SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Ok, you know you better be careful that he isn't deducting those 4 coffees from the amount he owes you!

The thought that he might do that, had crossed my mind. He's just so odd...

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Ok, you know you better be careful that he isn't deducting those 4 coffees from the amount he owes you!

You're a girl or a brother? Either way, from what I've read, I would be scared of this guy, real scared.

Tremolina said:

You're a girl or a brother? Either way, from what I've read, I would be scared of this guy, real scared.

I'm a brother!

He phoned me again yesterday evening, without any prompting.

I'd texed him on Friday evening, asking if he wanted a drink. He texed back with: "NO! Im goin home 2 be with my WOMAN!!! LOL"... I didn't text back.

So, he phoned yesterday, asking if he'd upset me. I told him that he hadn't.

I really do like him though.

GirlBrother said:

Tremolina said:

You're a girl or a brother? Either way, from what I've read, I would be scared of this guy, real scared.

I'm a brother!

He phoned me again yesterday evening, without any prompting.

I'd texed him on Friday evening, asking if he wanted a drink. He texed back with: "NO! Im goin home 2 be with my WOMAN!!! LOL"... I didn't text back.

So, he phoned yesterday, asking if he'd upset me. I told him that he hadn't.

I really do like him though.

At some point, for your own sanity, you're gonna need to find closure on this. It all sounds like he's closeted, likes you, and can't come to terms with it.

Then again maybe he's just weird & overly-friendly?

GirlBrother said:

PurpleJedi said:

GirlBrother said:

I'm a brother!

He phoned me again yesterday evening, without any prompting.

I'd texed him on Friday evening, asking if he wanted a drink. He texed back with: "NO! Im goin home 2 be with my WOMAN!!! LOL"... I didn't text back.

So, he phoned yesterday, asking if he'd upset me. I told him that he hadn't.

I really do like him though.

At some point, for your own sanity, you're gonna need to find closure on this. It all sounds like he's closeted, likes you, and can't come to terms with it.

Then again maybe he's just weird & overly-friendly?

Or to keep from looking like he's contributing to a weird work environment.

He said he'd phone tonight. He didn't.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Ok, you know you better be careful that he isn't deducting those 4 coffees from the amount he owes you!

GirlBrother said:

He said he'd phone tonight. He didn't.

I'm sorry but this guy is nuttier than squirrel shit. Stay away from it.

He's kinda like that meteor that hit earth in Creep Show, resist it because if you touch it you will turn into this green grassy vodka drinking monster.

I'm on a late shift today, one till nine.

He just phoned me from work. He's going to come pick me up at lunchtime and drive me to the office.

He's so confusing. I don't hear from him since Friday and now he's going to waste his lunch-break, so I don't have to catch the bus.

It's like hot/cold, hot/cold... There's no inbetween.

I'm so depressed. I really am depressed.

Wish I could find someone. I mean someone else.

He sounds like a psycho, honey. He's obviously closeted, confused and in a committed relationship with someone he's living with.

I know it's hard because workplace flirtation can be such a fun distraction, but I really think this will end with you feeling hurt - it's already left you feeling confused and rejected, not to mention out of money that he promised to pay back and never did.

I'd muster up all my self-esteem and just quit talking to him cold.

PunkMistress said:

He sounds like a psycho, honey. He's obviously closeted, confused and in a committed relationship with someone he's living with.

I know it's hard because workplace flirtation can be such a fun distraction, but I really think this will end with you feeling hurt - it's already left you feeling confused and rejected, not to mention out of money that he promised to pay back and never did.

I'd muster up all my self-esteem and just quit talking to him cold.

It's gotten a lot worse since Monday.

To cut a long story short, he's fleeced me out of another £55.00.

I fired off a chain of angry emails to him, demanding that he pay me back. His emails back to me were awful... Very arrogant; almost mocking me.

I forwarded on some of his responses to my friends at work and...

A manager saw me feverishly sending emails backwards and forwards. We've both got disciplinary meetings pending. I think they're going to audit our emails and print them all off.

I felt like ending it all the other day. I've been so depressed recently, and this has just arrived at the wrong time.

