Dave1992 said:

She did have sexual fantasies about me, but it was something completely natural

hahahaha.

Dave, have you ever fancied someone who didn't fancy you, or are you in a 'i get whoever i want' situation?

ZombieKitten said:

Dave1992 said:

I'm careful with the term "friend", so I'd say for two years now, although we haven't seen each other for half a year inbetween. I've known her for almost four years. We met at school and got to know each other through a girl I spent most of my last couple of years with - she was one of her best friends back then.

I used to ask her for advice a lot, or simply just call her and tell her about my feelings, sometimes cry my heart out (back in the day when I was very sad and very angry). She is a very good listener and extremely cute, she is one of those people who could never hurt anyone or anything, so good at heart it may hurt themselves from time to time in this cruel world. But she was never as experienced as I am concerning love, feelings, sexuality and all the things I talked to her about, so i realised that she couldn't really help me and that I had to get through things myself. And - surprise, surpirse! - I did and now I feel more comfortable being the one helping her out whenever she needs something. She says that my presence and my talking to her make her feel calm and that's totally okay with me.

She loves me like a small girl would love her big brother, but I don't think she has serious sexual feelings for me. She does mention from time to time that this side of me fascinates her and would fascinate many women she knows, but that she simply could never imagine me wanting her the way I had wanted other women, and therefor I think that this topic is quite irrelevant to her anyway. She did have sexual fantasies about me, but it was something completely natural we talked and laughed about later, nothing too personal.

you are probably going to marry her she's a keeper

I'm telling you, I don't find her physically attractive enough for that.

Personality-wise, she might be just what I need. Sweet at heart, witty, a good person, honest, .. Someone who made me settle down a bit more and stop going from one extreme to another, like I used to so often... but I can't help being the superficial asshole I am, I need someone sweet and hot, dammit!

whistle said:

Dave1992 said:

hahahaha.

Dave, have you ever fancied someone who didn't fancy you, or are you in a 'i get whoever i want' situation?

Of course I did!

But what happened is that I either realised that it was just premature springfever on my part and soon I completely lost interest and moved on.

Or I hung in there a little more and got what I wanted in the end.

Yeah, as bad and dangerous as it sounds, I usually got whoever I really wanted, so far. I know the lack of the experience of wanting someone you can't have might hurt me someday...

It's usually like this: People meet me, think I am arrogant, cold, full of myself, too "out-there". Then, when I really want to fuck them, I let them feel that I can be quite cool actually, and then they fall for me. I feel so bad saying this

Dave1992 said:

ZombieKitten said:

you are probably going to marry her she's a keeper

I'm telling you, I don't find her physically attractive enough for that.

Personality-wise, she might be just what I need. Sweet at heart, witty, a good person, honest, .. Someone who made me settle down a bit more and stop going from one extreme to another, like I used to so often... but I can't help being the superficial asshole I am, I need someone sweet and hot, dammit!

anyway, she's in love with you, it's obvious

ZombieKitten said:

Dave1992 said:

I'm telling you, I don't find her physically attractive enough for that.

Personality-wise, she might be just what I need. Sweet at heart, witty, a good person, honest, .. Someone who made me settle down a bit more and stop going from one extreme to another, like I used to so often... but I can't help being the superficial asshole I am, I need someone sweet and hot, dammit!

anyway, she's in love with you, it's obvious

Noooo, she's not! She's like a little sister to me. That would be illegal.

Dave1992 said:

ZombieKitten said:

anyway, she's in love with you, it's obvious

Noooo, she's not! She's like a little sister to me. That would be illegal.

if she let you know how she felt, you guys wouldn't hang out together any more, so she keeps it to herself.

Dave1992 said:

whistle said:

hahahaha.

Dave, have you ever fancied someone who didn't fancy you, or are you in a 'i get whoever i want' situation?

Of course I did!

But what happened is that I either realised that it was just premature springfever on my part and soon I completely lost interest and moved on.

Or I hung in there a little more and got what I wanted in the end.

Yeah, as bad and dangerous as it sounds, I usually got whoever I really wanted, so far. I know the lack of the experience of wanting someone you can't have might hurt me someday...

