Trust is vital to any relationship working I'm sure we'd all agree. However, just how trusting are you? Say your partner goes out with friends. Do you concern yourself as to what time they come home? Do you call them to find out where they are when they said they'd be home a certain time and haven't shown?

I can't speak for myself currently because I'm not with anyone right now. However, I have been thoroughly burned in the past and am very concerned that it will affect my ability to trust people (women) in any future relationship I may someday be involved in.

No I don't have to ask those questions because I trust my boyfriend when he goes out with his friends and he comes home at a decent time...but after all, he is a grown man and I'm not his mother...he doesn't have a curfew. If you are suspicious at all of your mate, then you don't trust them, point blank. And what's the point of being in a relationship if you can't trust the other person?

I trust my current bf completely. He hasn’t given me reason not to.

We don’t live together and we don’t spend every night together, but we usually know each other’s plans. When he’s out with friends and not with me, he often texts me. And vice versa.

If he gets home late I wouldn’t know, and frankly I’d rather not. I don’t like to be woken up.

CarrieMpls said:

I trust my current bf completely. He hasn’t given me reason not to.

We don’t live together and we don’t spend every night together, but we usually know each other’s plans. When he’s out with friends and not with me, he often texts me. And vice versa.

If he gets home late I wouldn’t know, and frankly I’d rather not. I don’t like to be woken up.

Oh boy, how long did it take you to come up with that clever line?

JDInteractive said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

CarrieMpls said:

I trust my current bf completely. He hasn’t given me reason not to.

We don’t live together and we don’t spend every night together, but we usually know each other’s plans. When he’s out with friends and not with me, he often texts me. And vice versa.

If he gets home late I wouldn’t know, and frankly I’d rather not. I don’t like to be woken up.

Oh boy, how long did it take you to come up with that clever line?

I don't know what you mean?

Hershe said:

JDInteractive said:

Trust is vital to any relationship working I'm sure we'd all agree. However, just how trusting are you? Say your partner goes out with friends. Do you concern yourself as to what time they come home? Do you call them to find out where they are when they said they'd be home a certain time and haven't shown?

I wouldn't like it one bit. So, I'm burning his breakfast.

Yeah - that part would piss me off. Do what you say you're going to do. Or contact me to let me know why you haven't. It's as simple as that.

Call or text or email or show up when you say you're going to. Not because if you don't I think you're cheating, but because it's downright rude not to. I don't want to be waiting and I wouldn't do it to you.

CarrieMpls said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Oh boy, how long did it take you to come up with that clever line?

I don't know what you mean?

Appearing rational and not at all affected

Not suspicious at all. Not in the slightest.

CarrieMpls said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

CarrieMpls said:

I don't know what you mean?

Appearing rational and not at all affected

I'm not making it up, though.

I've told stories here of how jealous I used to be as a teenager. I "made" my high school boyfriend rip up his porn collection in front of me.

Somewhere along the way I got over all that, though. It's just not worth it. If a bf gives me reason to doubt him, I'm not going to be around very long.

And I don't ever kid about my sleep. I am vicious if you wake me up or keep me up. Just ask my neighbor.

CarrieMpls said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Appearing rational and not at all affected

I'm not making it up, though.

I've told stories here of how jealous I used to be as a teenager. I "made" my high school boyfriend rip up his porn collection in front of me.

Somewhere along the way I got over all that, though. It's just not worth it. If a bf gives me reason to doubt him, I'm not going to be around very long.

And I don't ever kid about my sleep. I am vicious if you wake me up or keep me up. Just ask my neighbor.

Well I can relate. As much of a vixen as I can be, wake me up even for sex and I'm ripping your face off

JDInteractive said:

Trust is vital to any relationship working I'm sure we'd all agree. However, just how trusting are you? Say your partner goes out with friends. Do you concern yourself as to what time they come home? Do you call them to find out where they are when they said they'd be home a certain time and haven't shown?