I've only just ate something at 20:00 hrs on Wednesday. Prior to that, I hadn't eaten since Monday morning.

GirlBrother said:

It's gotten a lot worse since Monday.

To cut a long story short, he's fleeced me out of another £55.00.

I fired off a chain of angry emails to him, demanding that he pay me back. His emails back to me were awful... Very arrogant; almost mocking me.

I forwarded on some of his responses to my friends at work and...

A manager saw me feverishly sending emails backwards and forwards. We've both got disciplinary meetings pending. I think they're going to audit our emails and print them all off.

I felt like ending it all the other day. I've been so depressed recently, and this has just arrived at the wrong time.

I've only just ate something at 20:00 hrs on Wednesday. Prior to that, I hadn't eaten since Monday morning.

Did you say anything in any emails that could be considered inappropriate?

PunkMistress said:

Did you say anything in any emails that could be considered inappropriate?

I guess we both did. Nothing explicit, but a bit risqué all the same.

I should hate him after all this, but even now I'm more mad at myself.

GirlBrother said:

PunkMistress said:

Did you say anything in any emails that could be considered inappropriate?

I guess we both did. Nothing explicit, but a bit risqué all the same.

I should hate him after all this, but even now I'm more mad at myself.

I think being mad at yourself is a normal response.

You saw lots of red flags with this guy, as did people here who read your threads. But you continued to enjoy the attention, so you didn't put a stop to the "relationship," such as it was.

He's obviously a dick, but hopefully in the future you won't let another dick goad you into participating in something that can get you in trouble.

PunkMistress said:

GirlBrother said:

I guess we both did. Nothing explicit, but a bit risqué all the same.

I should hate him after all this, but even now I'm more mad at myself.

I think being mad at yourself is a normal response.

You saw lots of red flags with this guy, as did people here who read your threads. But you continued to enjoy the attention, so you didn't put a stop to the "relationship," such as it was.

He's obviously a dick, but hopefully in the future you won't let another dick goad you into participating in something that can get you in trouble.

it's not like we didn't tell you this wasn't a good idea. Man up, and accept the consequences of your behaviour, as that's the only thing that was in your control. Learn from this and grow.

BlackAdder7 said:

it's not like we didn't tell you this wasn't a good idea. Man up, and accept the consequences of your behaviour, as that's the only thing that was in your control. Learn from this and grow.

I know. I was just so desperate for attention.

I'll never accept flirtatious behaviour from straight men again. It's all a big mess.

GirlBrother said:

BlackAdder7 said:

it's not like we didn't tell you this wasn't a good idea. Man up, and accept the consequences of your behaviour, as that's the only thing that was in your control. Learn from this and grow.

I know. I was just so desperate for attention.

I'll never accept flirtatious behaviour from straight men again. It's all a big mess.

the lesson was not flirting with straight men....the lesson IS to keep it separate from work!

GirlBrother said:

I'm on a late shift today, one till nine.

He just phoned me from work. He's going to come pick me up at lunchtime and drive me to the office.

He's so confusing. I don't hear from him since Friday and now he's going to waste his lunch-break, so I don't have to catch the bus.

It's like hot/cold, hot/cold... There's no inbetween.

I'm so depressed. I really am depressed.

Wish I could find someone. I mean someone else.

GB...I'm going to say this to you with all the loving kindness you could expect from a vodka-swilling, bible toting, Samurai sword wielding auntie :

What the hell are you getting worked up over this man for? Snap out of it, Boo! Men are like busses; there's always one coming up the street, whether it's every ten minutes, or just once an hour. You need to pick and choose what bus you want to board with a clear destination in mind, not just hop on any old rickety thing for the sake of having a window to look out of and taking in the view. You are ass grown man and what you need is another grown ass man who is equally yoked to you, not some closeted co-worker who has communication and follow-through problems. Not to mention that workplace romances are dangerous and often a threat to job security. I believe someone here may have mentioned the old saying "Don't Shit Where You Eat": well take it to heart. It's not as if you have a clear declaration of anything from this person to risk jeapordizing the work-environment so let him go (in your heart and in your head). Get your money back and ditch this dude, and start engaging in activities that put you into contact with new people..people who have the same interests or life experiences in common with you. That's how you find someone (else), not by chasing a blabbering fool down a dead end street.