It's usually like this: People meet me, think I am arrogant, cold, full of myself, too "out-there". Then, when I really want to fuck them, I let them feel that I can be quite cool actually, and then they fall for me. I feel so bad saying this

He's just laughing at you. He's mean like that.

Dave1992 said:

It's usually like this: People meet me, think I am arrogant, cold, full of myself, too "out-there". Then, when I really want to fuck them, I let them feel that I can be quite cool actually, and then they fall for me. I feel so bad saying this

why? it's pretty much the textbook example of 'how to get women to fancy you'.

of course, it will all fail miserably if you're not stunningly attractive...

JustErin said:

He's just laughing at you. He's mean like that.

i liked you until you made a joke about me missus.

ZombieKitten said:

Dave1992 said:

Noooo, she's not! She's like a little sister to me. That would be illegal.

if she let you know how she felt, you guys wouldn't hang out together any more, so she keeps it to herself.

We have passed that kind of possible border. We'd still be able to enjoy each other's presence without anyone feeling hurt. I'm way more tolerant about those things nowadays than I used to be.

Back in the day I would be grossed out by the thought of someone whom I didn't want wanting me that way. I'd probably would have let them suck my peenus ones and then through them out of the door, if it wasn't satisfying enough. If it was, I'd keep them for further reference.

But I'm a good boy now, I don't do that anymore.

'Cause now I'd include a butt-fuck too

whistle said:

Dave1992 said:

It's usually like this: People meet me, think I am arrogant, cold, full of myself, too "out-there". Then, when I really want to fuck them, I let them feel that I can be quite cool actually, and then they fall for me. I feel so bad saying this

why? it's pretty much the textbook example of 'how to get women to fancy you'.

of course, it will all fail miserably if you're not stunningly attractive...

depends. YES to this statement if you are trying to pull a bird way out of your league. I'd say usually women tend to be attracted to men roughly same level of attractiveness as themselves (or maybe that's all they allow themselves, since experience and common sense tells us "in your dreams!!!!" otherwise) so, if you only pull ugly chicks, might be time to look in the mirror.

And I've seen a photo of you and I don't know what you are talking about

whistle said:

Dave1992 said:

It's usually like this: People meet me, think I am arrogant, cold, full of myself, too "out-there". Then, when I really want to fuck them, I let them feel that I can be quite cool actually, and then they fall for me. I feel so bad saying this

why? it's pretty much the textbook example of 'how to get women to fancy you'.

of course, it will all fail miserably if you're not stunningly attractive...

Is it? I never cared about this text-book shit.

whistle said:

JustErin said:

He's just laughing at you. He's mean like that.

i liked you until you made a joke about me missus.

It was a comeback. I never throw the first punch.

Dave1992 said:

ZombieKitten said:

if she let you know how she felt, you guys wouldn't hang out together any more, so she keeps it to herself.

We have passed that kind of possible border. We'd still be able to enjoy each other's presence without anyone feeling hurt. I'm way more tolerant about those things nowadays than I used to be.

Back in the day I would be grossed out by the thought of someone whom I didn't want wanting me that way. I'd probably would have let them suck my peenus ones and then through them out of the door, if it wasn't satisfying enough. If it was, I'd keep them for further reference.

But I'm a good boy now, I don't do that anymore.

'Cause now I'd include a butt-fuck too

would you let her suck on yours? Like if she wanted to?

ZombieKitten said:

whistle said:

why? it's pretty much the textbook example of 'how to get women to fancy you'.

of course, it will all fail miserably if you're not stunningly attractive...

depends. YES to this statement if you are trying to pull a bird way out of your league. I'd say usually women tend to be attracted to men roughly same level of attractiveness as themselves (or maybe that's all they allow themselves, since experience and common sense tells us "in your dreams!!!!" otherwise) so, if you only pull ugly chicks, might be time to look in the mirror.

And I've seen a photo of you and I don't know what you are talking about

You have???? Is he hot?

JustErin said:

whistle said:

i liked you until you made a joke about me missus.

