in my class r doing it"

then she asks "dad, how old were u when u 1st did it (i was 13!!!!!)

we have an open relationship and i never lie 2 her, so what do i say?

shit, what do i do?

tell her uncle boaby from prince.org was 21 when he first did it and thats the age she should wait til...( and yes thats true)..

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For me about 18 was right. I felt grown up enough to deal with stuff by then

When you're mentally ready and sure you know enough about the joys and dangers of it.

Dave1992 said:

When you're mentally ready and sure you know enough about the joys and dangers of it.

Exactly.

She's asked so you need to start really educating her now....about all of it.

^^^^^

Well, first of all...there's no need to tell her how old you were when you did it.

Not only is this a chance to educate her about the act, itself, it's a chance to help her understand the gravity of giving oneself sexually - including the importance of being safe and not risking disease or pregnancy. And also a chance (in re. the age thing) to teach her about discretion and valuing privacy.

I know a lot of people here won't agree, but my mother's basic approach to sex education consisted of dwelling on the consequences of sex - specifically, the number of ways one's life could be ruined if she got involved too young. And this was before anyone had heard of AIDS.

Even with all that, I did some stupid, risky things. But I waited until I was 19 to start making shitty choices.

Whenever you are ready, and not just doing it for the sake of it.

wasted said:

thats what my 13yo daughter asked me 2day!!!!!

shit, what do i do?

i told her "not yet, when your older and u meet some1 special"

but then she says "but dad, some kids in my class r doing it"

then she asks "dad, how old were u when u 1st did it (i was 13!!!!!)

we have an open relationship and i never lie 2 her, so what do i say?

shit, what do i do?

whoa. that'd freak me out.

tell her your honest opinions. be open, encourage her to be open with you.

help her gain access to birth control if you have any feeling that she might (our of curiosity or whatever reason) start 'doin it' at age 13 when she is too young or procure her own birth control*.

*of course, since she's your kid, you should do what you think is right!

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never!

eliminate disease and let the human race die out

whoa...

ask her how she feels about it. I know she said "my friends are doing it" but that doesn't mean she's ready to. all my friends were doing it b4 me and I was scared shitless.....wasn't ready at all. She might be looking for you to confirm those feelings. It sounds like you have a great relationship with her already cause I had a pretty good relationship with my folx but I woulda NEVA said that to them. shit....I wouldn't even say I liked a boy out loud.

so just ask her how she feels about it. You might be surprised by her answers. IF by chance she says she wants to and almost did and that kinda stuff. get her on the pill ASAP. I'd be thinking about the pill soon anyway, cause yeah yeah...they will use condoms here and there but once the serious boyfriend comes along...woop...there goes the condom here comes teenage pregnancy.

GRAMPS

good luck

I'm just actually stunned that some thought wasn't put into these kinds of questions long before your baby boo girl came along...and maybe even more stunned that you would look to strangers to help you define a value system that should ideally be in place before child rearing begins...umm, I got bupkus for ya, but hopefully there's an orger here that might say something that can help steer you steer your daughter.

you can say, "yes, some of your friends are doing it but that does not mean they are ready for it or that you are ready for it."

There is no right age. I was 18, and still not ready! But I would not have been ready at 30 either. It's horrifying and shocking at any age.

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NDRU said:

you can say, "yes, some of your friends are doing it but that does not mean they are ready for it or that you are ready for it."

There is no right age. I was 18, and still not ready! But I would not have been ready at 30 either. It's horrifying and shocking at any age.

Are you sure your doing it right??

tinaz said:

NDRU said:

you can say, "yes, some of your friends are doing it but that does not mean they are ready for it or that you are ready for it."

There is no right age. I was 18, and still not ready! But I would not have been ready at 30 either. It's horrifying and shocking at any age.

Are you sure your doing it right??

not anymore, but the first time was the worst sex ever. Terrible, and I am guy. The only good thing about it was that I really liked the girl.

NDRU said:

tinaz said:

Are you sure your doing it right??

not anymore, but the first time was the worst sex ever. Terrible, and I am guy. The only good thing about it was that I really liked the girl.

Ya, first times are awkward!!

tinaz said:

NDRU said:

not anymore, but the first time was the worst sex ever. Terrible, and I am guy. The only good thing about it was that I really liked the girl.

Ya, first times are awkward!!

I actually had a panic attack afterward I did not know it at the time. I thought I was dying. Good fun.

my dog ask me that a week ago

didnt know what to tell him

but seriously a girl will never know truely about sex until she has it ..thats just the way it is

have her spend a day with a teen mom and a girl with an std .... she will learn

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NDRU said:

tinaz said:

Ya, first times are awkward!!

I actually had a panic attack afterward I did not know it at the time. I thought I was dying. Good fun.

Awwww you poor thing!! Hopefully things have gotten a bit better for you! Did you scare the crap outta the girl btw? Shes probably thinking I KILLED HIM!

tinaz said:

NDRU said:

I actually had a panic attack afterward I did not know it at the time. I thought I was dying. Good fun.

Awwww you poor thing!! Hopefully things have gotten a bit better for you! Did you scare the crap outta the girl btw? Shes probably thinking I KILLED HIM!

it's terribly embarassing to even say...

we had not planned this to happen, she was supposed to spend the night, but to sleep in another room (we were just friends at the time). So when I had this panic, I went to the bathroom, then came back to ask her to sleep in the other room in case my parents came home

The next morning she was sure I'd used her, but it was better after we'd talked, and we dated for a year & a half after that.

So yes it got better! I am just a sensitive creature!

NDRU said:

tinaz said:

Awwww you poor thing!! Hopefully things have gotten a bit better for you! Did you scare the crap outta the girl btw? Shes probably thinking I KILLED HIM!

it's terribly embarassing to even say...

we had not planned this to happen, she was supposed to spend the night, but to sleep in another room (we were just friends at the time). So when I had this panic, I went to the bathroom, then came back to ask her to sleep in the other room in case my parents came home

The next morning she was sure I'd used her, but it was better after we'd talked, and we dated for a year & a half after that.

So yes it got better! I am just a sensitive creature!

Your a sweetheart!

8.

She's way past her peak already!

As soon as you can get it surely?

can't not edit time was when I could, but I just can't

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Seriously it's time to educate on pregancy and the risk of STI's! I told my kids that sex may be fun but it's not a damn game to play with and shouldn't be taken lightly. I made sure they understood all the emotional BS that can go with having sex period!

Fauxie said:

can't not edit time was when I could, but I just can't

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[mrsdoyle]Go on, go on, go on.....[/mrsdoyle]

truly, if you don't want your kids to have sex.....tell them to go have it!