Beyond that, please still us posted on how it all goes though. You know we're rootin' for ya

Ottensen said:

GirlBrother said:

I'm on a late shift today, one till nine.

He just phoned me from work. He's going to come pick me up at lunchtime and drive me to the office.

He's so confusing. I don't hear from him since Friday and now he's going to waste his lunch-break, so I don't have to catch the bus.

It's like hot/cold, hot/cold... There's no inbetween.

I'm so depressed. I really am depressed.

Wish I could find someone. I mean someone else.

GB...I'm going to say this to you with all the loving kindness you could expect from a vodka-swilling, bible toting, Samurai sword wielding auntie :

What the hell are you getting worked up over this man for? Snap out of it, Boo! Men are like busses; there's always one coming up the street, whether it's every ten minutes, or just once an hour. You need to pick and choose what bus you want to board with a clear destination in mind, not just hop on any old rickety thing for the sake of having a window to look out of and taking in the view. You are ass grown man and what you need is another grown ass man who is equally yoked to you, not some closeted co-worker who has communication and follow-through problems. Not to mention that workplace romances are dangerous and often a threat to job security. I believe someone here may have mentioned the old saying "Don't Shit Where You Eat": well take it to heart. It's not as if you have a clear declaration of anything from this person to risk jeapordizing the work-environment so let him go (in your heart and in your head). Get your money back and ditch this dude, and start engaging in activities that put you into contact with new people..people who have the same interests or life experiences in common with you. That's how you find someone (else), not by chasing a blabbering fool down a dead end street.

Beyond that, please still us posted on how it all goes though. You know we're rootin' for ya

Be my auntie.

We spoke briefly today. He came over to my desk again; he looked like he hadn't slept.

We both haven't yet got a date for our disciplinary meetings. I just don't know how it all escalated into this train-wreck.

I told him he can keep the money, because it's caused nothing but trouble. Although I'm poor, he's obviously got issues, and I don't want to ruin his life by making any further demands for repayment.

My manager told me not to worry today (he'd read all the emails from Tuesday). He said the disciplinary would just result in a warning, and as I didn't have any black marks against me, I'll be okay. I told him that I'm keeping my distance from Dan, and he nodded, saying it would be a good idea.

It's done nothing to settle my mind though. I feel awful about the whole thing.

If anybody out there is in the same position; don't be.

Ottensen said:

You know we're rootin' for ya

Thanks for that. x

GirlBrother said:

We spoke briefly today. He came over to my desk again; he looked like he hadn't slept.

We both haven't yet got a date for our disciplinary meetings. I just don't know how it all escalated into this train-wreck.

I told him he can keep the money, because it's caused nothing but trouble. Although I'm poor, he's obviously got issues, and I don't want to ruin his life by making any further demands for repayment.

My manager told me not to worry today (he'd read all the emails from Tuesday). He said the disciplinary would just result in a warning, and as I didn't have any black marks against me, I'll be okay. I told him that I'm keeping my distance from Dan, and he nodded, saying it would be a good idea.

It's done nothing to settle my mind though. I feel awful about the whole thing.

If anybody out there is in the same position; don't be.

Keep away from him.

Glad that you took the higher road, but it stinks that he's getting away with your money.

Maybe you should type up a "bill" for the money he owes you, mark it as a "WRITE-OFF", on the back of a copy of the innappropriate emails that he sent you and deliver it to his girlfriend/fiancé.

GirlBrother said:

We spoke briefly today. He came over to my desk again; he looked like he hadn't slept.

We both haven't yet got a date for our disciplinary meetings. I just don't know how it all escalated into this train-wreck.

I told him he can keep the money, because it's caused nothing but trouble. Although I'm poor, he's obviously got issues, and I don't want to ruin his life by making any further demands for repayment.

This confuses me.

How would requiring him to pay a debt that he owes "ruin his life"?