things you look for in a partner/ your partner... your biggest turn on's ( what seals the deal?) things he or she does that drives you wild

vs.

things that you hate your turn off's in your partner or in the person your dating/ seeing ( what makes you call it an early night?)

my biggest turn on's when it comes to my hubby are

_ when he has a clean shaved face and he sweetly kisses my forehead or the top of my nose

- when i get out of the shower and he sits behind me and softly brushes out my hair...

- when im having a bad day and he draws a bath for me and lights candles...

- when he wears v neck muscle shirts and i can see his adams apple ( a protruding adams apple on a man is one of the sexiest things ever)

- when im laying in bed talking to him and he brushes the hair out my face

- when he turns just the right way in those fitted jeans he sometimes wears

turn off's

- when im asking a question and instead of a responce i get a fart followed by a annoying stupid laugh

- when he doesnt care about his appearence and decides to boycott shaving for a week and turn into a wilderness man

- when the xbox 360 interupts an important conversation

- when im busy doing something in the kitchen and i get my bra strap pulled and released quickly followed by an annoying childish laugh

- when i ask how i look after ive gotten ready for a night out and my responce is just GOOD.. lame you can do better than that i know you can..

feel free to add to this list

on:

• When I'm cooking and he walks up behind me, gently lifts my hair aside and kisses the back of my neck.
• When we're walking outside and the wind switches just enough for me to catch his scent I go weak in the knees - I don't know what it is, even, he doesn't wear cologne and I've checked out his hair product and deoderant and it's neither of those. It must be a mixture of him with all of the above but when it's all together WOW. :swoon:
• When he tells me about his day and one of the off-hand comments reminds me of just what an awesome person he is. Example - he was telling me how he rode his bike to watch a movie in the park on Monday and the story included how he helped the guy take the screen down after. WHen I asked if he knew the guy he said, no, but that there were a bunch of drunks that showed up late and the guy was alone so he helped him out to ensure he didn't get mugged or harrassed by the drunken group. He thinks nothing of this and I think it makes him one of the nicest people in the world. Take note: nice guys are hot.

off:

• He still smokes cigarettes. bleh. Rarely around me and he is making a plan to quit, but I really really really really just want him to be done smoking. I cna be patient and I know he'll get there, though.
• That's it, really. It's only been 4 months. I'm sure there will be other things eventually.

CarrieMpls said:

on:

• When I'm cooking and he walks up behind me, gently lifts my hair aside and kisses the back of my neck.

I'm probably going to get called a chauvinist for this but I think it's really sexy/sensual when a woman is cooking, lol. And it usually makes me want to pretty much exactly what you described there; walk up to her from behind, gently move her hair and kiss her neck or the side of her face. I also like to wrap my arms around her when I'm doing that. Yum. Only problem is that sometimes the food will be forgotten and end up burnt when that happens.

retina said:

CarrieMpls said:

on:

• When I'm cooking and he walks up behind me, gently lifts my hair aside and kisses the back of my neck.

I'm probably going to get called a chauvinist for this but I think it's really sexy/sensual when a woman is cooking, lol. And it usually makes me want to pretty much exactly what you described there; walk up to her from behind, gently move her hair and kiss her neck or the side of her face. I also like to wrap my arms around her when I'm doing that. Yum. Only problem is that sometimes the food will be forgotten and end up burnt when that happens.

I don't think that's chauvinistic!

And yes, there is definitely something to the walking up from behind aspect. It makes me melt.

I thought of another - when we're watching a movie on the couch and are cuddled up a bit and out of nowhere he leans over and kisses me on the top of the head.

CarrieMpls said:

on:

• When I'm cooking and he walks up behind me, gently lifts my hair aside and kisses the back of my neck.
• When we're walking outside and the wind switches just enough for me to catch his scent I go weak in the knees -

Turn on:

• Like CarrieMPLS said, a whiff of his scent that melts me at the knees.
• When a guy is talking to me and calls me "buddy", it has the same effect as the scent thing. Just melts me.
• I don't want children, but there is something super sexy about a good looking guy pushing a baby stroller. No idea what that comes from, but it's hot.
• An accent makes even the most mediocre guy a lot higher on the HOT scale. British, Aussie, or German - whatever. Totally lights my loins on fire.
• Being spontaneous and daring. Kissing me in a public place out of the blue. Daring and sexy and a total turn on, partly because I love to shock people, and two guys making out in Macy's might just do that for a second. Plus, it's another kiss, and who wouldn't love that?
• When he's just wearing a pair of jeans, and nothing else. No shirt, no shoes, no socks. Just a pair of jeans. Even with the top button undone. There's something sexy about the skin of a man, his treasure trail, and the roughness of denim (which can also be soft) that is a sexy combination. It also lends to the raw sexuality that some men have. Just being confident and matter-of-fact enough to strut around like that, without strutting or the slightest bit of swagger intended. He just IS, in those jeans. That is hot to the Nth.

