Alright so, Never mind on this thread i'm just going to let it die hopefully aside from 2 responses the rest where unhelpful as hell

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It would probably help you a lot, if you stopped buying into the idea that your sexuality is a fixed thing. In actuality I think you're applying a typical heterosexual viwpoint on sexuality on your own, and seem to expect that sexuality is sort of like buying a couch ("There, now I've bought the couch and I'll never again have to think about couches ever again. Glad I did that.").

I don't know what you'd label yourself but I'm sure, (from what you write) that you would label yourself. My advice: Stop that. Do as you like. Sleep with a woman if she turns you on. Sleep with a guy if he turns you on.

At one point you'll probably fall in love with someone, girl or guy, and in that case, my strongest advice would be: Go with it. Don't give a crap about what you've decided for yourself. Sexuality is not a decision, it's a biological pull, and trying to fight that can only lead to misery.

Simply: Life is so much easier and so much nicer, if you stop trying to please everybody elses expectations of your sexuality. It's yours and you owe it to yourself to take it seriously.

Cravens said:

It would probably help you a lot, if you stopped buying into the idea that your sexuality is a fixed thing. In actuality I think you're applying a typical heterosexual viwpoint on sexuality on your own, and seem to expect that sexuality is sort of like buying a couch ("There, now I've bought the couch and I'll never again have to think about couches ever again. Glad I did that.").

I don't know what you'd label yourself but I'm sure, (from what you write) that you would label yourself. My advice: Stop that. Do as you like. Sleep with a woman if she turns you on. Sleep with a guy if he turns you on.

At one point you'll probably fall in love with someone, girl or guy, and in that case, my strongest advice would be: Go with it. Don't give a crap about what you've decided for yourself. Sexuality is not a decision, it's a biological pull, and trying to fight that can only lead to misery.

Simply: Life is so much easier and so much nicer, if you stop trying to please everybody elses expectations of your sexuality. It's yours and you owe it to yourself to take it seriously.

I Really like and respect this statement, it made me think a lot but the one thing i have to ask if people told me the same thing when i was afraid of coming out. That i should stop trying to please everybody's expectations so people have known me straight once and now gay if i was either or it wouldn't really shock them. Well idk shock but they wouldn't care, This sound's weird but i thought of watching girl on girl porn to see if it does anything or arouses anything in me at all.

Have you taken the finger test?

If your ring finger and you're index finger are equally long, you're gay.

If the ring finger's longer, you're straight.

Next!

That was, of course, if you're a man.

For women, if those two fingers are equal, you're straight.

If the ring finger's longer, you're a truck driver

PANDURITO said:

Have you taken the finger test?

If your ring finger and you're index finger are equally long, you're gay.

If the ring finger's longer, you're straight.

Next!

So I've been straight all the time and I didn't know it. I've to call my mom right now!

do it!

That will definitely be a surprise call

Cravens said:

It would probably help you a lot, if you stopped buying into the idea that your sexuality is a fixed thing.

PANDURITO said:

Have you taken the finger test?

If your ring finger and you're index finger are equally long, you're gay.

If the ring finger's longer, you're straight.

Next!

great... my index finger is longer... now what? should I date sheep?

a buddy once explained the finger test to me.

he put his index finger in my anus and said "if you like that, you're gay"

According to the finger test, I'm gay. I always thought I was a straight woman, but now that I think about it, I do have a thing for a certain fancy lesbian, so who knows what to believe?

Mistadobalina said:

a buddy once explained the finger test to me.

he put his index finger in my anus and said "if you like that, you're gay"

PREDOMINANT said:

This thread started so well, such good advice. Now even I am confused, what if all my fingers and toes are the same length?

That's easy!

You're a centipede

PANDURITO said:

PREDOMINANT said:

This thread started so well, such good advice. Now even I am confused, what if all my fingers and toes are the same length?

That's easy!

You're a centipede

Do they have fingers? Or for that matter toes?

What if on my left hand my index finger is shorter than my ring finger, but on my right hand my index finger and ring finger are the same length? Am I confused? I always considered myself strictly herterosexual.

PREDOMINANT said:

PANDURITO said:

That's easy!

You're a centipede

Do they have fingers? Or for that matter toes?

In your case it's the same

And you can reproduce by parthenogenesis. Don't believe me?

Cut one finger and watch it grow back again

Shyra said:

What if on my left hand my index finger is shorter than my ring finger, but on my right hand my index finger and ring finger are the same length? Am I confused? I always considered myself strictly herterosexual.

Never Let Your Left Hand Know What Your Right Hand Does

PANDURITO said:

PREDOMINANT said:

Do they have fingers? Or for that matter toes?

In your case it's the same

And you can reproduce by parthenogenesis. Don't believe me?

Cut one finger and watch it grow back again

Ouch! It didn't!!

Thread of the Year

PANDURITO said:

That was, of course, if you're a man.