Very trusting ~

No and No ... not even in the 1st 10 yrs of the relationship either

TR has never not come home or really been "late" without letting me know on his own ~ and I show him the same respect in return

I don't trust that bastard as far as I can throw a rock. Hell, I even put the son of a bitch out of my apartment if I have to go to the restroom and take a shit. All he was, was a dick for about 20 minutes every now and then but the dick ain't worth putting up with the bastard it's attached to.

I just stopped answering my door two nights in a row after cussing his ass out and he didn't knock last night so hopefully he's gotten the message. Good riddance pest!

CarrieMpls said:

I trust my current bf completely. He hasn’t given me reason not to.

We don’t live together and we don’t spend every night together, but we usually know each other’s plans. When he’s out with friends and not with me, he often texts me. And vice versa.

If he gets home late I wouldn’t know, and frankly I’d rather not. I don’t like to be woken up.

Co-sign!

I have 100% trust. It's the most adult relationship I have ever been in and boy is that a nice feeling.

JDInteractive said:

Trust is vital to any relationship working I'm sure we'd all agree. However, just how trusting are you? Say your partner goes out with friends. Do you concern yourself as to what time they come home? Do you call them to find out where they are when they said they'd be home a certain time and haven't shown?

I'm single now, but in the past I was always suspicious.

Now, I wouldn't care about him going out with friends or going out late, or being late.

Not at all.

He never goes out apart from for work, that satisfies his need to be "out" and all the rest of the time he would rather be at home with me, even if ultimately that is only a couple of nights a week.

That part pisses me off about him, that he is over-extended all the time and the excuse has been (for the last 10 years) "once I set this up right, it won't always be like this" but I've lost all hope anything will change at all.

But suspicious? The man is too tired and that's obvious to anyone

I can honestly say I have not an ounce of suspicion my wife would ever even humor being unfaithful. She's got my total confidence that way.

...Now, she'd probably make out with Lenny Kravitz for a couple minutes if given the chance, but I give her a pass there. I know her well enough to say she'd at least fess up to it -- and I figure everyone deserves at least one weak spot.

[Edited 9/10/10 20:04pm]

I have a lover and we don't live together. he has told me that he has cheated on every woman he has ever been with in the past before being with me. He is currently going through a divorce after being separated from his wife for 6 years.

I have been cheated on by every man I have been serious with.

Yet, I am not suspicious... I have lots of reason to be, but I have a general rule.

I respect his privacy, and if I ever feel a need to search phone records, check the cell phone call history, etc. Then I do not need to be with him at all. I will not disrespect any man I call "boyfriend/lover/husband".

So instead of rifling through his personal belongings I'll just talk to him and immediately end the relationship before I stoop to any behavior that I feel is just beneath a person that is considers them self in a trusting relationship. In time the truth always comes to light anyways, so I never dwell on the "what ifs". If red flags do come up in the relationship then I just speak on it. If he denies it, then time will tell.

Not at all - for the first time ever.

Am single at the mo, but jealousy is futile. If people fancy my partner, I look at that as a compliment to me too! If she's gonna stray, then why would I wanna stay with her anyway??

Suspicion comes from no trust - and if the trust is gone, then so am I!

I've always been aware that my type of women have been prone to cheat anyway.

missfee said:

No I don't have to ask those questions because I trust my boyfriend when he goes out with his friends and he comes home at a decent time...but after all, he is a grown man and I'm not his mother...he doesn't have a curfew. If you are suspicious at all of your mate, then you don't trust them, point blank. And what's the point of being in a relationship if you can't trust the other person?

Uncut nail. Meet. Baldie head.

Through & through!

Should I be worried????

ZombieKitten said:

Should I be worried????

it depends on if they're using

that bottle and that microphone on you

or each other

orger said:

ZombieKitten said:

Should I be worried????

it depends on if they're using

that bottle and that microphone on you

or each other