I don't really need gifts or whatever, just be there. Be a man, love me, and make me feel safe and confident in your arms, and everything else is icing on the cake.

Turn off:

• SMOKING SMOKING SMOKING. It's absolutely the worst thing in the world.
• Being a sloppy drunk. No one thinks you're funny, and you're just embarrassing at that point anyway.
• Drugs, of course.
• Not taking care of me in bed. Men get off and that's it, they suddenly forget they have someone else there who isn't quite done yet. I've never treated a partner, whether a hookup or a lover, like that. It's almost demeaning to get off and get up n' out. If they care about me (or whoever they're with), they'll make sure we're both done. For me, my big turn on is getting someone else off anyway. I love to make a guy squirm and writhe in pleasure I'm giving him. I need that kind of lover. The men who don't do that are just not great lovers.

On - Whenever he flirts with me.

Off - Whenever he flirts with other chicks.

Turn-ons:

• I've posted about this before, but when a guy's shirt lifts up a little to reveal a small portion of the stomach. Totally hot.
• Boyish grins.
• Knowing how to fix things, especially things like cars, plumbing, and wiring.
• The way a guy looks immediately after he's taken a shower.
• A guy who knows how to smell good. That very rarely has much to do with cologne (or at least the cologne isn't the most important part).
• Kindness and good-naturedness.
• Esoteric knowledge and interesting hobbies.

Turn-offs:

• Bad manners, especially bad table manners.
• Zealotry.
• Any examples of a bad temper. How and why a guy gets angry is an immediate make-or-break thing for me.
• Gigantic holes in the ears. Earrings are fine. Saucers are not.
• I'm not jealous if a guy talks about another guy he finds attractive. But it's a fine line. I was recently out with a guy who went on and on about the werewolf kid from Twilight. That's fine if you like that, but that's about 180 degrees from how I look. So if that's your cup of tea, we're probably not compatible.

turn-ons: T and A, a pretty smile, kindness/affection, sense a humour, of course a hot body.

turn-offs: fake, unkind, self centered, complaining negative attitude, MOM jeans or muffin tops. Lack of personal style.

On:

Great sense of humor. If you can make me laugh, you're half way there.

Good teeth

A man who's handy, who knows how to fix stuff and doesn't mind doing it. I'd love a carpenter or mechanic!

Fit and trim. I can't take fat or obese men.

The blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice. I love dark complexions in men.

Intelligence and excellent grammar. I can't be bothered with any man who might make me cringe when he opens his mouth.

Kindess

Affection

Confidence

Bravery

Oh, and my all-time number one & two turn ons:

Gentle forehead kisses and sexy winks. TO THE MOON!

Off:

Effeminate behavior/gestures. Gays are fine as friends, but I don't want my man to be a flame!

Bad breath

Surliness

Inconsiderate behavior/remarks

Body odor

Tacky/ostentatious clothing

Sloppiness

Dangerous or aggressive driving

Narcissism

Cheap/tightwads. I ain't saying I'm a gold digger, but I ain't looking for no broke, broke n***a!

Assholes

Loud boorish talk

Braggarts

Ignorance

Bad table manners

[Edited 8/11/10 10:41am]

On: Big ol' butts

Off: Not letting me stick "it" in your armpits

On:

Curves, curves and more curves with a nice, round ass and a pretty face

Good hygiene

Nice feet(I can't stand women with Busted Ass Toes)

Common sense

Long, dark hair

Tan, brown or dark skin

Good manners

Knowledge of sports/video-gaming/sci-fi

Good taste in music

Off:

Smoking(don't care how pretty a woman is, lips that touch tobacco will never touch mine - disgusting)

Bad teeth

Talking to much

Not staying in shape

Drinking too much

High-maintenance

No money(don't want no broke-ass woman)

Marriage talk

Turn on:

-Slutty lingerie

-BABY OIL

-Freshly shaven legs (and other things....)

-Tan boobage/lack of tan lines

-The smell of the nape of my wife's neck

-Tickling/lightly brushing the palm of my hand or the underside of my forearm

-My wife's positive attitude

Turn off:

-Farting or burping in bed

-Smelly vag (hey, you asked!)

-Scratching the bottom of my feet

-Toenails that are too long

-Boogers

Turn Ons:

Soft skin

Dark complexion

Nice teeth

Bedroom eyes

Strong arms

Intelligence (street smart and can hold good conversation and relate to anyone)

A man that is good with his hands- making, fixing things and still has a firm and soft touch.

Soft kisses

A sense of humor- a man that can brighten my day is a wonderful thing.