For women, if those two fingers are equal, you're straight.

If the ring finger's longer, you're a truck driver

Baby my ring fingers ALLLLLLLOT bigger then my pinkie and i know i love men, And i'm defintley not a greasy. sweaty truck driver

Gunsnhalen said:

I need help…. I don’t understand the feeling’s I have sometimes I really don’t, tonight as I was walking I noticed some pretty girls in leather walking on the strip, I smiled and walked by… After that I caught myself staring at them strangely, Even I can admit to when I see a pretty girl but I never stare! And this has happened a few time’s over the month’s where I get a brief feeling of sexual confusion but I just brush it off and go about my day.

But… This week I have told NO ONE this not even my best friend’s… I dreamt this week I was having sex with one of the girls I know… it freaked me out I have never had a dream about a girl sexually! This was a strange feeling for me, I mean I have said many times before that I think woman are beautiful, I once thought about dating one and I did years ago, But I can hold hand’s with a girl but anything sexual.. I just found it wasn’t my preference. But I had a weird feeling tonight like I was attracted sexually to these women and it bugged me, because I was born the way I am I mean. I always have believed in that philosophy. I Still like guys I mean… that I don’t think I can change and I don’t know why I feel this way about girls now it is very frustrating or confusing. Here’s the thing I think are some freaking gorgeous men and women out there, But I don’t mean model types I love the types that smart, independent, hard workers and willing to take a stand. Not stand in the dark cowering while society beats you up and throws you in a corner, Now I know most of my guy friend’s will think this is ‘’awesome’’ or whatever or that people will say it’s natural to be confused.

this is generally something that bugs me and I think about almost daily! Ok I never talk about guys in front of anyone or online... just cause I don’t feel comfortable doing so, unless they are my best friend’s. But I have been attracted to guys sexually since middle school, and I mean I know I am not straight because I think men well some men are beautiful people and those feeling’s have never gone away. But now these new feeling’s mixed in just rattle me and make me ask questions…

Somebody please offer me some kind of advice

You sound very detached from yourself...as if your thoughts are not your own.

Also...have I got this right?...you dated a girl "years ago"...and you're only 19 now?

I've read Craven's advice and I disagree...rather than taking his "go for it", advice...you most definitely don't need to do that...why not give things time; analyse your feelings over a certain period of time, in a variety of circumstances...and then come to a natural decision.

Craven's, "Sleep with a woman if she turns you on...sleep with a guy if he turns you on"...seems to me to be 'putting the cart before the horse', and is symptomatic of a so called modern 'liberated' type of thinking...'Hey, look at me...no restraints, if it feels good do it!'...common in some homosexuals...which of course has caused more heartache in the long run than anything.

The idea that sexuality is 'fluid'...is one point of view only..there is experiential and biological evidence to the contrary.

Why 'go 4 it'..only to perhaps regret things later?

It's ok to ask for advice on "Prince.org"...lol!...as long as u bear in mind that the gays and lesbians (and those in between) will give advice biased towards their perspective / lifestyle...many of whom I know were gender confused themselves...not the best place to 'camp out' (excuse the pun) in order to find yourself unless you speak to genuine folk of other orientations.

I'm a teacher from the UK who's had a handful of teenagers male and female who've 'come out' to...to me...rather than a colleague in my school who is a well known homosexual, as they see him as a bit 'creepy'.

I find this amusing, because he seems an average guy to me...I have no idea what they are sensing but for whatever reason...particular students perceive me as more open and trustworthy..

One of the first things I tell them is that, just like black, asian, white and hetero folk..'gays' aren't all the same...you don't have to feel pressured to fit into a so-called gay 'lifestyle'...be a gay stereotype or be a gay 'activist'.

Hope some of this helps.

I mean...when I'm feeling confused I just listen to Shockadelica, it matches my state of mind...

Damn I've writing an essay here......orgnote me if u want to.

PANDURITO said:

Have you taken the finger test?

If your ring finger and you're index finger are equally long, you're gay.

If the ring finger's longer, you're straight.

Next!

Gunsnhalen said:

PANDURITO said:

That was, of course, if you're a man.

For women, if those two fingers are equal, you're straight.

If the ring finger's longer, you're a truck driver

Baby my ring fingers ALLLLLLLOT bigger then my pinkie and i know i love men, And i'm defintley not a greasy. sweaty truck driver

Firstly, you were supposed to compare your index finger and your ring finger, not your ring finger and your pinkie.

Secondly, if they are of different lengths you're only a truck driver if you're a woman.

So yes, you're confused in a whole bunch of ways, sexually and otherwise.

I have a really long Cerebus type response for this... but I'm not posting it. Nyyya!

which kind of truck should I get? I've been thinking about a Fuso Fighter 6, but I don't trust Mitsubishi after all the shit I went through when I had a Magna