It was a comeback. I never throw the first punch.

yes, but what you said was much funnier. i hate that.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

depends. YES to this statement if you are trying to pull a bird way out of your league. I'd say usually women tend to be attracted to men roughly same level of attractiveness as themselves (or maybe that's all they allow themselves, since experience and common sense tells us "in your dreams!!!!" otherwise) so, if you only pull ugly chicks, might be time to look in the mirror.

And I've seen a photo of you and I don't know what you are talking about

You have???? Is he hot?

he talks as if he is some mutant troll and that is not the case at all

whistle said:

JustErin said:

It was a comeback. I never throw the first punch.

yes, but what you said was much funnier. i hate that.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

depends. YES to this statement if you are trying to pull a bird way out of your league. I'd say usually women tend to be attracted to men roughly same level of attractiveness as themselves (or maybe that's all they allow themselves, since experience and common sense tells us "in your dreams!!!!" otherwise) so, if you only pull ugly chicks, might be time to look in the mirror.

And I've seen a photo of you and I don't know what you are talking about

You have???? Is he hot?

i'm a garden-variety male. neither hot nor repulsive.

ZombieKitten said:

JustErin said:

You have???? Is he hot?

he talks as if he is some mutant troll and that is not the case at all

I need proof!!!

whistle said:

JustErin said:

You have???? Is he hot?

i'm a garden-variety male. neither hot nor repulsive.

Oh, those are ok. I`m screwing one of those.

whistle said:

JustErin said:

You have???? Is he hot?

i'm a garden-variety male. neither hot nor repulsive.

a person like you can be very hot - but since I am not one to say someone is hot unless I know them well, I can't tell if you are or not unless I knew how you laugh, how you talk, how you walk, how you dress.

JustErin said:

ZombieKitten said:

he talks as if he is some mutant troll and that is not the case at all

I need proof!!!

let's don't and say we did...

Of the opposite sex that I am in no way attracted to physically? Errr, I think that might be zero. There's a couple that started off that way for sure. But over time as you grow closer people tend to become more attractive. ...at least to me they do. Plus, I'm not really one to limit myself in that regard to begin with.

I don't have many people I consider close friends. Friends and acquaintances, sure. Of the ones I consider close friends who aren't friends with me because I know their husband (women I could hang out with one on one), there is one woman and we were roommates. Nothing ever happened or ever will, though our circle of friends often seems to think something should've. She's probably the best friend I have, though she is on the other side of the country now. There are male friends I have known longer, but with her I feel I can be more open.

ONE

My good friend since Junior High.

She's a really nice person, successful, smart...everything you could ask for, but I have NO physical attraction to her whatsoever. Well...actually she's way more attractive now than she was in High School/College (when I had a chance if I wanted)...and considering how she's a fancy Corporate Lawyer now, sometimes I wonder; "what if?"...but still I don't find her "sexual".

PurpleJedi said:

ONE

My good friend since Junior High.

She's a really nice person, successful, smart...everything you could ask for, but I have NO physical attraction to her whatsoever. Well...actually she's way more attractive now than she was in High School/College (when I had a chance if I wanted)...and considering how she's a fancy Corporate Lawyer now, sometimes I wonder; "what if?"...but still I don't find her "sexual".

You sure about that?

since i sleep with both genders, i have quite a few friends i'm not attracted to at all. it actually kind of grosses me out quite a bit to contemplate it; it'd be like sleeping with a sibling

ZombieKitten said:

Dave1992 said:

We have passed that kind of possible border. We'd still be able to enjoy each other's presence without anyone feeling hurt. I'm way more tolerant about those things nowadays than I used to be.

Back in the day I would be grossed out by the thought of someone whom I didn't want wanting me that way. I'd probably would have let them suck my peenus ones and then through them out of the door, if it wasn't satisfying enough. If it was, I'd keep them for further reference.

But I'm a good boy now, I don't do that anymore.

'Cause now I'd include a butt-fuck too

would you let her suck on yours? Like if she wanted to?

No.

There are five or so that I consider close, and maybe three that are kind of close, but not as close as the aforementioned five.