Turns Offs:

Selfishness

Bad breath

Complainer

Possessiveness

Narcissistic attitude (don't stare at yourself in a mirror while in bed with me)

A small dick

A man that doesn't pay child support or sees his chilren

A man that has a bad relationship with his female family members

Physical imtimidation

A smoker

Married

^^^^ any trait on my turn off list and I dump him.

[Edited 8/11/10 20:53pm]

Poiple said:

Turn on:

-Tickling/lightly brushing the palm of my hand or the underside of my forearm

Hell yes.

Efan said:

Turn-ons:

• I've posted about this before, but when a guy's shirt lifts up a little to reveal a small portion of the stomach. Totally hot.
• Boyish grins.
• The way a guy looks immediately after he's taken a shower.

Turn-offs:

• Gigantic holes in the ears. Earrings are fine. Saucers are not.

THIS.

The shirt thing - TOTALLY AGREE. Like if a guy is reaching up to get something and there's a little part of his belly that peeks out - MELTS.

@ saucers. Those holes are so big sometimes I almost wanna lobe fuck him, just to say I did..

HobbesLeCute said:

On: Big ol' butts

Off: Not letting me stick "it" in your armpits

what about the backs of knees?

ZombieKitten said:

HobbesLeCute said:

On: Big ol' butts

Off: Not letting me stick "it" in your armpits

what about the backs of knees?

I'll take what I can get.

HobbesLeCute said:

ZombieKitten said:

what about the backs of knees?

I'll take what I can get.

I'm very accommodating

ZombieKitten said:

HobbesLeCute said:

I'll take what I can get.

I'm very accommodating

Well then! Let put some vaseline on those suckers and get to work!

HobbesLeCute said:

ZombieKitten said:

I'm very accommodating

Well then! Let put some vaseline on those suckers and get to work!

ZombieKitten said:

HobbesLeCute said:

Well then! Let put some vaseline on those suckers and get to work!

Hm... Why isn't there an emoticon for knee sex? You'd think it'd be one of the first ones they added.

HobbesLeCute said:

ZombieKitten said:

Hm... Why isn't there an emoticon for knee sex? You'd think it'd be one of the first ones they added.

Offs
Too serious
No motivation
pretentiousness
Critical
Obnoxious
Arrogance
Grown man doing kid things
Smothering
Intolerance
Whiners

Ons

Treats me like royalty

Anything off or quirky- my boyfriend is really rough and very masculine. Hot. But cracks me up. He has these hand gestures that are a combination of Jeff Goldblum and Kramer. He opens door knobs to public restooms with napkins he carries in his pocket. I think its hilarious and hot at the same time

Intelligence-not just book sense but street sense.

Confidence

A man who don't take sh*t off nobody.

Makes me laugh

Mature but silly

Already knows what he wants. No lil boys please lol

Independent

uPtoWnNY said:

:falloff: @ busted ass toes, broke ass woman

ZombieKitten said:

HobbesLeCute said:

On: Big ol' butts

Off: Not letting me stick "it" in your armpits

what about the backs of knees?

Once upon a time I actually did that and my co-participant told mutual friends. Now we all laugh about it. Whenever someone compliments another's legs in all our presence, they all look at me like there's a chance I'd fuck their knees off.

FauxReal said:

ZombieKitten said:

what about the backs of knees?

Once upon a time I actually did that and my co-participant told mutual friends. Now we all laugh about it. Whenever someone compliments another's legs in all our presence, they all look at me like there's a chance I'd fuck their knees off.

So... How was it?

HobbesLeCute said:

FauxReal said:

Once upon a time I actually did that and my co-participant told mutual friends. Now we all laugh about it. Whenever someone compliments another's legs in all our presence, they all look at me like there's a chance I'd fuck their knees off.

So... How was it?

Humorous, but I don't ever see knees replacing vagina or any other orifice any time soon.

And weird once you've actually lubed up (not too much though) someone's leg, bent it at the knee around your junk, and start going to town. It was just some random shit that stemmed from boredom.

FauxReal said:

HobbesLeCute said:

So... How was it?

Humorous, but I don't ever see knees replacing vagina or any other orifice any time soon.

And weird once you've actually lubed up (not too much though) someone's leg, bent it at the knee around your junk, and start going to town. It was just some random shit that stemmed from boredom.

omg keep it coming!!!!

what about elbows?

ZombieKitten said:

FauxReal said:

Humorous, but I don't ever see knees replacing vagina or any other orifice any time soon.

And weird once you've actually lubed up (not too much though) someone's leg, bent it at the knee around your junk, and start going to town. It was just some random shit that stemmed from boredom.

omg keep it coming!!!!

what about elbows?

I would.

Actually, I was joking at first but I think I might actually want to try all of these things.